TMI Tuesday-single peeps version
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MEN- with all this talk I'm getting more curious. Women who have a high sex drive; is that not a turn on to you guys? :huh:
I like a women with a high sex drive, however I find all this talk about toys how you're shaving your business and so forth a turn off. I like finding these things out about women on my own instead of reading or hearing about it in lose talk. Isn't the female saying "leave some to the imagination??"
I would probably never say half stuff I say on here to anyone I was dating. Well at least not right away...though I am getting more comfortable with doing so as I get older.
Having said that though, I really enjoy that women (and men) can discuss things openly and hopefully without fear or judgement here. It is fascinating and honestly should help open up and remove some of the stigmas women face about their own sexuality.
Exactly. I'd never talk to a real guy about this but I feel safe here and like talking to you all.0 -
him being regarded as creepy.
I was just telling this girl the other day that any guy can be regarded as creepy... and explained that if a girl is into or attracted to a guy he could say something and it would be fine. However given the same exact situation a guy that the girl is not into says the same thing he could be regarded as a creep. There is a very fine line and I think a lot of us guys have come to terms with the best coarse of action is to keep our mouths shut!!
Can any guy in this group claim to have never been called or made to feel like a creep??0 -
Well it's not like we're posting pics of our vagoo's and comparing labias. THAT'S still a nice mystery for ya!
Wait, was this an option? Did I forget to check a box somewhere when I joined this group?
In all honesty, after the personal grooming thread and hearing all the different variations of hair down there, it could be interesting...:noway:0 -
As a matter of fact, if I'm planning on dating someone I will intentionally bring up sex, kinks and fetishes just to see if we're compatible before we even go the next step.
I think that's the right way to go.0 -
I don't think there's anything to be ashamed of.
Just to be sure, I wasn't trying to shame anyone and encourage y'all to continue... was just saying it's not particularly a turn-on for me in this environment.... that doesn't mean I don't find it interesting.0 -
him being regarded as creepy.
I was just telling this girl the other day that any guy can be regarded as creepy... and explained that if a girl is into or attracted to a guy he could say something and it would be fine. However given the same exact situation a guy that the girl is not into says the same thing he could be regarded as a creep. There is a very fine line and I think a lot of us guys have come to terms with the best coarse of action is to keep our mouths shut!!
Can any guy in this group claim to have never been called or made to feel like a creep??
I hear what you're saying, but actually I think the content and context of this group gives all men a pass!! Women on here actually do WANT your input! We are putting it out there in the full knowledge that creeps have an opinion too!!! lol this IS the internet and ANYone can read it!
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Well it's not like we're posting pics of our vagoo's and comparing labias. THAT'S still a nice mystery for ya!
Wait, was this an option? Did I forget to check a box somewhere when I joined this group?
In all honesty, after the personal grooming thread and hearing all the different variations of hair down there, it could be interesting...:noway:
You mean you didn't like learning that a good majority of us keep our nibbles and bits well maintained?0 -
I don't think there's anything to be ashamed of.
Just to be sure, I wasn't trying to shame anyone and encourage y'all to continue... was just saying it's not particularly a turn-on for me in this environment.... that doesn't mean I don't find it interesting.
I think it's hilarious that this talk gets us women all riled up the and some of the guys are going "Ewwwwww grody!"
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him being regarded as creepy.
I was just telling this girl the other day that any guy can be regarded as creepy... and explained that if a girl is into or attracted to a guy he could say something and it would be fine. However given the same exact situation a guy that the girl is not into says the same thing he could be regarded as a creep. There is a very fine line and I think a lot of us guys have come to terms with the best coarse of action is to keep our mouths shut!!
Can any guy in this group claim to have never been called or made to feel like a creep??
I am no alter boy,which some here can attest to,but yes even with ladies that have been overt,there have been times where they are uncomfortable with something even though they have done the same.
It can be a mystery and a guy,like it or not,needs to ask acceptance of racy things no matter what she may be saying or doing.0 -
As a matter of fact, if I'm planning on dating someone I will intentionally bring up sex, kinks and fetishes just to see if we're compatible before we even go the next step.
I think that's the right way to go.
I agree that such things are better out in the open. It's a deal breaker for me if a guy is into whips and chains!! So, I'd rather know before he sprung it on me 6 months down the line :noway:
I dont think I need to know about genital grooming tho, as that can be discussed and compromised on once I'm sleeping with him. Shaved, scaped or bush, it's not one of my deal breakers, so yeah, let the discovery prevail. :bigsmile:0 -
Well it's not like we're posting pics of our vagoo's and comparing labias. THAT'S still a nice mystery for ya!
