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lauriekallis wrote: »Thank you both for sharing your holiday information. Not sure if you both celebrate for the same reason? @Athijade I read about Lughnasadh and think it sounds so wonderful. I was swooning at the grocery store today at the evidence of this years harvest rolling in. We are so lucky.
I think we are both some version of pagan, although there are as many different sorts as there are people identifying as Pagan. (The old joke is that if you ask three pagans a theology question you'll get five different answers!) I serve Hestia and Apollo mostly, but that's my own thing, and not a recognized denomination or something.
It's about harvest, but also given that many of us worship a vegetation-based deity it's the time of sacrifice. (If you worship a grain god, when you eat that grain you are quite literally eating his body.) So my tradition also thinks about and talks about the sacrifices you make in the process of choosing your true will and chosen path in life.
I don't bring my religion on here much, but the sacrifices I thought about this year are very much food-based and food practice based, and many of us have made the same decisions away from fast food, white food, sugar, etc. in order to get better health and wellbeing. But it doesn't mean that sometimes we don't still want that, or long for the times when we could eat everything we wanted and not think about it. And it doesn't mean that it's always easy. So at this point we honor that sacrifice...and other sacrifices made so we can have a good life, and celebrate the first of the harvest.
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Thank you for taking the time to share, Alexandra. Sometimes I feel so adrift that if feels good to learn about others ways of bringing/finding meaning in this life.2
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lauriekallis wrote: »Thank you both for sharing your holiday information. Not sure if you both celebrate for the same reason? @Athijade I read about Lughnasadh and think it sounds so wonderful. I was swooning at the grocery store today at the evidence of this years harvest rolling in. We are so lucky.
I am a Celtic Pagan so I celebrate a little differently then Alexandra. While it is still a harvest celebration to me, it is also a celebration of the god Lugh who is my patron. Lugh is known as the shining one, the silver tongued bard, and a god of many skills. In this way, the harvest is looking at the skills you have and have worked on through the last year, being thankful for them, and deciding where you want to go from this point forward.
It is also a funeral celebration for Lugh's foster mother Tialtiu who died clearing the plains of Ireland so that the people had a way to grow crops and survive the cold winter ahead.
So for me... I commune with Lugh and thank him for the skills he has gifted to me and helped me grow this year. I celebrate him and the sacrifice of his mother. I will make a "feast" (small since it is just me). This year was a roasted chicken with fresh herbs, stuffing made from cornbread and regular bread with fresh herbs, green beans, and a blueberry pie. I focused on what is bountiful at this time of the year as you can tell and got many of the ingredients from either my garden (the herbs) or the local Farmer's Market (the chicken, bread, green beans, and pie).
So in short, while I do celebrate the harvest, I do it with a focus on my patron and his connection to it.3 -
Thank you, Athijade. Your belief system is very compelling. I am intrigued and love how you and Alexandra have very distinct and personal connections. I am going to make a point of learning more. For spiritual reasons and because I can see how this is very much connected to how we feed ourselves and ultimately to our health and weight.4
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Last night, husband and I did an evening bike ride out to our favorite local lake and back. This time we extended it just a mile or so by going a bit beyond to go to Rita's and get some italian ice. I had mango, he had swedish fish flavor. It was a great ride, but omg my legs are sore after only 14 miles. We've been slacking in the bike department this summer. Maybe Sunday we'll try our longer ride (still only 22 miles).
I need to get my legs back in shape so I can do a short bike packing trip this fall (C&O canal towpath). I'd love to do the whole trail, but just don't think I'll have the time. It is 185 miles, and I'm not going to be in a place to do back-to-back 50 mile days on gravel lol.3 -
That past few days have been hellish. I hope that I'm ready to get back in the groove today. I guess I should be more assertive, but just don't want to go into the day being all cocky, because that hasn't worked yet.
Can't face the scale. I've eaten enough extra calories to legitimately add a pound and a half maybe? But that probably translates to an extra 10 on the scale today...lol.
Wish me luck. I don't like where I've been.4 -
lauriekallis wrote: »That past few days have been hellish. I hope that I'm ready to get back in the groove today. I guess I should be more assertive, but just don't want to go into the day being all cocky, because that hasn't worked yet.
Can't face the scale. I've eaten enough extra calories to legitimately add a pound and a half maybe? But that probably translates to an extra 10 on the scale today...lol.
Wish me luck. I don't like where I've been.
I wish I could do or say something to inspire you!…you have done so good so far….maybe reflect on why you lost weight to start and build on that…..keeping motivated is the hard part…we start feeling and looking so much better than we did in the beginning…if we don’t stick to it, sadly the pounds will come back…we are not normal people…we have severe eating disorders…hang in there Laurie….2 -
Make a bit of a plan of your can. Then maybe don't try for the big deficit on day 1, just get things under control within normal limits. Two three days of normal and then ramp a deficit again. And for me at least, if I HAVE to log it BEFORE I eat it ... it definitely cuts down on speed!2
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Thank you, both.
