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I had a VERY BAD day...things just came crashing down for me...I hadn't eaten in about 19 hrs...and I just gave up for a bit! Ate completely crappy...pizza and bread sticks...did not go over cals but nothing nutritional all day! NOT happy with myself! I will be working out hard core tomorrow! For tonight I am going to curl up on the couch and watch a movie with my family. i will reflect and regroup my motivation tomorrow!
Barlovo~ So glad you had a minute to pop in and let us know you are doing OK! You and your family continue to be in my prayers! Glad you have such a great support system! We are here when ever you get the chance to pop in! ((((((((((((((BARB))))))))))))))))))) (That;s my Mom's name too)
Liz~ Glad you enjoyed the birthday party! I will be learning the same lesson again for the millionth time tomorrow!
aalicenw~ o sorry to hear about your ankle! Did they say how long you will need to stay off it? I hope it doesn't hurt too much. Since you will have company tomorrow...I hope they will be a big help to you and allow you to keep your foot up and recuperate! Take care my friend...warm hugs to you from freeing cold New Hampshire!
Julia~ Glad you popped in...how are you doing?
Have a FAB_U_LOSS night my friends!!!
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Barb - You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. How thoughtful of you and your wife to take fresh vegies and fruit for all to share. So often food choices are so limited in such situations when strength and stamina are so needed. It is another type of food for the soul nourishing folks with fresh goodness. Hang in there and just keep on doing what you can.
For the last two months, I have been walking around my kitchen for 30 minutes a day. It was warm enough here today 43 that Mark, I and the girls took a 30 minute walk outside. It was lovely. But I have to say, there are no hills in my kitchen.
I hope everyone is having a wonderful weekend with as nice weather as we are having.
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I've had a pretty low key weekend. Still hanging in there Alice. One day at a time.
Good idea Cindy, just relax and regroup tomorrow. Those days will happen but it's important to regroup and keep going.
Still sending love to you and your family Barlovo.
Gonna go on a walk at noon.0 -
Cindy - I hope today is a better day for you. We all have those days, don't beat yourself up.
Hey QT I hope you have an awesome walk! 0 -
OK I think I am done beating myself up and I'm ready to keep rocking this part of my life. The other will have to take it's course and work it's way out somehow!
Thanks for all the kind words and encouragement! You ladies are the BEST!!
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Barbs thank you for taking the time to drop in to share such precious moments with us. Sending you more love, blessings and strength to you and your loved ones.
Cindy so sorry to hear you had such a bad but glad that you are feeling a little better. We are human beings, not machines so it's fine to have the bad days too.
MD I just saw your gorgeous bracelet. Well done! I hope you had a nice walk!
Liz you just inspire me with every post you share. That is true dedication and commitment.
Nekrebel, Julie, Noodle, Agnes, Megan and Karen just saying hi to you all. I hope you are all well.
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Hope everyone is well on this Monday. I had a rough weekend with my shoulder/neck injury limiting my physical activity. I was shocked to see a loss this morning when I weighed in. I actually got off the scale & got back on to make sure. lol.
An extra stressful week for me due to half of my coworkers being out training at other facilities so now I'm doing the work of 4 people. Lucky me!
Barb: I know eating well in difficult times is extra hard, you're so inspiring and clearly a very loving aunt. Bless your little nephew.
Alice: your profile pic is amazing. You are rockin' that bod, you deserve new underwear! Pick out something super cute!
Cindy: I hope this week goes better for you. Don't beat yourself up for a couple of slices of pizza! You didn't go hog wild & eat an entire pizza yourself AND you recognized that it wasn't really what you wanted to do, so cut yourself a tiny break!!
Karen: Where are you hiding girly? I haven't seen you in a few days, I hope you're doing ok!!
And to anyone else I haven't directly addressed, I hope you're all doing well. Have a great Monday.0 -
I just want to be sure I let all of you great people know how much I appreciate your posts and that I wish you all the best with so many different struggles going on. I still think I'm missing a lot here. Just not used to having to scroll down to read the latest I guess - although I try to go slow and read it all. Still wish there was on option to have it ascend instead of descend.
- Here's to a good week for us all (*)
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Hi All my lovely L.O.S.T. Ladies~
I had an exhausting day but good none the less! I am looking forward to this week end! It's Kyli's 18th birthday and she is sooo excited! I'm sad about it at the same time! She is my youngest but my most mature...my boys both moved in and out until this past April...one will be 26 in May...the other will be 25 in May...I don't think it will be that way with her and I am struggling with the thought of my home being empty of children!
aaliceinw~ How is your ankle? I hope better now that you are more aware of the extent of your injury! Please be careful to take good care of yourself!
