I confess- Single Peeps version
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Have other interesting confession to make. Boyfriend and I have made an agreement. Both of us want to be healthy and lighter, and we were both working on it independently before we met. Sometimes couples help each other, and sometimes being together hinders that process. We've made an agreement that by the end of December (if we are still together of course), each of us has to have lost a set amount (we each chose our own) of weight, or we will split up.
He suggested this actually..but it was in response to me telling him how I would never get into a relationship where the other person had unhealthy habits that I also fell into again.
I love it, but to some of my friends it sounds insane that I'd risk a great relationship. I think of it as valuing myself and my health higher than another.. possibly for the first time ever. Thoughts?
I myself find it strange and odd goal but if you feel it is a good goal and about valuing yourself then that is up to you.0 -
[Maybe I should post this in the geek/gamer group]0
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I confess I'm being stubborn and not turning the heat back on despite temps in the 40s.0
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We've made an agreement that by the end of December (if we are still together of course), each of us has to have lost a set amount (we each chose our own) of weight, or we will split up.
He suggested this actually..but it was in response to me telling him how I would never get into a relationship where the other person had unhealthy habits that I also fell into again.
I love it, but to some of my friends it sounds insane that I'd risk a great relationship. I think of it as valuing myself and my health higher than another.. possibly for the first time ever. Thoughts?
To each his own... if it works for you then great... but I would not consider a relationship where one of the consequences of not meeting a challenge is breaking up to be, as your friends said, a "great relationship." In fact, if a guy said that to me, I would probably break up with him now.... but like I said, to each his own.
Edit: as to the part about you refusing to get in a relationship with someone who had unhealthy habits, THAT part I like!!0 -
2 bombs just went off at the Boston Marathon..... I'm waiting to hear back on some friends. Send your good thoughts, vibes, prayers, whatever you've got that way...0
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2 bombs just went off at the Boston Marathon..... I'm waiting to hear back on some friends. Send your good thoughts, vibes, prayers, whatever you've got that way...
They aren't sure if it's bombs or unintended explosions now.
My thoughts are with everyone involved.0 -
2 bombs just went off at the Boston Marathon..... I'm waiting to hear back on some friends. Send your good thoughts, vibes, prayers, whatever you've got that way...
They aren't sure if it's bombs or unintended explosions now.
My thoughts are with everyone involved.
Confirmed bombs and found some unexploded ones.0 -
Have other interesting confession to make. Boyfriend and I have made an agreement. Both of us want to be healthy and lighter, and we were both working on it independently before we met. Sometimes couples help each other, and sometimes being together hinders that process. We've made an agreement that by the end of December (if we are still together of course), each of us has to have lost a set amount (we each chose our own) of weight, or we will split up.
He suggested this actually..but it was in response to me telling him how I would never get into a relationship where the other person had unhealthy habits that I also fell into again.
I love it, but to some of my friends it sounds insane that I'd risk a great relationship. I think of it as valuing myself and my health higher than another.. possibly for the first time ever. Thoughts?
I think this is silly Dani :flowerforyou: . Firstly because if you're in love with each other you wont split up, so it's and invalid and pointless 'goal'. But secondly, because goals should be positive, not negative!
(Although, I appreciate that if you're having a negative effect on each other then splitting up would be positive...!!)
Goals should always be about treats and benefits/rewards. Something to aim FOR, not something to aim AGAINST.
EG: If I stick to my calories today I can eat ice cream this evening :bigsmile:
NOT, if I dont stick to my calories I can't eat ice cream this evening. :sad:
The psychology is totally different although it amounts to the same thing. You need positive reinforcement to stick to goals, I think, otherwise you're on a downer before you begin!0 -
I think this is silly Dani :flowerforyou: . Firstly because if you're in love with each other you wont split up, so it's and invalid and pointless 'goal'. But secondly, because goals should be positive, not negative!
(Although, I appreciate that if you're having a negative effect on each other then splitting up would be positive...!!)
