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  • poncho33
    poncho33 Posts: 1,511
    And forget about ever meeting a person in public, god forbid. Might as well start collecting my cats now lol

    If you're talking about a random coming up to you at a bookstore or something the odds are pretty low. Are you going to parties, bars, groups, clubs or any common place where people approach people?? Don't you live in a college town?? There has to be stuff going on.
  • bregalad5
    bregalad5 Posts: 3,965 Member
    Don't you live in a college town?? There has to be stuff going on.

    I live in a college town and sometimes it's even harder to meet people. Because I'm not part of the college, I'm kinda labeled as an "outcast".

    I have, however, found meetup.com to be an awesome way to meet people. Look for young professionals or young people groups, grow a pair of balls (it took me a few weeks to do that... :laugh: ) and go to one of the events! The group I've gone out with is a lot of transplants like me who have no ties to the area and are also struggling to meet people due to what I mentioned above!
  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,831 Member
    I confess I'm not exactly sure how that just happened!!
  • MissingMinnesota
    MissingMinnesota Posts: 7,486 Member
    Don't you live in a college town?? There has to be stuff going on.

    I live in a college town and sometimes it's even harder to meet people. Because I'm not part of the college, I'm kinda labeled as an "outcast".

    I have, however, found meetup.com to be an awesome way to meet people. Look for young professionals or young people groups, grow a pair of balls (it took me a few weeks to do that... :laugh: ) and go to one of the events! The group I've gone out with is a lot of transplants like me who have no ties to the area and are also struggling to meet people due to what I mentioned above!

    But she is college age so would not get the outcast part. What town do you live in Christine? I know it is around the Twin Cities but not sure which one.
  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,831 Member
    The problem is is that my other friend does online dating and most of the guys expect sex on the first date which I'm not cool with, so I'm just scared of that happening, and don't want to drop a lot of money just to get no emails and if I do, meet a guy who will end up probably being a jerk.

    Look at it this way... guys wanting sex on the first night aren't necessarily being jerks. They could be guys who either 1) are online dating simply for sex (as are many guys who ask women out period) or 2) they were looking for a relationship but realized you both weren't as compatible in person as you were online and decided you both gave up your evening so might as well have a little fun.

    While there's a certain amount of jerkiness in both categories, the bottom line is that there are MANY guys who go through the rigmarole of pretending to want a relationship just to get sex. In fact, I remember reading about someone in this forum who posted he strung the girl along until she finally trusted him and then dumped her (purposely) after sex.

    So rather than wasting your time with someone like that, you've seen very clearly that this is NOT the guy for you. The man who’s pushing for sex on date 1 is sending a very clear signal he doesn’t want a relationship. And I didn’t make that up- we had a thread on this awhile ago.

    I used to get upset when I realized that guys asking me out "just wanted to have sex" until I realized that 99.99% of normal guys motivation for asking you out is that they WANT to have sex with you (whether now or later). If they can't see you in the bedroom (eventually- and that point varies for each couple) they aren't likely to ask you out unless they have ulterior motives (money, manipulation, etc). Once I took the personal offense out of it and stopped feeling like "Oh, I don't want guys just asking me out JUST because they want to have sex with me" I was able roll with the punches, go on more dates, and enjoy myself. And the more fun you have on dates the more dates you seem to attract.
  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    My friend and I were talking this weekend and we decide there is pretty much no hope for either of us to ever meet guys. People just don't approach people anymore...and we both want to do online dating but we are scared.

    I want to be kissed! My goal was to be kissed by my 23rd birthday...well it's fast approaching and nada, zero, zilch chance at this point. New goal, 24th birthday.

    I agree. You know what they say: insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. You really need to put yourself out there! Scared of what?? You are scared of everything honey.........!! :laugh: I think you need to take a deep breath and realise that living in fear is no life at all!! :flowerforyou:

    “If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it's not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.”
    ― Dalai Lama XIV

    100% this.
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    I used to get upset when I realized that guys asking me out "just wanted to have sex" until I realized that 99.99% of normal guys motivation for asking you out is that they WANT to have sex with you (whether now or later). If they can't see you in the bedroom (eventually- and that point varies for each couple) they aren't likely to ask you out ...........

    Yep!! This is how the world evolves! Try and take it as a compliment and you will realise that it's actually a normal, good, healthy, natural thing for a man to want a woman. Otherwise there would be no babies in the world.....lol

    And remember : 'wanting' sex and 'getting' sex are entirely two different things!! You are in control of that one!! Hoorah!!

