GretchenReine wrote: »

@raleighgirl09 Thank you so much! I think a humongous struggle for me is setting the goal and knowing what's realistic. I mean, I set my small goals...that part I can do. However, setting the "ultimate" goal weight is tough for me. You can't really go by BMI charts (even my doctors tell me they're *kitten*) and I've never been a healthy weight as an adult. I guess my first big goal is to get to ONEderland and go from there. BMI charts say I should be between 125 and 169...which both seem ridiculous to me. I'm 5'8" and have been over 200 pounds since the 8th grade. I can't even fathom what I'd look like at those weights! LOL I've hit ONEderland once as an adult and then lost it. This last time that I lost over 100 pounds...I got close but didn't hit it. I always put it back on though.

@GretchenReine wow - do I ever know what you mean. When I began at 300 lbs, I said - oh, I think 145 to 150, and even those are over for me, per the BMI charts. I was 5'4 then and only 5'3 now so.....it's not like it's gotten any better for me, right?? I really didn't know. When I got to 170 before, I stopped and said well - I made it!! But that was not well thought out, it really had more to do with me having gone through a ton of life changes including separating from my husband of 27 years and well, I think I was a mess and tired of it and so many things.

I think knowing exactly what that number must be at the beginning is overrated and naive, frankly. If I had been only 20 pounds overweight, maybe I could have but not at more than 100 lbs overweight, not with never having been a normal weight, etc.etc.etc. It's ok to not know - it's ok to change the number as you move along. You working on the small goals now is what you can control and if you can set them and work toward them, don't worry about the ultimate number, it will sort itself out and when you have better information to work with, as you get smaller, you can start to make better guesses.

I'm closing in on 170 again and I know it isn't where I want to stop because I'd like to wear a size 8 - which I am guessing is about 160 pounds for me, some 13ish pounds away. But truthfully, it's just going to be whatever it is and I'm going to have to be patient to know. I think my maintenance range will be 158-165 and again, I don't really know right now but it's the best guess I can manage.

I challenge us all to put this question to ourselves and think deeply on it:

If I am significantly smaller and if I am wearing clothes I am happy wth - if I feel better health wise, sleep better, move better and feel good about my body and IN my body.....will the number on the scale matter? What is the happy point and is it really all wrapped up in a square box that lights up when I stand on it? I, for one, sincerely hope not.

gwamajtw91 wrote: »

Hey any loss is a loss - am I right?

YES! Yes it is! 💖

Username:TeresaW1020
Weigh in week:  Week 3
Weigh in day: Friday
Previous Weight: 210.2
Todays Weight: 209.2
Loss To Date: 55.3

broncobuddee wrote: »

Looking to fill in some holes on the spreadsheet and wrap up week one:

@apple852hk
@deadpheonixrising
@gwamajtw91
@jalalrcr
@lexabeep
@mrmcgrath
@veryhotmails
@doutri2

Thanks!

broncobuddee wrote: »

Looking to fill in some holes on the spreadsheet and wrap up week one:

@apple852hk
@deadpheonixrising
@gwamajtw91
@jalalrcr
@lexabeep
@mrmcgrath
@veryhotmails
@doutri2

Thanks!

Jalalrcr
Sorry for delay
PW 92.8 Kg
CW 90.7kg

@Katmary71 I thought I was the only one who dealt with crap like that! It really does make it tough when you're trying so hard and thinking you're doing so well. Unfortunately, I do have a bad case of body dysmorphia. I don't know if it's something that ever goes away or not. Even at my smallest (195ish) I still was confident that I looked 300 pounds.

@jalalrcr, @veryhotmails, @cherrymajoni, @katyjcrafts, @davors19, @gwamajtw91, bethanie0825 & MommaGemz Great weight loss this week! Keep it up!

@raleighgirl09 Yes, I love your mantra, I am not deprived. I honestly think my years of being overweight stem from my feelings of deprivation. That is why I think traditional diets haven’t worked for me in the long term because when I have a list of “forbidden” foods that I can’t eat my rebellion kicks in and since that’s NOT fair, I eat all the things and then hate myself and on and on it goes. Right now, I feel a crazy amount of freedom. So much so that yesterday, when invited to lunch I said no. Lunch isn’t going away and I can choose to do it another day. And, yes very wise words you gave @GretchenReine about not getting all wrapped up in the number on the scale. It is just one of the many tools that we use and it shouldn’t hold control over how we feel about ourselves. Easier said than done though, huh?

@Cornanda I agree that we have awesome members who have lots of wisdom to share and implement into our weight loss journey. I consider you in that category as well, just so you know!

@vegan4lyfe2012 That is a great NSV! There is no way I could be around those Doritos.

