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Again, I wish there was more for you. Or have some wise words for you. I feel so helpless. But I can pray and I will.
I took some chicken soup to a family from our church. They have 5 kids and the whole family has covid.
We also went to Missoula today to stock up on things.1 -
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Bea I understand wanting to do or say more. I promise you that what you have provided in prayers means the world to me. You're such a wonderful, caring, supportive person.
Unfortunately this is my last Mom update as she passed today at 3:30 pm EST 😢. We were able to see her as they knew it wouldn't be long. We had to be masked, gloved, and gowned. But we got to touch her, see her and talk to her. It was really hard to realize that this time she was not coming back. I would have like some private time with her but would not ask my siblings for that as I was trying not to be a problem to my brother. I hope that someday they realize I am not who I was before.
Anyways this morning got up and dressed. Tried to do my studies but just couldn't seem to concentrate and felt very tired. Cuddled with Hubby on the couch then went back to bed. Got up, had breakfast, and some exercise. Still tired so skipped my main workout. After lunch went to work and was there for 30 mins before the call came. Not sure how much the plan will be stuck to for the next several days. But I promise to at least try everyday.0 -
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Do your best for the next few days, but don't expect too much for now. From my own experience, you'll always miss you mother, but it'll get easier as time passes.
I've just puttered around the house all day.
Take care!
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Thank you everyone for your condolences. Your support means the world to me.
Bea Thank for the message. I figured out pretty quickly that I can still control calories most of the time. So I am trying to be ok with just reaching that goal for now each day.
We had some snow today but it was enough for a light dusting. It made me feel like Mom approved of how her children were working together. She loved when it snowed and expecially the big fluffy flakes which we did have.
I am struggling with accepting that I just don't have the energy to do my exercise and studying. I want to workout and study but my body says sit and chill. Do to this struggle I am also struggling with the feeling of letting myself and Mom down. I promise you I know that taking care of me is most important. For me exercise is part of that but I just can't seem to do it. I also have had little sleep in the last 24+ hrs. I just can't seem to turn the brain off.0 -
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🌨️. Woke up to snow and a good amount of it. Struggled to get moving but did. Mom knew I needed movement and sent the snow. She knows that I will shovel as I can't stand dangerous sidewalks. Plus I just love the snow. So that was my exercise and it felt great to have a purpose to get me moving. Funeral service has been planned and photos found for the video. My Son has decided that he is going to serve at the funeral to honor his Nana because he said that's what she would have wanted. I am so proud of him and will tell him so afterwards. Tomorrow is a day at home. Not sure what I will do outside of ironing dress shirts and trimming Hubby's beard and hair. My sister has been turning to me for lots of advice with the funeral. It feels great to be needed by her and to help her. I hope this is a start to a new relationship with her. But if not I will enjoy the time she is allowing me to be so close.0 -
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Last night and the night before I was able to sleep better once I went to bed. Waking up feeling a little more normal is nice. More snow! Woohoo I got a little exercise in shoveling. Today's calories not all that great but that's ok I will not worry about it right now. Will get back on track schedule in a few days hopefully but we will see what comes next. Tomorrow is weigh day. I refuse to skip it to help keep me accountable. I have never missed a weigh day and won't start now. Not sure what it will show as I ate a whole big bag of chips for a snack today. It will be what it will be. Not looking forward to the next two days. Lots of people, lots of tears are on the menu. I am strong and will get through the next two days the best I can.0 -
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I think you're doing as well as can be expected. It's been a big blow for you. Just hang in there and do the best you can. You'll get back in the swing of things in time. It's great you're not missing your weigh-in days.
We got 4 inches of snow today. Other than going after the mail, I've been inside all day. Yesterday our church had a potluck dinner. I always mess up at them. As usual, I over ate. I did much better today.1 -
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I puttered around the house this morning, but this afternoon, I took Mary to PT and doctor appointment. She has one more PT on Thursday, then she's done!1 -
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I'm still praying for you. I understand exactly what you're going through. I gained 40 pounds in the next few months after my mother died. I want you to be careful not to do what I did. Remember, you still matter. Don't give up!
I was Loser of the Week at TOPS yesterday with 2.5 pound loss. I know that many chapters have scales that weigh to the nearest tenth of a pound. Ours is to the nearest half pound. I feel that the nearest half pound is close enough.
I'm organizing another dinner for a funeral. It's for a woman that tried to cure her breast cancer by eating healthy. It didn't work obviously. The funeral is on Saturday.1 -
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Today we went to Missoula for shopping, mainly for the funeral that is tomorrow.