    But yeah, sift out the creeps!! Let your intentions be known. And just have fun. You really, really need to just go on a date!! It's JUST a date!! :flowerforyou:
  • bregalad5
    bregalad5 Posts: 3,965 Member
    Don't you live in a college town?? There has to be stuff going on.

    I live in a college town and sometimes it's even harder to meet people. Because I'm not part of the college, I'm kinda labeled as an "outcast".

    I have, however, found meetup.com to be an awesome way to meet people. Look for young professionals or young people groups, grow a pair of balls (it took me a few weeks to do that... :laugh: ) and go to one of the events! The group I've gone out with is a lot of transplants like me who have no ties to the area and are also struggling to meet people due to what I mentioned above!

    But she is college age so would not get the outcast part. What town do you live in Christine? I know it is around the Twin Cities but not sure which one.

    Mmmm that's a very, very good point!! My suggestion of Meetup is still very valid, and I think a good suggestion :D
  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    I confess I have been wanting a tarantula and now I want one more than everrrr

    http://imgur.com/gallery/dBs5k
  • MissingMinnesota
    MissingMinnesota Posts: 7,486 Member
    I confess I have been wanting a tarantula and now I want one more than everrrr

    http://imgur.com/gallery/dBs5k

    tumblr_limhdfxpb61qf6fib.gif
  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    I confess I have been wanting a tarantula and now I want one more than everrrr

    http://imgur.com/gallery/dBs5k

    tumblr_limhdfxpb61qf6fib.gif

    I KNOW so cute right??
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    Don't you live in a college town?? There has to be stuff going on.

    I live in a college town and sometimes it's even harder to meet people. Because I'm not part of the college, I'm kinda labeled as an "outcast".

    I have, however, found meetup.com to be an awesome way to meet people. Look for young professionals or young people groups, grow a pair of balls (it took me a few weeks to do that... :laugh: ) and go to one of the events! The group I've gone out with is a lot of transplants like me who have no ties to the area and are also struggling to meet people due to what I mentioned above!

    But she is college age so would not get the outcast part. What town do you live in Christine? I know it is around the Twin Cities but not sure which one.

    Minneapolis. And I do go out and do things on my weekends off, like the bar or activities.

    I've looked at meet up, but haven't found anything that looks legit for someone my age. I've seen a lot of activity groups but they're geared toward the 30 something's.
  • lacroyx
    lacroyx Posts: 5,754 Member
    I confess I have no self control. I made pizza last night and ate more than half of it lol. bad bad girl. lol.

    I agree! You are a very, very bad girl. You didn't tell us what kind like the toppings, sauce, crust, cheese, how every morsel must have melted in your mouth.
  • lacroyx
    lacroyx Posts: 5,754 Member
    I confess I am going to Seattle in a few mins. Friend is picking me up and though the idea of heading over this is...meh... I am looking forward to getting new running shoes. I am way over due.
  • bregalad5
    bregalad5 Posts: 3,965 Member
    I confess I am going to Seattle in a few mins. Friend is picking me up and though the idea of heading over this is...meh... I am looking forward to getting new running shoes. I am way over due.

    Ohhh new shinies! I need some new running shoes, too, but have to wait a couple more paychecks.
  • bregalad5
    bregalad5 Posts: 3,965 Member
    I confess over the past two days at work my manager and I have been listening to an audio book and it's f**king awesome. Definitely making work awesome, haha. I feel bad for those here who aren't getting to indulge in the fun.

    The book is called Ready Player One.
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    I confess I am going to Seattle in a few mins. Friend is picking me up and though the idea of heading over this is...meh... I am looking forward to getting new running shoes. I am way over due.

    Ohhh new shinies! I need some new running shoes, too, but have to wait a couple more paychecks.

    My problem is I can't find any I like! And I don't want to buy online. I went looking on Sunday and found nothing...and of course the ones I like are $150!
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,252 Member
    I confess I just spent 25 minutes giving CPR and suctioning a patient on the floor while waiting for 911....He didn't make it :cry:
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,252 Member
    I confess over the past two days at work my manager and I have been listening to an audio book and it's f**king awesome. Definitely making work awesome, haha. I feel bad for those here who aren't getting to indulge in the fun.

    The book is called Ready Player One.

    I read and own that book.... I love it its like a timewarp through 80's pop culture
  • 2stepz
    2stepz Posts: 814 Member
    I confess I just spent 25 minutes giving CPR and suctioning a patient on the floor while waiting for 911....He didn't make it :cry:

    *Hugs* That's so very difficult.
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    I confess I just spent 25 minutes giving CPR and suctioning a patient on the floor while waiting for 911....He didn't make it :cry:

    Aw :( that must be hard. I haven't had to do CPR yet (most of my patients are DNR/DNI) but I imagine it is tough.
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,252 Member
    I confess I just spent 25 minutes giving CPR and suctioning a patient on the floor while waiting for 911....He didn't make it :cry:

    Aw :( that must be hard. I haven't had to do CPR yet (most of my patients are DNR/DNI) but I imagine it is tough.

