I confess- Single Peeps version
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It bothers me when one of my co-workers talks about how she's started losing weight. Why does this bother me? Well, she's started a new "diet", which is a doctor-supervised 800 cal a day diet. The problem is, her starting size can't be much bigger than a size FOUR. I'd kill to have her body, but she's "too fat". What doctor in his right mind would have someone that size on that restrictive a diet??????
I dont believe any Dr would!! I would check your friend's sanity!! lol0 -
It bothers me when one of my co-workers talks about how she's started losing weight. Why does this bother me? Well, she's started a new "diet", which is a doctor-supervised 800 cal a day diet. The problem is, her starting size can't be much bigger than a size FOUR. I'd kill to have her body, but she's "too fat". What doctor in his right mind would have someone that size on that restrictive a diet??????
I dont believe any Dr would!! I would check your friend's sanity!! lol
No real Dr would but maybe she is going to a HGC "doctor".0 -
I confess that I am beyond thrilled right now!! I just won first prize in the creative performances portion of my school's Graduate Symposium, which is a competition open to all grad students!! I even won some money! Yay!0
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I confess that I am beyond thrilled right now!! I just won first prize in the creative performances portion of my school's Graduate Symposium, which is a competition open to all grad students!! I even won some money! Yay!
That's awesome news!! Congrats! :drinker:0 -
It bothers me when one of my co-workers talks about how she's started losing weight. Why does this bother me? Well, she's started a new "diet", which is a doctor-supervised 800 cal a day diet. The problem is, her starting size can't be much bigger than a size FOUR. I'd kill to have her body, but she's "too fat". What doctor in his right mind would have someone that size on that restrictive a diet??????
I dont believe any Dr would!! I would check your friend's sanity!! lol
No real Dr would but maybe she is going to a HGC "doctor".
Yeah I have no idea. I already feel like an elephant compared to everyone, so her doing this and bragging about it makes me want to cry
I went off on her after she left the room the other day to my other co-workers. They looked at me like I had lost it. 0 -
I confess that I am beyond thrilled right now!! I just won first prize in the creative performances portion of my school's Graduate Symposium, which is a competition open to all grad students!! I even won some money! Yay!
Wooohooo!! :drinker:0 -
I confess that I am beyond thrilled right now!! I just won first prize in the creative performances portion of my school's Graduate Symposium, which is a competition open to all grad students!! I even won some money! Yay!
Wooohooo!! :drinker:
*happy dance* you get it girl :drinker: :drinker: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:0 -
Thanks, ladies!!! It was very exciting :happy: :drinker:0
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I confess that I am beyond thrilled right now!! I just won first prize in the creative performances portion of my school's Graduate Symposium, which is a competition open to all grad students!! I even won some money! Yay!
You have every reason to be thrilled, that is amazing news! Congrats.0 -
I confess that I had to give up an old friend yesterday (ex FWB).
We have been friends since 2007. We haven't been fwb since 2010, my choice.
Sometimes you just have to walk away from something/someone who just isn't good for you anymore, even as JUST A FRIEND.
I am feeling down about it but I know it is for the best. :ohwell:0 -
Congrats Kate :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:0
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I confess that I had to give up an old friend yesterday (ex FWB).
We have been friends since 2007. We haven't been fwb since 2010, my choice.
Sometimes you just have to walk away from something/someone who just isn't good for you anymore, even as JUST A FRIEND.
I am feeling down about it but I know it is for the best. :ohwell:
sometimes we have to remember that friendships just like romatic relationships are not supposed to last a life time.0 -
I was told on Monday that a lot of my students are complaining about my classes and that they don't like me. I didn't believe them, so I made anonymous feedback forms for my students.
The past three days I've had somewhere around 30 students in my classes. I've had about 3 negative comments, and even they were just "sometimes you talk too fast" or "I'd like to have more grammar practice". The overwhelming majority were things like, "we love you!" "you're an awesome teacher", "we can talk to Rachel about anything because she really understands our problems" (awwww
) and, my favorite, "Rachel's classes are the best I've ever had at this school" (by my most serious student, even).
WTF director? Are you just pulling this **** out of your *kitten*??? I still have half my students left, so we'll see, but seriously...??? These comments were after telling them to tell me what I can do better - I was NOT asking for compliments, I was asking for honesty. The forms even say, "what do you NOT like about my lessons?" and "what DO you like about my lessons?"
