Thank you so much for starting this group. I need yo finish reading back. But I wanted to say hello and jump in here. I am looking at 55 yoa just down the street. And have officially wemt 12 months with no TOM. Never really had flashes and husband says the mood swings were not nad at all, but the weight is an issue. We live a very avtive lifestyle and try to eat as good as possible. I am lopkong forward yo hangong put with you gals and kicking some meno butt.

Hello everyone. Today was voting day, and as usual I was multi tasking. Food shopping in the morning. Then my daughter and granddaughter popped in.
I was going to vote when they went. As soon as they left, we had an awful storm and heavy rain. I wondered if it was an omen. Maybe whoever it was didn't want me to go.
After about an hou the sun came out and I voted and went for a long walk.
Food wise I am getting the hang of my fitness pal. It's taking me a while to adjust to counting calories.
I hope you are all having a good day

the ticker can be shown in lots of different ways and you can opt to show it in posts or not in posts. easiest way to get to where to change it is to click on your own picture. on that page you should have a simple ticker and under it is where you click to get to your edit pages for the ticker.

Highest on my wish scale atm is a air-condition. this apartment is horrible warm days. all windows is to the sunny side and nothing shades the complex. opening windows is no fun as traffic noise is loud but when its warm like today there is no option.

think I'm gonna go to a grocery store tomorrow and stand in the freezer section pretending i forgot what i needed to buy :laugh:
i did that when i was pregnant a lot. my husband and i went shopping i stood in freezer section and he walked around adding stuff to cart and then came to me and asked stuff when done he went to cash register paid and loaded car then called me to say honey enough cooling time we are done.

luckily our house that I'm returning to in less then a week is really shaded so among all friends and relatives ours is usually the coolest. not so good in winter but sure liked during summer.

today have been a lazy day walked so much yesterday i decided today would be a semi rest day. got boxes for the move bought though so my daughter can start her packing.

have a nice evening soon bedtime here.

Wow, I just looked back on my last post and I must have been on something with all that bad spelling!!!
Yesterday I did an hour of zumba and walked 3 miles, and my food went well. And now we start another day. It seems no matter how much I eat MFP still tells me I am eating to few calories. I have not seen te scales move in weeks!

Checking in on this beautiful, but warm, day. Starting my weekend with a nice walk to and from the gym, with a 30 minute gym workout. I am very happy that I logged all of my food and drink yesterday. First time in months. Hoping to keep that going.

Everyone have a wonderful Friday.

Wow, I just looked back on my last post and I must have been on something with all that bad spelling!!!
Yesterday I did an hour of zumba and walked 3 miles, and my food went well. And now we start another day. It seems no matter how much I eat MFP still tells me I am eating to few calories. I have not seen te scales move in weeks!

to jollyquilter

Not sure how much you know about MFP calories BMR and eating to little and how exercise counts but I'm gonna write this to all so will write as if was telling one that was new to dieting.

to start with if you stay in bed all day and do absolutely nothing else your organs still need energy to keep you alive. for the body to take from your fat to keep your heart ticking and all your other organs working is not healthy and this is why eating to little could really mess your metabolism up. The amount of calories your body needs to do this job is called BMR, basic metabolic rate, and there are lost of different calculators for this on the net. try a few different ones and set yours to the golden middle. this amount of calories you should never eat below.

MFP will ignore BMR and will set calories to what its users want , so if you are having like 100+ pounds to loose and set it i want to loose 4 pounds a week you are likely to be told to eat below your BMR.

Now MFP thinks you should eat back all your calories that you burn exercising and its possible to loose weight that way but could easily make you not loose at all. MFP estimates burned calories a bit high in many different exercises so lets say i walk and burn according to MFP 500 calories but in reality it was 350 that i burned then if i ate it all back i actually ate 150 calories to much.

Now according to most fitness trainer you don't have to eat all kind of exercise back.
--low intensity (you can sing while doing this) you do not have to eat back at all no matter how much you burn its ok to only eat your BMR that day
medium intensity (you can't be singing but you can say a full sentence) calories burned this way you should eat some back but you --do not have to eat all of the burned amount back. eat BMR + some
--High intensity (its hard to talk) here trainers say your body needs to eat all of it back and if you don't want to loose muscle mass its important to eat enough protein. most trainers say enough protein is 2 grams /kilo you weigh. so if your 70 kilo you should eat 140 grams of protein/day if you do loads of exercise. so eat BMR + all you burned

now about macros.

protein all of us needs it and whats safe there is different opinions about but as far as i have found you should never eat less than 0.5 grams/kilo body weight. Personally i eat 2 grams if i do lots of exercise and never below 1 gram even if i sit still as protein keeps my hunger away.

fat there are lots of different diets some with low fat some with high but almost all doctors agree that eating to little fat is more dangerous than eating to much and the number i been able to find here is that women should eat at least 30 grams of fat every day.

