TMI Tuesday-single peeps version
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Since we talked about it last week here is the Tuesday thread.
My TMI is I havent had sex in almost 3 weeks :sad:
I'm gonna climb a wall
3 weeks?!? 3 weeks is nothing for most men out there. 3 months is a long time, but most guys I've known have had longer dry spells than that.
This is one reason why men have very little sympathy for women when it comes to sex and relationship issues.
What do the other men on here think?
Okay will this time put my neck on the chopping block in saying that in general women can much more easily get sex if they are determined to.
I don`t see where this is a mystery really as has been noted here before a guy is much more inclined to the physical rather then emotional so when a lady moves to that point (which btw despite stating otherwise happens a lot) it is going to be easier for her to "score".
A guy is expected to initiate by most women if discussion here is to be considered norm so he has to be subject to the response.
If a lady is horny and reaches out to a guy she is far more likely to succeed.
It really is not rocket science.
Agreed unfortunatly I had a BF which is why its been so long ... Should be able to fix it in the next few day lol0 -
I'm pretty sure my longest dry spell was when I was married. Of course it wasn't a dry spell for him.:explode:
Definitely not how it should be.
Agreed and really dislike how so many guys have no clue and worse yet desire to pleasure a lady.0 -
Since we talked about it last week here is the Tuesday thread.
My TMI is I havent had sex in almost 3 weeks :sad: I'm gonna climb a wall
3 weeks?!? 3 weeks is nothing for most men out there. 3 months is a long time, but most guys I've known have had longer dry spells than that.
This is one reason why men have very little sympathy for women when it comes to sex and relationship issues.
What do the other men on here think?
You are spot on Mike. Women in prime reproductive years can have sex pretty much whenever they feel like it. A one night stand/fling is easy to achieve. The sentence about women getting sex on demand doesn't even apply to the best looking women either. Women that most men would rate as below average will not have difficulty getting sex if they want to make it happen.0 -
This is one reason why men have very little sympathy for women when it comes to sex and relationship issues.
What do the other men on here think?
I'm confuzzled about this comment. Can you explain further? do you mean because you think we can get sex anytime we want?
good lord when I was going through my separation and divorce I went 2 and 1/2 years without sex. I think that desire just shuts off after a while. Then stupid young boy turned it back on. B@stard.
My TMI .. is that I may be in love with my Ocho Pinko! lol. It is seriously awesome. I just ordered Mr. Faithful or whatever it is called, but I am skeptical. My friends at the toy party say it is great .. but we will see.
Here is a funny tidbit of TMI .. one of the girls that loves the Mr. Faithful .. suctions it to her head board and uses it doggy style! WHAT?? lol .. I thought that was waaaaaaay too much TMI for the party, but the other women were like freaking out about it! I ordered it for a quieter version of a toy .. lol. Plus .. it is REALLY big and I want to check that shizzle out. ha!
All right, I need to stop now.
OH! I want to ask the boys .. they sell all these penis rings that vibrate .. any of you ever tried one? If so, do you like it?
He's called Mr. Dependable. Have fun! Don't be embarassed! My TMI- I suction mine in the bathtub :blushing: TMI? lol0 -
TMI : All this sex talk is making me think I should buy a fleshlight and give my hand a rest...0
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I had to google Mr. Dependable. I have to say he looks like fun but I need to have some other type of stimulation.:blushing:0
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TMI : All this sex talk is making me think I should buy a fleshlight and give my hand a rest...
my guys friends swear by their fleshlights0 -
Since we talked about it last week here is the Tuesday thread.
My TMI is I havent had sex in almost 3 weeks :sad: I'm gonna climb a wall
3 weeks?!? 3 weeks is nothing for most men out there. 3 months is a long time, but most guys I've known have had longer dry spells than that.
This is one reason why men have very little sympathy for women when it comes to sex and relationship issues.
What do the other men on here think?
You are spot on Mike. Women in prime reproductive years can have sex pretty much whenever they feel like it. A one night stand/fling is easy to achieve. The sentence about women getting sex on demand doesn't even apply to the best looking women either. Women that most men would rate as below average will not have difficulty getting sex if they want to make it happen.
