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Hello everyone!
My name is Kai, I’m a stay at home, homeschooling mom of three teenagers, two dogs, and two cats. I’ve been over weight most of my life and I’ve tried most diets out there and failed miserably. About five years ago I was diagnosed with MS and I just gave up for awhile. In December of last year I almost got stuck in my bed because of a bad flare. My husband was able to finally help me up, but it was a huge struggle for him. That was a kick in the *kitten* that I needed.
On January first of this year I got serious about my weight loss. Since then I’ve lost 86 pounds just doing calories in being less than calories out. It is the most amount of weight I’ve ever lost and the longest I’ve ever stuck with a “diet”. I still have a long way to go before I reach my goal weight, but my life has already improved drastically. I look forward to sharing this journey with everyone.
My stats
45F 5’10”
SW 382
CW 296.6
GW 160-1706 -
@ConfidentRaven My mother was diagnosed with MS when I was 12 years old. I've watched her, been her legs and arms, and seen the toll that disease takes on a person but I've also seen how she's kept her spirit, even now. With my sincere heart, I wish you the BEST! Congrats on losing 86 pounds, that is no small feat! Good luck on the rest of your journey! You can do it!1
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ConfidentRaven wrote: »Hello everyone!
My name is Kai, I’m a stay at home, homeschooling mom of three teenagers, two dogs, and two cats. I’ve been over weight most of my life and I’ve tried most diets out there and failed miserably. About five years ago I was diagnosed with MS and I just gave up for awhile. In December of last year I almost got stuck in my bed because of a bad flare. My husband was able to finally help me up, but it was a huge struggle for him. That was a kick in the *kitten* that I needed.
On January first of this year I got serious about my weight loss. Since then I’ve lost 86 pounds just doing calories in being less than calories out. It is the most amount of weight I’ve ever lost and the longest I’ve ever stuck with a “diet”. I still have a long way to go before I reach my goal weight, but my life has already improved drastically. I look forward to sharing this journey with everyone.
My stats
45F 5’10”
SW 382
CW 296.6
GW 160-170
@ConfidentRaven
I am very glad you accepted my invitation to join our little group here. What you have accomplished so far is very impressive. If it is okay with you I would like to start a thread specifically for diet breaks and let you explain why you thinking of taking one and have you update when you have a plan and how it is going for you.
I have never heard of anyone homeschooling the cats and dogs... jk1 -
@ConfidentRaven Hey there! I recognize you from the Give me 10 days thread stuff. Welcome to the group.2
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@NovusDies your replies in the Message Forum inspired me to join your group because they make good sense, are based on fact (as opposed to emotion) and generally made a great overall impression on me. Thank you!
A little bit about me:
56F 5'7"
SW 263
CW 243
GW 140-ish
My commitment to myself is a lifetime of health which began in March 2019.
The realization that struck me in March was that I no longer would need to keep working until I die. A bit harsh, perhaps, but after a divorce that took my first 4010k, a recession that took my job (and my second 401k), and a couple of other belly-punches, my financial circumstances changed for the better. Ultimately, this means I will retire in approximately five years and very likely live to some ripe old age.
There is a caveat, however. For the last ten years when I didn't see anything but work-until-I-die, I decided to take my comfort as I found it, which was the grocery budget. I like to cook, I am a wonderful cook, and since that was my sole entertainment I gained weight. Ten pounds a year for ten years gave me my starting weight of 263. The deal is that I do want to retire! I want to be active and fit in retirement (and now!) and enjoy this gift that has been given to me.
While I gained the weight over a decade I realize it will also take time to be worked off; I'm shooting for 18-24 months; not another ten years. I've also committed to the concept that this how I am choosing to live the final 1/3 of my life, this is a lifestyle change, a permanent change.
So, that's a bit of background about me, deciding to love myself for my remaining days.
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hansep0012 wrote: »@NovusDies your replies in the Message Forum inspired me to join your group because they make good sense, are based on fact (as opposed to emotion) and generally made a great overall impression on me. Thank you!
A little bit about me:
56F 5'7"
SW 263
CW 243
GW 140-ish
My commitment to myself is a lifetime of health which began in March 2019.
The realization that struck me in March was that I no longer would need to keep working until I die. A bit harsh, perhaps, but after a divorce that took my first 4010k, a recession that took my job (and my second 401k), and a couple of other belly-punches, my financial circumstances changed for the better. Ultimately, this means I will retire in approximately five years and very likely live to some ripe old age.
