I confess- Single Peeps version
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Same. Then I try because they were all flirty and talking about getting together, and get either laughed at or completely ditched. Then I wind up being their shoulder to cry on when another girl hurts them (can you tell that last part happened to me today?)
So someone laughed at you and/or ditched you and then you still turned up when they needed a shoulder?!
Oh HELL no. Ninja, if I am interested in more than friendship from a guy I am NOT his friend to be there to comfort him while he dates other ladies. Especially not if I told him how I felt and he LAUGHED/DITCHED me.
AGREED. This behavior would teach me that you neither want, deserve or expect any respect from me as a potential partner.
But the thing is he isn't a "potential partner." He has made it clear that he doesn't like you/me, so why not continue to be his friend if you like him?
All the guys I've crushed on before have been really good guys and even if they know I like them and they don't like me, they're still fun to be with (but these aren't guys that have laughed or ditched me, that has never happened to me) and they don't appear to be awkward around me. In fact, one of the guys that I liked actually came up to me last year after I lost 50 pounds and told me I was really pretty.0 -
Ok that does it.. You .Christine and Kits are coming to Miami (cause I said so) and Kits and I are gonna train you 2 properly ... Shopping make overs and flirting lessons ASAP
Haha sounds like a plan! Just gotta do it soon because I'm moving to Russia or Turkey (haven't decided which offer to accept yet) in August! :P
If your moving that far away now is the time to get in all the practice you can...
1. stop watching romantic comidies they are brain posion..The girl who lets the guy cry on her shoulder over another girl is never gonna get that guy...
2. Get you make over now, grab a friend who is not afraid to tell you the truth ,(I find gay men work really well here) and have them go to the salon and shopping with you.They will tell you what works and what is hidious .
3.. Practice, your not gonna see the people where your living at now for a very long time if eve.. Use them as flirt toys , find out what works for you so when you move your ready to start looking around seriously.......
If you never take your first step into handling your *kitten* you will never get anywhere0 -
Ok that does it.. You .Christine and Kits are coming to Miami (cause I said so) and Kits and I are gonna train you 2 properly ... Shopping make overs and flirting lessons ASAP
Haha sounds like a plan! Just gotta do it soon because I'm moving to Russia or Turkey (haven't decided which offer to accept yet) in August! :P
Oh my gosh that is exciting! Congratulations for you!I don't understand dating protocol anyway. I've had one boyfriend in my life, and have only been on, like, two first dates. I'm completely clueless.
We are sooo similar haha. Except I've not had a boyfriend.0 -
If your moving that far away now is the time to get in all the practice you can...
1. stop watching romantic comidies they are brain posion..The girl who lets the guy cry on her shoulder over another girl is never gonna get that guy...
2. Get you make over now, grab a friend who is not afraid to tell you the truth ,(I find gay men work really well here) and have them go to the salon and shopping with you.They will tell you what works and what is hidious .
3.. Practice, your not gonna see the people where your living at now for a very long time if eve.. Use them as flirt toys , find out what works for you so when you move your ready to start looking around seriously.......
If you never take your first step into handling your *kitten* you will never get anywhere
Haha I'm not a huge fan of romantic comedies, and I'm actually going to a Mary Kay make-over party on Sunday. It'll be my first make-over ever! I'm not sure whether I should be excited or terrified...
This will be my fourth time making a huge move abroad. Is it weird I'm more nervous about getting a make-over than moving to another country?
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This will be my fourth time making a huge move abroad. Is it weird I'm more nervous about getting a make-over than moving to another country?
You know what is hilarious? I would be terrified to travel to another country (besides an English-speaking country) alone or even with someone, let alone live somewhere in Europe where they don't speak English as a primary language. You have more courage than I'll ever have!
It just goes to show that everyone is scared/fearful of different things.0 -
make them have really naughty sex 20
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i confess... I love being single.0
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Same. Then I try because they were all flirty and talking about getting together, and get either laughed at or completely ditched. Then I wind up being their shoulder to cry on when another girl hurts them (can you tell that last part happened to me today?)
So someone laughed at you and/or ditched you and then you still turned up when they needed a shoulder?!
Oh HELL no. Ninja, if I am interested in more than friendship from a guy I am NOT his friend to be there to comfort him while he dates other ladies. Especially not if I told him how I felt and he LAUGHED/DITCHED me.
AGREED. This behavior would teach me that you neither want, deserve or expect any respect from me as a potential partner.
But the thing is he isn't a "potential partner." He has made it clear that he doesn't like you/me, so why not continue to be his friend if you like him?
