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Tomorrow, Robert has an appointment with eye doctor. It’s a check up on his eye surgery he had a couple weeks ago. I assume all is good.
I forgot to mention that I saw my 2nd bear this morning on my walk. This one was closer than the first one this year. I calmly talked to him that he was in my way and he needed to get out of my way. He then disappeared into the bushes. Bear will avoid people if they can.0 -
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At TOPS this morning, I was Loser of the Week and Loser of the Month.0 -
Monday, Week 1, Day 10
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Awesome job with the wait loss!
Thank goodness for a long weekend for me. Was able to find time to stop in and say hi. I have 4 days left of class. Friday is my graduation day. Hopefully will have a placement by then but if not oh well. Will just have to keep job hunting I guess.0 -
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I hope things went well with you graduation and you have a job.
Not much going on here. I’ve been crocheting hats. Our church ladies have been making hats for the town kids.1 -
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I finally had some time to drop in. Here is the latest of what's going on in my crazy life.
So last Thursday afternoon I went for an interview for my placement and got the job in the spot. On Friday we had our appetizer challenge which my group placed 4th out of 4. But everyone seemed to really like our pinwheels we made. Let's just say I am addicted to them so it's a good thing they are a little pricy to make for my budget.
Also Friday I graduated from the program. Friday night I partied alot. Saturday I didn't get out of bed till noon, then got my bus pass renewed and worked on raking leaves. Sunday was Church and house work and then hanging with friends. Monday was shopping for work. Tuesday was my first day of work and it went well. Got done early and had to hang out at McDonald's and did a little shopping for 2 hours waiting for my ride to my meeting. Today was my day off so I went to a TOPS meeting with a group I have never been to and found out I stayed the same this week. Tomorrow is back to work for 2 days. See you all on Saturday if I make it in. Oh yeah Hubby and I are separated but living under the same roof which is making life more difficult. But no other choice at this time.
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Congratulations on finishing your course and getting a job.
We are at our son’s home for the holiday. We’ll be going home probably on Sunday afternoon.1 -
Good Evening Everyone!
Hope everyone who celebrated Thanksgiving had an awesome day!
Thank you for all your wonderful comments and support.
Bea - Hope you had a safe trip both directions.
Worked Thursday and Friday. Got to learn how to pack parts of the meals on Thursday as well as bring lots of food home. The boss seemed pleased with how I did and gave me lots of encouragement along with encouragement and instructions. I don't know if that was partially because the girl that got hired the same day as me quit with lots of complaints about him or not. In Friday we had no supervisor as she took the day off and the boss was only there for a short time as he was running behind and then had to be off site for a commercial. We were supposed to work till 5 pm but got done by 2:30. After work on Friday hung out at my friend's for a few hours and got some attention from a male friend that was there that I am kinda interested in. My son spent the weekend. So on Saturday got some exercise walking to do errands and he treated me to breakfast. In the afternoon I cleaned up leaves for my side job as snow was predicted to start today. Then hung out at my friend's till dinner time. Today went to Church and then did a few things before taking a nap. I have started doing diamond art which I may or may not be addicted to. My Son and I are planning to live together when I move out as it's the only way I can afford it. Looking for a place to live is frustrating as I am not making enough hours to save for an apartment. My share for first and last would have to be at least $1450. But have asked my boss for more hours so we'll see what happens. All I can do is work hard, pray and keep the peace at home. When it comes to the ex I never know when he is going to run hot or cold. I hate having to walk on eggshells but I refuse to go to a shelter and take a spot someone who needs it more might need.
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We had a good Thanksgiving. The roads and weather was great. There was only a light dusting of snow. The rest of the time was sunny.
We did a little Black Friday shopping on Saturday. It’s just as good and all the crazies are home and the lines are short.
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Yes it sucks that my ex can not man up and be supportive. While I worked Monday and Tuesday he did nothing in the house. I think he doesn't believe I am leaving even though I keep saying I don't know how he will take care of the place when he won't do anything except watch tv, play on his phone and smoke weed and cigarettes. It's not like I ask a lot. Just do dishes and laundry, as well as cook dinner on days I work. With where I work most nights it's just heating up stuff that I have brought home on Mondays and Thursdays. I have started going through stuff and packing slowly. I have figured out that it will take me about 3 months to save enough to move out. Also that gives me enough time to get the ex his ID that he lost a few years ago and get him his own bank account so I can get off his disability check. I had asked the boss for extra hours on Friday and I am now also working 3 - 9 pm on Wednesdays. This starts next week and will give me the opportunity to learn the cooking aspect of everything. I am glad they believe I can manage that. I am so looking forward to the new challenge to prove myself. Today was TOPS and I lost 2 lbs. Couldn't believe it. Such a wonderful surprise!
