Your preferred date night...?
mrmanmeat
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What's your preferred night to go out on a first date? Any certain days that are off limits?
Personally, I don't have a favorite, but Friday/Saturdays usually work for me if it's a night date. Sat/Sun are if it's an all day type thing.
You?
Personally, I don't have a favorite, but Friday/Saturdays usually work for me if it's a night date. Sat/Sun are if it's an all day type thing.
You?
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I actually like weekdays. First dates should be more of a "Get to know" the person so spending an entire limitless evening seems a bit much. This works both ways, if after we've talked over coffee for three hours and it really is getting late I can make plans to meet again later and feel all warm and fluffy at work the next day... if after ten minutes I want to shoot myself in the vagoo rather than ever have sex with the guy I can beg off saying I have work in the morning (and it's true).0
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Who said you had to spend the entire night?0
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My point related to the exit strategy. In my experience most people are willing to cajole you into spending more time because it's friday/saturday. They're less likely to if it's a weeknight.0
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Hmm, interesting I suppose.
I really don't have a preference. If Thursday works best for both, let's go. If Friday works best, sure, that's fine. There is no day that means more to me than another. They're all the same at the end of the night. Just another day in the week.0 -
Friday and Saturday nights are typically off limits for a first date. If there's temperate weather, there could be a weekend afternoon activity first date, but that usually won't be going past 6 PM.
Usually anytime between Sunday night-Thursday night are acceptable first date nights. I like Wednesday or Thursday best.0 -
Based on what reasons?Friday and Saturday nights are typically off limits for a first date. If there's temperate weather, there could be a weekend afternoon activity first date, but that usually won't be going past 6 PM.
Usually anytime between Sunday night-Thursday night are acceptable first date nights. I like Wednesday or Thursday best.0 -
In the beginning, definitely weekdays.
- Less pressure
- Like Kitsune said, good escape opportunities
- Still have your weekend for fun stuff with people you already know (no "wasting" a night when you don't know how you feel about the person)0 -
How far away does she live?
If local, then a weeknight, meet for a drink or an early dinner is great.
If she lives a decent drive away, I'd opt for a weekend night.
If she lives over 300 miles away, then I'd plan a weekend.
If she lives on another continent, I'd probably plan a week or so.0 -
Based on what reasons?Friday and Saturday nights are typically off limits for a first date. If there's temperate weather, there could be a weekend afternoon activity first date, but that usually won't be going past 6 PM.
Usually anytime between Sunday night-Thursday night are acceptable first date nights. I like Wednesday or Thursday best.
Really because of the perception that Friday and Saturday are prime social hours, particularly for those who don't have kids. It is not good for a man to give his best hours to an unproven person, plus the woman will know that if he's booking her Fri/Sat night, his other prospects probably are not red hot. Women like a little competition in the early going, keeps them on edge. When they're on edge, there's interested. Interested is way better than complete apathy.0 -
In the beginning, definitely weekdays.
- Less pressure
- Like Kitsune said, good escape opportunities
- Still have your weekend for fun stuff with people you already know (no "wasting" a night when you don't know how you feel about the person)
Hmm. I guess I view it differently.
If I go on a Friday date, and it blows, I can always find something to do.
I guess I typically get to know the person before the first date as well. Then you have an idea if you'll need to bail ahead of time. Then you're not wasting another night.0 -
Based on what reasons?Friday and Saturday nights are typically off limits for a first date. If there's temperate weather, there could be a weekend afternoon activity first date, but that usually won't be going past 6 PM.
Usually anytime between Sunday night-Thursday night are acceptable first date nights. I like Wednesday or Thursday best.
Really because of the perception that Friday and Saturday are prime social hours, particularly for those who don't have kids. It is not good for a man to give his best hours to an unproven person, plus the woman will know that if he's booking her Fri/Sat night, his other prospects probably are not red hot. Women like a little competition in the early going, keeps them on edge. When they're on edge, there's interested. Interested is way better than complete apathy.
I can honestly say, none of those things have ever occurred to me when I set up a date night, be it a weeknight or weekend. If I'm interested in the guy then I'm going to be interested every day of the week.
Of course, I think games are stupid.0 -
In the beginning, definitely weekdays.
- Less pressure
- Like Kitsune said, good escape opportunities
- Still have your weekend for fun stuff with people you already know (no "wasting" a night when you don't know how you feel about the person)
Hmm. I guess I view it differently.
If I go on a Friday date, and it blows, I can always find something to do.
I guess I typically get to know the person before the first date as well. Then you have an idea if you'll need to bail ahead of time. Then you're not wasting another night.
This is a good point. Recently I've been meeting people from internet dating sites which is what I based my answer on (stranger danger!). If I know the person then the day doesn't really matter.0 -
if it's someone i barely know then i'd much rather prefer a weekday date. something like happy hour or after work coffee would be perfect. that way there's less likelihood of meandering . i also find that people automatically plan shorter dates on weekdays than they do weekends. there's nothing more awkward than being halfway through a long date when you realize the you absolute hate the person and need to get out.0
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Based on what reasons?Friday and Saturday nights are typically off limits for a first date. If there's temperate weather, there could be a weekend afternoon activity first date, but that usually won't be going past 6 PM.