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I confess that I spend entirely too much time playing computer games....in the nude!
The perks of living alone. Thankfully, my dog keeps her opinions to herself.0 -
I confess that I had to give up an old friend yesterday (ex FWB).
We have been friends since 2007. We haven't been fwb since 2010, my choice.
Sometimes you just have to walk away from something/someone who just isn't good for you anymore, even as JUST A FRIEND.
I am feeling down about it but I know it is for the best. :ohwell:
sometimes we have to remember that friendships just like romatic relationships are not supposed to last a life time.
Yes you are right about that.
I confess that I spend entirely too much time playing computer games....in the nude!
The perks of living alone. Thankfully, my dog keeps her opinions to herself.
HA HA, I love when my teens are gone for the weekend, clothing optional rules!
BREGALAD5: That sounds nuts and sometimes that is how management motivates?!?!
I was once told in a review (a few years back) that I was the lowest producer at work, yet I got a great review and a nice raise so there was a lot of confusion. Thankfully, I was an assistant back in my day and I knew how to run reports to verify this statement. I was nowhere near the lowest. Perhaps they wanted me to think that so they could squeeze even more productivity out me? Who knows? I have since been promoted and continue to get good raises and reviews. *SHRUGS*0 -
BREGALAD5: That sounds nuts and sometimes that is how management motivates?!?!
I was once told in a review (a few years back) that I was the lowest producer at work, yet I got a great review and a nice raise so there was a lot of confusion. Thankfully, I was an assistant back in my day and I knew how to run reports to verify this statement. I was nowhere near the lowest. Perhaps they wanted me to think that so they could squeeze even more productivity out me? Who knows? I have since been promoted and continue to get good raises and reviews. *SHRUGS*
Maybe, but if so, why aren't they doing this to others? Ah well, I have my feedback forms, and once I get them from all of my classes, I'm going to give them to my DoS (Director of Studies) and tell her, "so, what were you saying about my students complaining about me? Hmm? Don't mess with someone who enjoys proving people wrong."0 -
I confess we had a lot of prospective students at the zoo yesterday for the AIM (applicant information meeting) and a few of them asked about time to do stuff like exercise and prepare meals. I shared my experience about how I am literally at the zoo every single day, go home to study and do stuff with my dog, then go to work. But then another student said she makes sure to make time for herself and take care of herself.
It got me thinking. My health has fallen by the wayside because of immediate necessities. I don't have time for food because I don't prioritize it... But could I? I'm going to be doing some evaluations in the next week to see what kind of changes I can make, so maybe I can better accommodate my long term needs.0 -
I confess we had a lot of prospective students at the zoo yesterday for the AIM (applicant information meeting) and a few of them asked about time to do stuff like exercise and prepare meals. I shared my experience about how I am literally at the zoo every single day, go home to study and do stuff with my dog, then go to work. But then another student said she makes sure to make time for herself and take care of herself.
It got me thinking. My health has fallen by the wayside because of immediate necessities. I don't have time for food because I don't prioritize it... But could I? I'm going to be doing some evaluations in the next week to see what kind of changes I can make, so maybe I can better accommodate my long term needs.
This is something I have been thinking about too. Life is just absolutely nuts with everything I have to do, and it just never seems to end. Most of the time, I skip meals or eat something fast like yogurt just to get some energy so I can keep singing, but I'm definitely not getting enough calories during the day. And forget about exercise these past few weeks. My friend tried to give me a back rub today and I was so tense that it hurt just to have her touch me, let alone massage anything. She suggested (very kindly) that I make it a priority to take one hour this week and go back to my beloved yoga studio. My first reaction was, "how the eff do I have time for that??" Then I thought about it, and realized if I want to keep my health and sanity intact, I really do need to carve out my own time to take care of myself. I want to lose 30 more pounds. I could do it by starving myself, but I would feel like *kitten*, and it certainly wouldn't be sustainable and I could very possibly lose my voice. Or I could do it by eating enough healthy foods and taking time out to do the exercises I genuinely love.