I do feel so much better, Connie. Been trying to remind myself all morning that I haven't gained back 100 pounds in two days - but I swear I'm almost afraid to look in the mirror or try to get dressed because it truly feels like I've lost everything I accomplished and I'm back where I started. My belly is a bit unhappy with me, but that is about it if I think about this clearly.
I like that idea PAV, especially since I have the Boy here soon until Wednesday evening when he is off to Newfoundland to visit his East-Coast Nan for 3 weeks.
Aiming for planned, pre-logged "maintenance" for a few days is a perfect (attainable???) goal. Maybe it will reset the circuit breaker (s?) that seem to be sending a shower of sparks everywhere. I'm probably personally responsible for the ridiculous heat wave hitting Ontario. Along with myriad other bad things. Forest fires. Pandemics. Tent caterpillars. Sand fleas.
The only good thing I've done is log everything - horrible as it felt.
Getting over this shame is important. I didn't kill anyone...other than some high calorie food. Not quite the same as being a cannibal - but wow it can feel like it.
And - remembering to eat! Eating is good. Necessary. Healthy even! No need to punish me with any "you don't deserve to eat for at least a week" recriminations.
Think I'll do something along the "eating something good for me line" right now.
The very thought is so much kinder, and productive than the berating thoughts buzzing around in my head.
Okay - gonna go log lunch now. Then prepare it.
Thank you, both. (gotta repeat that now that your words are starting to sink in and there is a bit of light coming in around the edges.)3 -
Loving it Laurie... including the concept of killing some high cal food
Wait till you see what I post based on Connie's idea (and trust me, it is filling!) 1 -
When our son made his first confession in Catholic school my husband I sat in the pews waiting for him….we waited and waited for him to come out….John and I looked at each other and my husband leaned over and whispered to me, “What did he do ?”…I shrugged and rolled my eyes….he finally came out, said nothing and we got in the car….we didn’t want to ask why he took so long when he spoke up and said, “Father Bob said at least I hadn’t killed anybody”….
See Laurie, all you did was eat a little too much….you are forgiven, my child!2 -
well, somewhere around mid afternoon, after the well planned and logged lunch, "they" were asking for it.
(twas better than the previous two days though)2 -
conniewilkins56 wrote: »When our son made his first confession in Catholic school my husband I sat in the pews waiting for him….we waited and waited for him to come out….John and I looked at each other and my husband leaned over and whispered to me, “What did he do ?”…I shrugged and rolled my eyes….he finally came out, said nothing and we got in the car….we didn’t want to ask why he took so long when he spoke up and said, “Father Bob said at least I hadn’t killed anybody”….
See Laurie, all you did was eat a little too much….you are forgiven, my child!
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Laurie, after seeing your post on mine, I know you can do it. I think your idea of prelogging at maintenance is a great idea. Once you feel like you have control back, then slowly drop your calories. It can be hard. I know that all too well. But you have support here.3
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Thank you, Connie. You cracked me up! And Athijade.1
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I reached out via FB messenger today to my former best friend, who I lost contact with 15 years ago when we had a petty spat and drifted apart (something that was totally my fault, and which I've bitterly regretted). Receiving my message after such a long silence, she could've been dismissive, hurt, offensive or rude. Instead she was gracious, lovely and generous-spirited. I was moved and grateful, especially as I totally don't deserve it.
She's battling not one but two VERY serious life-limiting, life-shortening illnesses with humour and stoicism. I'm glad she's back in my life, and I feel grateful to her for giving me a second chance without recriminations or spite.5 -
I joined in my first ever group cycle ride this evening (on Zwift) - it was an hour long ride of 18 miles and I wasn’t sure I’d be able to finish because I’ve only been cycling for 4 weeks and the furthest I’d cycled to date was 11 miles total, with a gap for coffee at the halfway point.
Anyway - I made it! I was one of the last to finish and my butt was killing me from minute 45 onwards, and I MAY have pulled a muscle in my groin, so I’m now walking like John Wayne, and I might need to sleep on the couch because walking upstairs is excruciating, and I couldn’t bend over at the moment to poop scoop 💩 🐶 if my life depended on it....but I finished! Does that mean I’m an athlete now, at the grand old age of 56? 😆🚴🏻♀️🏆
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I think it does!
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I am disappointed to wake up this morning back to a sore left knee. I have been undergoing gel shot therapy each week for 3 weeks. The last one went, let's say, less smoothly in the left knee. It took about a week for it to feel decent again but even though I didn't do much yesterday it must have been just enough to tweak it again. The therapy was meant to help stabilize but I think the last shot has, at least temporarily, made things worse.