Usually anytime between Sunday night-Thursday night are acceptable first date nights. I like Wednesday or Thursday best.
Really because of the perception that Friday and Saturday are prime social hours, particularly for those who don't have kids. It is not good for a man to give his best hours to an unproven person, plus the woman will know that if he's booking her Fri/Sat night, his other prospects probably are not red hot. Women like a little competition in the early going, keeps them on edge. When they're on edge, there's interested. Interested is way better than complete apathy.
I'm 28. If I want to socialize on a tuesday, I will. I don't see a reason to act like you're so important that giving up a Friday/Saturday night will cause any change in a social life or relationship. Aside for the fact that you make yourself out to be some social butterfly when in fact most people aren't.
At what point does a Friday/Saturday become acceptable?0 -
Based on what reasons?Friday and Saturday nights are typically off limits for a first date. If there's temperate weather, there could be a weekend afternoon activity first date, but that usually won't be going past 6 PM.
Usually anytime between Sunday night-Thursday night are acceptable first date nights. I like Wednesday or Thursday best.
Really because of the perception that Friday and Saturday are prime social hours, particularly for those who don't have kids. It is not good for a man to give his best hours to an unproven person, plus the woman will know that if he's booking her Fri/Sat night, his other prospects probably are not red hot. Women like a little competition in the early going, keeps them on edge. When they're on edge, there's interested. Interested is way better than complete apathy.
I can honestly say, none of those things have ever occurred to me when I set up a date night, be it a weeknight or weekend. If I'm interested in the guy then I'm going to be interested every day of the week.
Of course, I think games are stupid.
Yet you play them yourself??0 -
Based on what reasons?Friday and Saturday nights are typically off limits for a first date. If there's temperate weather, there could be a weekend afternoon activity first date, but that usually won't be going past 6 PM.
Usually anytime between Sunday night-Thursday night are acceptable first date nights. I like Wednesday or Thursday best.
Really because of the perception that Friday and Saturday are prime social hours, particularly for those who don't have kids. It is not good for a man to give his best hours to an unproven person, plus the woman will know that if he's booking her Fri/Sat night, his other prospects probably are not red hot. Women like a little competition in the early going, keeps them on edge. When they're on edge, there's interested. Interested is way better than complete apathy.
honestly the only women i know who refuse frid/sat first dates just to give the illusion that she has a full social life are those who are heavy into game playing0 -
Based on what reasons?Friday and Saturday nights are typically off limits for a first date. If there's temperate weather, there could be a weekend afternoon activity first date, but that usually won't be going past 6 PM.
Usually anytime between Sunday night-Thursday night are acceptable first date nights. I like Wednesday or Thursday best.
Really because of the perception that Friday and Saturday are prime social hours, particularly for those who don't have kids. It is not good for a man to give his best hours to an unproven person, plus the woman will know that if he's booking her Fri/Sat night, his other prospects probably are not red hot. Women like a little competition in the early going, keeps them on edge. When they're on edge, there's interested. Interested is way better than complete apathy.
honestly the only women i know who refuse frid/sat first dates just to give the illusion that she has a full social life are those who are heavy into game playing
Men too.0 -
Based on what reasons?Friday and Saturday nights are typically off limits for a first date. If there's temperate weather, there could be a weekend afternoon activity first date, but that usually won't be going past 6 PM.
Usually anytime between Sunday night-Thursday night are acceptable first date nights. I like Wednesday or Thursday best.
Really because of the perception that Friday and Saturday are prime social hours, particularly for those who don't have kids. It is not good for a man to give his best hours to an unproven person, plus the woman will know that if he's booking her Fri/Sat night, his other prospects probably are not red hot. Women like a little competition in the early going, keeps them on edge. When they're on edge, there's interested. Interested is way better than complete apathy.
I can honestly say, none of those things have ever occurred to me when I set up a date night, be it a weeknight or weekend. If I'm interested in the guy then I'm going to be interested every day of the week.
Of course, I think games are stupid.
Yet you play them yourself??
I'm assuming you aren't referring to my weekly DND campaign
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I prefer weekends simply because I don't have time on weekdays. I wake up at 4:30AM, arrive at work around 6:00AM, and don't usually get home till 4:30-5:00. I'm normally not done working out, cooking, eating dinner, and showering until around 6:30-7:00. Sleep is super important to me so I'm preferrably in bed by 9:00, sometimes 10:00. That doesn't leave me a huge window to relax/hang with my dogs, so I don't want to spend time getting ready for a date.
But like OP said, normally I've talked to the person for a good amount of time already, so I generally have a good idea how it's going to go.0 -
Friday and Saturday nights are typically off limits for a first date. If there's temperate weather, there could be a weekend afternoon activity first date, but that usually won't be going past 6 PM.