Anyway, all that to say, I agree with you completely!!! We need to take care of ourselves. Yes, we're young and strong, but that's not going to last forever. Best to take care of ourselves now so we can sustain an active, busy, fulfilling lifestyle for as long as possible)) 0 -
BREGALAD5: That sounds nuts and sometimes that is how management motivates?!?!
I was once told in a review (a few years back) that I was the lowest producer at work, yet I got a great review and a nice raise so there was a lot of confusion. Thankfully, I was an assistant back in my day and I knew how to run reports to verify this statement. I was nowhere near the lowest. Perhaps they wanted me to think that so they could squeeze even more productivity out me? Who knows? I have since been promoted and continue to get good raises and reviews. *SHRUGS*
Maybe, but if so, why aren't they doing this to others? Ah well, I have my feedback forms, and once I get them from all of my classes, I'm going to give them to my DoS (Director of Studies) and tell her, "so, what were you saying about my students complaining about me? Hmm? Don't mess with someone who enjoys proving people wrong."
I think this is a bad idea that will do absolutely nothing but confirm that you are a problem and do not take feedback well. I work in program evaluation and read surveys for design methodology on a regular basis. Based on your description of your methodology, I can almost certainly say your results are biased. I'll discuss the biases in a minute. More problematic is that if you go to the DoS with these results, you show that you do not believe her to be credible and that you are somewhat vindictive by shoving your disbelief in his/her face. If you are going to do that at least be sure that your results are credible themselves.
There are more than two sources of bias but the there are two major ones. First, you provided the survey to students. It was not provided by an independent third party. You collected the surveys and reviewed them as well. Students are not stupid. They realize fully well that you are going to be the one who reads the raw information. You'll be able to tell who they are. You even said you knew which response came from your best student. How do you expect feedback to be honest?
Your second problem is probably more in the design of the questions? Your description seems to be leading responses. What is wrong with the class? seems to be the theme. (e.g "What DON'T you like about the lessons?" etc.) Better questions would have been more open ended like "What topics in the class did you like or dislike?" "List any topics that could have been explained better?" "Do you believe the grades fairly reflect your understanding of the class material?" "Is the amount of material assigned reasonable" "Please provide any more comments that you feel reflect on either the course material or the instructors ability to organize and present the material."0 -
BREGALAD5: That sounds nuts and sometimes that is how management motivates?!?!
I was once told in a review (a few years back) that I was the lowest producer at work, yet I got a great review and a nice raise so there was a lot of confusion. Thankfully, I was an assistant back in my day and I knew how to run reports to verify this statement. I was nowhere near the lowest. Perhaps they wanted me to think that so they could squeeze even more productivity out me? Who knows? I have since been promoted and continue to get good raises and reviews. *SHRUGS*
Maybe, but if so, why aren't they doing this to others? Ah well, I have my feedback forms, and once I get them from all of my classes, I'm going to give them to my DoS (Director of Studies) and tell her, "so, what were you saying about my students complaining about me? Hmm? Don't mess with someone who enjoys proving people wrong."
There are more than two sources of bias but the there are two major ones. First, you provided the survey to students. It was not provided by an independent third party. You collected the surveys and reviewed them as well. Students are not stupid. They realize fully well that you are going to be the one who reads the raw information. You'll be able to tell who they are. You even said you knew which response came from your best student. How do you expect feedback to be honest?
I couldn't agree more with this paragraph. As a student that had to fill out many of these instructor assessments, there was a reason they weren't given out to us until after grades were locked in the system at the end of the term. As well as a reason the professor only received a summary, and not the individual reports.
If we were required to give feedback mid-term, I can guarantee I wouldn't have been nearly as honest/critical as I was at the end, ESPECIALLY if I knew the professor was going to know who wrote what (not total anonymity). Most of us all used Ratemyprofessor.com as a good rating system during the year when we have a good/bad professor. I used it for almost all of my classes and usually tried to select my professors off of these reviews.0 -
BREGALAD5: That sounds nuts and sometimes that is how management motivates?!?!