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I gained a little bit at TOPS, but I wasn’t alone. All of us gained this week. We have something to work on this week! We did have a KOPS that was the Loser of the Month. But she turned down the prize because she is above goal, but still in leeway. She’s using that as an incentive to get below goal. I challenged everyone to have a no gain month. If they do, I’ll figure out a pin for them. This is a HUGE challenge for December!
Sounds like you have a good plan. I hope it works out for you.1 -
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Thanks Bea! The group I am visiting and will transfer to on the 13th we all had no gain this week
Yesterday I worked a half hour extra and wanted to stay but after giving me the choice to stay or go they sent me home. It was a little weird. I felt bad leaving when they still had so much to do. They ended up working an hour extra after I left. Also the boss gave me more compliments and said that he has heard good things from the supervisor about me. I told him I was grateful for and looking forward to the opportunity to learn the cooking side of things. He told me he wanted me to learn it before my friend goes on leave for her surgery so I can take her place while she's off. Another of my friends from the course also got hired yesterday so work is only going to become more fun. Today the ex decided to stick to his usual end of month fits. Which just made me mad. Bills need to be paid before anything else. Then we got our COVID and flu shots. After I got home I went to my friends and we went shopping at the mall. This gave the ex a few hours to get his attitude back under control before I came home for dinner. Tomorrow it's back to the mall with my ex and Son for Christmas shopping.
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It’s been cold and dreary here for the last week or so. Not much going on here. I have a doctor appointment with the surgeon that did my knee. It’s been just over 5 months since my knee replacement. It’s on Tuesday. Weather is supposed to be snowy then.
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Sorry didn't make it yesterday as planned.
Yesterday was Christmas shopping at the mall with my Son. The ex was supposed to come but stayed home which was fine with me. We had lunch at the food court. I had a greek salad and gyro. Got home by 3. Then had to listen to the ex complain that I wouldn't show him what I got everyone. Told him if he went he would know. Then went to my friends for a couple hours. Came home and made dinner. Today was Church, grabbing a few groceries, filing some paperwork online, lunch and nap. Also did some laundry, dishes and made dinner. Hopefully will make it back in to visit on Wednesday but not sure as I am working Monday - Thursday this week. Either way will definitely be in on Friday.
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Today has been a very frustrating day, dealing with a child in an adult body. Her biggest problem is no one expects her to do her responsibilities. She has 3 kids and expects everyone to do her responsibilities. I got roped in to cleaning up the mess she did because she chooses to be a little girl. She 24 years old but chooses not to be an adult.1 -
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I saw the surgeon who did my knee. He said all is good, see you in 6 months. We then had lunch with friends and did some shopping. I’m tired now.0 -
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Bea I completely understand dealing with adults who choose to act like children. My ex is like that a lot of the time. Glad the surgeon is happy with the progress of your knee.
Worked Monday through Friday. Back to work on Monday. The ex has been up and down with his moods and that's fine as I am mainly only home when I have to be. My Son and I spent today out and about grabbing a few things for making Christmas cookies. I even grabbed a few cheap decorations because I felt weird not decorating at all. I even bought a felt tree with lights and felt decorations. Tomorrow I am going to Church twice then to my sister's as we're going to the cemetery to put a wreath on our parents grave.
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Life has been crazy the last week or so. Friday I took Mary for her monthly shopping and Christmas shopping. Everything went well but I was really tired. I made a really quick and easy supper. About an hour later I was freezing and every joint hurt. I felt like someone kicked my shin really hard. Then I got hot and sick to my stomach. Then I was cold. This happened until I went to bed.
The worst of it was we had a booth at a Christmas Bazaar on Saturday. I wasn’t sure how much I would be able to do. A lite breakfast was all I could “stomach “. It went well. We made a few bucks and some really good contacts, with hopefully chapter growth.
On top of all this, Robert came down with a nasty cold. I thought he had either bronchitis or pneumonia. I insisted he see a doctor yesterday. We went to Urgent Care. He had a chest xray and no pneumonia or bronchitis! But because of his COPD, the doctor prescribed prednisone and an antibiotic. It could have got worse quick fast and with Christmas in a short time, we didn’t want it worse.1 -
Good Evening Everyone!