Wait, was this an option? Did I forget to check a box somewhere when I joined this group?
In all honesty, after the personal grooming thread and hearing all the different variations of hair down there, it could be interesting...:noway:
You mean you didn't like learning that a good majority of us keep our nibbles and bits well maintained?
Actually I wasn't being sarcastic when I said I found it interesting. In a non-creepy way, it was fun to learn.
I was raised in a house where anything and everything was fair game to be discussed. So not modest at all and have no issue discussing sexual stuff.0 -
Well it's not like we're posting pics of our vagoo's and comparing labias. THAT'S still a nice mystery for ya!
Wait, was this an option? Did I forget to check a box somewhere when I joined this group?
In all honesty, after the personal grooming thread and hearing all the different variations of hair down there, it could be interesting...:noway:
You mean you didn't like learning that a good majority of us keep our nibbles and bits well maintained?
Actually I wasn't being sarcastic when I said I found it interesting. In a non-creepy way, it was fun to learn.
Ah, well, the emoticon threw me off then!0 -
him being regarded as creepy.
I was just telling this girl the other day that any guy can be regarded as creepy... and explained that if a girl is into or attracted to a guy he could say something and it would be fine. However given the same exact situation a guy that the girl is not into says the same thing he could be regarded as a creep. There is a very fine line and I think a lot of us guys have come to terms with the best coarse of action is to keep our mouths shut!!
Can any guy in this group claim to have never been called or made to feel like a creep??
I get what Poncho is saying and agree.0 -
Well it's not like we're posting pics of our vagoo's and comparing labias. THAT'S still a nice mystery for ya!
Wait, was this an option? Did I forget to check a box somewhere when I joined this group?
In all honesty, after the personal grooming thread and hearing all the different variations of hair down there, it could be interesting...:noway:
You mean you didn't like learning that a good majority of us keep our nibbles and bits well maintained?
Actually I wasn't being sarcastic when I said I found it interesting. In a non-creepy way, it was fun to learn.
Ah, well, the emoticon threw me off then!
Sorry, maybe a :blushing: or :drinker: would have been more appropriate. I know you and Carl have a ton more.0 -
Well it's not like we're posting pics of our vagoo's and comparing labias. THAT'S still a nice mystery for ya!
Wait, was this an option? Did I forget to check a box somewhere when I joined this group?
In all honesty, after the personal grooming thread and hearing all the different variations of hair down there, it could be interesting...:noway:
You mean you didn't like learning that a good majority of us keep our nibbles and bits well maintained?
:laugh: :laugh::laugh: @nibbles & bits!!!!0 -
Well it's not like we're posting pics of our vagoo's and comparing labias. THAT'S still a nice mystery for ya!
Wait, was this an option? Did I forget to check a box somewhere when I joined this group?
In all honesty, after the personal grooming thread and hearing all the different variations of hair down there, it could be interesting...:noway:
You mean you didn't like learning that a good majority of us keep our nibbles and bits well maintained?
Actually I wasn't being sarcastic when I said I found it interesting. In a non-creepy way, it was fun to learn.
Ah, well, the emoticon threw me off then!
Sorry, maybe a :blushing: or :drinker: would have been more appropriate. I know you and Carl have a ton more.
Yes, yes we do.
Anna, one of my hobbies is coming up with fun nicknames for genitalia. Because, clearly, I am a mature adult! Hahaha0 -
Since we talked about it last week here is the Tuesday thread.
My TMI is I havent had sex in almost 3 weeks :sad:
I'm gonna climb a wall
Mine is 3 months and likely counting for quite a while. :grumble:
So, who was the lucky lady then??? Anyone we know?? :bigsmile:
(Sorry, meant to ask this hours ago before it got all frenetic in here! lol)0 -
And my TMI is : I once snogged a woman..............and didnt like it at all - far too smooth!! :laugh:
(and I'm just telling you that cos I want someone to post No.200 in this thread today :bigsmile: )0 -
And my TMI is : I once snogged a woman..............and didnt like it at all - far too smooth!! :laugh:
(and I'm just telling you that cos I want someone to post No.200 in this thread today :bigsmile: )
That was post 199!
I've kissed several girls, liked it well enough, but I just don't swing that way except in extreme situation.0 -
And my TMI is : I once snogged a woman..............and didnt like it at all - far too smooth!! :laugh:
(and I'm just telling you that cos I want someone to post No.200 in this thread today :bigsmile: )
That was post 199!
I've kissed several girls, liked it well enough, but I just don't swing that way except in extreme situation.
Apparently I'm the adventurous one here!! All those years of repression :laugh:0 -
You kits are a distinct different then the norm for ladies here (sorry :flowerforyou: )
Most very often do seem to expect to want life to be in many conflicting ways.