There is a caveat, however. For the last ten years when I didn't see anything but work-until-I-die, I decided to take my comfort as I found it, which was the grocery budget. I like to cook, I am a wonderful cook, and since that was my sole entertainment I gained weight. Ten pounds a year for ten years gave me my starting weight of 263. The deal is that I do want to retire! I want to be active and fit in retirement (and now!) and enjoy this gift that has been given to me.
While I gained the weight over a decade I realize it will also take time to be worked off; I'm shooting for 18-24 months; not another ten years. I've also committed to the concept that this how I am choosing to live the final 1/3 of my life, this is a lifestyle change, a permanent change.
So, that's a bit of background about me, deciding to love myself for my remaining days.
Pam
Hi @hansep0012 / Pam
Welcome to LL.
Thank you for the kind words. I will try to deserve them.
Congrats on the progress you have made thus far. I think you will make a great addition to our group. Your ability to perceive yourself and your situation outside the context of just weight loss is impressive.0 -
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ConfidentRaven wrote: »
lol. My dog has felt the sting of victory a few times himself.0 -
Hi...I am connie and I am 68 years old....I have been posting on this site for awhile but have never introduced myself...My husband and I have been married for 44 years....John suffers from severe RA and is in a lot of pain which is stressful for me to watch him hurt so badly....we are both retired from owning grocery stores for many years....we worked a lot of hours on our feet on cement floors for a long time....we have two grown children...our daughter, her husband and their two children live with us...some days it is a circus in our house...we also have a 7 month old puppy.....my family is supportive of me losing weight but they still bring junk food home!....I have been overweight most of my life....I stayed at a healthy weight in high school and in college by being very active walking,biking and being in marching band...and using diet pills...as an adult at various times I have lost weight and regained....I yo yo and I binge....I ate to the point I wanted to throw up.....I have been on diet pills, injections,nutrasystem,weight watchers,Adkins,south beach,etc...this past spring I finally hit bottom and after a winter of dealing with depression and a feeling of no real purpose in life I decided I needed to make some changes if I wanted to be happier and live longer and healthier...I joined My Fitness Pal on May 28 at my all time high of 350 lbs. and immediately started logging my food...I have lost 37 lbs and weighed 313lbs as of this morning....I am motivated,focused and determined to lose weight and stay on this journey....I am so happy I found this group for people that need to lose a lot of weight...I would love to be friends with some of you...all of your stories are familiar and we have the same goals...we want to lose weight and be happy and healthy!....I have no set time to lose all of my weight...I am going day by day and making healthy choices and trying to enjoy the journey!2
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Hi I’m Brent, I started my recent journey to becoming healthier in November of 2018 at the weight of 480lbs. I rejoined MFP in February 2019 for support, and the ability to create a daily meal plan and track what I actually ate daily. I do not count calories. I have lost and regained and gained more weight at least a dozen times in my life. This time is different! I have 285lbs of excess weight to lose, and I am now confident I will lose it all. I would love to help others do the same. Feel free to add me as an MFP Friend. We all could use as much support as we can get in our journeys.3
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conniewilkins56 wrote: »Hi...I am connie and I am 68 years old....I have been posting on this site for awhile but have never introduced myself...My husband and I have been married for 44 years....John suffers from severe RA and is in a lot of pain which is stressful for me to watch him hurt so badly....we are both retired from owning grocery stores for many years....we worked a lot of hours on our feet on cement floors for a long time....we have two grown children...our daughter, her husband and their two children live with us...some days it is a circus in our house...we also have a 7 month old puppy.....my family is supportive of me losing weight but they still bring junk food home!....I have been overweight most of my life....I stayed at a healthy weight in high school and in college by being very active walking,biking and being in marching band...and using diet pills...as an adult at various times I have lost weight and regained....I yo yo and I binge....I ate to the point I wanted to throw up.....I have been on diet pills, injections,nutrasystem,weight watchers,Adkins,south beach,etc...this past spring I finally hit bottom and after a winter of dealing with depression and a feeling of no real purpose in life I decided I needed to make some changes if I wanted to be happier and live longer and healthier...I joined My Fitness Pal on May 28 at my all time high of 350 lbs. and immediately started logging my food...I have lost 37 lbs and weighed 313lbs as of this morning....I am motivated,focused and determined to lose weight and stay on this journey....I am so happy I found this group for people that need to lose a lot of weight...I would love to be friends with some of you...all of your stories are familiar and we have the same goals...we want to lose weight and be happy and healthy!....I have no set time to lose all of my weight...I am going day by day and making healthy choices and trying to enjoy the journey!
@conniewilkins56
I am glad you have joined us and introduced yourself. I was about to call security!