All the guys I've crushed on before have been really good guys and even if they know I like them and they don't like me, they're still fun to be with (but these aren't guys that have laughed or ditched me, that has never happened to me) and they don't appear to be awkward around me. In fact, one of the guys that I liked actually came up to me last year after I lost 50 pounds and told me I was really pretty.
because you can be nice and be his friend without allowing him to see you in a light that will ensure that he never shows up one day and says.... YOU.
My closest friends, with the exception of Jen - even my bestie is a man. But we've all taught each other to have mad respect for each other as well. No one has to be the punching bag or the box of Kleenex in order to earn the other person's extended friendship.
If you are crushing on a guy friend, and you try to drop hints and he laughs at you, then he cries to you about another girl - and you allow him to pretend that you don't have feelings - it's telling him that it's ok for him to be selfish in this friendship and that your feelings dont matter.
If that is what you want him to understand - then dont ever make your friendship fair or dont ever make your friendship a relationship in which you need to be a priority.0 -
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I've been sitting here thinking if I've ever crushed on a friend?
I dont think I have!! Or if I have, it's never been for long because I've made my intentions known. And if it's not been reciprocated, well, I either lose the crush and friend zone him, or he's not my friend anymore.
But usually, if I fancy someone, it's a totally different dynamic to friendship.
I agree with Kits and Jen. If you want a guy, you need to FLIRT!! You need to let him know you're interested. How will he ever know if you dont make it clear? You dont treat a love interest the same as any old friend. If you do, you'll be friend zoned. Simple as that really :flowerforyou: .0 -
If you are crushing on a guy friend, and you try to drop hints and he laughs at you, then he cries to you about another girl - and you allow him to pretend that you don't have feelings - it's telling him that it's ok for him to be selfish in this friendship and that your feelings dont matter.
I don't think that is fair though...just because I like him and he doesn't like me (and doesn't laugh at me for it) means that he is selfish? People have un-reciprocated love all the time. It's not his fault that I like him.0 -
0_o *starts checking airline fares to Miami*make them have really naughty sex 2
San Diego is cheaper.
JUST SAYIN0 -
0_o *starts checking airline fares to Miami*make them have really naughty sex 2
San Diego is cheaper.
JUST SAYIN
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If you are crushing on a guy friend, and you try to drop hints and he laughs at you, then he cries to you about another girl - and you allow him to pretend that you don't have feelings - it's telling him that it's ok for him to be selfish in this friendship and that your feelings dont matter.
I don't think that is fair though...just because I like him and he doesn't like me (and doesn't laugh at me for it) means that he is selfish? People have un-reciprocated love all the time. It's not his fault that I like him.
No, but the fact that he can dismiss your feelings and even after he knows you feel continue to act as though nothing happened shows that he doesn't care about you.
One of my friends told me he liked me a few years ago and I had to tell him I didn't think about him that way, but I never then talked to him about other guys I was interested in again, I certainly didn't have him help me plot to set him up with one of his friends, or cry to him is someone hurt my feels.0 -
A little late to this conversation, but this is the story of my life! I always end up having a crush on a guy friend- and its normally the ones thats way outta my league. And I always end up cheering them on in their love pursuit for someone else!
Last week, one guy that I had a tiny crush on (I'll admit that I'm kinda over it) asked me to be his swing dance partner because he knew I could dance well. Then, told me that he was writing a love song for the girl(not me) that he likes and he wanted to run some lines by me to see if I thought they were cheesy.
I said no. They were pretty cheesy though. 0 -
If you are crushing on a guy friend, and you try to drop hints and he laughs at you, then he cries to you about another girl - and you allow him to pretend that you don't have feelings - it's telling him that it's ok for him to be selfish in this friendship and that your feelings dont matter.
I don't think that is fair though...just because I like him and he doesn't like me (and doesn't laugh at me for it) means that he is selfish? People have un-reciprocated love all the time. It's not his fault that I like him.
No, but the fact that he can dismiss your feelings and even after he knows you feel continue to act as though nothing happened shows that he doesn't care about you.
One of my friends told me he liked me a few years ago and I had to tell him I didn't think about him that way, but I never then talked to him about other guys I was interested in again, I certainly didn't have him help me plot to set him up with one of his friends, or cry to him is someone hurt my feels.
I definately agree with this. Most of the guys that I've liked, didn't really know that I thought of them that way... so crying on my shoulder wasn't really a jerk thing to do.
But I think that its very inconsiderate of someone to mess with your mind like that, just because he's seeking comfort.0 -
A little late to this conversation, but this is the story of my life! I always end up having a crush on a guy friend- and its normally the ones thats way outta my league. And I always end up cheering them on in their love pursuit for someone else!