Then I must be different from the norm as well. As a matter of fact, I would argue that many women are different from the norm in that they want to be on an equal footing in a relationship. Really the sole reason I'm not dating anyone at the moment is because I neither consider myself to be financially secure enough nor am I at a point in my chosen career where I would be anything but a burden. That completely rubs me the wrong way. I could never date a guy like Mike (sorry, Mike! Not an insult -- just completely different perspective :flowerforyou: ) who wants someone to take care of and depend on him for everything. I'm just too strong and opinionated for that. Sure, many guys here think I'm severely limiting my options, but after all, I only need one, right?
I think a lot of people (ok, me -- I really have no idea about anyone else!) come in here and find it almost cathartic to write a bunch of stuff -- but it doesn't mean they necessarily live their life that way. Sometimes, yeah, it would be nice to have a big, strong man take care of me after a hard day at work or yet another audition rejection. So, I may say something along those lines (although I don't think I've ever actually said that here lol) However, I know in the back of my mind that I'm holding off until I can meet someone who is truly my equal without anything holding me back -- cuz, for heaven's sake -- I only want to get married once!
How's that for taking a small comment and blowing it out of proportion?? You know I love you, right, Carl??
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BTW SB I'm glad you don't regret it. I honestly feel we shouldn't regret much in life. No one knows the whole story so no one but you can know what went on . I have a friends who was married to a man in a coma. After 4 yrs she got a FWB. When he died they married. She never wanted to divorce him because she was wrried that it would affect her legal medical rights and she wanted to honor his wishes. I cant blame her for finding comfort.
Exactly.
4 1/2 years in a relationship without sex deserves sainthood, not cheap moral outrage from people who don't even know her or her situation well. Or, as the Christians like to say, let's have those here without "sin" throw the first stone, shall we? Just so it will quickly quiet down.
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And my TMI is : I once snogged a woman..............and didnt like it at all - far too smooth!! :laugh:
(and I'm just telling you that cos I want someone to post No.200 in this thread today :bigsmile: )
That was post 199!
I've kissed several girls, liked it well enough, but I just don't swing that way except in extreme situation.
Yes, me darlin. I know I was 199 and I wanted someone to answer to make it 200, which you did, so woooohoooooo!! :flowerforyou:
Have you ever, you know? With a woman? lol That kinda makes me feel Ewww! :sick:0 -
:explode: Castadiva's head exploding. I can't even begin to respond adequately to everything that's gone on here, but I will say that Kitsune and Kate's responses to Carl (and most of the follow up) were spot on - there's a big difference between feeling cherished and cared for ie. 'protected' (and I would guess the vast majority of women would expect to return that to their partner in spades) and being dependent on someone for one's every need. The first makes us feel special (and gives us the warm fuzzies about you), the second infantilises women, particularly the independent, competent, amazing women who seem to populate this forum.
I think the fundamental misunderstanding is that when women talk about being 'protected' we tend to mean (I think!) emotional protection - we want an ally against a challenging and often-unpleasant world - and to a point, physical protection - men tend to be physically larger than we are, and women are taught from a very young age, generally speaking, to feel physically (and sexually) vulnerable. What I think our wish for 'protection' is often mistaken for, though, is a desire to be 'taken care of' - to almost have a child's status, rather than an adult's, in a relationship ie. being a dependent, in the old-fashioned manner of a 'wife', rather than being a partner, bringing our own strengths and weaknesses to the pairing, which is, I believe, what the majority of adult women of the current day seek in a relationship.
In relation to sex, as someone else said: We want the emotional connection. We need it to have a long-term relationship, but with the shift in sexual mores and norms, it has become increasingly difficult to find that, though it remains the ideal - the 'fantasy', if you like - so many sexually-liberated women are making sure their physical needs are taken care of via FWB, toys or casual sex. Women are entirely capable of making the pragmatic decision that acknowledges the reality of the situation, while still holding on tenaciously to the ideal/fantasy/fairytale. I don't really see what's so difficult to understand about that - I'm reasonably sure that's not just a female thing!0 -
I got some serious laughs from this thread.0
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I could never date a guy like Mike (sorry, Mike! Not an insult -- just completely different perspective :flowerforyou: ) who wants someone to take care of and depend on him for everything. I'm just too strong and opinionated for that. Sure, many guys here think I'm severely limiting my options, but after all, I only need one, right?
