WaistAways Team Chat - DECEMBER 2022
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I'm with you @conleywoods - my current priority is Christmas prep and going to my own personal zen space whenever I start to feel overwhelmed.
I'm not totally abandoning my sensible eating habits, but I won't beat myself up if I have too many minced pies (or drink too many Baileys!)3 -
Please can I have a pass until January 13th as I am traveling and I don't know if and when I will come across a scale. I am weighing in a day early and am pleased to report I am under 215 which I had set myself as a goal to reach before I fly.
No problem! We'll see you when you are back. I hope the storms and strikes, lions, tigers, and bears do not give you too much woe
Bon voyage!2 -
New smaller jeans!!!!! That is fabulous.alydanbeads wrote: »Thankful to be down a bit, especially with the holidays, but feel bloated and yucky. Trying to make good choices but yet still enjoy all of the holiday cheer, ya know? BUT! I bought new jeans this week and they were a smaller size and that felt amazing!
@ells_bellz and @CarolAnnM2 WELL DONE! Those challenges are great, and the medals and bragging rights are fabulous. I'm also smiling that you are named Miller, Carol. My husband and kids are Millers! I never changed my name when I married (that is not a Québec thing - everyone keeps their birth names). So of course, I have a great affection for all Millers
Just a quick reminder to everyone who has put in their intentions for the January 1st "who am I?". Check in on how you are doing, and let's look at what intentions we might need to look at as we slide to the new year. Shared spreadsheet at https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1Wi0i87iKT7THzfMInln_oyb5IQAfsiSPBaHwWGfCA4c/edit?usp=sharing
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Hi Waistaways!
Carol Ann congratulations on your medal and thank you everyone for your lovely comments.
It is not a nice post.
I have something to share and I am sorry to put this on you.
I talk about this to my family and friends who witnessed it but its not helping.
It is traumatising so please don't read it if you don't want to.
Last Saturday I was at work in the hotel. We were hosting Christmas Dinner for caravan club members - 60 in total. They were all camping so that Saturday the hotel was quiet until evening. In the kitchen there was chef and I, 2 ladies in the office and a waitress. Also hotels owner.
Around 4 o'clock the chef went to our big fridge in another part of the hotel - near the swimming pool.
He was gone about 15 minutes and I started to worry where he's gone. I went to look for him. As I approached swimming pool, I heard someone counting to 4 - 1 2 3 4. I thought what is going on?
Went in and I saw large ish man in swimming trunks lying on the floor, chef performing CPR on him and shouting 1 2 3 4 1 2... 2 ladies from the office shouting to me "Ellie help us! We are exhausted!"
I completely froze
One lady was on the phone with emergency services and the other lady and the chef were taking turns in CPR.
I almost cried and said that I don't know what to do, for them to show me and I'll do it. The lady showed me where to put my hands and I started pushing on the chest and counting ....
It's nothing like you do during the first aid training! Its so easy on the manequin but in real life is really scary and heartbreaking! I didn't want to look but I just kept looking at his eyes!
We kept taking turns until paramedic arrived which felt like forever! There were 2 ambulances, fire brigade and air ambulance towards the end...
When paramedics started working on him, lets call the gentleman John, he was still alive! We were so happy with that news! There was so many people around so I just went back to the kitchen. I couldn't concentrate. We were almost ready with the dinner, so not much prep to do but our minds were with John and paramedics. The chef came in and said that John is alive and we were hugging and really happy. Hotels owner went to campsite and found Johns wife.
After another half an hour office lady came into the kitchen to say that John has died. It absolutely broke us. We all started to cry.
Apparently John was very ill. He only had weeks to live. He had liver failure, cancer and more different ilnesses. His wife said that while paramedics were working on John he died 3 times and paramedics brought him back to life. They asked her what she wants to do and she told them to let him go
Now I know that ladies from the office went to swimming pool to close it when they found John floating face up in the pool. When he wasn't responding they panicked, at that time the chef was passing by and 3 of them pulled John out of the water to the side of the swimming pool where I found them.
Towards the end of an evening caravan members were asked what they wanted to do - they wanted to carry on with their dinner. We served it carvery style and to be honest I just wanted to go home
It has been four days and we are still struggling.
The chef said he is drinking himself to sleep,
Two ladies aren't sleeping and I haven't slept first 2 nights. All I can see is his eyes
I am angry like never been before, snappy and first time in my life I speak what I feel which is not a good thing :-( I have no patience whith people I don't like. I used to just ignored it now I am a bit rude, which I am not happy with myself about it.
Today is my first day of holiday. I have two and a half weeks off.
I don't feel in Christmas mood at all - and I love Christmas!
