MissHolidayGolightly wrote: »

I had a dream I bought two massive tubs of protein, like the size of oil tanks. I portioned it out to my neighbors in gallon-size Ziplocks.

i know this old man in namibia who does the same thing with gemsbok.

Ah, sorry! Yeah, I make my own at home, unsweetened, and use it in smoothies. I've never had issues but I don't have issues with dairy.

@canadianlbs that's awesome you are seeing improvement that quickly.

I did an engagement photo shoot for my bestie and now she wants to "save some money" and just use me for her wedding. There are a couple of problems 1) I'm pretty new to photography. 2) I really don't want to screw up her wedding photos 3) it's so much work and 4) she is kind of a pain in the *kitten* when it comes to pictures of herself ("oh I don't like that one, makes my face look fat" me thinking "it's a great photo and that's just what your face looks like") .
I mean it would be great experience for me and I don't think that I have a way to get out of it. So it will probably end up happening blah. It just seems so overwhelming.

Llamapants86 wrote: »

I don't think that I have a way to get out of it. So it will probably end up happening blah. It just seems so overwhelming.

uuughhh. expectations + bestfriend + a wedding . . . i'm flinching for you. she probably doesn't expect to be treated like a customer, which really puts you in a tough kind of spot without even giving you useful practice at how to set boundaries with actual customers.

like i'm the expert on boundaries i keep setting mine for these maniacs i'm working with, and they just go away and a week later come up with some new undeterred set of irrational expectations.

Llamapants86 wrote: »

@canadianlbs that's awesome you are seeing improvement that quickly.

I did an engagement photo shoot for my bestie and now she wants to "save some money" and just use me for her wedding. There are a couple of problems 1) I'm pretty new to photography. 2) I really don't want to screw up her wedding photos 3) it's so much work and 4) she is kind of a pain in the *kitten* when it comes to pictures of herself ("oh I don't like that one, makes my face look fat" me thinking "it's a great photo and that's just what your face looks like") .
I mean it would be great experience for me and I don't think that I have a way to get out of it. So it will probably end up happening blah. It just seems so overwhelming.

Was she picky about her engagement photos? For the wedding, it helps to set boundaries and expectations early. Maybe write up a contract or some other type of agreement to help separate the friendship from the professional relationship.

Sounds like she doesn't like how she looks and the blurry/high contrast/dark photos hide that. The client line sounds good. Wedding photos shouldn't look like what you'd find on a pimply pre-teen's tumblr.

If you need it for your portfolio, do it but be firm in what your style is. If not, run in the opposite direction :P
Just say you won't be able to give her what she wants.
I did baby photos for my BFF. It was fun, and we got some great pics of her son and my daughter together. Then, the FB sharing started. She took a pic and did this horrible vignette and selective colour thing to it that made me cringe. It was so awkward to have to tell her that it was super bad form to take a photographer's work and edit and share it without their permission. That was only one baby pic. Luckily, she was understanding and took it well, but it was still super awkward. Your friend doesn't sound like the type that would take it well :P

MissHolidayGolightly wrote: »

Fantastic news about your shoulder. You're going to be squatting cars soon

i think i'll just swat a few project managers. this JOB.

Llamapants86 wrote: »

And if she compares her doing my makeup for my wedding and doing wedding photos one more time

as in, she did a for you so now you owe her b? . . . it sounds like the expectation level is the problem, not the favour. unless you nit-picked her into the ground over yours or something.

speaking of. last week the flavour-of-the-week was 'we can't review these test cases you put in 60-hour weeks to produce because they're not in our [piece of *kitten*] tool and therefore not traceable.' there were reasons why it wasn't in the piece-of-*kitten* tool, which i reminded them of. then i did 12-hour days for the rest of the week to complete the stuff i was actually working on at the time, in order to investigate workarounds for the traceability problem. i found what i thought was the best answer there is, and got started on it.

this week it became 'your solution to [x] doesnt' work because it doesn't let us do [y].' i TOLD them it wouldn't do [y], i told them right from day 3, and i kept telling them. i got told off for doing that, months ago, and also they refused to believe it was true since i was telling them what i knew at that point and according to them i 'don't know enough' yet to be worth listening to. so at 5pm yesterday they absorbed the idea - because i proved it to them. and suddenly told me that i will have to do [z]. i told them how impossible and life-draining it will become for me to do [z] and also pointed out that doing [z] means they definitely will not get [x], [y] or even [w], which they have temporarily forgotten that they want as well. but they still said that's what they want.

i put in an extra unbilled 4 hours last night looking for anything in their fuckwit tool that will give them a version of [y] and let me off the hook of a) having to try to do their so-called solution aka [z], which is just another way of setting myself up for further downstream abuse when they work out that [z] won't give them [p]. not to mention hearing in a week or two more that i've neglected to provide them with [w] so now i will have to start doing [m] with my third or fourth hand in order to cover that base. meanwhile they've already hired an extra developer and an extra ba, and they're planning to add one more of both on top of those two.

so we're sitting now at 2-heading-for-3 business analysts and 3-heading-for-4 developers. who all have deranged grandiosely expansionist plans, when they're not even covered on the home base. and ONE QA ANALYST. whose bandwidth for trying to even give them a minimal home-base stability is down to about 60% atm because the other 40% is being taken up with sitting still and getting carped at for not doing [g] [t] and [v].

today is the thursday meeting. and win lose work quit or fired, i'm going to the gym when this day is over.

Hi there. I joined this group last week and did my first Stronglifts 5x5 workout yesterday. I was just wondering if there's an Introduction thread for this group. I searched but couldn't find one. I'd like to get to know some members a bit better before jumping into conversations (like I'm doing right now, LOL) or hijacking another newbie's Intro post. Thanks! Feel free to add me as a friend if you like.