NSV's = Non-scale Victories
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Ann, Those talks you had about the past together and about your single future were among the biggest gifts you probably gave each other. 'So lovely to hear about how two people lived that time by listening and being open.1
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I feel for you Mac., it can't be easy to find someone at our age. Like many here, we don't fit what the expectation is for old folks. Just today I had a Captain ask me 'Holy REDACTED, when did you turn 60?'. I told him May, but I don't act my age. I'm one of the lucky ones, with a great marriage that has stood the test of time and raising three kids. I don't expect to outlive my wife (heart thingy) or to give her any reason to dump me now, but if I did find myself single I don't think I'd be looking to be married again. I'm past the point of changing who I am to meet a new mate half way. For better or worse, I am what I am and it's a take/leave situation at this point. If I had to find someone new, she'd have to be right some tolerant.
Not sure what I will do if I outlive my husband. I'm not much of a loner but I could live alone. I can't imagine finding a mate again but I wouldn't mind having companionship. I suppose I would move to CO and hang out with my kids but I would try to find an independent group of friends and reenergize some of the hobbies I've given up along the way.
Weird to think about really. With everything going on here I have to admit I have thought about it, somewhat frightfully...........ugghhhh. We've been together for 38 years so it's kind of difficult to imagine anything else really.
I definitely wouldn't want to be hanging out with "old men" or "old women" in the stereotypical sense of those words.
Everyone's different, so your mileage may vary, but I have to say that I was wasting any time I spent pre-widowhood thinking about how I'd want to live post-widowhood. I'm a very, very different person than I would ever have imagined I'd become.
Once we knew my husband was, in fact, dying, the most valuable return came from time and energy invested resolving any minor still-open issues between us, and re-appreciating the value and high points of the 20-odd years together. In retrospect, spending energy on those things was what most helped me move forward more sure-footedly later. It was a great gift to have talked about his hopes and wishes for my future, as well.
Thanks for the good advice. My husband has been trying to talk to me about my future but I haven't wanted to yet although we do reminisce about our life a lot. We've been very happy together and raised 3 wonderful kids. We're sort of just hanging onto each other for dear life right now.
I don't want to really imagine him gone, and since we don't know that yet, I prefer to not spend too much time thinking about a future alone. I agree I might be a completely different person but I won't know until I get there I suppose.
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I feel for you Mac., it can't be easy to find someone at our age. Like many here, we don't fit what the expectation is for old folks. Just today I had a Captain ask me 'Holy REDACTED, when did you turn 60?'. I told him May, but I don't act my age. I'm one of the lucky ones, with a great marriage that has stood the test of time and raising three kids. I don't expect to outlive my wife (heart thingy) or to give her any reason to dump me now, but if I did find myself single I don't think I'd be looking to be married again. I'm past the point of changing who I am to meet a new mate half way. For better or worse, I am what I am and it's a take/leave situation at this point. If I had to find someone new, she'd have to be right some tolerant.
Not sure what I will do if I outlive my husband. I'm not much of a loner but I could live alone. I can't imagine finding a mate again but I wouldn't mind having companionship. I suppose I would move to CO and hang out with my kids but I would try to find an independent group of friends and reenergize some of the hobbies I've given up along the way.
Weird to think about really. With everything going on here I have to admit I have thought about it, somewhat frightfully...........ugghhhh. We've been together for 38 years so it's kind of difficult to imagine anything else really.
I definitely wouldn't want to be hanging out with "old men" or "old women" in the stereotypical sense of those words.
Everyone's different, so your mileage may vary, but I have to say that I was wasting any time I spent pre-widowhood thinking about how I'd want to live post-widowhood. I'm a very, very different person than I would ever have imagined I'd become.
Once we knew my husband was, in fact, dying, the most valuable return came from time and energy invested resolving any minor still-open issues between us, and re-appreciating the value and high points of the 20-odd years together. In retrospect, spending energy on those things was what most helped me move forward more sure-footedly later. It was a great gift to have talked about his hopes and wishes for my future, as well.
Thanks for the good advice. My husband has been trying to talk to me about my future but I haven't wanted to yet although we do reminisce about our life a lot. We've been very happy together and raised 3 wonderful kids. We're sort of just hanging onto each other for dear life right now.
I don't want to really imagine him gone, and since we don't know that yet, I prefer to not spend too much time thinking about a future alone. I agree I might be a completely different person but I won't know until I get there I suppose.