I have been down plenty of the paths you have taken myself. I had to become an expert on my failures to finally figure out a path that seems to be leading me to success.1 -
Satisfiedwithbetter wrote: »Hi I’m Brent, I started my recent journey to becoming healthier in November of 2018 at the weight of 480lbs. I rejoined MFP in February 2019 for support, and the ability to create a daily meal plan and track what I actually ate daily. I do not count calories. I have lost and regained and gained more weight at least a dozen times in my life. This time is different! I have 285lbs of excess weight to lose, and I am now confident I will lose it all. I would love to help others do the same. Feel free to add me as an MFP Friend. We all could use as much support as we can get in our journeys.
@Satisfiedwithbetter
Welcome to LL.
I will be very interested in hearing your particular plan. I have lost weight myself many times without counting calories and many people do it successfully all the way to goal. I never have but that is because I had a very bad relationship with the scale and I kept overcompensating for weight fluctuations until it made me so miserable I ended up rage quitting. My particular problem was solved by calorie counting because I am a numbers person it helps me see through the scale noise. But just because I need it doesn't mean everyone does.0 -
With regard to weight-loss, I have had my phases wear the numbers are all that seems to make since, and as a numbers person myself I typically gravitate to them also, and I have also had my fair share of scale Madness. I have had the opportunity to experience and learn numbers are not the entire story.
The fastest way to describe what I have learned in the amazing and beautiful process of permanent losing weight is - its 99% mental and 1% physical. Change your thoughts and you will change your world!1 -
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Thank you....I am very happy I found this group of supportive friends....I am enjoying all of the current as well as the past posts....there is a wealth of information and insight here....it is wonderful to be in a group that shares your same struggles and challenges....some of the posts make me laugh and others bring tears to my eyes....we are all stronger than we know...getting healthier is possible.....everyday I am learning to believe that I can do this.....I have felt so positive that I recently changed my goal weight from 199 down to 180.... is that great, or what ? LoL...still a long way to go but 38 pounds closer than I was may 28 when I started!2
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That's great progress so far. I've got a ways to go as well (another 108 lbs), but as long as I'm trending in the right direction with my weight, I'm happy. Not in a rush to hit my goal, trying to keep everything sustainable in the long run.2
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Hi everyone, I've read every post and there's so many I wanted to quote - I agree with so many of you. I'm made up to have found this little corner of the internet so thank you for setting it up
It really does make a difference to have the support of other's who understand.
I'm 42, married for 22 years, a working mum to 2 kids who are both in uni. They're still in that teenage adult phase (aren't we all). They both moved out in the last few years and it is nice to have the extra space but I really really miss them messing the place up.
I've been overweight since my mid 20's and obese since my mid 30's and it's about time I done something serious about it. Like most people, I've been on diets before but I was never 100% commited or they were just fad diets that didn't work in 6 weeks so I binned them off. This time it's not a weight loss diet - it's a healthy diet for life.
I've lost 45lb and have 120 odd left to go
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wannabeskinnycat wrote: »Hi everyone, I've read every post and there's so many I wanted to quote - I agree with so many of you. I'm made up to have found this little corner of the internet so thank you for setting it up It really does make a difference to have the support of other's who understand.
I'm 42, married for 22 years, a working mum to 2 kids who are both in uni. They're still in that teenage adult phase (aren't we all). They both moved out in the last few years and it is nice to have the extra space but I really really miss them messing the place up.
I've been overweight since my mid 20's and obese since my mid 30's and it's about time I done something serious about it. Like most people, I've been on diets before but I was never 100% commited or they were just fad diets that didn't work in 6 weeks so I binned them off. This time it's not a weight loss diet - it's a healthy diet for life.
I've lost 45lb and have 120 odd left to go
Good luck to everyone x
@wannabeskinnycat
Welcome to LL.
Congrats on the 45 pounds lost! That is awesome!