@GretchenReine I know you are disappointed in your weight loss this week, but you are on a long journey, and ups and downs are all part of it. One of the tips that I am really working on for myself is to not have two days off in a row where I eat off my plan or don’t do a workout. I also suffer from body dysmorphia from all the years of being obese. I find taking regular pictures the very best way to counter what I see in the mirror and what really is. When I’m having a rough day I will go look at where I started and where I am now. It helps since I still have so far to go. Let’s just keep at it and we will get there.

@trooworld Ohhh no! I am sorry that you hurt your muscle. I have hurt that one before too and know how bad it can hurt. I think we are both delicate flowers. The other night, while sitting on the couch my left thigh muscle started hurting for NO REASON! Throbbing pain for hours. Next morning totally fine. What’s up with that? Fingers crossed that you hear from your job today!

@Katmary71 Yayyy that guy sounds like a keeper! Yeah, it sounds like medical marijuana isn’t going to be for you. I’m sorry about that.


Hi Team! Hopefully, I’ve caught up with all your posts. I tried posting this morning, but my internet was down until just a little bit ago. Thankfully, I had a bunch of my IF podcast downloaded and could listen to them while doing housework and playing with my jigsaw puzzle. I also listened while walking on the treadmill since I couldn’t do a Beachbody workout. I broke my fast at 20 hours with watermelon and for dinner, we grilled burgers and corn on the cob. This evening hubby and I will have a couple of white wine spritzers because Friday is wine day!! grin

Great losses everyone, you're all down about 1 lb this week, that's awesome!

@trooworld I hope you feel better soon, that's such an uncomfortable place to have injured. Ice helped me when I pulled a couple chest muscles back in Feb then I'd put Tiger Balm on it though it's really hard to reach there on your own.

@GretchenReine I wish I had the answer to viewing ourselves better. My main concern has always been mobility and health but it's hard not to care what I look like too. Between being 100lbs overweight at my highest and being pear-shaped I still think I'm fat on my lower half (my thighs are big for sure, especially on a foam roller, scary stuff!). The guy I'm seeing gives me amazing compliments. I don't look at my body in the mirror anymore especially right out of the shower, I don't hate it but don't like what I see and am trying to accept no matter how much I work out I'll never look like I'd prefer and I'm not even starting any surgeries because then I'd want everything done. I have muscle but the rest is flabby and I have a lot of surgical scars and stretch marks. I definitely lost any looks I used to have when younger and before medications and pain issues. It is what it is, if the guy I'm seeing wants to think I have a rockin body and that I'm pretty that's great but I sure the heck don't agree. Sounds really insecure but I'm really not, it is what it is.

raleighgirl09
Week 3 weigh in Thursday (16Jul2020) - a day late!!
Previous weight:176.4
Current weight: 173.0
LTD MFP #2 62.0 lbs
LTD overall 127.0 lbs

I almost hate this, I know this was water in/water out. But - I suffered reporting the gain, so I'll be reporting the loss. I've been accomplishing about a pound a week loss which is unusual for me, typically not linear like that, but at any rate I'm happy with the overall effort and result. I think I'm on track to make my goal of 170 by my birthday, 11Aug2020. A little under would be supreme... Perhaps I should not be greedy...?

I'm with company all weekend so I'll be sporadic but I did catch up reading. I have some individual posts I want to reply to but for now, for my very quick check in and late weigh in.....

@TeresaW1020, @jalalrcr, @veryhotmails, @cherrymajoni, @katyjcrafts, @davors19, @gwamajtw91, @bethanie0825, @MommaGemz, @DesertColibri you guys all had a GREAT weekly weigh in - YAY FOR YOU!!

Hi just letting you know that I will be leaving mfp.
I have decided to do ww as from today .

@2020shih - WW is a great plan for many people! Congratulations and all best wishes as you shift into your new food plan!
As @TeresaW1020 says - please know that you are welcome in this group regardless of whether you use the MFP tracking. We are here for accountability and community, to support and learn from each other.

@raleighgirl09 - Woohoo! Great weigh-in! As you said, you got to ride out that up number when you reported it, so it's great that you are happy with the overall effort and result.
And saying that, I am looking again at your Loss to Date overall of 127 pounds, and being blown away.
Enjoy your company this weekend!