Exactly - why spend mind-share on it now. It will be both difficult and interesting enough to give him what he needs, and to get what you need, In the complicated and precious present. Of course, that's always true; we simply don't always realize it.
(Wishing you strength and energy . . . .)
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Thanks Ann!
I have a small NSV this morning.............new running shoes and my feet love me for it! Has anyone else lost weight or size in their feet? I can't believe I can wear normal sized shoes again! Just like with clothes, it's really fun trying shoes on again.2 -
I've not experienced a change in shoe size yet... or at least not that I noticed. I tend to wear loose fitting shoes as my feet are very flat.0
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I did Lulu. At my heaviest I was as much as an 8-1/2' now I wear 7-1/2. New shoes, yay!2
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Huh, never thought about shoes changing size too...but I guess it makes sense.0
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I had an interesting morning yesterday, as well as a couple of NSV’s.
I had just finished my workout and was sweating like crazy, wearing my workout clothes that show every bump and bulge, when I heard a knock on the door. People rarely come to my door out here in the country and normally I probably wouldn’t have even answered it considering how I looked. But I opened it and there stood a young man telling me he had been out running and saw a couple of horses standing in a field where there’s no fence. He said one was a Paint and wanted to know if they were mine. I have a Paint and he has escaped to a neighbor’s field in the past, but all our fences are in good condition right now. Nevertheless, I took off with this kid, and literally ran to where the horses were. I haven’t run in years! At first, I was certain the Paint wasn’t mine, but then when I came up to him, he had the exact same marking (a polka-dot) on his side that mine does. I didn’t have anything with me, so I ran back to my house to get halters and lead lines. As I ran back to the tack room, out of the corner of my eye, I saw my horse. His name is Cookie Monster. He was standing in the run-in shed looking at me like he was wondering what that crazy lady was doing running around. I was thankful it wasn’t him, but the two horses were now running down the street and the speed limit is 55 mph on this road so I knew I had to do something. Luckily, a girl driving by had stopped and she had lead lines in her car. Between her and the young man, they managed to get the horses over to a neighbor’s barn. We put them in the barn and called Animal Control. Turns out they were from a farm a few houses down the road. They made it home safe and sound.
So, my NSV’s were:
• Ran for the first time in many moons without even thinking about it and kept up with this 19 year old kid whom I later found out was a cross-country star (my daughter went to school with him).
• Went outside in my workout clothes without caring what people thought about how I looked. I don’t care if I’m fat and bulgy – I know that I’ve been working hard and when it comes to animals, I would rather be a little embarrassed about how I look than have them be in danger.
• I realized that in an emergency, I can do what needs to be done.
• From all my running around, I had logged over 5,000 steps before 10:00 a.m.
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carolemaryrosslaura wrote: »
(Great story snipped to reduce quote length)
• I realized that in an emergency, I can do what needs to be done.
Now there's a powerful motivator for any of us!4 -
That is a great story and epic NSV.1
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This is my NSV. I was always very slim and fit when i was younger. I somehow lost myself in the pitty pool after a horrible divorce and found myself depressed,overweight,and out of shape. Because of my weight I did not lIke the way I looked in shorts. This summer I decided it was time to just get over it. Even though I'm still very overweight I've been wearing shorts, skirts and dresses. Surprisingly, this also gave me the confidence to get outside and exercise. I've been riding my bicycle and walking to do my errands and I feel great. I've now begun to eat better as well. For the first time in a long while I feel I can do this.4
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Kudos Beverly! You are on your way, good for you!2
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WTG Beverly............you're on the road to a healthier and happier you!
My NSV today is that I actually signed up for a 5K run. It's a Tiki run, with grass skirts and all, in Huntington Beach on Aug 21. I'm pretty excited. I've always wanted to do one but didn't want to walk it, and now I can actually run that far.....LOL
I also found one for my daughter and I to do the weekend before Thanksgiving. She's going to fly out from CO to do it with me...........I'm really excited about that one!4 -
The tiki run sounds like great fun. I have done some 5ks but I had to take walk breaks, especially if there were hills. You can certainly do this.0
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that's going to be epic!!! pictures !!!1
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I've maintained a weight loss of 115 pounds for a year now, and that feels great, but I noticed today that pants I wore last summer at this same weight are now very, very loose, and even need altering.
I'd heard that even without losses in low carb, your body will change shape , and I guess it's true!
Feels great!6 -
Did a set of 5 rack pulls at 325 tonight. I may not be strong, but at 60 I have gained a lot of momentum.
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That seems pretty strong to me! Good work!
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