I believe being mentally ready to change your life and not just a number on the scale is what makes the biggest difference. To me that is what this group is for. A goal beyond the scale, how clothes fit, and how we look in pictures. This is about unlocking our lives and our health. The other stuff is great too. I have been looking at some nice clothes and shoes that I feel like will look good on me post-op but those are side benefits.3 -
Thanks for the welcome @NovusDies
I naively thought the physical aspects of hunger and working tired muscles would be the hardest but the realisation of losing weight has been the toughest for me so far. Obviously I knew I was big but now I’m focused on my health it’s always in my head and guilt creeps in. When people say oh you look amazing I think is that cos I looked **** before? Unfair I know but that’s where learning to love all of me comes into it
I know what you mean about window shopping and omg imagine having a pic that you were happy with! This is such a positive feel great mini forum
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wannabeskinnycat wrote: »Thanks for the welcome @NovusDies
I naively thought the physical aspects of hunger and working tired muscles would be the hardest but the realisation of losing weight has been the toughest for me so far. Obviously I knew I was big but now I’m focused on my health it’s always in my head and guilt creeps in. When people say oh you look amazing I think is that cos I looked **** before? Unfair I know but that’s where learning to love all of me comes into it
I know what you mean about window shopping and omg imagine having a pic that you were happy with! This is such a positive feel great mini forum
Now the next time someone tells me I look good that is what will go through my head! Who am I kidding? I have always been a handsome devil. (ok, not really).
I like this group of people. I have been very fortunate that you guys are the ones that have decided to join. It doesn't seem possible that we have only been here since the first of July. It seems like we have had a year's worth of discussions already. I wanted a place that was a resource for people with more to lose and it is really happening. It is also a good place to laugh, scream, brag, support, whatever among people who really get it.2 -
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@wannabeskinnycat - Welcome!
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I'm 50 years old and 5'3". I'm back on MFP again after a couple year hiatus in which I gained back all the weight I lost + 30 lbs. The app did work though, so I know I can lose all this weight again. I have discovered I have Adjustment Disorder (just learned about this, I always thought of it more like situational depression). Basically, I have a really hard time adjusting to stressful events - the more stressful, the worse it is. I have dealt with such stresses with food. The last event was my mom having to go through open heart surgery, then 6 weeks in ICU as I saw her mind suddenly go to a vegetable state, then having to make the decision to pull the plug. Needless to say, I allowed that stress to sabotage all the healthy things I'd done. When my mom went into the hospital in December 2016, I was 152 lbs. When I started back here on August 17th this year, I weighed 264.3 lbs.
The reason I'm back is that I got the news from my doctor that I'm prediabetic. To add to that, I have had arthritis in my spine for 20 years and it's getting a lot worse due to my poor health. Everything hurts, all the time, and just putting on my shoes now requires a near heroic effort. I don't want this to be my life. I want to feel good again. I want to go for hikes with my husband and our little Yorkie baby. I'm 100% committed to reversing this diabetes thing. I found this group from a link in someone's post. I think I will "fit in here" perfectly.
Start weight on Aug 17, 2019: 264.3 lbs
Weight on Sep 15, 2019: 252.8 lbs
I'm only using an "official" Sunday morning weigh in to track progress in MFP, but I use Happy Scale too. I'm working on walking for exercise for now, with the plan to slowly add in strength training starting in October.
I'm an accountant, been married to my current husband for about 7.5 years, have two grown up kids (28 and 25) and I love Yorkies, philosophy, heavy metal, and video games (The Division/The Division 2, The Sims 4, Guild Wars 2, Assassins Creed Odyssey). I like podcasts like Making Sense with Sam Harris, Criminal, Dan Carlin's Hardcore History, The Guilty Feminist, Star Talk, and The Rewatchables.1 -
Hi
I'm 50 years old and 5'3". I'm back on MFP again after a couple year hiatus in which I gained back all the weight I lost + 30 lbs. The app did work though, so I know I can lose all this weight again. I have discovered I have Adjustment Disorder (just learned about this, I always thought of it more like situational depression). Basically, I have a really hard time adjusting to stressful events - the more stressful, the worse it is. I have dealt with such stresses with food. The last event was my mom having to go through open heart surgery, then 6 weeks in ICU as I saw her mind suddenly go to a vegetable state, then having to make the decision to pull the plug. Needless to say, I allowed that stress to sabotage all the healthy things I'd done. When my mom went into the hospital in December 2016, I was 152 lbs. When I started back here on August 17th this year, I weighed 264.3 lbs.
The reason I'm back is that I got the news from my doctor that I'm prediabetic. To add to that, I have had arthritis in my spine for 20 years and it's getting a lot worse due to my poor health. Everything hurts, all the time, and just putting on my shoes now requires a near heroic effort. I don't want this to be my life. I want to feel good again. I want to go for hikes with my husband and our little Yorkie baby. I'm 100% committed to reversing this diabetes thing. I found this group from a link in someone's post. I think I will "fit in here" perfectly.
Start weight on Aug 17, 2019: 264.3 lbs
Weight on Sep 15, 2019: 252.8 lbs
I'm only using an "official" Sunday morning weigh in to track progress in MFP, but I use Happy Scale too. I'm working on walking for exercise for now, with the plan to slowly add in strength training starting in October.