Usually anytime between Sunday night-Thursday night are acceptable first date nights. I like Wednesday or Thursday best.
Who came up with that lol.
This goes against everything I've ever done. All my first dates have like always been on a weekend and most usually after 6pm0 -
I like weekdays, if we meet up at a bar for a drink there aren't too many people there that would make it harder to recognize someone if you've never met them. And restaurants get busy around here on the weekends, there is usually a wait.
Also, the fact that I have to work in the morning gives me (or her) a good out if we're not having a good time. And actually I kind of like hanging out with my friends on the weekends over somebody I barely know. If I ask someone out on a Saturday it's usually because I have nothing else to do or I really like that person.0 -
I like weekdays, if we meet up at a bar for a drink there aren't too many people there that would make it harder to recognize someone if you've never met them. And restaurants get busy around here on the weekends, there is usually a wait.
Also, the fact that I have to work in the morning gives me (or her) a good out if we're not having a good time. And actually I kind of like hanging out with my friends on the weekends over somebody I barely know. If I ask someone out on a Saturday it's usually because I have nothing else to do or I really like that person.
Fair enough. If I'm not having a good time on a Thursday or a Saturday, I have no problem saying it and ending the night early. I guess I just don't have a specific day that is for dating vs friends. my friends and I hang out all the time, sometimes it could be a Tuesday, sometimes a Friday. All depends on schedules. But if I had a date, I would put that higher on the chain of importance, friends will always be there.
If a girl says she's only available for your first date on a Fri night, do you go? or are you going to skip it b/c it's not a weeknight?0 -
Friday and Saturday nights are typically off limits for a first date. If there's temperate weather, there could be a weekend afternoon activity first date, but that usually won't be going past 6 PM.
Usually anytime between Sunday night-Thursday night are acceptable first date nights. I like Wednesday or Thursday best.
Who came up with that lol.
This goes against everything I've ever done. All my first dates have like always been on a weekend and most usually after 6pm
Don't worry, he did. It's his way of playing games.0 -
Friday and Saturday nights are typically off limits for a first date. If there's temperate weather, there could be a weekend afternoon activity first date, but that usually won't be going past 6 PM.
Usually anytime between Sunday night-Thursday night are acceptable first date nights. I like Wednesday or Thursday best.
See I have a hard time making time on weekdays. They are usually full just with work and commuting (I leave for work at 6am and don't get home until 7pm, add in the gym not home until after 8pm in bed by 10) that Fri-Sat work much better for me. Sundays I have softball so that would depend on what time the game was.0 -
My available days change every week. My son's father is on a 4 on 2 off schedule, so for most of the month I can only go out on week nights. Personally speaking, the one weekend a month I get is dedicated to my friends. If I am dating someone he can go too but I would rather spend that Saturday night out with the girls.0
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I prefer weekends. I'd be more relaxed about it because I'd have more time to get ready, I wouldn't have to worry about being home by any certain time, etc. But I also don't go out with total strangers, so I'm rarely ever worried about the date not going well and needing an early exit strategy.
I actually view the idea of "earning" a certain night from the opposite perspective of some of the people on this thread. Weekends are my free time. It's not difficult for me to make arrangements in my schedule for social activities. It is difficult on weeknights because of work, working out, and various domestic responsibilities. I'm a highly regimented person. I do certain things on certain nights every week. If I'm willing to rearrange all of that to go out with you on a weeknight, it means I like you a lot, and my "creature of habit" nonsense can take the backseat.
But I have to say, about this "I won't go out with you on Friday or Saturday because you need to think I have other prospects" business ... all that says to me is that you're already dating someone who is obviously more important than I am, since she's got you locked down on weekends, while all I get is coffee on a Tuesday night. So yeah, ask her to have coffee with you. I'll move on to someone who is proud to be seen with me on a weekend.0 -
But I have to say, about this "I won't go out with you on Friday or Saturday because you need to think I have other prospects" business ... all that says to me is that you're already dating someone who is obviously more important than I am, since she's got you locked down on weekends, while all I get is coffee on a Tuesday night. So yeah, ask her to have coffee with you. I'll move on to someone who is proud to be seen with me on a weekend.
Exactly! I actually find that idea pretty offensive and there is no way I would date a guy who couldn't make time for me on the weekends if that is what I could do. Also, knowing a guy has a full social calendar does not make me want him more, it actually makes me move on because I don't know how I would fit in that.0 -
My best 1st dates were both during the week.. not on purpose but that's when the guys and I were available.0
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i am severely limited in days of the week i'm available for dates, especially first dates.
if the invite occurs close to my weekend without kids, i'll opt for that. if it doesn't, i'm limited to tues nights. i won't hire a baby sitter for first dates.0 -
Any day I don't have to get up at 4:30am the next morning. Because those days I am typically both busy trying to get everything in and extremely tired.0
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