Goals should always be about treats and benefits/rewards. Something to aim FOR, not something to aim AGAINST.
EG: If I stick to my calories today I can eat ice cream this evening :bigsmile:
NOT, if I dont stick to my calories I can't eat ice cream this evening. :sad:
The psychology is totally different although it amounts to the same thing. You need positive reinforcement to stick to goals, I think, otherwise you're on a downer before you begin!
Absolutely agree...maybe set a goal together? If we both lose our designated amount of weight, we'll take a spring break trip somewhere in 2014, or we'll go away together for the holidays to ski or something.
Personally, I'd rather be fat and in a happy relationship than skinny and alone.0 -
Have other interesting confession to make. Boyfriend and I have made an agreement. Both of us want to be healthy and lighter, and we were both working on it independently before we met. Sometimes couples help each other, and sometimes being together hinders that process. We've made an agreement that by the end of December (if we are still together of course), each of us has to have lost a set amount (we each chose our own) of weight, or we will split up.
He suggested this actually..but it was in response to me telling him how I would never get into a relationship where the other person had unhealthy habits that I also fell into again.
I love it, but to some of my friends it sounds insane that I'd risk a great relationship. I think of it as valuing myself and my health higher than another.. possibly for the first time ever. Thoughts?
Whatever floats your boat, but it seems like your relationship fully hinders on your fitness goals... If this were my situation I wouldn't invest in the relationship until I know the goals are met. You better hit those goals or you will have two reasons to be depressed come December. Good luck either way!0 -
Interesting. To me is sounds like the two of you are willing to blame each other if you are not being healthy enough. I might have gained a couple lbs since I started seeing my girlfriend, but I don't blame her. I am perfectly capable of going to the gym whenever I want, I just choose not to. But we both try to stay active individually. She goes to yoga, which I don't care for and I go to the gym or run, which she doesn't care for.Have other interesting confession to make. Boyfriend and I have made an agreement. Both of us want to be healthy and lighter, and we were both working on it independently before we met. Sometimes couples help each other, and sometimes being together hinders that process. We've made an agreement that by the end of December (if we are still together of course), each of us has to have lost a set amount (we each chose our own) of weight, or we will split up.
He suggested this actually..but it was in response to me telling him how I would never get into a relationship where the other person had unhealthy habits that I also fell into again.
I love it, but to some of my friends it sounds insane that I'd risk a great relationship. I think of it as valuing myself and my health higher than another.. possibly for the first time ever. Thoughts?
To me, it's really about finding something that works for you. If it takes more than a year, that just means you have to work harder at it, like anything else. Personally I wouldn't break up with someone I really liked just because we weren't being healthy enough. I'd rather just work harder at being healthy together.0 -
I was almost too ashamed to post this but, I confess Saturday I met with my team to go eat at a all you can eat Chinese buffet. It was before the start of our 8 week weight loss challenge at our gym. The idea was to stuff ourselves silly for the initial weigh in to get our numbers up. The competition goes by weight loss % and not one's number. I purposely ate a small lunch at work during the night then did kick boxing to work up a ravenous appetite in the morning. The two girls on my team out ate me. They are small too, 5'2- 5'3 tops. And it wasn't combined, they out ate me indualvidually. ︸_︸0
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i totally read that as They ate me out individually.0
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i totally read that as They ate me out individually.
Ditto...guess we know where our minds are. lol0 -
:laugh:I was almost too ashamed to post this but, I confess Saturday I met with my team to go eat at a all you can eat Chinese buffet. It was before the start of our 8 week weight loss challenge at our gym. The idea was to stuff ourselves silly for the initial weigh in to get our numbers up. The competition goes by weight loss % and not one's number. I purposely ate a small lunch at work during the night then did kick boxing to work up a ravenous appetite in the morning. The two girls on my team out ate me. They are small too, 5'2- 5'3 tops. And it wasn't combined, they out ate me indualvidually. ︸_︸0 -
Have other interesting confession to make. Boyfriend and I have made an agreement. Both of us want to be healthy and lighter, and we were both working on it independently before we met. Sometimes couples help each other, and sometimes being together hinders that process. We've made an agreement that by the end of December (if we are still together of course), each of us has to have lost a set amount (we each chose our own) of weight, or we will split up.
