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juliemouse83 wrote: »@juliemouse83
The planets must be aligning or something ... I have cracked many of my major stress-factors too (not as drastic as yours ... but more than bad enough for me)juliemouse83 wrote: »...
Also, after the number crunching? It turns out I’m only working for benefits right now. The rest of the check is blow money, so I could feasibly work part time (craft store, anyone?) to cover my insurance and the rest of the time I could grow my candle and soap business.
I have so many options, and I feel like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders! I can do anything for two more weeks!
Like you (at the First-Principles level)- if you can name it - you can begin to problem-solve from multiple directions and perspectives
- if you can "SEE" it from multiple directions and perspectives, and define which elements you have power over, (including implication differences leading from the choice of "which R defines your last day" ) your solution options burst wide open.
- Pick the combination of positive factors/options that resonates, and run with it.
Actually, I think I just read about some planets aligning over the weekend. I'll take that!
I'm glad you got rid of your stressors, too! No stress is too small to not be gotten rid of.
Not gone yet, but being better named/contained and processes / tools being mobilized.
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@juliemouse83 - I am so happy and relieved for you! Congratulations!1
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TerriRichardson112 wrote: »Any suggestions on how to handle family get-togethers? My family for the past 2 weekends has had get-togethers, which means during the week I try to recover from the pizza, hamburgers, hot dogs, cookies, and whatever else I should not be eating.
Any suggestions on dealing with family get-togethers? Or is this where my "pass days" come into play? My family isn't health-conscious, and overweight runs in the family.
Hi KC
Similar to SuziQ.
It’s not a problem for me at the moment, as my whole family are avoiding close contact, and we have only had 2 small get to get hers since mid March.
In the past, even if/when I used a pass day, I would take a few healthy options with me, Pile my plate with salad, and either avoid the high carb, high fat options, or have a very small taster. Also, I keep on the move, and circulate. If there is music I’m the one bogeying on the dance floor. 💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼
And I make sure I create a bank of exercise calories to mop up any indulgences.
As an added incentive, my body let’s me know fairly quickly with severe stomach discomfort if I over-indulge on rich food.
The odd splurge won’t permanently derail you in the long run, but if it happens too often, it can set you back for ages.
There’s no easy solution, each of us has to find what works for us.
Thank you @TerriRichardson112 This is helpful for family get-togethers! Thanks!!1 -
MadisonMolly2017 wrote: »@KCJen
You might not like my answer...
I have switched all my social gatherings with friends to non-food, and you know what, they all prefer it as they are all normal weight & don’t like to eat out. We walk or (pre-COVID) would go get coffee or tea & chat away. Other friends I invited over to create: painting, work on knitting etc.
That left family gatherings...
I made the decision to disassociate food from seeing family. I’d either bring my own or eat before. They understood as I am in immuno-suppressants (so eating out is a no go) & I dieted 3.3 years so they got used to this.
However, I bring games, I focus on really connecting with each of them!!
They are used to this now - it’s a non-issue.
And finally, Consider breaking your weight loss goal into achievable Mini-goals. Perhaps with a reward. Anyone can be daunted by a long journey, but I’m here to tell you that losing slowly gives us time to master 100’s of habits & strategies needed for Maintenance- which was me Real Goal. Every plateau prepares you for maintenance!!
Again, my solutions won’t work for everyone, but it is amazing once we place our health first, what caring friend or family member can object?
Thank you @MadisonMolly2017 This is helpful. Good ideas for friends and family get-togethers. Thanks!0 -
Any suggestions on how to handle family get-togethers? My family for the past 2 weekends has had get-togethers, which means during the week I try to recover from the pizza, hamburgers, hot dogs, cookies, and whatever else I should not be eating.
Any suggestions on dealing with family get-togethers? Or is this where my "pass days" come into play? My family isn't health-conscious, and overweight runs in the family.
Hi KC.
When I know I am getting together with a group where food is the main focus I not only bring one or two healthier dishes I also make sure I eat healthier before the event. So instead of skipping breakfast because "oh, I am getting together with so and so" I eat a good breakfast. Then, I am not starving when I get there.
A single/half of a burger or hot dog isn't horrible. Skip the bread and load up on fresh veges or salad. Since you will be bringing a dish or two you'll have healthier options.
I will also add activity, if I know someone is going to bring something I really enjoy. So before the event (or during) I will take an extra long walk or volunteer to take the kids to the park or something just to get more exercise calories. And, instead of having a full portion of Mari's carrot cake, I will have a half portion so I am not depriving myself and am able to enjoy.
It is really hard because so many events revolve around food. So we have to teach ourselves how to deal with those situations and our replies to food pushers.
Hang in there! And, remember a slip is not a fall!
Thank you @SuziQ113 This is helpful. I plan on using this along with the other suggestions. However, this is going to be helpful with family get-togethers!1