It's all good Katefab, no offense taken :flowerforyou:
This is going to sounds stereotypical w/ me painting with an extremely wide brush here.. but in my travels and experience, I've noticed women from the northeast (I see Katefab is from NH) usually HATE me. Maybe women from that part of the country are more independent and opinionated than other parts of the country? Yeah, I don't get along with women like that.
I've butted heads with more women when I lived in Boston 10 years ago than I have since I moved to south Florida. I go from being a square peg in a round hole in the northeast to being an absolute perfect fit in Florida.
I've only been to Europe once.. but I can tell that I wouldn't fit in at all there. LOL
I don't want to turn this into a North vs South or East coast vs West coast debate, but do you think people with a certain personality fit in better in some parts of the country than others?0 -
This is going to sounds stereotypical w/ me painting with an extremely wide brush here.. but in my travels and experience, I've noticed women from the northeast (I see Katefab is from NH) usually HATE me. Maybe women from that part of the country are more independent and opinionated than other parts of the country? Yeah, I don't get along with women like that.
I've butted heads with more women when I lived in Boston 10 years ago than I have since I moved to south Florida. I go from being a square peg in a round hole in the northeast to being an absolute perfect fit in Florida.
Just a thought...How many world-class Universities and Blue-Chip-or-similar Headquarters are there in the greater Boston area/the North-East and how many in Southern Florida??? I don't mean at all to suggest that all in Boston are clever or that all in Southern Florida are not, but chances are that there's a higher percentage of highly-educated, intelligent women more interested in the state of the world than the state of their tan in the North East. Given your preferences, Mike, it makes sense you'd find more women to your taste in Florida than Boston.0 -
I don't want to turn this into a North vs South or East coast vs West coast debate, but do you think people with a certain personality fit in better in some parts of the country than others?
Hahaha!! I was just saying this yesterday. Yes, I do believe there is truth to this. I've lived all over the country (grew up in WI, but have lived in NY, AK, TX, HI and now VA). I had no time dating in WI growing up. That's where I was raised, that's what I knew. I lived on a military base in NY and was married after 2 years, then was married when I lived in AK & TX, so I can't speak much for either of those.
After my divorce in HI, I was able to meet men with no problem. I'd go to the beach, the store, even my son's school. There was no shortage of available, approachable men. These were men that were successful, attractive and highly desirable. However, I knew that I would not be staying on the island much longer, so I didn't reciprocate much other than having fun.
When I moved to VA, it was much different. They don't approach, unless they are drunk at a bar. And, I just don't go out to bars that often. The types of men are also different here. Either completely blue or white collar, no inbetween. The blue collar want their women to be country, the white collar want their women to be stepford wives. Yes, there are a few exceptions, but those seem to be the people that have moved here. lol I visit friends in the DC area a lot, as well as VA Beach. Each time, I have no problems meeting men. It's tempting to pack up and move. But, I placed my roots here and the kids are finally feeling a sense of "home". So, I'm stuck for the time being.0 -
This is going to sounds stereotypical w/ me painting with an extremely wide brush here.. but in my travels and experience, I've noticed women from the northeast (I see Katefab is from NH) usually HATE me. Maybe women from that part of the country are more independent and opinionated than other parts of the country? Yeah, I don't get along with women like that.
I've butted heads with more women when I lived in Boston 10 years ago than I have since I moved to south Florida. I go from being a square peg in a round hole in the northeast to being an absolute perfect fit in Florida.
Just a thought...How many world-class Universities and Blue-Chip or similar Headquarters are there in the greater Boston area, and how many in Southern Florida??? I don't mean at all to suggest that all in Boston are clever or that all in Southern Florida are not, but chances are that there's a higher percentage of highly-educated, intelligent women more interested in the state of the world than the state of their tan in the North East. Given your preferences, Mike, it makes sense you'd find more women to your taste in Florida than Boston.
Actually I live in Sf and we have some of the premier hospitals and some very good universities here. I think what it boils down too is the difference in cultures. SF has a much higher percentage of hispanic people vs boston (vs almost any state) . Speaking as a hispanic female we are raised to expect a man to take care of us. If you've ever been to a hispanic party you'll see the women cater to the men alot. We make their plates of food and make sure they have fresh beers.Not that the men dont show their affection as well but the women display alot of nuturing habits to show affection. As independent as I am when I have a bf I do this its just part of the training. Hell when I make dinner I set up plates for every single person in the house before serving myself even if said people arent in the house at the time lol.0 -
And my TMI is : I once snogged a woman..............and didnt like it at all - far too smooth!! :laugh:
(and I'm just telling you that cos I want someone to post No.200 in this thread today :bigsmile: )
That was post 199!
I've kissed several girls, liked it well enough, but I just don't swing that way except in extreme situation.
Me too. It's nice... different.0
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