Carbohydrates. this is a really talked about macro so i won't bother to say more but that the amount of carbs you eat is your own preference as long as the fat and protein is at safe levels.

feel free to ask for help calculating your needs in a message to me or ask any thing you like. I'm not a professional in dieting but i sure have read a lot about it.

Lis

I went for a 6 km walk today, despite the drizzle. Have watched my salt intake (and night snacking) and the scale has rocketed down 5 pounds in total in two days. No wonder I was feeling bloated. I am going to a wedding BBQ tonight and pledge to keep my calories under maintenance. Tomorrow is the wedding with a promised prime rib dinner. Not one of my favourites so it should be easy for me to give DH part of the slab. Have a great weekend, and long weekend for my American friends.

Thanks Everyone! Went for a walk at lunch with the girls from the office I have always done this diet and that like you said
however this time I am counting calories and going to move more and YES WE CAN DO THIS!!!

Since I am back on night shift, this is my morning so GOOD MORNING LADIES!!! As usual, I am inspired by your posts! My only mini goal today is to make it through my 12 hour shift tonight and stay within my calorie allotment (and do it as healthy as possible)! I really do consume too much coffee when I work nights, but I get so little sleep that coffee is all that keeps me going. Its definitely a challenge not to head for the vending machines and grab a candy bar when the lows hit at 2 am!
Hope you all had a wonderful day!

Did pretty good today, hope to do better this weekend. Should be running off a few calories trying to keep up with the grandkids. Will check in but want to say HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND!

Sorry gals, gonna dump on you here... I am the only surviving child (my brother died with a rare autoimmune disease just over a year ago at 46) and my parents live just a few places down from us. Yesterday I had to take my dad to the ophthalmologist for a bit of laser surgery - nothing serious just a 'touch up' to help his vision. He told me the day before mum had been looking for some medication the doc had given her - just OTC - nothing serious either - and when she couldn't find it, dad helped her look. He figured she was out, because the doc gave it to her a while ago and she uses it occasionally. She did not believe him at all and he said she gave him this look he had never seen before and it made him cry - she is getting dementia and is at that stage where she is suspicious of everyone... 'they' are trying to take her money, 'they' are hiding her meds, 'people' are sneaking in at night (she has to get up & test all the doors & windows), etc. She has been diagnosed with Bipolar disorder many years ago and has medications for that, which kind of just level her out, she sleeps a lot during the day and doesn't want to leave the house at all. About the only time on a good day - she will go on to the patio and watch the hummingbirds at the feeder and sit in the patio chair with a coffee or juice. Once a month she HAS to go out to the doctor for a checkup and refill of medications, which she hates to do, and I will have lunch out with them. She also isn't doing very well with self care - she knows she needs to take a shower, or cut her nails, or wash her hair, but just can't actually move herself to do so, and gets defensive and upset when we offer to help. She hasn't done any of the cooking, or cleaning, or laundry for a few years and she panics when she has to use the phone because she forgets how, I don't even know if she can read and understand printed words anymore. She is aware enough to know what is happening here but powerless to do much about it. As are we... Not sure where to go from here. Some days Dad & I talk about looking at senior apartments with light care facilities, and other days things seem to be not too bad and so we are stuck and haven't quite decided what to do next. My aunt (mum's sister) had depression and dementia with Lewy bodies, and her brother (my uncle) has Parkinson's - a somewhat related neurological disease. I think mum has the same kind of dementia (from her specific symptoms) but I don't know how to approach their doctor due to the Privacy Act (he cannot give out information on them) but I don't think he realizes how bad things have gotten. You know how it is - dad has to watch how he words things when mum is with him at the doc's and I'm pretty sure she doesn't tell the doc what is happening to her either. He did do a bit of a test for dementia, but that was on a good day and she did OK. So, here I am... tears are running down my face and I don't know what to do next.

Apologies for this long, rambling post, but I needed to get this out - not waiting for replies necessarily, just getting it off my chest as a sort of electronic journaling. Although, if anyone has been through this or something similar, and has some ideas... that would be great.

I feel for you. I took care of My father in law his last 2 years. He died at age 91 from end stage Alzheimer's.

There are two things I think that could help a bit. Write a letter to the doctor and drop it of at the clinic. Describe how offended your mother gets if you or your father speaks up when at a visit and this is reason you write the letter. Tell how it is tell that you two are close to giving up. Ask for help. Ask if you can get in home help at least once a wek with the hygiene. Then see what happens.

Second thing is to call hospice and see what they suggest you do for in home help. They won't help unless the patient is close to dying but they might have ideas who to ask for help.

It's about 15 years since my father in law died so things might have changed but it's worth I try.

Hugs to you. Hope you get some help.