He suggested this actually..but it was in response to me telling him how I would never get into a relationship where the other person had unhealthy habits that I also fell into again.
I love it, but to some of my friends it sounds insane that I'd risk a great relationship. I think of it as valuing myself and my health higher than another.. possibly for the first time ever. Thoughts?
I think this is silly Dani :flowerforyou: . Firstly because if you're in love with each other you wont split up, so it's and invalid and pointless 'goal'. But secondly, because goals should be positive, not negative!
(Although, I appreciate that if you're having a negative effect on each other then splitting up would be positive...!!)
Goals should always be about treats and benefits/rewards. Something to aim FOR, not something to aim AGAINST.
EG: If I stick to my calories today I can eat ice cream this evening :bigsmile:
NOT, if I dont stick to my calories I can't eat ice cream this evening. :sad:
The psychology is totally different although it amounts to the same thing. You need positive reinforcement to stick to goals, I think, otherwise you're on a downer before you begin!
I tend to agree with Anna that positive reinforcement works better than negative. Personally, I find it interesting that either of you would throw away what you assume will be a decent relationship over a few pounds...Isn't half of what we discuss on Peeps how hard it is to find someone compatible to begin with?
To each their own though and if this works for you as a couple, go for it and good luck!0 -
I was almost too ashamed to post this but, I confess Saturday I met with my team to go eat at a all you can eat Chinese buffet. It was before the start of our 8 week weight loss challenge at our gym. The idea was to stuff ourselves silly for the initial weigh in to get our numbers up. The competition goes by weight loss % and not one's number. I purposely ate a small lunch at work during the night then did kick boxing to work up a ravenous appetite in the morning. The two girls on my team out ate me. They are small too, 5'2- 5'3 tops. And it wasn't combined, they out ate me indualvidually. ︸_︸
Your problem is that you prepped with small meals. If you want to eat a lot in one sitting you have to have several normal to larger meals to stretch your stomach. Combined with working out and BAM you can suddenly eat forever. It's how professional eaters train and how someone like Kobayashi can still have a six pack *nodnod*0 -
I was almost too ashamed to post this but, I confess Saturday I met with my team to go eat at a all you can eat Chinese buffet. It was before the start of our 8 week weight loss challenge at our gym. The idea was to stuff ourselves silly for the initial weigh in to get our numbers up. The competition goes by weight loss % and not one's number. I purposely ate a small lunch at work during the night then did kick boxing to work up a ravenous appetite in the morning. The two girls on my team out ate me. They are small too, 5'2- 5'3 tops. And it wasn't combined, they out ate me indualvidually. ︸_︸
Your problem is that you prepped with small meals. If you want to eat a lot in one sitting you have to have several normal to larger meals to stretch your stomach. Combined with working out and BAM you can suddenly eat forever. It's how professional eaters train and how someone like Kobayashi can still have a six pack *nodnod*
I confess we just weighed in at the end of our 8 week challenge and I failed miserably haha.
1.4lbs down and 4 inches. i'll take the inches tho :bigsmile:0 -
I was almost too ashamed to post this but, I confess Saturday I met with my team to go eat at a all you can eat Chinese buffet. It was before the start of our 8 week weight loss challenge at our gym. The idea was to stuff ourselves silly for the initial weigh in to get our numbers up. The competition goes by weight loss % and not one's number. I purposely ate a small lunch at work during the night then did kick boxing to work up a ravenous appetite in the morning. The two girls on my team out ate me. They are small too, 5'2- 5'3 tops. And it wasn't combined, they out ate me indualvidually. ︸_︸
Your problem is that you prepped with small meals. If you want to eat a lot in one sitting you have to have several normal to larger meals to stretch your stomach. Combined with working out and BAM you can suddenly eat forever. It's how professional eaters train and how someone like Kobayashi can still have a six pack *nodnod*
I confess we just weighed in at the end of our 8 week challenge and I failed miserably haha.