Tonight we've been playing with Roku. Our DirecTV has been cancelled. So now we just have to figure it all out.1 -
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Bea you're amazing, an inspiration and a great friend. I pray that I don't gain anywhere near 40 lbs. I am lucky that I don't eat my emotions as much as I use too. I am more likely to not eat and just sleep.
Today my Mom's cat went to my friends until we can find her a new forever home. It was a lot harder than I expected. Monday we have someone who would like to see Sadie. I have decided that the sooner Sadie gets a new home the better for my Son and myself.0 -
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Good to see you here again! You're pretty amazing, an inspiration, also.
This morning, I was working once again on my bank statement. AT&T once again took out $95. I called them up again and I was literally yelling at them. And once again, they have no record of that payment. I told them that was the same rhetoric I was given a month ago. Once again I accomplished nothing. I went to our bank and cancelled my ATM card and got a new one with a new number. Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do!
I feel like I'm doing better now than what I've done in a few months in healthy living.1 -
I hope you soon find a home for your mom's kitty.1
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Had a whole post ready and it didn't post or copy.
Oh well. Long story short 😸 Sadie is in her new forever home.0 -
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I'm glad you found a new home for the kitty. I'm happy you're back also. I've lost big messages here also. It's frustrating!
We were in Missoula today. Robert had an eye appointment. His eyes are doing well, but not ready to have the cataracts removed. He thought he was ready.
We also did a little shopping.
We're going to Bozeman this weekend to celebrate a couple grandkids birthdays. Andrea is the big 21. Josh is 12. It's hard to believe that both are that old. I'm sure the eating won't be the best. We'll see!1 -
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I am so glad to be back! I am hoping that I will slowly get back on track each day. Got an update on Sadie this morning with a photo. She seems to be liking her new home so far. She has a favorite human there already.
I hope Robert can get them done sooner than later. He will notice such a difference. I have been told so many times about the differences. Color was the biggest.
Today was weigh in. Gained a couple of pounds but not worried. I know I can lose what I have gained. My Son managed to have a great loss. Not sure how he did it but still very proud of him. Today's sign that things are starting to get back to normal was I got up with my alarm and got things done instead of going back to bed. Tomorrow my brother is helping me move bins if not more from mom's to my apartment. Depends on if it is raining or snowing. I am so grateful that we are all getting along better. To bad it wasn't when Mom was alive. Better late than never I guess.0 -
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I thought I'd come in early because I won't have time this evening.
I woke up to a nasty surprise in the weather. We got 2 inches of snow during the nice and it was 6 degrees F. That's the coldest it's been all winter.
I went to TOPS this morning. I usually go early because I have the key to the building. I went to unlock the door and the key wouldn't go all the way in. I think there was ice in the lock. I wondered what to do. I thought that maybe the front door used the same key. So I tried it and BINGO! It worked! Then I tried the door we usually use, and it was froze shut. So I had to walk back around the building to get my TOPS bag out of my car. Then I had to watch for other members to point them to the other door. That's the first time all that happened.
I turtled at TOPS this morning.1 -
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Today has been a great day. My brother helped me move a bunch of bins, the freezer and all the frozen food among other things. I also got lots of things at home done, some exercise and studying. I can't believe it's been a week since Mom's funeral. Time seems to be flying by. I got an email from my school today checking in on me as they have not had correspondence from me in 3 weeks. So I am doing my best to refresh my memory of everything so I can send my first exam in.0 -
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More snow all day. Stayed in. Went through my Mom's craft bins. Didn't get rid of much but have a lot of projects and yarn. Tried studying this morning and started to fall asleep so went back to bed. It has been a sad and happy week. My uncle passed away, then an ex co-workers father passed away and my cousin and his wife had there baby. Got some more dishes and laundry done. Even played cards with Hubby for a bit.0 -
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It seams like a lot of people are dying this year and the year just started! We had 3 funerals in our church in January, 2 more of people that have connections to our church. You've quite a few that you're close to.
We made it safely to our son's home.1 -
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Bea - So glad you made it safely to your Son's.