I was once told in a review (a few years back) that I was the lowest producer at work, yet I got a great review and a nice raise so there was a lot of confusion. Thankfully, I was an assistant back in my day and I knew how to run reports to verify this statement. I was nowhere near the lowest. Perhaps they wanted me to think that so they could squeeze even more productivity out me? Who knows? I have since been promoted and continue to get good raises and reviews. *SHRUGS*
Maybe, but if so, why aren't they doing this to others? Ah well, I have my feedback forms, and once I get them from all of my classes, I'm going to give them to my DoS (Director of Studies) and tell her, "so, what were you saying about my students complaining about me? Hmm? Don't mess with someone who enjoys proving people wrong."
There are more than two sources of bias but the there are two major ones. First, you provided the survey to students. It was not provided by an independent third party. You collected the surveys and reviewed them as well. Students are not stupid. They realize fully well that you are going to be the one who reads the raw information. You'll be able to tell who they are. You even said you knew which response came from your best student. How do you expect feedback to be honest?
I couldn't agree more with this paragraph. As a student that had to fill out many of these instructor assessments, there was a reason they weren't given out to us until after grades were locked in the system at the end of the term. As well as a reason the professor only received a summary, and not the individual reports.
If we were required to give feedback mid-term, I can guarantee I wouldn't have been nearly as honest/critical as I was at the end, ESPECIALLY if I knew the professor was going to know who wrote what (not total anonymity). Most of us all used Ratemyprofessor.com as a good rating system during the year when we have a good/bad professor. I used it for almost all of my classes and usually tried to select my professors off of these reviews.
I also agree with that last paragraph. Sometimes you just have to step up your game and let that speak for itself. It couldn't hurt either way.
As I stated earlier, I looked up my progress and I was nowhere near being a low producer, but that doesn't mean I put that report in front of my superiors and rubbed it in their face.
I saw it as a motivational tool and I now push myself a little harder and smirk at the idea that they think it is only because I think they see me as not top notch performer.
We all know better! Choose your battles wisely. 0 -
BREGALAD5: That sounds nuts and sometimes that is how management motivates?!?!
I was once told in a review (a few years back) that I was the lowest producer at work, yet I got a great review and a nice raise so there was a lot of confusion. Thankfully, I was an assistant back in my day and I knew how to run reports to verify this statement. I was nowhere near the lowest. Perhaps they wanted me to think that so they could squeeze even more productivity out me? Who knows? I have since been promoted and continue to get good raises and reviews. *SHRUGS*
Maybe, but if so, why aren't they doing this to others? Ah well, I have my feedback forms, and once I get them from all of my classes, I'm going to give them to my DoS (Director of Studies) and tell her, "so, what were you saying about my students complaining about me? Hmm? Don't mess with someone who enjoys proving people wrong."
There are more than two sources of bias but the there are two major ones. First, you provided the survey to students. It was not provided by an independent third party. You collected the surveys and reviewed them as well. Students are not stupid. They realize fully well that you are going to be the one who reads the raw information. You'll be able to tell who they are. You even said you knew which response came from your best student. How do you expect feedback to be honest?
I couldn't agree more with this paragraph. As a student that had to fill out many of these instructor assessments, there was a reason they weren't given out to us until after grades were locked in the system at the end of the term. As well as a reason the professor only received a summary, and not the individual reports.
If we were required to give feedback mid-term, I can guarantee I wouldn't have been nearly as honest/critical as I was at the end, ESPECIALLY if I knew the professor was going to know who wrote what (not total anonymity). Most of us all used Ratemyprofessor.com as a good rating system during the year when we have a good/bad professor. I used it for almost all of my classes and usually tried to select my professors off of these reviews.
I also agree with that last paragraph. Sometimes you just have to step up your game and let that speak for itself. It couldn't hurt either way.
As I stated earlier, I looked up my progress and I was nowhere near being a low producer, but that doesn't mean I put that report in front of my superiors and rubbed it in their face.
I saw it as a motivational tool and I now push myself a little harder and smirk at the idea that they think it is only because I think they see me as not top notch performer.
We all know better! Choose your battles wisely.
I know the handwriting for one of my classes, which is how I knew it was that student. I have no "independent third party" to administer anything, and am completely on my own here. I did what I could, and did the best I could. I told my students to be as honest as possible, and to not worry about hurting my feelings. There was negative in there, but it was overwhelmingly positive. As a student, I was always 100% honest with my feedback. How can a teacher expect to improve upon weak points if I'm not? And, as a teacher, I can not and will not ever hold negative feedback against my student. I have had students give me negative feedback to my face, but I have still given them their honest grades. I hold honesty and integrity in high regard.
