First Date Rules
nolachick
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Saw this question posted somewhere and it got me thinking...no matter how you've met someone (in person or online), or how long you've known them, etc, what are your "First Date Rules"
Some of mine are:
No kissing on the first date.
No cursing on the first date. (this is more for me, but i also don't like men to do that early on)
Let the guy be a gentleman. (Sometimes women get caught up in being independent and self sufficient but on a date you should just sit back and be a lady)
No talking about the ex
Some of mine are:
No kissing on the first date. No cursing on the first date. (this is more for me, but i also don't like men to do that early on) Let the guy be a gentleman. (Sometimes women get caught up in being independent and self sufficient but on a date you should just sit back and be a lady) No talking about the ex 0
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Go with the flow Be myself 0
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1. no kissing
2. no touching unless they ask for a hug
3. no sex
4. be myself, go with the flow
5. no ex talk
6. let's be honest I am a trucker, I may curse haha0 -
Saw this question posted somewhere and it got me thinking...no matter how you've met someone (in person or online), or how long you've known them, etc, what are your "First Date Rules"
Some of mine are: No kissing on the first date. No cursing on the first date. (this is more for me, but i also don't like men to do that early on) Let the guy be a gentleman. (Sometimes women get caught up in being independent and self sufficient but on a date you should just sit back and be a lady) No talking about the ex
I've never thought of any rules but I like yours. I wouldn't kiss a guy on a first date and I try not to curse because I think it's unladylike. I do curse but its infrequent and more when I accidentally slam my head into a cabinet.
Another thing is about paying...I think he should pay, it's the gentlemanly thing to do and if you let me pay for my own meal or food, I'm gonna think you don't care that much. It makes a better impression.0 -
Saw this question posted somewhere and it got me thinking...no matter how you've met someone (in person or online), or how long you've known them, etc, what are your "First Date Rules"
Some of mine are: No kissing on the first date. No cursing on the first date. (this is more for me, but i also don't like men to do that early on) Let the guy be a gentleman. (Sometimes women get caught up in being independent and self sufficient but on a date you should just sit back and be a lady) No talking about the ex
I've never thought of any rules but I like yours. I wouldn't kiss a guy on a first date and I try not to curse because I think it's unladylike. I do curse but its infrequent and more when I accidentally slam my head into a cabinet.
Another thing is about paying...I think he should pay, it's the gentlemanly thing to do and if you let me pay for my own meal or food, I'm gonna think you don't care that much. It makes a better impression.
Firstly, I agree, he should pay...
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I LMAO.. who slams their head into a cabinet? I serious just bursted out laughing
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Saw this question posted somewhere and it got me thinking...no matter how you've met someone (in person or online), or how long you've known them, etc, what are your "First Date Rules"
Some of mine are: No kissing on the first date. No cursing on the first date. (this is more for me, but i also don't like men to do that early on) Let the guy be a gentleman. (Sometimes women get caught up in being independent and self sufficient but on a date you should just sit back and be a lady) No talking about the ex
I've never thought of any rules but I like yours. I wouldn't kiss a guy on a first date and I try not to curse because I think it's unladylike. I do curse but its infrequent and more when I accidentally slam my head into a cabinet.
Another thing is about paying...I think he should pay, it's the gentlemanly thing to do and if you let me pay for my own meal or food, I'm gonna think you don't care that much. It makes a better impression.
Firstly, I agree, he should pay...
BUT
I LMAO.. who slams their head into a cabinet? I serious just bursted out laughing
Me tonight lol! I was swearing up a storm!0 -
Oh Kits...I so agree with you.
Go with the flow, have fun and be myself.0 -
I do think they should pay, but I also always offer to pay for myself/pull out my wallet. I don't expect it. I wouldn't have sex either on a first date and kissing.. eh most likely not.0
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^Oh Kits...I so agree with you.
Go with the flow, have fun and be myself.