@Katmary71 and @GretchenReine -
The question of how we see ourselves better is... such a rich one. Offering my thoughts, in case it's helpful to hear from someone else who has a related conversation in their head?
I go back and forth on the being satisfied with my looks. I was not happy with them when I was 17 (I now look back and think that girl looked okay!). And I was not happy with my looks when I was a marathon runner and could rock a bikini in public. And now, having had a kid and gotten older and taken off 135+ pounds of excess fat -- well, yeah, I can see the miles. I still have flab and saggy spots and stretch marks. Getting the bit of fat on my stomach to disappear would apparently require that I go down to a really unhealthy body fat percentage. Oh, well.
But I think my standards are and were always off. When I think about where my standards come from, I think at some level I am comparing myself to girls and women in magazines and on screen, and that's just crazy.
Back when I was marathon running, I picked up a slinky, form-fitting dress at a really nice vintage shop, and got home and looked in the mirror and was incredibly frustrated. I had thought I could finally wear something like that, but I still looked lumpy in spots when I tried wearing that dress. Now when I see a picture of someone n something comparable, I figure (A) she is wearing Spanx (I had no idea about such things back when I was so disappointed about that dress) and (B) if it's an ad or a magazine cover, there was likely photoshopping as well.
So... I am thinking of a vintage pop song, "Love the One You're With." So I keep nudging myself to choose the body I have and to be grateful that the body I have is working as well as it is. (Also thinking of a Monty Python line from Holy Grail - "I'm not dead yet!")

@DesertColibri - Woohoo! Great weigh-in! Even if some of this is water weight this week, you are doing so great!

@Cherrymajoni - Sending you a hug for this hard week with your food. I hope it gets easier as you settle back in after your birthday. Your activity level is so impressive.

@Cherrymajoni , @jalalrcr , @TeresaW1020 , @katyjcrafts , @davors19 - Woohoo! Exellent weigh-in!

@trooworld - Hey, just so you know -- shoulders are a vulnerable joint on everybody. Seriously. It's something we are very aware of at my martial arts school. (And I like to do arm weights, but I don't do all the standard moves in an arm set, and when I do shoulder work, I use very little weight.) So give that shoulder as much time as it needs to heal (for me, injuries always more time than I think it "should" take to get better!).
I loved this:

At this point, I say the number on the scale will not matter. What will matter is how I feel in my clothes and my body. BUT...I've got a long way to go and that could change. I'd like to say that it won't, but once I get down to a smaller size, the numbers on the scale could become more important to me and I sure hope that I don't start obsessing about them.

This sounds like a great place to stand as regards the number on the scale! And if you hold this as what you are committed to, you can notice and remind yourself of your real commitment, if you get hooked by the number on the scale. Not sure if that makes sense?

Family life calls! More later!

Well, I am very late to the party, but I'm going to try to catch up on some responses I wanted to do....

@Katmary71 thanks for checking the recipe for me. I went back in and MFP made a sneaky mistake. 2 oz of parm cheese came up at 864 calories therefore throwing off the recipe. I always check the ingredients it picks for me, but I haven't been checking the calorie counts for them. Might go back and relook at some of my other recipes.

Everyone- I highly recommend the skinny taste giant turkey meatball recipe- delish! Thanks for the suggestion @Katmary71!

@raleigh_girl- love your good thoughts for the group, and remembering those who are dropping in but not posting. I think you could make some money writing- you have a wonderful way of expressing yourself. And your thoughts are excellent!

@trooworld - love the restaurant choices! Hope your chicken wing feels better.

@TeresaW1020 Yes, I think I'm going to wrap myself in bubble wrap lol! Oh man, that is weird about your thigh muscle...what is up with that??? I heard from my job: not starting until Aug 3 but definitely starting back then! Of course, Friday is wine day!!!! I hope you enjoyed dinner, too.

@Katmary71 Thanks, I think ice will definitely help. I've got something like Tiger Balm I can have my husband put on...I definitely couldn't reach that area by myself lol.

@AustinRuadhain I hope things calm down for you soon and you can get some R&R! Congrats on a great Friday. Thanks re: the shoulder. I seriously am considering bubble wrapping my entire body before I get out of bed! LOL What you say about the scale number does make sense. Thanks!

@Cornanda I'm glad the giant meatball recipe worked out for you. It's always disappointing when a recipe is more cals (in my case points) than you expect. Thanks re: the restaurant choices and my chicken wing still hurts but a little bit less maybe lol.

Hello everyone and happy Saturday! I don't have much planned today. I already got in my walk and it felt good to be out of the house. The rest of the day, I'm going to read a book for my book club...the meeting is Tuesday night and I still have a ways to go in the book. No hedonistic lunches + dinners this weekend, I learned my lesson! Tonight's dinner is a bit of an indulgence: Sweet Mustard Brats and Cabbage, but lunch is a sensible salad to balance it out and breakfast was a smoothie.

Friday
Calories: over/under: over
Water: over/under: over
Exercise: walk
Goals or Improvements for tomorrow: Leslie Sansone video, eat what is on the menu for dinner, 2 bottles (26 oz) of water

Friday weigh in
Cornanda
Week 3- 7/17
PW: 186.7
CW 188.2
LTD: 3