I guess I need advice how to cope with it? I used tohave councelling for depression and I know that it was no good for me.I guess I didn't click with that person. She was very young and it felt like she was reading from a script :-(
thank you for reading
I am so sorry to burden you with it. It just feels better for me to unload ❤️6 -
@ells_bellz I am so sorry you had this traumatic experience.
I do not have any advice to offer other than finding a therapist that you like. It took me three different counsellors when my dad died to find one I felt was helping me.
Hugs and love coming your way
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@ells_bellz you all did an amazing job to help John! And yes, you froze at first, but you asked what you could do and you gave him a chance! The classes never teach you what CPR is actually like, and doing it for the first time can be traumatizing. Usually the first person who starts breaks ribs and that is not a great feeling. Something they also don't tell you, is only about 12% of out of hospital cardiac arrests survive and in hospital, it is still only around 25% (even if they come back from CPR). Take some time for yourself, talk to any friends or family and even us here! You all did a great job for stepping in and even trying to help John!4
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@conleywoods sorry this is coming so late, but I sincerely appreciated your words last week. Meant a lot - thank you.1
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Username: bowens1973
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@ells_bellz Talking about it is good! During your holiday try and talk to family and lean on them, try to get back to your normal routines. It takes time to process trauma and grief. Please take care of yourself and we are here for you!1
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@ells_bellz I just want to give you the biggest hug ever right now. I am sure it is completely normal to feel as you are after being so close to someone dying - you are upset, upside-down, all over the place, and unable to control your reactions to people. I think you'll breathe through it and come to know that you and the others did an amazing job, you kept him going as long as possible, but it was too much for his body and he died. You did everything you could. I commend you and your chef and anyone else who helped. Looking him in the eyes was a brave and wonderful thing you did. I am sure he saw you and knew you were helping him. If you need help to get through the next little while, it is a great idea. But I am so glad you shared this with us. You are so brave.
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I'm just wishing all of you the best - I have been telling my 92 year old mom about you and how glad I am to be part of this little community. Thanks for being here!
Friday people (and one more Thursday!) are up next!
@eggfreak
@EvMakesChanges
@micki48
@CupcakeCrusoe
@DianaGetsFit512
@wishfuljune
Tally ho!2 -
Oh well, I didn’t get my flights but I am rebooked for travel on Friday, arriving UK on Christmas Eve.
The agents at the airport were really helpful and rebooked me in the same class with no bother. Springfield literally had 7 people there so no long lines or anti social behaviour.
I came home, had a cooked meal and settled in for the night. Friday I will travel. Saturday I will see family.3 -
@ells_bellz So many words and thoughts have been shared here and I hope that you get some comfort from them - and I am in full agreement.
Your account of that afternoon was so complete and so fully described that I can see how deeply it would affect you.
Just remember - you and your colleagues acted and helped. You were not merely bystanders.
It was good and right and brave of you to share this experience, and I am glad that you did.
Now you need to take care of yourself.2 -
PW: 188.8
CW: 190
@ells_bellz - Sending you and your co-workers all the good vibes! I agree with a lot of other people here - talking about it, with family/friends, here, and with a therapist, could help tremendously. From what you shared, it sounds like you and everyone did the best they could.
I woke up feeling bloated and TOM starts for me next week. I think I ate pretty well and worked out this week so I’m not letting the number get me down.
I’ve taken today off from work to finish some last minute gift wrapping, food prep, and other chores. I’m also going to my group fitness class this morning to start the day off right.
My husband and I have officially started the process of looking for a home so that’s going to be fun. We saw some houses last night and realized quickly what we need in a space.
I hope that everyone has a great Friday!4 -
Weigh in day: Friday
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lauren_989 wrote: »I have been talking with my husband and looking online for weight loss resources. My husband says I know what to do, my problem is more mental.
I highly recommend looking into "Half Size Me" she does a podcast and youtube talks and has been amazingly informative about the mental health side of eating. She has a series on YT called "how my thinking leads to eating" and it's really helped me understand my cravings and habits.
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CW: 179.2
Can’t wait for the next level of allergy testing next week. I may need to go several tweaks re: food but it’ll be helpful to have some answers about fatigue, coughs, and food reactions.
@lauren_989 NOOM is an online program with many lessons about the emotional and psychological reasons for how we perceive nourishment and how to make lasting changes. They’re coming out with a book soon, which would be worth reading. I’ve gotten a lot out of the psych tips and strategies over the past year. It’s been more challenging to keep up with both F2F and NOOM but overall, worth it.4 -
@AshenMoon thank you for the info! I will definitely look into it.
@jugar I think you brought your cold weather to NC. Its currently 18F and will get down to 9F tonight! Please take it back with you!
The past few days, I have done semi ok eating wise. I am actually proud of myself even though it was no way close to perfect.2 -
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I will be glad to take these temperatures back to Québec with me I'm leaving the 28th, so hang on Southerners! Hope is on the way! 3
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