    Its not that I've never lost a patient before...But its always hard..and in my opinion it should be...especially with a guy like this who wasnt ill but choked on a chocolate cupcake he was trying to horde from the staff makes it extra hard
  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,831 Member
    I confess I just spent 25 minutes giving CPR and suctioning a patient on the floor while waiting for 911....He didn't make it :cry:

    Aw :( that must be hard. I haven't had to do CPR yet (most of my patients are DNR/DNI) but I imagine it is tough.

    Its not that I've never lost a patient before...But its always hard..and in my opinion it should be...especially with a guy like this who wasnt ill but choked on a chocolate cupcake he was trying to horde from the staff makes it extra hard

    {{{{Hugs to you Jen}}}}
  • RunIntheMud
    RunIntheMud Posts: 2,645 Member
    I confess I just spent 25 minutes giving CPR and suctioning a patient on the floor while waiting for 911....He didn't make it :cry:

    Aw :( that must be hard. I haven't had to do CPR yet (most of my patients are DNR/DNI) but I imagine it is tough.

    Its not that I've never lost a patient before...But its always hard..and in my opinion it should be...especially with a guy like this who wasnt ill but choked on a chocolate cupcake he was trying to horde from the staff makes it extra hard

    Awwww....big hugs. Sorry to hear this. It's never easy to lose a patient. :(
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    I confess I just spent 25 minutes giving CPR and suctioning a patient on the floor while waiting for 911....He didn't make it :cry:

    Aw :( that must be hard. I haven't had to do CPR yet (most of my patients are DNR/DNI) but I imagine it is tough.

    Its not that I've never lost a patient before...But its always hard..and in my opinion it should be...especially with a guy like this who wasnt ill but choked on a chocolate cupcake he was trying to horde from the staff makes it extra hard

    Wow, what a sad way to go.
  • MissingMinnesota
    MissingMinnesota Posts: 7,486 Member
    I confess I am going to Seattle in a few mins. Friend is picking me up and though the idea of heading over this is...meh... I am looking forward to getting new running shoes. I am way over due.

    Ohhh new shinies! I need some new running shoes, too, but have to wait a couple more paychecks.

    My problem is I can't find any I like! And I don't want to buy online. I went looking on Sunday and found nothing...and of course the ones I like are $150!

    Go to running store, have them analyze your gait and fit you for a shoe. Say you will think about it. Go on amazon and get the same shoe that is a couple seasons old for 1/4th the price.
  • MissingMinnesota
    MissingMinnesota Posts: 7,486 Member
    I confess I just spent 25 minutes giving CPR and suctioning a patient on the floor while waiting for 911....He didn't make it :cry:

    Aw :( that must be hard. I haven't had to do CPR yet (most of my patients are DNR/DNI) but I imagine it is tough.

    Its not that I've never lost a patient before...But its always hard..and in my opinion it should be...especially with a guy like this who wasnt ill but choked on a chocolate cupcake he was trying to horde from the staff makes it extra hard

    wow hugs
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    I confess I am going to Seattle in a few mins. Friend is picking me up and though the idea of heading over this is...meh... I am looking forward to getting new running shoes. I am way over due.

    Ohhh new shinies! I need some new running shoes, too, but have to wait a couple more paychecks.

    My problem is I can't find any I like! And I don't want to buy online. I went looking on Sunday and found nothing...and of course the ones I like are $150!

    Go to running store, have them analyze your gait and fit you for a shoe. Say you will think about it. Go on amazon and get the same shoe that is a couple seasons old for 1/4th the price.

    Good idea! I hate dropping a lot of money on something that won't last long.
  • bregalad5
    bregalad5 Posts: 3,965 Member
    I confess over the past two days at work my manager and I have been listening to an audio book and it's f**king awesome. Definitely making work awesome, haha. I feel bad for those here who aren't getting to indulge in the fun.

    The book is called Ready Player One.

    I read and own that book.... I love it its like a timewarp through 80's pop culture

    Yeah it's had me in stitches a few times already.

    *hugs* for you, Jen. My mom is a nurse, and a few years ago one of her favorite patients fell off the table, hit his head, and died at the office :( She was really shaken up for quite some time.
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    I confess I have been wanting a tarantula and now I want one more than everrrr

    http://imgur.com/gallery/dBs5k

    That chick is messed up!! :laugh:

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