As for using it as motivation, it's the most DEmotivating thing. Usually I do that, but the way they keep piling it on is making it impossible. I'm basically being told that no matter what any of us do, people are going to complain and since my school is a for-profit business, people complaining = us in trouble. It makes no sense. They told me today, "we have to please everyone" ... which is, well, impossible.
Anyway, thanks for adding to the *kitten* I've been getting at work about this mess. Sorry I ever brought it up.0 -
"Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one.
-Hans Selye
"If you don't like something change it; if you can't change it, change the way you think about it."
~Mary Engelbreit
"Life is not a matter of having good cards, but of playing a poor hand well."
- Robert Louis Stevenson
A few quotes I like to read when I feel like things are crumbling.
On another note: I confess that I have been listenting to ONE HIT WONDERS radio on iTunes radio at work and gosh, there are a lot of good ONE HIT WONDERS!
Last song: Jennifer Paige: CRUSH (yeah, I purchased it) :blushing:0 -
When your boss gives you negative feedback daily, while your students are giving you positive, then proceeds to tell you that your students are probably just too afraid to tell you negative things, it's really, really tough to be positive. I, however, disagree with her and think my students telling me daily how much they love me and want me to stay next year is clearly them actually liking me...
I've changed my situation by getting a new job for next year in a new city. I still have to put up with this place for another two months, though.0 -
When your boss gives you negative feedback daily, while your students are giving you positive, then proceeds to tell you that your students are probably just too afraid to tell you negative things, it's really, really tough to be positive. I, however, disagree with her and think my students telling me daily how much they love me and want me to stay next year is clearly them actually liking me...
I've changed my situation by getting a new job for next year in a new city. I still have to put up with this place for another two months, though.
Well hang in there and make the best of it. I wish you well. {HUGS}
Congrats on the new job next year, maybe things will be better for you over there. :flowerforyou:0 -
When your boss gives you negative feedback daily, while your students are giving you positive, then proceeds to tell you that your students are probably just too afraid to tell you negative things, it's really, really tough to be positive. I, however, disagree with her and think my students telling me daily how much they love me and want me to stay next year is clearly them actually liking me...
I've changed my situation by getting a new job for next year in a new city. I still have to put up with this place for another two months, though.
If you're boss isn't giving you suggestions on how to improve, you may point out that her criticisms aren't very helpful or constructive. Ask her to be specific about the complaints and for recommendations to correct the complaints. If she is vague in her responses, hold her accountable and do not let her off the hook.0 -
When your boss gives you negative feedback daily, while your students are giving you positive, then proceeds to tell you that your students are probably just too afraid to tell you negative things, it's really, really tough to be positive. I, however, disagree with her and think my students telling me daily how much they love me and want me to stay next year is clearly them actually liking me...
I've changed my situation by getting a new job for next year in a new city. I still have to put up with this place for another two months, though.
Sounds like a personality issue (perhaps even cultural?) between your and your boss. Probably best to focus on your students and just get through the next two months. In the big picture, that's a very short amount of time, even though in the moment it may feel long and frustrating.0 -
I confess that i'm unusually excited about my weekends plan. FWB invited me to go with him to a Suicide Girls burlesque show near his place, which means end of evening and night at his place having a lot of fun. I'm planning on making him go crazy by dressing sexy for the event and he will only see it at the event, not before
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I confess this is my new theme song hahaha. Ok, so maybe my friend just starts singing it to me every time I start to get too hung up on how busy/annoying/awful everything feels right now because I haven't gotten more than 5 hours a sleep a night in the past month and my professor really is being an a-hole. Regardless, it at least makes me laugh, which helps get my mind off of the negative things and helps me get focused again on what is important: namely, my own work and voice, not what everybody else is doing. It will get better, promise
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=moSFlvxnbgk 0 -
I confess that i'm unusually excited about my weekends plan. FWB invited me to go with him to a Suicide Girls burlesque show near his place, which means end of evening and night at his place having a lot of fun. I'm planning on making him go crazy by dressing sexy for the event and he will only see it at the event, not before
Those Suicide Girls...:bigsmile: :blushing:0
