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36 year old man behaving like that - absolutely pathetic. All the red flags are there - harden your heart and move on - your precious youth does not last long, even though now you probably can't see that. Dump this garbage. Your man you will be with is out there somewhere. This is not him.

Sadly, yes,I have been there. I went from 194 - 135lb and got fit (see my thumbnail). People,including my husband, wre so used to me being big that everyone said I was too thin, lost my figure etc. I didn;t think this would affect me,but it did - greatly - and I lost my motivation to keep slim and fit, being told by…

Wishing you success, Alanna. I can relate to you completely.

Binary's post is spot on correct. I would add this. Put yourself FIRST for once - your health, your diet, and time for some exercise. Promise yourself that while you get your weight and health under control, you will not let anything get in your way.

Totally agree with you. Add to this, that in my generation anyway (I'm 52), in childhood, food was used as reward and punishment: Corporal punishment in school for not eating your all your school lunch. If you are badly behaved, go to bed without any supper. If you are good, here's some sweets or cake. Food and our…

Good question. Yes, most people do put the weight back on. Why? Because the switch has not gone on in their head that tells them this is a change for the rest of your life. This can be a daunting thought. Devise your own "diet" to meet your own needs and lifestyle. It takes a lot of reading and trial and error, and…

Thanks for your lovely comments. I don't want to clog up this thread with tips, but will briefly say: 1. There is no face cream in the world or any pill you can take to retain skin elasticity in the face. It's genetically determined. It helps if you don't crash the weight off too fast. I lift weights and that is good for…

Absolutely brilliant transformation :smile:

Hello. I don't think you are "skinny fat". It's just that you tend to carry weight on mid section. Perhaps some bodyweight exercises on top of your lifting (that is what sorted out my mid section). Body fat I would estimate maybe 20% max. You look very young so you've got it all in your favour, unlike me in my 50s. Best of…

Years ago, I use to be a huge drinker, and could never sleep after a night out, so would go out running while drunk. I mostly got away with it for years, until one night, the ground swung up and hit me in the face. I still have the severe scars. In fact, I carry the scars from a lot of UDIs (Unexplained Drunken Injuries)…

Well done - you never gave up, and that makes you a WINNER!

Great job lass!

Hey Bigpap - people here just want to help you. Honestly, this site has really changed my life for the better - the people here. Give them a chance and good luck.

Yes, many people have told me that I have lost too much weight. (I was 194lb, and lost 52 lb). People get used to seeing you a certain way. Also, I must be honest and say that I looked more approachable and kinder looking in the face when fat. Now, I look a bit like someone you would cross the street to avoid :) But, I am…

My "aha" moment was in Autumn last year. I had very bad back pain and my doctor told me there was nothing he could do. My feet hurt all the time. I am over 50. Every day felt like terrible hard work. I couldn't get up the stairs some days. When telling my father this, he said, "You know, you might feel a little better if…

Hello! Just wanted to add my support to you. I agree with much of the advice given. Buy a little scale and weigh your food. It worked for me. The one I got is called Salter, model 2010 that I got from Amazon. It is so accurate and weighs everything. Weigh in grams. On your diary, try to be really accurate on everything you…

Thanks for the kind comments. I always welcome and support new friends.

Seconded! Lovely looking lady before and after too!

Very kind. Thank you.

After pic is end May this year :)

I love all these pictures. Thank you for posting them. Here's mine: 50lb lost. Took just over 6 months. (Aged 52 now)

50lb lost. Took just over 6 months. (Aged 52 now)

0% fat Greek yoghurt, tinned tuna, hard boiled eggs - helped me get all the fat off and the muscle on.

Wonderful!

What an inspirational person! You look incredible, and thank you for sharing your tips.

Absolutely brilliant progress! Well done to you :)

You can't prevent it. I have it and I have only lost 52lb. Moisturiser makes no difference, nor does anything else you do to the skin surface. The advice I got (from a doctor I know) was to lift weights and drink plenty of water. Good advice generally, but I have still have loose skin on my arms, legs and stomach. I lost…

Your body wants to hang on to fat. It is a defence in times of famine. I used to think that the body had its own ideal weight, but now, I think it depends what you do with your body - whether you make it a muscular machine, or whether you are just cutting calories and losing fat (and muscle at the same time). I am going…

Lol. Stay strong. I have to cook and bake for three adults every day. I don't eat any of it. Stick to your goals and you'll get where you want to be :)

Great work there -what a difference!