Probably many will jump on this as worded because they will focus on the phrase "best looking women" and find an offense.
The truth of the matter is the last one though "if they want to make it happen".
That means putting aside the dream of an emotional connect,which most state but many will back burner if it gets to a point they wish to get satisfaction.0 -
Well, I'd kind of agree with the man's comment.
I'm confuzzled about this comment. Can you explain further? do you mean because you think we can get sex anytime we want?This is one reason why men have very little sympathy for women when it comes to sex and relationship issues.
What do the other men on here think?
good lord when I was going through my separation and divorce I went 2 and 1/2 years without sex. I think that desire just shuts off after a while. Then stupid young boy turned it back on. B@stard.
As a man you have these options for sex:
- Lie to a "normal" girl and pretend you are after a relationship (normal as opposed to easy target)
- Go for easy targets (i.e. lonely women/post divorce/low self esteem women/women with low success), sprinkle some lies on top of things to make it easier for you
- Be extremely hot at which point you get more partners than you can choose from (women will flock to you)
- If you're lucky, find a girl who wants casual sex or more likely... a FWB
As a woman, just raise your hand and say you want sex, men should more or less flock to you at this point.
This is why I don't really believe in "dry spells" for women...
And if you want to talk about relationships/meaningful sex, it is probably as hard for both genders to end up in this situation (although I would assume because many men will feel compelled to lie and pretend they are after a relationship to get sex compared to women who don't have to do this, a woman will probably not know immediately if the man is genuine or not whereas the man will know that the woman is likely to be genuine).
I have some sympathy for women and their relationships issues though, because we're all in the same boat here (more or less).
Tried it... It didn't do much for me (if it was supposed to). Perhaps should try again someday...OH! I want to ask the boys .. they sell all these penis rings that vibrate .. any of you ever tried one? If so, do you like it?0 -
OH! I want to ask the boys .. they sell all these penis rings that vibrate .. any of you ever tried one? If so, do you like it?
Vibrating sex rings are for women like condoms are ribbed for "her" plesure hehe..I have used vibrating rings and hot G-Vibes some gals like it some don't. However, if I am going to use a **** ring I usually use a metal ring not a plastic one that streches that defeats the purpose. So in the past I have put on a **** ring and 2 hot g-vibes (these little vibrators can be on the shaft not just at the base) and my GF at the time LOVED it but then my next GF said the g-vibes hurt cause of the added thickness...
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Here is a funny tidbit of TMI .. one of the girls that loves the Mr. Faithful .. suctions it to her head board and uses it doggy style!
Ummm....yeah. Can't get this out of my head either. Though I do enjoy things that vibrate and twirl around moreso. But still.
Hot. Intriguing. Hell, I'm going to have to open a window here in my office.
As for "dry spells"... try over 4.5 years ...in a relationship with my ex. Not just no sex... but NOTHING more than a little kiss now and then. His issues, not mine. And I didn't cheat at all either... till the very end. Sigh.0 -
Here is a funny tidbit of TMI .. one of the girls that loves the Mr. Faithful .. suctions it to her head board and uses it doggy style!
Ummm....yeah. Can't get this out of my head either. Though I do enjoy things that vibrate and twirl around moreso. But still.
Hot. Intriguing. Hell, I'm going to have to open a window here in my office.
As for "dry spells"... try over 4.5 years ...in a relationship with my ex. Not just no sex... but NOTHING more than a little kiss now and then. His issues, not mine. And I didn't cheat at all either... till the very end. Sigh.
You deserve a medal or sainthood for that one0 -
I know but for all of those 3 weeks I had a BF. Talk about the one time I should be getting the pipe all the time lol
Hahahahaha!!! That just made me choke from laughing so hard!
ROFL!!!!!! Ya....me too!!! :laugh:0 -
.. they sell all these penis rings that vibrate .. any of you ever tried one? If so, do you like it?
I've tried one of those with a lover. He loved it! But I'm not sure if that was because it was a bit different to anything he's tried before, and he was a freakin nutter!!! :laugh:0 -
I know but for all of those 3 weeks I had a BF. Talk about the one time I should be getting the pipe all the time lol
Hahahahaha!!! That just made me choke from laughing so hard!