Yep this.0 -
I do think they should pay, but I also always offer to pay for myself/pull out my wallet. I don't expect it. I wouldn't have sex either on a first date and kissing.. eh most likely not.
Agreed. I always haul out my wallet I think it'd be rude otherwise. 0 -
Saw this question posted somewhere and it got me thinking...no matter how you've met someone (in person or online), or how long you've known them, etc, what are your "First Date Rules"
Some of mine are: No kissing on the first date. No cursing on the first date. (this is more for me, but i also don't like men to do that early on) Let the guy be a gentleman. (Sometimes women get caught up in being independent and self sufficient but on a date you should just sit back and be a lady) No talking about the ex
I've never thought of any rules but I like yours. I wouldn't kiss a guy on a first date and I try not to curse because I think it's unladylike. I do curse but its infrequent and more when I accidentally slam my head into a cabinet.
Another thing is about paying...I think he should pay, it's the gentlemanly thing to do and if you let me pay for my own meal or food, I'm gonna think you don't care that much. It makes a better impression.
Firstly, I agree, he should pay...
BUT
I LMAO.. who slams their head into a cabinet? I serious just bursted out laughing
Me tonight lol! I was swearing up a storm!
Ouch!!!!!! That suck!
I don't purposely swear but if a sh1t sleeps I ain't going to panic.
Eta: spelling terrible. Silly iPad. Or bad me for not spell checking0 -
I don't believe in this rules on first dates business, I just act as I normally would as there's no point pretending to be something else.0
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LOL on rules
Offer to pay your portion or buy a round of drinks
Have fun....0 -
No kissing on the first date.
I hear crickets!? Guess all the guys who used to say if they did not get a kiss on the first date wouldn't ask for date #2 are no longer on SP?0 -
^^^ Haha! Its a new day baby.
I will say it though..if someone doesn't try and kiss me at the end of the first date I would assume he is not interested or is shy or not particularly sexual. That really won't work for me in the long run.0 -
1.) "Accidentally" leave my wallet in the car - it's empty anyways
2.) Crack a couple gay-jokes so she knows I'm not one of them, but make it clear that lesbians are cool as long as they don't wear flannels and trucker hats
3.) Make a point to tell any bums asking us for change to get a real job - girls like confidence
4.) Knock her drink out of her hand so I can inspect her cleaning skills
You know, basically just common sense.
Edit: Oh, I forgot - use the "c-word" as often as possible, both in reference to women and their lady parts. Real cake-winner here.0 -
1.) "Accidentally" leave my wallet in the car - it's empty anyways
2.) Crack a couple gay-jokes so she knows I'm not one of them, but make it clear that lesbians are cool as long as they don't wear flannels and trucker hats
3.) Make a point to tell any bums asking us for change to get a real job - girls like confidence
4.) Knock her drink out of her hand so I can inspect her cleaning skills
You know, basically just common sense.
Edit: Oh, I forgot - use the "c-word" as often as possible, both in reference to women and their lady parts. Real cake-winner here.
I have read nothing of this thread but saw you posted and hit view to read... well worth it!0 -
^^^ Haha! Its a new day baby.
I will say it though..if someone doesn't try and kiss me at the end of the first date I would assume he is not interested or is shy or not particularly sexual. That really won't work for me in the long run.
Really? I don't want a kiss on date one, but if you don't make a move on date two, then I would feel as you have said.0 -
1. No sex talk or jokes
2. No inappropriate comments
3. Be on time
4. Dress like you actually care
5. Engage in the conversation
6. Refrain from inquiring about income, who the person live with, or any other personal question
I had someone who did the opposite of above and was def a pre-cursor for what was to come.0 -
^^^ Haha! Its a new day baby.
