First Date Rules
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Eh.... is what it is. I'm still going to offer to pay whether he earns more, I earn more. I want to feel like I'm contributing.
As I said, I offer as well...0 -
If there was no goodnight kiss I would assume you weren't interested in a second date.
Really? If a guy kisses me on the first date, or is too touchy feely he won't get a second date.
Goodnight hug is welcome, and I probably won't pull away from a quick peck if I'm really interested in him, but if he goes for more than that I figure he's the kind of guy who wants to jump in the sack before getting to know me. I don't want you all over me, enjoying my body, and I don't know you from Adam. So I cut him loose and let him find a woman who's more forward. There are plenty out there.0 -
Eh.... is what it is. I'm still going to offer to pay whether he earns more, I earn more. I want to feel like I'm contributing.
As I said, I offer as well...
I say ahead of time and when we actually meet up, if I can pitch in or not - so we can either do it another day when I can financially participate or he can tell me to shut up and owe him.0 -
Eh.... is what it is. I'm still going to offer to pay whether he earns more, I earn more. I want to feel like I'm contributing.
As I said, I offer as well...
I say ahead of time and when we actually meet up, if I can pitch in or not - so we can either do it another day when I can financially participate or he can tell me to shut up and owe him.
Eeeek how do you bring that up, seems so awkward!0 -
Eh.... is what it is. I'm still going to offer to pay whether he earns more, I earn more. I want to feel like I'm contributing.
As I said, I offer as well...
I say ahead of time and when we actually meet up, if I can pitch in or not - so we can either do it another day when I can financially participate or he can tell me to shut up and owe him.
Eeeek how do you bring that up, seems so awkward!
me: Babe if you really wanna go out to eat tonight, Im broke as hell - so I can cook for us and we just get alcohol and bang or we can go out next week when I can afford it and we can go do it up right.
him: bang
alternate ending:
him: beer, wine or bourbon?
second alternate ending:
him: it's ok, I got you.0 -
If there was no goodnight kiss I would assume you weren't interested in a second date.
Really? If a guy kisses me on the first date, or is too touchy feely he won't get a second date.
Goodnight hug is welcome, and I probably won't pull away from a quick peck if I'm really interested in him, but if he goes for more than that I figure he's the kind of guy who wants to jump in the sack before getting to know me. I don't want you all over me, enjoying my body, and I don't know you from Adam. So I cut him loose and let him find a woman who's more forward. There are plenty out there.
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To me, it absolutely depends on how long you've known the person. In my 20s, I dated men I already knew and expected a kiss on the first date! Otherwise, it was a bad date! I can't imagine kissing anyone I have met online on the first date - even my current guy. It was date 3 before I got a kiss that wasn't on the cheek.Saw this question posted somewhere and it got me thinking...no matter how you've met someone (in person or online), or how long you've known them, etc, what are your "First Date Rules"
Some of mine are:
No kissing on the first date. No cursing on the first date. (this is more for me, but i also don't like men to do that early on) Let the guy be a gentleman. (Sometimes women get caught up in being independent and self sufficient but on a date you should just sit back and be a lady) No talking about the ex
My newer rules for internet dating:
1. Be on time. (Not easy for me!)
2. Meet him somewhere, taking my own car. (Safety first)
3. Don't dominate the conversation! Ask him questions about himself if he's not carrying his part of the conversation.
4. Don't drink more than a glass of anything (I'm driving anyway).
5. Let him be a gentleman. (As much as I can open my own doors, this isn't the occasion to demonstrate that I am able to take care of myself without a man there to help me.)
6. No talking about the ex, sex or reproduction on the first date (I should have an idea already if he wants kids or not from the profile, so there's no need to discuss the details of how it happens before even knowing if I'll ever want to kiss the guy.)