Last week, one guy that I had a tiny crush on (I'll admit that I'm kinda over it) asked me to be his swing dance partner because he knew I could dance well. Then, told me that he was writing a love song for the girl(not me) that he likes and he wanted to run some lines by me to see if I thought they were cheesy.
I said no. They were pretty cheesy though.
I guess if you're gonna write a song it should be cheesy! If a guy sang me a song I'd rather it be super cheesy than serious. But yeah, know where you're coming from as well. I'm known as the advice giver of my friends so I got to hear it all from the guys about what girls they liked.0 -
I confess I just read this quote and thought of how perfectly it describes my love life. haha. sad.
“We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope”-Martin Luther King, Jr.0 -
A little late to this conversation, but this is the story of my life! I always end up having a crush on a guy friend- and its normally the ones thats way outta my league. And I always end up cheering them on in their love pursuit for someone else!
Last week, one guy that I had a tiny crush on (I'll admit that I'm kinda over it) asked me to be his swing dance partner because he knew I could dance well. Then, told me that he was writing a love song for the girl(not me) that he likes and he wanted to run some lines by me to see if I thought they were cheesy.
I said no. They were pretty cheesy though.
I guess if you're gonna write a song it should be cheesy! If a guy sang me a song I'd rather it be super cheesy than serious. But yeah, know where you're coming from as well. I'm known as the advice giver of my friends so I got to hear it all from the guys about what girls they liked.
I hear ya! I'm the advice giver too! Apparently single gals with few/no relationships are dating geniuses... Who knew?0 -
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. This thread is giving me a head ache. I think some of you ladies need to go to Wal Mart, find a doormat. Remove the tag and tattoo it to your forehead.
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A little late to this conversation, but this is the story of my life! I always end up having a crush on a guy friend- and its normally the ones thats way outta my league. And I always end up cheering them on in their love pursuit for someone else!
Last week, one guy that I had a tiny crush on (I'll admit that I'm kinda over it) asked me to be his swing dance partner because he knew I could dance well. Then, told me that he was writing a love song for the girl(not me) that he likes and he wanted to run some lines by me to see if I thought they were cheesy.
I said no. They were pretty cheesy though.
I guess if you're gonna write a song it should be cheesy! If a guy sang me a song I'd rather it be super cheesy than serious. But yeah, know where you're coming from as well. I'm known as the advice giver of my friends so I got to hear it all from the guys about what girls they liked.
I hear ya! I'm the advice giver too! Apparently single gals with few/no relationships are dating geniuses... Who knew?
Hahaha is so true!!0 -
I confess I just read this quote and thought of how perfectly it describes my love life. haha. sad.
“We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope”-Martin Luther King, Jr.
Love it. Just watched Mad Men and MLK jr died so he's been on my mind today.0 -
I confess I just read this quote and thought of how perfectly it describes my love life. haha. sad.
“We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope”-Martin Luther King, Jr.
Love it. Just watched Mad Men and MLK jr died so he's been on my mind today.
I'm on season 4! Trying to catch up! JFK just died0 -
I confess that dating got a whole lot easier when I realized that love is not a fairy tale and there is no white knight. The end.
ETA - I do understand that is a realization that you each need to come to at your own speed, but once you figure it out you'll feel a lot better about yourself and dating in general...0 -
I confess, after 7 months of been played, I don't even feel heartbroken anymore.0
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I confess I just read this quote and thought of how perfectly it describes my love life. haha. sad.
“We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope”-Martin Luther King, Jr.
Love it. Just watched Mad Men and MLK jr died so he's been on my mind today.
I'm on season 4! Trying to catch up! JFK just died
It is seriously the best show ever.0 -
I confess that dating got a whole lot easier when I realized that love is not a fairy tale and there is no white knight. The end.
ETA - I do understand that is a realization that you each need to come to at your own speed, but once you figure it out you'll feel a lot better about yourself and dating in general...
Words of wisdom here! Great job Mud!0 -
I confess that dating got a whole lot easier when I realized that love is not a fairy tale and there is no white knight. The end.
ETA - I do understand that is a realization that you each need to come to at your own speed, but once you figure it out you'll feel a lot better about yourself and dating in general...
It does take alot of pressure off of both parties to realize it's not a fairytale. I like what Jenbit said about not watching romance movies, we kinda set ourselves up.0 -
I confess, after 7 months of been played, I don't even feel heartbroken anymore.
Did you play Kelly Clarkson/ man-hating music in your car and sing along really loud? Man-hating music= easiest way to get over a heart break!0 -
I confess, after 7 months of been played, I don't even feel heartbroken anymore.
Did you play Kelly Clarkson/ man-hating music in your car and sing along really loud? Man-hating music= easiest way to get over a heart break!
hahahahah I listened to her at work! Stronger :P lol0
