alleykat69 wrote: »

I can't find the link to week 3. can someone repost it please.

I'm assuming you mean the week 3 Group Challenge? I'm not hosting it this week, but here's the link:

https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10892867/june-week-3-challenge-share-your-favorite-recipes#latest

Jessica

kodakslim wrote: »

Mid-week check-in. I started using my exercise bike over the past couple of days, just to switch things up a little (again, thanks for the tips everyone.

I like to watch SpinJunkie videos on YouTube for bike workouts. She does what's called "rhythm rides" where you pedal to the beat of the music. Riding along to the music makes it so much easier to keep up a pace, in my experience. Plus I like her personality, she seems very genuine.

Good morning Shape Shifters. Here is todays card. Happy Thursday everyone

@jessicakrall8 I’m glad to hear your doctors appointment went well, it sounds like your hard work is really paying off. Well done, be proud

@CasandraW

I am so sorry to hear about your friendship struggles. All I can do is relate it to some my own personal friendship struggles. For me, sometimes a little space helps.

@nancyinmo Congratulations! How exciting!

@jessicakrall8 Congrats on the positive doctor's appointment. For me, you can't beat a piece of lettuce as a sub for bread ....

Nooo...tomorrow is work day slay. First day back in 10 days. BUUUT, my meal prep is done for the most part and I've got my lunch ready to go. Whew! I've got turkey tacos for my main meal for a few days and a salad with a protein at night for the next few evenings.

@CasandraW - There’s no need to apologize for a long post. This is our space to support and encourage one another and we are all welcome to engage as much - or as little (but I hope as “much”) as it feels right/ comfortable. Of course, I’m the queen of long posts so others may feel differently … but here goes my long reply ! 😬

I’m sorry your friend has been so distant after years of sharing a close relationship. It seems natural to me that you are experiencing strong feelings of grief and loss about the change in your friendship. If you think you need to say “goodbye” in order to have a sense of closure, I think it’s a valid response.

As @jessicakrall8 noted, if you feel you need to step away in order to take care of yourself, especially if you think it’s a toxic relationship, then that makes complete sense. I’m not sure if it would help to think through some “dialogue” scenarios.

Are you planning to talk to your estranged friend or do you prefer to just let the friendship run it’s course?

If she were my friend, I think I would try to arrange a time to meet in person, if possible. It’s definitely common for people to adjust their rhythm of interaction with friends when they enter a marriage or committed partnership, but it sounds as though you suspect her new husband might be isolating her. In that case, I like your idea to “leave the door open” in case she needs help. I’d probably keep up some low level or interaction - like a holiday or birthday card once a year - to keep the lines of communication open in case she is in danger of any future abuse.

I also agree with you that she is probably facing some additional challenges, since she had to close her business due to the downturn of the economy. If you want closer, you might say something like — I’ve been reaching out to you because I miss the way we used to talk more regularly about personal subjects that felt special to us. You said I was “your person” and I felt that way, too. Even our shared connection about things like that line from Grey’s Anatomy made me smile and think of you. I know you’ve experienced a lot of life changes, and maybe our relationship doesn’t feel as important to you as it once did. It hurts, but I can understand it, and it would help me to know so I can step away to process the loss and move on.

In the last year, I feel as though our exchanges have become more perfunctory and superficial. Sometimes I feel you’re trying to keep some kind of connection going but I actually feel sad when I get a quick Happy Mother’s Day greeting but we don’t talk more deeply about our lives. Even though I can appreciate it, I don’t want to have my hopes of reigniting our easy friendship of the past — dashed again. So, I just thought I’d try to make a solid plan one last time …

Is it possible for us to commit to some type of regular interaction like a weekly phone call or periodic weekend away [or something else that would work for you @CasandraW]?

I know this is ridiculously long but I got the feeling you were asking for a conversation starter. Feel free to take anything useful and ignore the rest! Best wishes and I hope you’ll keep us updated on how things are going — whether to help process the loss and move on, or work on any next steps in repairing the relationship. Take care! ❤️‍🩹

Good morning Shape Shifters. Here is todays card. Happy Friday everyone

Daily step goal: 10,000
Tue 6/20: 10,103
Wed 6/21: 10,933
Thu 6/22: 12,058