Noodle~ Make sure you take time to take care of YOU! I know all too well how easy it is to neglect ourselves when work gets CRAZY!
NEKrebel~ We are glad you found us and it does get easier to navigate the more often you use this site! I was over whelmed and confused often in the beginning too but now that I have the hang of it...I love it!
Julia, MdwsatQT, Agnes, Megan and Karen I hope all is well.
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Doing well. Have been enjoying a few warm days here in between cold fronts. I'm thinking the little birds and animals outside here must be totally confused! But it has allowed me to get in some good exercise pulling weeds and using the hand saw on a few things. Great for pulling, pushing, squatting and realizing I'm a bit out of shape.0
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I'm not doing very well. I gained 2 lbs last week and yesterday binged somewhere around 3900 calories. I don't feel like anything emotionally wrong. I just got tired of feeling hungry.
When I'm MIA from here, you know I'm in trouble. I haven't had anything to eat yet today. Still sitting in bed. Dreading a day of hunger.
How some of you just eat 1200 calories blows my mind. I feel like everyone has a key that I missed. Sorry this is down as I'm feeling after my binge last night. I've binged maybe 4 times over the last week and a half. Last night was the biggest. I did log everything I ate.0 -
(((((((((((((((((((((((((Karen)))))))))))))))))))))))))))) we are all here for the same reason...don't ever think for a minute that we have some magic cure! I DON'T...I know that!!! I take this ONE DAY AT A TIME and I have days that I feel lost too! I have truly found some added push here...which is why I started this group. There are a few tricks that I have learned that I TRY to implement...but I too have had several moments of weakness!
There is a saying...if you are truly hungry eat an apple (or carrot) if you don't want that...you are probably not truly hungry! You should go through some of your diary entries and see if you can pick out a few LOW calorie choices that filled you p and made you feel satisfied...for me...it's apple (sometimes sprinkled with cinnamon), cucumbers (sometimes with vinegar)....the sometimes with...helps me feel like I'm not eating the same thing all the time...it changes up the flavors.
Visuals are also very helpful for me. I have a picture of myself younger and healthier that I look at...I can't get the younger back but I CAN get the healthier back....it's just going to take a lot of work...I try to make it a game/competition...that keeps me going. Things like our weekly challenges! You need to find what things work for you! That's what we are here for...to help each other figure these little things out! The motivations I post are things that visually help me...I truly go back and read them n my times of weakness...sometimes it helps...sometimes it doesn't! I also set up the losing jars suggested here (I believe by Noodle) They are on my bedside table and I LOVE being able to switch those stones from one jar (pounds weighed) to the other jar (pounds LOST)!!!
Above all remember we are here for you! Come here.... vent away!!! We are kind of like Planet Fitness....we are a judgement free zone!!!
I hope this doesn't seem like a lecture...it is solely meant as support...just got a little long winded!
Have a FAB_U_LOSS day my friend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Thank You Cindy. I sat in my bed for an hour and a half after writing that thinking about what I did last night, how bad I felt and how now after a binge I feel very very hungry. Scared to get out of bed feeling I will blow it all over again. Fear of eating as I will eat too much.
I don't know if that happens to anyone else but after a day of a lot of food the next day I wake up very hungry. I racked my brain trying to figure out what the trigger was and I can't for the life of me figure it out.
I even failed myself with my binge recovery. I had promised my therapist that if I felt a binge coming on and I knew I was going to follow through with it that I would binge on 'Real' food, like a chicken sandwich or two or 3 or 4 not CANDY or sweets. LOL, well I failed there too.
Then I had to think about what many lovely people on here have posted to my binging post and they too have had set backs. I can't call myself a failure because I know now this will be a life long battle. I can't continue the self defeating talk while I'm beating myself up I realized there are two ways I can go, either get up and start the day again. That means I can't even promise myself I won't binge because it May happen. The only thing I can do is keep TRYING and not give up and give it my best shot.
I knew it would take more than one cup of cereal to fill me up. I ate 2 cups of Special K protein cereal. That set me up right away with a good amount of protein and fiber.