7. If the date went well, tell him I had a good time and would like to see him again so he isn't left guessing.
8. Say "Thank you!"
Edit to add: Just passed the 6 month mark and I'm hoping I never need to follow my rules again!0 -
I'd have to classify myself as chaotic/neutral. Rules limit the experience and are made to be broken. Under the right circumstances, you easily justify breaking the rules.0
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To me, it absolutely depends on how long you've known the person. In my 20s, I dated men I already knew and expected a kiss on the first date! Otherwise, it was a bad date! I can't imagine kissing anyone I have met online on the first date - even my current guy. It was date 3 before I got a kiss that wasn't on the cheek.Saw this question posted somewhere and it got me thinking...no matter how you've met someone (in person or online), or how long you've known them, etc, what are your "First Date Rules"
Some of mine are: No kissing on the first date. No cursing on the first date. (this is more for me, but i also don't like men to do that early on) Let the guy be a gentleman. (Sometimes women get caught up in being independent and self sufficient but on a date you should just sit back and be a lady) No talking about the ex
My newer rules for internet dating:
1. Be on time. (Not easy for me!)
2. Meet him somewhere, taking my own car. (Safety first)
3. Don't dominate the conversation! Ask him questions about himself if he's not carrying his part of the conversation.
4. Don't drink more than a glass of anything (I'm driving anyway).
5. Let him be a gentleman. (As much as I can open my own doors, this isn't the occasion to demonstrate that I am able to take care of myself without a man there to help me.)
6. No talking about the ex, sex or reproduction on the first date (I should have an idea already if he wants kids or not from the profile, so there's no need to discuss the details of how it happens before even knowing if I'll ever want to kiss the guy.)
7. If the date went well, tell him I had a good time and would like to see him again so he isn't left guessing.
8. Say "Thank you!"
Edit to add: Just passed the 6 month mark and I'm hoping I never need to follow my rules again!
Yay for 6 month mark!!
I just passed the officially 2 month bf mark and am stoked about that. Lol0 -
I never wait for a bum to ask me for change, I always ask them first. Girls like guys that show initiative and have jobs.
That's a great upgrade on my tactic, I will give it a shot.0 -
keep your genitals in your pants
I learned this the hard way and spent the weekend in county lockup0 -
I only agree about the "no talking about the ex" one. I don't want them to find out I'm still in love with my ex until the third date, when we're in bed and I'm screaming the ex's name.0
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chokes laughing0
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$400 for the first hour and $200 for any following hours.0
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$400 for the first hour and $200 for any following hours.
What is the MFP discount?0 -
$400 for the first hour and $200 for any following hours.
do you accept a running tab at all?0 -
Shave legs to crotch
Order lobster
Order side of filet
drink like a fish
only let him put in the tip.0 -
Shave legs to crotch
Order lobster
Order side of filet
drink like a fish
only let him put in the tip.
This is a solid first date0 -
Shave legs to crotch
that's usually what i do too0 -
$400 for the first hour and $200 for any following hours.
What is the MFP discount?
additional fees0 -
Shave legs to crotch
that's usually what i do too
Eh, only if it's a promising first date. Otherwise it's only halfway up the thigh.0 -
Always have an escape route planned
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Always have an escape route planned
This is actually a really good one.0 -
Always have an escape route planned
This is actually a really good one.
Have my "fake call" phone app ready just in case I'm not interested in her.0 -
Always have an escape route planned
This is actually a really good one.
I've used it many times haha.0 -
lol@rules0
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lol@rules
Slowbro is slow.0 -
I only agree about the "no talking about the ex" one. I don't want them to find out I'm still in love with my ex until the third date, when we're in bed and I'm screaming the ex's name.
I suggest dating men with the same name as your ex ... win win0 -
I only agree about the "no talking about the ex" one. I don't want them to find out I'm still in love with my ex until the third date, when we're in bed and I'm screaming the ex's name.
I suggest dating men with the same name as your ex ... win win
Or give them all the same nickname...If everybody is sugar or babe it makes it hard to scream out the wrong name lol0 -
Or give them all the same nickname...If everybody is sugar or babe it makes it hard to scream out the wrong name lol
crap I spent all that time coming up with new nicknames when i could of/should of gone with "Hey you"0