1.4lbs down and 4 inches. i'll take the inches tho :bigsmile:
That is great on the inches!
I'm doing a challenge too and well I'm still at my starting weight.0 -
I have a challenge going with my mom to finish 200 miles on foot (walk, job, run) by the end of the year. That's less than a mile per day, so it allows for vacations, days off, sick days, etc. Long term challenge.0
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I confess that I was talking to a friend from softball last night and was getting annoyed because she thinks that every guy wants her. She was naming guys and I was like "well he says the same things to me" "maybe he asked you to sub for his team because you are really good?" So what is worse? Someone that thinks every guy that makes a nice gesture or comment is hitting on them or someone like me who just doesn't see it?0
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I CONFESS I JUST POWER CLEANED 55# 30 TIMES!!!!!!!0
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RAWR!I CONFESS I JUST POWER CLEANED 55# 30 TIMES!!!!!!!0 -
I confess that I was talking to a friend from softball last night and was getting annoyed because she thinks that every guy wants her. She was naming guys and I was like "well he says the same things to me" "maybe he asked you to sub for his team because you are really good?" So what is worse? Someone that thinks every guy that makes a nice gesture or comment is hitting on them or someone like me who just doesn't see it?
Definitely the one who thinks everyone is hitting on her.
Actually, any time someone looks way into the motives of another person is annoying. I have a dear friend of mine who always jumps to extreme conclusions based on almost no interaction and I am utterly baffled by it.0 -
I have a challenge going with my mom to finish 200 miles on foot (walk, job, run) by the end of the year. That's less than a mile per day, so it allows for vacations, days off, sick days, etc. Long term challenge.
awesome, good luck!0 -
I confess that I was talking to a friend from softball last night and was getting annoyed because she thinks that every guy wants her. She was naming guys and I was like "well he says the same things to me" "maybe he asked you to sub for his team because you are really good?" So what is worse? Someone that thinks every guy that makes a nice gesture or comment is hitting on them or someone like me who just doesn't see it?
Definitely the one who thinks everyone is hitting on her.
Actually, any time someone looks way into the motives of another person is annoying. I have a dear friend of mine who always jumps to extreme conclusions based on almost no interaction and I am utterly baffled by it.
Tough call, but i'd say you're friend is more likely to be disappointed in the long run because he hopes are always up.0 -
I confess that I was talking to a friend from softball last night and was getting annoyed because she thinks that every guy wants her. She was naming guys and I was like "well he says the same things to me" "maybe he asked you to sub for his team because you are really good?" So what is worse? Someone that thinks every guy that makes a nice gesture or comment is hitting on them or someone like me who just doesn't see it?
Definitely the one who thinks everyone is hitting on her.
Actually, any time someone looks way into the motives of another person is annoying. I have a dear friend of mine who always jumps to extreme conclusions based on almost no interaction and I am utterly baffled by it.
Tough call, but i'd say you're friend is more likely to be disappointed in the long run because he hopes are always up.
I agree. It's more like they are seeking approval by thinking every guy wants them...0 -
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I confess that this made me squeal (yeah, I'm easy like that). A friend of mine does custom magnets and that's the one he's making for me. They call me the "Muddy Monkey" because of the way I navigate obstacles. It's been a long week and this made my day.
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I confess that I was eating my lunch outside and went to shake my bottle of green tea and forgot I already opened the bottle. I got a green tea shower. Thankfully green tea doesn't smell bad and I was wearing dark colors.0
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I confess that this made me squeal (yeah, I'm easy like that).They call me the "Muddy Monkey"
Because it fucking needed to be done.0