ROFL!!!!!! Ya....me too!!! :laugh:
I'm such a delicate lady lol not0 -
A lot of my feelings on the topic are probably due to the fact that I'm a very physical and visual person. A lot of men are like this.. it's how we are biologically hardwired.
This is why men put things like sex and beauty on such an sky high pedestal.
Sex (and the pursuit of it) is extremely important to us. I'm sure it's important to woman as well, but just in a different for men. It's tough to explain.0 -
I haven't met a man yet who has met or surpassed my sex drive. I may be slightly less visual than a man.. but the physical aspect is extremely important to me. I seem to get into relationships with men who like sex..but don't crave or need it the way I do.
I'd like to hear how you think it might be different for men than women?0 -
I haven't met a man yet who has met or surpassed my sex drive. I may be slightly less visual than a man.. but the physical aspect is extremely important to me. I seem to get into relationships with men who like sex..but don't crave or need it the way I do.
I'd like to hear how you think it might be different for men than women?
I have this same problem. My recovery time is very short. I could have sex several times throughout the day and still be rarin' to go after I've rehydrated, hahaha! It's a wonder I ever get anything done!
Edited to add: It's why I also wouldn't want to have an open relationship - if my man is out having sex with other women, that's not enough sex for me! And I can hardly be bothered to find one decent partner, let alone multiple ones!0 -
I'm pretty sure my longest dry spell was when I was married. Of course it wasn't a dry spell for him.:explode:
I hear you there sister!I haven't met a man yet who has met or surpassed my sex drive
I hadn't up until the young guy. I miss that about him. lol. At first I thought it was age, but even when my ex-husband was that age, he didn't want it as much as i did. I have a very high sex drive .. always have. Which can kinda suck.
Very interesting about the rings. I wondered if the vibration did anything for men or if it hurt or whatever.
Now I am off to google what a fleshlight is ..lol0 -
I haven't met a man yet who has met or surpassed my sex drive. I may be slightly less visual than a man.. but the physical aspect is extremely important to me. I seem to get into relationships with men who like sex..but don't crave or need it the way I do.
I'd like to hear how you think it might be different for men than women?
No way to answer that and am only going by what many ladies here have stated regarding the subject and that is intimacy (sex) can and will only happen if they feel a deep emotional connection that takes time to develop.
Many of the same will also talk of having or desiring a FWB which no matter how rationalized is the antithesis of that.
So be it,how can such be explained?
Also remember that men are one and for a while done often.
That for a while can vary dramatically from some minutes to hours.
Each needs to learn to satisfy their partner as they are which for guys may mean taking care of her first and for ladies understanding the aftermath of an orgasm is different for guys.0 -
I'm pretty sure my longest dry spell was when I was married. Of course it wasn't a dry spell for him.:explode:
I hear you there sister!I haven't met a man yet who has met or surpassed my sex drive
I hadn't up until the young guy. I miss that about him. lol. At first I thought it was age, but even when my ex-husband was that age, he didn't want it as much as i did. I have a very high sex drive .. always have. Which can kinda suck.
Very interesting about the rings. I wondered if the vibration did anything for men or if it hurt or whatever.
Now I am off to google what a fleshlight is ..lol
It's because of the level of commitment involved. If I'm in a FWB situation with someone and it's casual and not serious at all, I'm always ready to go. If I'm in a serious relationship with a woman, my sex drive goes out the window.
Maybe it's my intimacy issues kicking in, but do any other men feel like this?0 -
I haven't met a man yet who has met or surpassed my sex drive. I may be slightly less visual than a man.. but the physical aspect is extremely important to me. I seem to get into relationships with men who like sex..but don't crave or need it the way I do.
I'd like to hear how you think it might be different for men than women?
I have to agree with this.0 -
It's because of the level of commitment involved. If I'm in a FWB situation with someone and it's casual and not serious at all, I'm always ready to go. If I'm in a serious relationship with a woman, my sex drive goes out the window.
Maybe it's my intimacy issues kicking in, but do any other men feel like this?
Interesting... guys? comments?0 -
Also remember that men are one and for a while done often.
That for a while can vary dramatically from some minutes to hours.