I'm an accountant, been married to my current husband for about 7.5 years, have two grown up kids (28 and 25) and I love Yorkies, philosophy, heavy metal, and video games (The Division/The Division 2, The Sims 4, Guild Wars 2, Assassins Creed Odyssey). I like podcasts like Making Sense with Sam Harris, Criminal, Dan Carlin's Hardcore History, The Guilty Feminist, Star Talk, and The Rewatchables.
Hi @denjan333,
Welcome to LL.
I am glad you found your way here. Just jump in anywhere. We are here to help and be helped.1 -
Hi everyone. I am 46 and have been struggling with my weight my whole adult life. I am a cancer survivor and really want to stop being tired all the time. I was doing pretty well earlier this year but fell off the wagon and need to get back in control.
I hope everyone has a great weekend.4 -
Hi everyone. I am 46 and have been struggling with my weight my whole adult life. I am a cancer survivor and really want to stop being tired all the time. I was doing pretty well earlier this year but fell off the wagon and need to get back in control.
I hope everyone has a great weekend.
Hi @clord2,
Welcome to LL. We are still sort of new here but I think if you look around there is plenty to see already. If you have any questions feel free to ask.
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Hey all! I am a 32 year old stay at home mom. My days are filled with busyness and I struggle making myself make time to work out. My fiance and I have 5 kids between us ranging from 3-12, and I babysit two other kids that are 1 and 3.
A few years back, before meeting my fiance, I began a weightloss journey. When I started I weighed 270lbs. I felt disgusting and hated myself. I lost 70lbs during that time. I worked my butt off and was so proud of myself and becoming more content with my body. Somewhere I lost that motivation and I managed to gain back 50lbs of it. I'm currently weighing in at 253 and have become so disgusted with myself. My fiance is supportive of me, he thinks I'm beautiful, etc. But, I do not. I hate looking in the mirror, I hate getting naked. I hate the way I have let my body get.
3 days ago, an old friend stopped by. During the course of us catching up, she decided to tell me it looked like I had gained back everything I had worked so hard to lose. It broke me. So here I am. Starting this journey again. Digging deep for the motivation to get up in the morning before everyone else and work out. To say no to the snacks and stuff that I don't need and make a healthier food choice. I need a support system to do so. My fiance tries, but he hates telling me no. He won't push me to turn down that cheeseburger and fries for a salad. So here I am... I need help.4 -
@FaleeshaB86 you GOT this! Be kind to yourself. We’re here to support you.2
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FaleeshaB86 wrote: »Hey all! I am a 32 year old stay at home mom. My days are filled with busyness and I struggle making myself make time to work out. My fiance and I have 5 kids between us ranging from 3-12, and I babysit two other kids that are 1 and 3.
A few years back, before meeting my fiance, I began a weightloss journey. When I started I weighed 270lbs. I felt disgusting and hated myself. I lost 70lbs during that time. I worked my butt off and was so proud of myself and becoming more content with my body. Somewhere I lost that motivation and I managed to gain back 50lbs of it. I'm currently weighing in at 253 and have become so disgusted with myself. My fiance is supportive of me, he thinks I'm beautiful, etc. But, I do not. I hate looking in the mirror, I hate getting naked. I hate the way I have let my body get.
3 days ago, an old friend stopped by. During the course of us catching up, she decided to tell me it looked like I had gained back everything I had worked so hard to lose. It broke me. So here I am. Starting this journey again. Digging deep for the motivation to get up in the morning before everyone else and work out. To say no to the snacks and stuff that I don't need and make a healthier food choice. I need a support system to do so. My fiance tries, but he hates telling me no. He won't push me to turn down that cheeseburger and fries for a salad. So here I am... I need help.
Hi @FaleeshaB86,
Welcome to LL.
Things like motivation and willpower come in limited quantity, imo. I think the real secret is to use them to fill the cracks not be the entire dam. For the last 3 months I have been in a less sustainable chapter of my weight loss and I have relied heavily on discipline to keep me moving forward. I feel drained mentally and physically down to what feels like a cellular level. Luckily this is nearly over and I can resume a course that is more kind to myself soon.
You ran out of steam last time. I did that more times than I am willing to count. That means this time you need to make some changes so that you don't need as much steam or not as much the whole time.
I would like you to read this:
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10753326/success-forward-thinking
and this:
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10753829/dont-jump-to-the-end
I am not saying that all these concepts are correct for you. Everything has to be tailored to how you need it for you but hopefully you will get some ideas how to find your easiest path forward.
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