I don't know what the rest of the day holds for me but for this hour, this moment I'm doing okay. I know what to do, I know I was low in water, too high in salt, too high in sugar and so on. I just need to do it.
Thank you for being here for me, it means much more than you know. I was feeling a bit alone.
I apologize to everyone for being absent for a bit and for not responding to messages. I hope everyone has a blessed healthy day. Hugs.0 -
Hi everyone, just checking in to say Hi. Thanks so much for your messages of support. My nephew passed away peacefully on Sunday night. The wake was yesterday. His parents are having a private cremation and then they will hold a celebration of life later this month, when relatives can travel to attend.
The grief comes in waves and it is also accompanied by feelings of love and inspiration - what a brave little guy to go through so much in his short life, and to share so many smiles and cuddles with his family and friends.
I'm starting back on the program again today - logging every bite and trying to stay under my calorie target. I feel ok about how I have eaten over the past week but I miss the structure and all of you.
I feel so lucky to have found this group - you are each so special to me, although we haven't met in person, I feel honored to walk through this journey with you all.
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Barb~
I feel the same about all of you in this group. My thoughts are with you! Warm hugs too!0 -
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Hi Julia, Yay for you being able to get some yard work done! The weather is beautiful here too, but I know we will have more snow and cold before spring truly arrives.
Barlovo, Good to see you again! I am glad you are back I have missed you!
Karen, It is good to see you too! I am always here for you!
Alice, I am so sorry about you being laid up, knicker shopping is just going to have to wait a little while. Take it easy and stay off that foot.
Cindy, Noodle, QT, NE, and everyone else Hi!
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Barlovo there's no time limit on grief. Just know that he'll always be in your heart. Hang in there my friend.
From one binger to another, this too shall pass Karen. It's hard to stray from habits but we are going to do this! Keep on keeping on!
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Thanks all for the support and angel pics
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Thanks QT and Liz, you all are my support. I couldn't do this without you. Thanks for being there for me.
Cindy; Thank you very much for your support. I appreciate you!
Barlovo, I second what QT said; there is no time frame on grief. I have lost many loved ones and still ask myself now and then why they had to go so soon, some young, some older. I just tell myself God needed them more than I did or they had a special mission in heaven or possibly were saved from a worse fate here on earth.0 -
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Hi All~
Today I was a little MIA (Wednesday)...I actually got some sleep! It was broken sleep but it was much needed and I feel better non the less! My days are so messed up because it doesn't become tomorrow until the middle of the next day for me!
Sending lots of good thoughts to you all! Going to do some serious working out today with my daughter!
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Hi Cindy, I worked nights for several years and don't think my sleep was ever what it should be. The kids used to laugh when they would come in from school and I would groggily tell them good morning. After awhile, that was just the way it was. Hang in there get the rest when you can. Have an awesome time working out with your daughter. 0
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Cindy. I'm glad you got some much needed rest. Workout motivation. Yesterday was a big day with delivery of a new hutch and moving things around so I'm just cooking and relaxing today. Back I. My working days at one time I worked the 4 to midnight shift. I didn't get to bed until. 2 am by the time I made it home. That was the worse work schedual for me even though I'm more of a night person. Have a great workout.0
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I'm going to post a longer post later tonight, but I wanted to duck in quick & say, I'm so glad to see you back Karen. I'm sorry things have not been going well for you lately. The fact that you're still here proves that you want to stick with it even though you've had a couple of set backs. I want you to look into Volumetrics. If you are hungry all the time no matter what you eat and you still feel the urge to binge, binge on something that has low caloric density. If you have to eat 4 bags of microwave popcorn before you feel the binge pass, so be it, it's definitely better than eating 5 or 6 or 7 candy bars. Believe me, I am not judging you in any way at all. I am a recovering binger myself and as a person who has driven to 2 or 3 different drive-thrus during one binge so it was less embarassing I completely understand. Truly, look up Volumetrics, it has made all the difference this time around for me.0
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I'm going to post a longer post later tonight, but I wanted to duck in quick & say, I'm so glad to see you back Karen. I'm sorry things have not been going well for you lately. The fact that you're still here proves that you want to stick with it even though you've had a couple of set backs. I want you to look into Volumetrics. If you are hungry all the time no matter what you eat and you still feel the urge to binge, binge on something that has low caloric density. If you have to eat 4 bags of microwave popcorn before you feel the binge pass, so be it, it's definitely better than eating 5 or 6 or 7 candy bars. Believe me, I am not judging you in any way at all. I am a recovering binger myself and as a person who has driven to 2 or 3 different drive-thrus during one binge so it was less embarassing I completely understand. Truly, look up Volumetrics, it has made all the difference this time around for me.0
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Noodle. Thank you so much. My therapist said to eat real food instead of cakes n candies but you are so right. If I had 5 mini bags of popcorn I would probably stop there and that would only be 500 calories vrs 1500 or more. It makes sense. I've looked up volumetrics before but really didn't pay attention to it. I will revisit it again. Thank you. It means a lot you took the time to help. Hugs.0
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Oh and I couldn't eat 5 candy bars. Lol. That would make me sick. I can eat 5 mini ones though.