Today was a great day overall. Sunny but bitter cold. Hubby woke my up around 4:30am 🙄. Got up and started my day by studying. Went back to bed around 7 am as I was tired. Slept for a couple hours more. The rest of the day was shoveling snow, laundry, Thank you cards for donations made in memory of Mom, cleaned for client then ran errands.0 -
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🌞 and freezing -15°c. Woke up at 5 am and studied. Also got some movement in, laundry and dishes. Also went to Mom's with my sister, brother in-law and Son. Got a lot more done. Only have 3 more Saturdays to get it done. Need to look into financing a storage unit as I have way to much stuff and a small apartment. I know there is more stuff I will be getting rid of eventually from my own personal stuff as Mom has some better things that I am replacing it with. My sister keeps laughing at me as we go through stuff because I keep saying I don't need or want anything then keep adding to my pile. It is a little funny but not really as I am starting to feel like a hoarder and I always complained that Mom had way touch stuff. Hoping to get my exam in the mail by the end of the week at latest but we will see.0 -
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Today started out normal with studying. Am stuck on a question that I was stuck on shortly after Mom passed. Sent an email requesting assistance. Hoping to hear back tomorrow. Ended up at Mom's to do more as my sister changed her mind and forgot to tell me lol. Originally she wasn't going today. Oh well most of the sorting is done. Just a little to finish up then just more moving stuff. Hubby and I are trying to figure out how to finance a storage unit with everything thing else. I believe we can do it just have to tighten our spending. Told him I am willing to give up Valentine's dinner for the unit. My son needs a place to sleep when here.0 -
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It was good to go visit our son's and their families. But it's also really good to be home and back on track! It's hard to eat healthy when you're at someone else's house for a few days and you're at their mercy for food. All the food tasted good, but...
When my in-laws and my own parents died we got way too much stuff. Some I wanted and some I didn't know what to do with. It left us with some tough decisions. Then what to do with everything! I know what you're going through.1 -
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Bea the important thing is that you got to enjoy your family.
Today was cloudy and cold. Enjoyed the walk with my son to and from blood lab even though my finger tips were frozen. Got more studying done waiting for him. Called to update my info on my life insurance. Found out that it had lapsed in 2020. I had been paying what Mom told me which was less than I was supposed to by $20. That wasn't the biggest issue. Mom also never changed the mailing address like she said she did. Again still not the biggest issue. When looked into proof that I had been paying it found out that I had been sending it to her life insurance company. So know I have to restart the policy and contact the other insurance company to try and get $$$'s of dollars back. On the storage front we can afford what we need but they changed policy last year and require a credit card on file. Well I don't have one. So still trying to figure that out. Also no response from the school yet when I last checked. Hoping tomorrow is better.0 -
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I hope it all works out for you! So many details!
I actually got outside and walked this morning. It's been so warm while we were gone that it melted most of the snow and ice. The streets were mostly ice free. I was able to avoid the bad spots. I did walk shorter than I used to because I'm used to walk on a flat space here in the house. I walked hills. According to Fitbit, I walked up 13 flights of stairs, which was the hills I walked up.
I stepped on the scales this morning. I was surprised that I didn't gain any weight. So my couple days of way too many calories must have vamped up my metabolism. I'm not complaining! lol1 -
Tomorrow is TOPS! Their scales may disagree me. lol1
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Bea your doing great! Even if the TOPS scale shows a gain you know it will be gone in no time. Glad you were able to get a walk in.
Today was rest and weigh day. Down 0.6 lbs! Woohoo! I hope this is a great sign for my journey. Found a place that doesn't need a credit card on file so looking more into it. It's farther from my apt and a bit more money. But is heated and indoors. Still waiting for a call back from Mom's insurance agent to see what they say about what I need to do. Cleaned at Mom's for a bit as well. Looks a lot better than it did. Also played a game of cards with Hubby. Have not heard from school yet so kept on with my studies and trying to figure it out on my own. Looked over the exam and think I know most of it so should have that in the mail in the next couple of days.0 -
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I'm in early today. I know I won't have time this evening. We have church tonight.
I went to TOPS this morning. I had only half pound gain. We were able to walk outside in the parking lot this morning before TOPS. There was one corner that was icy and that was easy to avoid. This is the first outside walk since before Christmas. It's the first time the parking lot wasn't covered in snow or ice.
My arthritis prevented me from having a good night sleep last night. I have more pain at night than any other time a day. I think it's because of lack of moving. I try to be up and moving every hour during the day.1 -
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Bea I am so glad your gain was not to bad. You'll have it off in no time. I am glad your group was able to get outside for a walk. Hope you find away to lessen your pain at night so you can sleep better.
Today has been a busy productive day. Mom's and my insurance are getting straightened out. I will have a storage unit tomorrow. These have been a major stressful few days for me. But not anymore. Also found out our TOPS group starts meeting again on Tuesday. I hope this is the extra nudge I need to get fully back on track. Today I actually considered and even wanted to do my workout. But obviously not bad enough to actually do it. But it's definitely a good sign. Got my email back from the school. A little frustrated as they did not provide any help. Just informed me that it's not a requirement to do the learning objectives unless I wanted to as they are not sent in or graded🤦. No kidding I am doing them to help me learn and do my best. Oh well as long as I pass my exams I will be good with that. Did the review test at end of chapter 2 and got 8/10 that's way better than chapter 1's review test when I got 5/10.0