Sorry I have been MIA.
Hope you both are feeling better and had a great Christmas.
Life has been crazy with work and the holidays. Got lots of things on my Christmas list. The ex has made it miserable enough over Christmas that my son left on boxing day and is refusing to come and visit with me anymore. Exercise is minimal. On days off I find I spend most of the day sleeping on and off. The ex doesn't do much around here and that drives me crazy as I end up having to do everything on my days off. I will do my best to check-in but probably won't except on my days off which are Fridays and Saturdays. Happy New Year everyone!0 -
Happy New Year!
Robert is a lot better. We had a good Christmas, better than most.
Sorry that your Christmas wasn’t good. I hope things get better for you.0 -
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Happy New Year!
Thanks for all the support and suggestions.
My ex isn't the father of my Son but has been in his life for most of it. I can understand my ex's feelings some what. He hasn't lived with us for many years and the ex has gotten stuck in his ways but I don't consider that a great excuse.
Anyways this week has been a long one. But so glad to have three days off. Wednesday was the most stressful of them all. I even cried at work. The ex has been sick and has done nothing around the house even when he has been feeling well. Today I went out and got some new bras that were way overdue. So much more comfortable. I am one step closer to freedom as this week I was finally taken off the ex's check. Next step is to figure out my finances so I can cover my expenses and still save money for the move. I can and will do this.0 -
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I hope it all works out for you!
This week has been no different than most weeks. Some days I do well and others not so good. I’ve had tiny gains in the last couple weeks at TOPS. I need to get my act together since Christmas. Most of the junk food is either eaten or out of the house.
Next week Mary has an appointment with eye doctor. Not much else going on.
Thankfully the depressing for has gone. It was here day after day for a couple weeks.1 -
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You've got this! I am on a steady gain of about 2 lbs a week. This needs to change and know it will once I get everything figured out.
Planned on checking in last night but didn't get it done. So glad to see how active our chat is. We got a bit of snow overnight but is all melted. But more is on the way. Really was hoping for some decent snow so I could make some extra cash with my side job. Yesterday was spent sleeping doing dishes and visiting with my friend. My new routine seems to include sleeping most of Saturday. Today I went to Church, did some laundry, read, crafted and made dinner for myself. I made quesadillas using chicken I brought home from work earlier in the week. Actually got my MFP account to work properly on my phone with the website so was able to track my food tonight. Other than the ex being lazy when it comes to getting chores done his attitude today was not bad. I am learning to worry about myself when it comes to meals and let him fend for himself. We have eaten meals together for so long I have to learn to not stress about eating by myself.0 -
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We’re expecting a big storm and really cold. I’m not ready for this, not that I’m ever ready for it. I just hope it stays away at least until I get home tomorrow when I take Mary to Missoula. It’s for an eye appointment and her monthly shopping.
In the current TOPS News magazine (page 6, I think) is a story about 3 generations of TOPS Montana Queens.
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Hello, I hope the day finds you well. I haven't been active on MFP for a while and decided to come back now. My group had the first weigh in of the year tonight. I put on a few pounds over the holiday break. While this is a setback, I am more concerned that since I joined TOPS in 2019, I have actually put on more weight than I took off at any point. I am discouraged to the point I have thought of quitting. I have decided though to continue but also try to attend other meetings outside of my local group and touch base more online. We'll see how it goes.
@stiggymt - I am expecting weather here as well, probably not as big a storm as you though. Ours is mostly cold wet and wind so ice most likely. Please be safe while traveling.1 -
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Hi JP! I’m glad you checked in. I wish MyFitnessPal would send notices when someone posts here, but they don’t. So you need to check in here every day or at least every few days.
I’m encouraging you to don’t quit TOPS! Just hang in there! I know it can be very discouraging at times. Share it with your chapter, or at least with one or two other members. That pesky scales can be very stubborn at times. Right now, I’m working at getting my KOPS status back. Christmas, Covid, Christmas, Christmas and another Christmas put the weight on. So I had to work on my attitude! So last year, I lost 10 pounds, which is better that gaining another 10 pounds. I maintained through Christmas this year (which is from Thanksgiving to New Year’s Day).