One time in my life I did go to 4 different fast good places. I wasn't embarrassed though but I did want different things. I can even tell you what I ate that day. Chili cheese fries from del taco, Burger King a chocolate Hershey pie, yoshinoa beef rice and veggie bowl and lastly Jack in the box 2 tacos. I ate all except half of the beef m rice bowl. I remember it because I felt such shame. That's the only time I ever went place to place. Jack in the box tacos are on my abstain list. There's just something about those lil devils. Lol.0 -
Hi All~
I did NOT get sleep today and felt crappy all day!
I had plans to take Kyli to get an appointment set up for her hair for Military ball in April...while we were there she said," Mom you earned your hair cut you should just do it!" So I did...and it turned into a nightmare day! I had been researching shorter hairstyles that I liked...I googled fine hair with a round face styles and had it narrowed down to 2 I liked. I have been showing everyone that knows me well and getting opinions and every one had actually agreed with one of my choices pretty much unanimously so I showed the hairstylist and she said, "OH NO I hate when people bring pictures in. I don't think either of those will work for you"....I know....I should have walked right out but she started asking me a lot of questions about my job and schedules etc...like she really knew what she was doing. I figured she does this for a living so maybe she knows better...Well within 1/2 hr my hair was washed and cut already and I was NOT happy with it! I left there and sat in my car and cried! Poor Kyli was like "Mom it's OK it doesn't look that bad!" UGH!!! I cried harder! SO we went to Wal Mart to get some dye... Kyli wanted to "fix" it for me! We did NOT agree on color...I actually like my natural color so was going with similar color but she was like..."NO Mom! You wanted something different!" So I relented and figured at this point I already hate it and it will grow back right? She spent a lot of time coloring it and curling it and styling etc...I couldn't hurt her feelings so I didn't say anything but I feel like I'm having a mid life crisis all of a sudden! I have NEVER cared about my age...I don't celebrate my birthday but it's never been because I stress about my age... it's just always been just another day to me. I have always taken aging in stride...it's just a number...but right now I feel HORRIBLE! Kyli is turning 18 (this week end) and I feel more lost than ever! My "BABY" aging is hitting me harder than me aging! WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME??? I feel like I look OLD and HAGGARD lately and it's really bothering me! I am losing weight and instead of seeing positive changes in my appearance I see sagging skin on my chin and neck area which makes me look old and wrinkly!
Anyway...here it is...my new do...
So sorry I am such a downer lately! I truly don't know what my problem is! This is SOOOO NOT LIKE ME! My poor family!!! They don't know how to deal with the fact that I am completely NOT myself lately! I feel terrible for feeling this way!!
Liz~ The lack of sleep is never ending! My family thinks I'm crazy some times! I'm always asking what day it is!!!
Karen~ I hope things are getting a little better for you this week! I noticed you did well with your diary yesterday!
Noodle~ I hope things settle down for you at work soon!
aaliceinw~ I hope you have found a little comfort and relief from the pain!
Barlovo~ I saw what awesome dedication you have had! KUDOS my friend! I hope you are finding peace!
MdwstQT~ I should have stuck with a beautiful piece of jewelry as my reward lol! I could be looking at something lovely!
Everyone else...I hope you are all doing well!!! I miss you!
Have a FAB_U_LOSS day my friends!!!
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Cindy - In the pictures that you posted, the color looks very good. I can't really see a lot of the style. But please keep in mind, that as you wash your hair over the next few times, the intensity of the color will fade a bit. Within a week, it may very well be a color that you are happy with (and more use to). It also seems to work well with your natural eye brow color.
As you get use to the change, it may help you better define what style and color you want for your next cut. Your shape and lifestyle are changing. It's okay to try on a few new looks as you travel the path.0
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