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@cayenne_007 and @weatherking2019 : the dive was great, we saw some cuttlefish with their eggs and a cute wrasse building its nest out of seaweed
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As for FB: I quit cold turkey 5 years ago. I hated how I got influenced by marketing, and I hated it even more seeing people in my surroundings liking posts that were far from politically correct.
I didn't miss it one second and it has made my life much more simple ! I was on my way out of a depression at that moment, and with hindsight I can safely say that deleting it did a lot to improve my mental healt.2 -
@weatherking2019 : might it have to do with the wedding plans? It is a big event, and even if it is a happy and glorious event to look forward to, it might induce a greater deal of anxiety than you would expect, certainly in these Covid days. Just give it a thought.
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@Antiope2018 - I absolutely get that....but overall, the good does outweigh the bad for me. I love the memories when old pics pop up... Watching all my friends kids grow up, the horse stuff. The political stuff bugs me, I stay out of it. It's so difficult to sift thru to the truth, I don't trust the media in general - everyone has an agenda. I refuse to add fuel to the fires with stupid memes. The people that do it too often, I unfollow - I don't want to see it.
@weatherking2019 - I've been fighting the blahs. Riding and gardening bring me joy, even if I don't feel like doing either when I get home - after I'm outdoors a bit, my mood improves. I've been working to spend about 10-15 min first thing in the morning on a devotional/prayers...then I'm working on a gratitude journal. Just think of 3 different things daily to be grateful for. I'm bored. We've been slow since the plague and I can knock out my work quickly....and then I'm just stuck at the office... The wasted time weighs on me because I've got so much to do at home.. but here I sit.. I want to find something that I'm excited about, that is more than a means to an end. I'm grateful that I've kept my job and grateful for what it allows me to enjoy, but there has to be more than this.
Wedding planning is so hard...especially if he's like my husband and wants to invite the entire neighborhood and every long lost relative in the world... and I just didn't' see the feasibility of it and we kept it to immediate family only. Only advice I can give you is keep it simple. Set some guidelines of what is important to you and go with it. It's your wedding, you're the only one that gets to choose how it will be.
And limit news intake - I swear it's the most depressing thing in the world. Every time I shut it all down for a bit, I feel better. No one needs the constant... we're all gonna die of the plague and everyone be scared of everyone that's not exactly like you. It's so draining.3 -
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@weatherking2019 - STUNNING!!!!! I love it!1
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@weatherking2019 : Amazing dress! So flowy.
I hope that finding this one will help a little with picking up your spirits!
Also don't forget to take the occasional moment to yourself. You seem to have a busy life and the wedding is coming on top of it all. With the workouts come feel-good hormones from exercising. Maybe a moment of closed eyes and an extra deep breath (or two or three) can help to let go of the adrenaline and anxiety.
It's something that helped me the last two or three weeks to keep the mood from going haywire.
And as @cayenne_007 suggested, limit news and social media.2 -
@jacau, @cayenne_007, @Antiopelle THANK YOU! I'm sending you guys virtual hugs!!
My funk has a lot to do with my daughter. I noticed, when she's doing okay, I feel much better. When she's not= I feel like I have to do EVERYTHING to help her. And with dealing with a depressed person, nothing can make that change. It has to come from within...
So the perfectionist and want to take care of everyone in me becomes disappointed at myself for failing.
I'm not so much stressed about the wedding strangely. It's going to happen and since the location is set, I think it's gonna be ok. Getting the details down part will probably wake us up!
So I heard from my company that they are going to have us come back to the office starting 7/13!!! I'm shocked! I'm not ready! I like this working from home thing....
When do you guys go back? How do you feel about it?3 -
@weatherking2019 - that's just so tough! I know you're doing a great job giving her the support system she needs to figure out how to beat this. Parenting isn't for the weak of heart, I can't think of a more difficult job.
We never quit coming to the office, I would love to be able to find a position that would allow me to work from home. I so much prefer it. I'm so over the 'plague'....things are so arbitrary - it's fine to protest, but not go to church. The guidelines are all over the place. I wear a mask when I go to lunch with my Gram, but that's the only time.... I do it because her care provider requests that I do.... but you take it off to eat? Who knows where everyone else at the place has been? It's all over the place.3 -
@weatherking2019 I don't have kids so I don't dare to claim that I can fully understand. From friends with anxiety or depression I can follow to some degree how hard it must be to watch someone you heavily care about having to fight their demons so much. How much more intense must it be when it's your own child??? My deepest of respects for the way you handle this with all else going on.
For me office also never really stopped. My colleagues and I started rotating days in the office so that there were always with one or two to take care of stuff. First it was one day per week to office, then two. In the hallways there are markers on the floor for walking direction and there are disinfection soaps and towels everywhere. Since it's the Netherlands, we are not obliged to wear facemasks (yet). And people keep a distance, even though that part is getting less and less. For now I still feel safe. Let's see how things will change when fall comes and with it the common cold and flu mix into the game, plus maybe a second wave. All in all though, I prefer going to office than work at home. It's only 10 minutes by cycling and I like being able to keep stuff in it's own little bubble, so work at work and home at home.