This is something you need to work on! I know you can do this. As I said before, tak to someone. Maybe another one who is struggling or maybe one who has maintained KOPS for awhile, or a new KOPS, maybe maybe all three. This is some suggestions. Keep in touch here.
I’ve told others that TOPS is not a magic cure. We are cheer leaders. We celebrate with each other and we sympathize when (not if) we see defeat.
Our big snow storm was mostly rain with a little snow mixed in. But we’re supposed to get snow and extreme cold later this week. Ugh! I guessed we can’t complain too much. This is January in Montana!1 -
Hello Everyone and @stiggymt -
I agree about the notifications from MFP when someone posts. I have the app that I use more for tracking nutrition and it is set up to send me notifications but I don't get them. I will definitely be checking in more on my laptop (it's easier to type this much).
Thanks for the encouragement. Your idea to speak with KOPS members confirms the fact that I need to step outside my chapter. We don't have any KOPS or anyone who has been.
Ironically, I was voted cheerleader and received a special pin for my positive attitude. I find that being the "positive one" makes it especially difficult when you need cheering.
Even more entertaining is I recently gave up treasurer position for co-leader. I'm hoping to find new ways to create a fresh environment with the leader. While she trends toward traditionally done she talks like she is open to new ideas.
Our storm turned out to be all wind and nothing else. Expecting more over the weekend, maybe. I'm in central Ohio and it all depends on how far fronts dip or rise haha.
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Change is hard. I don’t like change. But sometimes change is better. I’ve learned to embrace change. Nearly every time the change was/is better. TOPS, like any organization, is full of different personalities! Sometimes that can be a challenge in itself. I hope you can be a good influence.
We’re having a blizzard now. It started this afternoon. Later the temperature is supposed to drop below 0. Ugh!0 -
Hello, I read your post on the question regarding fundraiser and such. I'm sorry for you and your groups losses. It is difficult when you loose a member of your TOPS "family".
I'm working on putting together a contest right now. I want to try the July/Aug 2022 Slow and Steady. It focuses on .2 pounds at a time with no real end date, just when someone reaches the goal. I think this will be a good way for my group to refocus.
Today was actually quite nice here. We are expecting rain and snow over the next few days. Sounds like what you get in MT I get a milder version a day or two later in OH. I most certainly can't imagine a full blizzard here. Maybe years ago when I was growing up in the snow belt but not down central.
Good chatting, I'm popping off. Going to read a chapter or two before bed. Finally found a book that has me wanting to read rather than just reading.
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Good Evening Everyone!
Bea - you are always an inspiration and proof that we can do this even if we struggle! Thanks for taking care of the chat when I am to busy to be here. I wish I had more time like before.
JP - Welcome back! Sorry I'm not around much but I get in when I can. I agree with Bea don't give up on TOPS. I started in November 2018 and was about 10 lbs from goal near the end of COVID lockdowns. Then my Mom passed away that January and it has been a roller coaster ever since with mainly ups on the scale. Yes it's a struggle and it's hard. But if we put in the work we can change our out come. Just recently I have moved to a new group due to my work schedule. They are my fourth group since starting. I encourage everyone to visit other groups if possible as each group is different and you may find a group that fits better.
I have done my best to skim through the many posts from everyone.
Now to get on with catching you all up on what is going on in my life..... Monday was a busy pack day at work as always, Tuesday was even busier with prep for Wednesday cook day and ended up working over 9 hours, Wednesday was TOPS and lost three lbs although I have no clue how and worked over 9 hours, and Thursday got up and shoveled snow and worked only an hour over my shift and then got to visit my BFF for a couple hours before going home. That brings us to Today lol. Today I have off from work and slept in then ran some errands in the morning. Got to my sister's to spend the weekend with my son while there out of town around 1pm. We spent the afternoon just chilling and hanging out then made dinner together. So nice to have normalcy and peace back in my life for a couple days. It started raining after I arrived then switched to snow definitely more than yesterday but they say it's supposed to switch back to rain and all be gone again.
Here's a pic of the snow on my way to work yesterday. Granted by 2pm when I took my first break it was gone. Not sure why I bothered shoveling LoL.
Next Sunday my schedule is changing. Sundays we start at 4am and Wednesdays we start at 6 pm. This is due to the availability of our temporary kitchen for about 3 weeks while we wait for our kitchen to be completed at work. Our company is growing faster that the boss expected and we don't have enough employees either. On top of everything else our city's bus service is possibly striking starting on Monday at 12:01 am.
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