pearlsgirl96

thank you for your post. a lot of unnecessary immaturity on this message board.

thank you this is really helpful.

thank you for your helpful posts. :)

thank you, and yes i did know about the variations of IBS which is why am concerned about not causing suffering with food i make for him. i think too that as long as he has access to good food that is gentle on his body he will eat more and... gain weight. apparently finding advice on this stuff means i'm a controlling…

who said i was trying to count his calories? I just wanted some pointers on what kinds of food to cook / keep around the house. can anyone read?

it's just funny how my cooking most of the meals for him or learning more about what it's like to be a hard gainer and the food requirements for them means i'm managing his life. that's so utterly ridiculous and negative. i'm sorry if that is the reality for most people in relationships but it's not the reality here. and i…

uh, no. people keep projecting their relational issues on to me. not it at all but thanks anyway!

i agree with you. i was just looking for nutritional advice about what to cook and keep around the house to aid him. there are parts about this problem that i can't do anything about, only he can. i think some people on here thought i was looking for relationship advice or something lol. just food advice, making sure i am…

hmm, well i cook with fats and oils. so it sounds like from everyone's comments cumulatively i'm already on the right path with my cooking and stuff just that he has to eat more of it / drink more water. btw: yah i totally eat way too many calories, weird how its so easy for me, and yet i need to eat less calories LOL sigh

he could stand to drink more water for sure. that is definitely on him, i can't do anything about that. but would that hold him back from gaining weight? i don't believe it's a lack of fat or fiber. we eat very we rounded, beans, meat, tons of veggies of all colors, i cook with fats and oils, he eats junk food sometimes, i…

THANK YOU!! This is great.

i use olive oil on all my salads, sometimes in sauteeing, but mostly use butter and i also use coconut oil when frying. :) so, check...

i'm not monitoring, I cook for him! LOL, is it that hard to read what i write? seriously. where does this idea come from that anyone is monitoring or forcing? this is seriously hilarious!

eh?

i'm not making him eliminate junk food, it's just that junk food is an obvious calorie dense food. i don't need advice on that part and he does get plenty of that. and no i don't feed him lean meats. he had a 10 oz NY strip steak last night, half a cup of cooked white rice with 2 tblspns butter, salad with 2 tblspns of…

thanks!!!! This helps! :) and yes, you're right, my best friend, her hubby has Crohn's too and does the same, he drinks ensure or something. and my ex who had cancer, he used to drink muscle milk. i didn't even think of this. that's a great idea.

he does seek answers to these questions, just not on myfitnesspal. i mentioned it to him that it might be a useful tool in counting his calories or whatnot and i'm sure he'll sign up if he wants to. see... not interfering... now, about the calorie dense foods... that is the whole point of my post originally. I want advice…

This info about the IBS was in my original post. yes, red meat makes the IBS come around, also pork. He will be ok if he eats balanced (fruits, veggies and carbs) along with the meat, and doesn't eat too much meat. so that's why i make well rounded meals that have a little of everything. the IBS is more constipation and…

cool thanks! and yah that's what i meant by "feeling ready" he'll do it when he does it. he plans to but right now he's not working out. he's focused on other parts of his life. which is why i am trying to help in my own way that i can because i prepare most of the food.

no one is intervening and i'm not making him do anything. not sure where you're getting any of that from. anyway HE knows he is underweight because HE feels it and SEES it. and yes his doctors told him that if he goes below 165 that he will be underweight and he knows all the ramifications of this. also there is a…

he is not lifting, and not sure when he would start. he knows he should however, and he does know it helps. he's just having a hard time getting a hold of his schedule, he is a newbie in the real estate biz and it's all his energy he has just to work and then come home. but he does want to start working out (lifting…

i hear ya, i did tell him that i think as unpleasant as it is for me to pass up foods i want in order to lose weight, it's the same for him to have to deal with some unpleasantness to eat more and gain weight. he did do it before a few years ago, he got up to 185 and he said the same thing you are saying, that he had to…

apparently you haven't found your true love yet... lol we help each other in life, that's what we do. :)

i wonder how we can find out what his calorie surplus number is... ? anyone know?

ha, this isn't about power. it's about helping someone i love and who loves me back. i do most of the cooking, so while what he eats or how much is not in my direct control he does want my help. and we do talk about it quite often, so my posting this discussion has nothing to do with a relationship issue. i posted this for…

yah, I definitely have learned how hard it is for someone to gain weight. I had a female friend that was going through the same thing for herself. she would force feed herself philly cheesesteaks and stuff lol. he is somewhat actively engaged, he certainly wants to gain weight, i'm not forcing the issue but he is not as…

i agree he's probably not eating enough. and yah... i mentioned for him to sigh up on here. he may but seeing as i'm the one who mostly feeds him i wanted to do some of my own legwork. :)

He has been eating ice cream fairly often, at one point he was eating mochi ice cream things, like 2, every day. he gets taco bell cravings too. we ate out at Cheesecake factory the other night and he had a pulled pork sandwich with sweet potato fries (total 1720 calories) and we shared a giant oreo cheesecake slice (like…

HAHAHA, yes we both like junk food but we do eat healthy most of the time. He had two Reeses Klondike bars last night after dinner tho. lol That's the scary thing, he does eat junk food sometimes and still... underweight. :(

Butter is better because it's natural. However just try to learn to use it sparingly. Margarine has toxic chemicals for your body that will hinder weight loss as well as harm your arteries and organs.