End of the month I'll have to go to France for a course. That is where I get a bit hesitant. Different country, different city, strangers around,... Not knowing what exactly is to come feels weird.
Also my in-laws (French) as well as my parents (German) are planning to come for visits. It'll be nice to see them again. But it's a challenge too trying to figure out how to handle the different measures taken in different places and who feels comfortable with doing what.
Weeeeiiiiiird times.4 -
I'm almost back in my normal routine.
Normally I work from home on Tuesdays and Thursday is my day off - so I'm at the office on Mon-Wed-Friday. Now, our office stays closed on Fridays so one extra day working from home is the only difference. Just like Jacau I'm glad I'm (almost) back in my normal routine. Add to that that I'm diving again and for me, life is almost completely back to normal. Also our infection and hospitalization numbers are going way down.
All that sometimes makes me forget that there is still that monster out there of which I should be fearful.1 -
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I hope these don’t come out to big.
We went out of town for a week to Assateague National Park and I thought the horse lovers here would enjoy the wild horses. A couple of super cute foals were kicking up and having fun.
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@Cora0477 - I LOVE those! That's one of my bucket list places to visit! So cute!1
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@Cora0477 : what wonderful pics !!
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Awww you guys are killin' me with these horse pics!!!1
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To continue with the horse pics.
Every now and then, the meadow behind our house is leased by a horse owner to let a new mother and her foal graze. This is the case right now.
Megacute, but one of my cats is not amused
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@Antiopelle - there's just nothing cuter than babies! Looks like a great place for them to run around.1
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Well, I was always the "lucky" one that could eat anything and not gain weight. That was until my nerve damage got so painful that the docs had me on sodium blockers that messed up my electrolytes and I went from my 145 lbs normal weight to 201lbs and the fat all went to my belly and I looked pregnant at age 59. It happened in just a few months. I stopped the dangerous meds cold which sent me to the ER, but within 3 days I was back to an intensive workout. I got down to 170 lbs in 3 months, but getting to 155 lbs took a couple of years. At age 67 I noticed my weight dropped to 135 lbs and they discovered cancer. After cancer surgery, I was down to 126 lbs and felt like a skeleton but was pumped because they got it all. Now nearing 70 I am at 140 lbs and feeling great. I will put some photos on my profile that show going from 170 to 135. I am 5' 9" and so happy to find this message board of women that make an effort to stay fit and healthy.
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this is what happens when back to the office... i'm so tired of sitting
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More horse porn.
I grew up in Baltimore and believe it or not I never got to see the Chincoteague ponies. Not sure why as I have been horse crazy since I was 4. We have really nice skies yesterday and my horse decided to pose.
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We’ve been taking small trips about every weekend before school starts to squeeze in as much fun as possible!2
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St Louis was a lot of fun!
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weatherking2019 wrote: »this is what happens when back to the office... i'm so tired of sitting
I completely understand, I also get to max 3.000 steps a day when working. Working from home without breaks= 800 steps. It is detrimental to our physical health !1 -
Antiopelle wrote: »weatherking2019 wrote: »this is what happens when back to the office... i'm so tired of sitting
I completely understand, I also get to max 3.000 steps a day when working. Working from home without breaks= 800 steps. It is detrimental to our physical health !
I'm in your boat - wknds - I go a million miles. I do so much better when I work from home. Even getting up early and spending an hour working horses before work and at least 2 hours at the barn after work - it's just not the same.2 -
Thought I'd go for a relaxing ride on the river last night.... thought it would be the perfect way to wrap up a Sunday. I'm usually super strict about long sleeves, big hats, sunscreen..... headed out at 5:45 and thought it was late enough I'd be safe. Came home at 7:30 with a DAMN SUNBURN! I give up - the sun hates me.
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cayenne_007 wrote: »Thought I'd go for a relaxing ride on the river last night.... thought it would be the perfect way to wrap up a Sunday. I'm usually super strict about long sleeves, big hats, sunscreen..... headed out at 5:45 and thought it was late enough I'd be safe. Came home at 7:30 with a DAMN SUNBURN! I give up - the sun hates me.
It's weird. The days are getting shorter but it feels like there is more direct light in the afternoon/evening and it's darker in the mornings already. Hope your sunburn isn't too bad. How was the river?0 -
@cayenne_007, SUNBURN! Yikes- Yep, you can burn even if it's cloudy. Keep that SPF handy!
@Antiopelle, Office jobs sucks! But the AC is nice and getting paid... shouldn't complain. right?
Just reminding myself to be grateful. Little things in life... ❤2 -
I need to find a way to get on the bike with kids in the bike trailer before it hits 100F outside and without the mosquitoes eating us alive. I'm thinking I need to start getting into a routine of riding at like 9:30-10am everyday.2
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I just went for a walk outside in a hot and humid 81!
It doesn't work at the office... Need other ideas.2
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