I will say it though..if someone doesn't try and kiss me at the end of the first date I would assume he is not interested or is shy or not particularly sexual. That really won't work for me in the long run.
haha. i think if there is chemistry you can feel it in other ways. like when a guy puts his hand on the small of your back when you're walking in and out of a place, kissing your cheek good night followed by a nice hug (squeeze tight lol).
maybe even a peck on the lips but definitiely not full blown making out.0 -
1.) "Accidentally" leave my wallet in the car - it's empty anyways
2.) Crack a couple gay-jokes so she knows I'm not one of them, but make it clear that lesbians are cool as long as they don't wear flannels and trucker hats
3.) Make a point to tell any bums asking us for change to get a real job - girls like confidence
4.) Knock her drink out of her hand so I can inspect her cleaning skills
You know, basically just common sense.
Edit: Oh, I forgot - use the "c-word" as often as possible, both in reference to women and their lady parts. Real cake-winner here.
I have read nothing of this thread but saw you posted and hit view to read... well worth it!
lol i know right, he sounds like a real keeper haha. my prince charming0 -
I don't believe in this rules on first dates business, I just act as I normally would as there's no point pretending to be something else.
isn't there anything that you intentionally try to do or not do on a first date?
eg. i try not to curse but that doesnt mean i dont or i'm trying not to be myself, i just think its rude to be swearing in front of someone i've just met. first impressions are important i think.0 -
Saw this question posted somewhere and it got me thinking...no matter how you've met someone (in person or online), or how long you've known them, etc, what are your "First Date Rules"
Some of mine are: No kissing on the first date. No cursing on the first date. (this is more for me, but i also don't like men to do that early on) Let the guy be a gentleman. (Sometimes women get caught up in being independent and self sufficient but on a date you should just sit back and be a lady) No talking about the ex
I've never thought of any rules but I like yours. I wouldn't kiss a guy on a first date and I try not to curse because I think it's unladylike. I do curse but its infrequent and more when I accidentally slam my head into a cabinet.
Another thing is about paying...I think he should pay, it's the gentlemanly thing to do and if you let me pay for my own meal or food, I'm gonna think you don't care that much. It makes a better impression.
the paying thing goes with the "let him be a gentleman". i don't think the girl should pay, or offer to pay not because i feel entitled or anything, but some men don't like that, and I certainly wouldn't expect them to let me pay.0 -
for all the cheap women in the thread, at least buy a round of drinks, it's 5 dollars, and trust me, the guys will appreciate it.0
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for all the cheap women in the thread, at least buy a round of drinks, it's 5 dollars, and trust me, the guys will appreciate it.
I always find ways to make it up... my last date he got tickets to a lacross game, so I went and got us some beers.
BUT a round is only $5??? Where do you live?? A beer here is like $8.50 each0 -
for all the cheap women in the thread, at least buy a round of drinks, it's 5 dollars, and trust me, the guys will appreciate it.
It's not about being cheap, I probably make more money than most men my age lol0 -
I met my current bf in a gay sauna. I think the dating rules might be different...0
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I know its 2013, but I would probably reject a man afterwards if he suggested within the first 5-10 dates that I pay. Why? I am very traditional, so I expect a man will provide for a woman regardless of how much he or she makes. Therefore, paying for dates shows me you are a good provider without expectations of something in return.
Don't blast me guys 0 -
for all the cheap women in the thread, at least buy a round of drinks, it's 5 dollars, and trust me, the guys will appreciate it.
It's not about being cheap, I probably make more money than most men my age lol
You can be rich and still be a cheapskate.0 -
for all the cheap women in the thread, at least buy a round of drinks, it's 5 dollars, and trust me, the guys will appreciate it.
It's not about being cheap, I probably make more money than most men my age lol
You can be rich and still be a cheapskate.
True, but to me, it's more about showing that he cares enough about you to treat you.0 -
for all the cheap women in the thread, at least buy a round of drinks, it's 5 dollars, and trust me, the guys will appreciate it.
I always find ways to make it up... my last date he got tickets to a lacross game, so I went and got us some beers.
BUT a round is only $5??? Where do you live?? A beer here is like $8.50 each
Dallas, TX. Lol, everything is cheap. And you just gave a perfect example of little gestures that go along way.0