I have been buried in commitments but I am hoping things will even out now for a time and I can spend more time here. I have read a bit and can see that, even though I am here less others keep stepping up to their fellow members improve their lives. The goal here has always been that we all be our own coach which means we should be able to help coach others.3 -
That must feel very discouraging. It is terrible to have such a basic thing as movement start to breakdown. I hope that this is a short-lived glitch for you.
A few years ago, I spent much time trying to figure out how in the heck I was going to get from one spot to the next. Desk to bathroom? Big problem.
I was lucky enough to find a surgeon who didn't say "you're old, you're overweight, you have arthritis" - instead he actually listened to my history, booked me for surgery, and remedied the leftover problem from a recently "healed" injury that was was causing acute pain over and over. I was still old, overweight and I still had arthritis, but thanks to him I walk about ten kilometers a day most days - sometimes 30!
I am now pleased to say that I am now younger
, lighter, and my arthritis is less problematic.
I will never forget what an amazing gift it is to be able to walk pain free (relatively!)
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I ran around like a crazy person today ( nothing new there! ) and finally got an hour of swimming in after dinner….this is not when I usually exercise so if I lose weight in the morning, this is when I am going to swim!2
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I am doing a Bible devotional titled "Food is not the enemy" and came across this tidbit:
Imagine what life would look like if…
… your appetite was proportional to your physical needs and you ate from a place of contentment?
Can you imagine??? How different my life would have been, how much mind space would have been freed up! I am going to ponder this one.
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I hope swimming at night is the magical missing piece!
I can't even get my head around that tidbit, Ladybug. Can't imagine it whatsoever.2 -
lauriekallis wrote: »I hope swimming at night is the magical missing piece!
I can't even get my head around that tidbit, Ladybug. Can't imagine it whatsoever.
Swimming after dinner is NOT the magic piece…..I was up 2 pounds this morning….I have decided it’s the temp outside….omg it is so hot and humid….I do not sweat a lot, I just get redder and redder….grocery shopping today was torture…..I have drank coffee, water, 2 Diet Pepsi and ate a pound of honey dew lol…2 -
Honey dew is probably great for you, especially if you're reddening! Take it easy, hey!
I do not like reddening... and I have DNA tests that prove that I'm all good to go for warmer climates... which is why I avoid them!2 -
I grew up in southern Indiana….I loved cold weather….why did I ever move here?…oh yeah I followed my parents here lol3
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Yes - probably the heat - it would have been nice if it was the magic piece though. Maybe time to just chill as much as you can - perhaps that is the magic piece!?
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It's not any better in Indiana right now. I am actively trying not to do anything, because I get in a sweat and feel awful.
That said, I rearranged the living room today. And after six hours I put it back cause the room is long and narrow, and it looked better the way it was. Broke a sweat the first time, but had help with the sofa the second time so I didn't. (It was also 9 pm. That helped.)
Then I made big apple-pecan-spice muffins cause Son is getting up at four for an interview across town at 7:30 am. The job would have him working from 6 am to 2 pm, and he likes those hours. We'll see if he gets it and if he gets it if he winds up still living with us here or if he moves back in with my mother (as she would live somewhat closer to the work.) I suspect he will live here as my mom drives him batty if he spends too much time there. I sympathize, as the same thing happens to me. But he and I get along very well and tranquilly. Probably because we're both autistic in the same style and both have ADHD, and we like each other and treat each other well. I consider that a great blessing, because not all children become people their parents can be friends with as adults.4 -
AlexandraFindsHerself1971 wrote: »not all children become people their parents can be friends with as adults.
i didnt speak to my daughter for about 2 years almost. she finally grew up, at least somewhat. her boyfriend im not crazy about. hes a nice enough kid, theyve been together since highschool, but wants a white collar income with only a HS diploma. which is certainly possible but wont come easy. He tried selling cars (for a month), now hes trying to sell life insurance and taking some class for that (ummm dont most people buy that online? we did...). My husband (who makes a six figure income) wants him to get an apprenticeship with him as a union sheet metal worker where he actually CAN make a white collar income (and killer benefits) and learn you know... skills. be able to take care of a possible family? but he doesnt seem interested. we talked to my daughter a bit about it, about how much he could be making in 3-4 years if he did this, how she could go to school like she wants, how theyd be able to move towards the beach where they want to be so badly, etc etc so maybe she could push him in that direction. doubt it will work. we will see though. we even offered to let them stay with us for the first month or two of his apprenticeship so they could save $ for a deposit on a place (they have their own place currently and a good rental reference but moving is expensive and we know this)
kids. ugh.3