Each needs to learn to satisfy their partner as they are which for guys may mean taking care of her first and for ladies understanding the aftermath of an orgasm is different for guys.
I understand, and I don't complain (unless it's been a couple days and in that case we have a backlog to address). I've basically accepted it as a fact of life. Also, that apparently I was lied to my entire life about how men always want sex, and only want sex and blah blah blah. Not true, much to my chagrin (LOL).0 -
Pfffft, my dryest spell was 8 years. AND I was married to her and was never unfaithful throughout that marriage.0
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It's because of the level of commitment involved. If I'm in a FWB situation with someone and it's casual and not serious at all, I'm always ready to go. If I'm in a serious relationship with a woman, my sex drive goes out the window.
Maybe it's my intimacy issues kicking in, but do any other men feel like this?
Interesting! I wonder if it is because the type of person you would have something casual with and the type you have relationships with are quite different? This may be the case for me.
And Carl - I'm not talking about recovery time. My relationship partners have been satisfied with one or a couple times a week and they prioritize sleep or stress or other activities over it. Every day would be fine with me, and in my opinion, it makes stress and headaches better.. and I am always ready to sacrifice some sleep for fun!0 -
I haven't met a man yet who has met or surpassed my sex drive. I may be slightly less visual than a man.. but the physical aspect is extremely important to me. I seem to get into relationships with men who like sex..but don't crave or need it the way I do.
I'd like to hear how you think it might be different for men than women?
No way to answer that and am only going by what many ladies here have stated regarding the subject and that is intimacy (sex) can and will only happen if they feel a deep emotional connection that takes time to develop.
Many of the same will also talk of having or desiring a FWB which no matter how rationalized is the antithesis of that.
So be it,how can such be explained?
Also remember that men are one and for a while done often.
That for a while can vary dramatically from some minutes to hours.
Each needs to learn to satisfy their partner as they are which for guys may mean taking care of her first and for ladies understanding the aftermath of an orgasm is different for guys.
For me I never try to rationalize wanting sex. I like it, its fun and it satisfies a need. I dont need the emotional connection in order to have sex. However I wont jump into bed with a nameless stranger either.
Fleshlight also know as foofoos Jennifer. Lets put it this way mens toys are finally getting almost as interesting as ours.0 -
I'm so glad women seem to get less inhibited as they get older.
I totally agree that women can get sex anytime they want IF it's just sex they are looking for.
Men can too... we've just gotta pay for it... but I don't pay for sex. I'd rather *kitten* than PAY someone to have sex with me. I don't judge guys who use prostitutes... it might be their thing... it's just not mine. I need to have SOME emotional connection with the person I'm making love to.0 -
It's because of the level of commitment involved. If I'm in a FWB situation with someone and it's casual and not serious at all, I'm always ready to go. If I'm in a serious relationship with a woman, my sex drive goes out the window.
Maybe it's my intimacy issues kicking in, but do any other men feel like this?
Interesting! I wonder if it is because the type of person you would have something casual with and the type you have relationships with are quite different? This may be the case for me.
And Carl - I'm not talking about recovery time. My relationship partners have been satisfied with one or a couple times a week and they prioritize sleep or stress or other activities over it. Every day would be fine with me, and in my opinion, it makes stress and headaches better.. and I am always ready to sacrifice some sleep for fun!
I think it's just me and the kind of person I am. I've been in committed relationships and have been FWB with some very good women over the past 15 years. For me, it's something about the serious commitment thing that makes my sex drive go out the window.0 -
It's because of the level of commitment involved. If I'm in a FWB situation with someone and it's casual and not serious at all, I'm always ready to go. If I'm in a serious relationship with a woman, my sex drive goes out the window.
Maybe it's my intimacy issues kicking in, but do any other men feel like this?
Interesting! I wonder if it is because the type of person you would have something casual with and the type you have relationships with are quite different? This may be the case for me.
I could see that being true. If one is picking partners based on how they look instead of substance, it could make sense that when you try and develop a deeper relationship there's less to get "excited" about. That's happened to me before, I got to know a FWB and my interest in him died as I learned that he was just... boring and kind of dumb. So I upgraded.0
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