Over 50s Ladies - Our Special Needs
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Hey all, just got in from walking Gibbs. Its so hot and humid outside, like a wool blanket over your head. The cheeseburger pie was good, but I'm going to half the recipe next time because it makes too much for me. @ratsmith I have several friends who get up st 3am to run before it gets too hot. @granny glad your back and had a wonderful time. @kitinthecat fasting for a few days helps me. Watch that back. Working my extra job tomorrow for a few extra pennies. Take care, we do obedience class tonight.0
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Hi all, lovely to catch up with your news!
@Donna...sounds as though you are working on him a treat! Enjoy the mountains and lakes.
@Krazy.... only 8 months...OMG all that energy! lol.
@ Janice...so happy your back is feeling better! Dont go overdoing it! I am soooo jealous of your veggies...especially the peas! I was banned from going into mums garden when the peas were ready cos she knew I would go and eat them all straight from the pod and there wouldnt be any left! Never had swiss chard. Is it similar to anything else? How do you cook it? Here we only get little cucumbers, around 5 or 6 inches long and really tasty.....it will be weird buying the big long ones when we go to UK!
So glad the fasting is proving a positive experience and you are benefiting from it!
@Marney, I cant imagine how you cope with this woe being lactose tolerant! I know a lot avoid dairy but what makes this woe bearable for me is the cream and butter! Hope you find things to eat this weekend.
@ Rebeccah, I'm sure you will settle back in and feel the benefits soon. A fat fast should do it but be kind to yourself after everything you have been dealing with! A 4am walk sounds nice....dawn breaking, cool and that special feeling of a new day........I wouldnt do it,lol, but if you can go for it! Thats my sleep time!
Today I am friends with my scales as they showed a drop of 1kg which puts me under 90 kg for the first time in about 16 years and then it was just because I was superstressed, before that I was heavier. Tomorrow, as we know only too well, it could be a totally different story and the scales could be up over 90 again! Expecting it.
I have a friend who is in Toronto at the moment. She is there until the end of sept and has asked me if theres anything I want her to bring here? Anyone got any suggestions of things that could make my like easier that I cant get here? I thought about Mio to make my water palatable...any good flavour suggestions? Anyone tried liquid flavoured stevia? Any concentrated flavorings etc. I would really appreciate any suggestions or recommendations! We can order from the US and get it delivered too.
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@Jane the only thing I can think of that I think you mentioned once is Udi's brand baking. I generally stay away from such things, but tried the salted caramel cashew cookies and fell in love. They are thick chewy cookies, almost the size of 2 cookies. One is enough and that's good, because one has a whole day's worth of carbs for me. Real sugar in those though. They don't seem to take me out of ketosis as long as I am eating very LC that day. And they are something I can have on hand that not only us gluten free people in my house will eat, but non-LC company as well.
What about pork rinds, can you get them there ? Not really sure what else you can't get there that we have in Canada.0 -
Hey everyone have you heard there is suppose to be a pill coming out that helps gluten intolerance? Like using it and you then have a couple hours you can indulge and your body rejects the gluten or something. Sounds weird but I think the gluten just gets coated in something from the pill. Suppose to be out by 2017 I think.0
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Hello ladies. Hope everyone is well. Finally starting to feel rested after wedding weekend. Late Mon. afternoon daughter calls in tears having total breakdown. Hubby & I convinced her summer class she's taking isn't worth all the mental stress & to come home for month before fall classes start. Rather she be rested & start fresh in fall. She has quite a class load as she is finishing 1 degree to enter law school in 2 yrs. She is normally a very sunny, positive kid so this came out of nowhere. I came in to city yesterday to get her apartment tidied & ready for fall (was used as drop off point for wedding so is quite upside down). We cuddled on couch all day & ate junk (Chinese, ice cream, & popcorn). I told myself 1 day wouldn't hurt too much. But boy was it hard to stop once I started piling all those carbs in. Felt uncomfortably full all night & woke with migraine this morning. Obviously whole weekend & yesterday knocked me out of keto, but starting new today doesn't feel too challenging. Unlike other times I've dieted & would give up after slipping(binging). Might try Janice's fasting tricks although brain & body aren't on same page where no food is concerned. Does diet coke count when fasting, lol.
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Hello friends. It's so nice to read all your updates. Welcome to all the new ladies joining the thread! I love to read how you're all coming along, whether things are going great or not so much.
I'm still as I was the last time I posted. My body loves to go up and down the same three pounds---must have an internal track I'm stuck on.
It gets discouraging, but I'm not giving up. I have to not think about it so much and just keep on with what I have to do regardless of how my body is outwardly responding. I'm feeling better than I did when I started LCHF in February, so that is a huge plus. 0 -
That's great to hear that you can tell that you're feeling better eating this way @Ellen ! That's something to celebrate!
And @Kathie, why not try to fast ? If diet coke helps, give it a try. I can't imagine the thought of giving up coffee when I fast, mainly since I know I will get a headache without a certain amount of caffeine daily, but I only have 2-12 oz cups instead of the 3 daily that I have when I am eating.
I do find that I make the transition to fasting better when eating keto and have way better staying power. I was worried about the aftereffects of the dim sum I had on Sunday, but did not have more cravings while fasting afterwards, so that was a plus, even though I ate a delicious barbequed pork bun that obviously was made with wheat, gasp! My weight went up by 2 pounds the day after the dim sum, but went back down to exactly the same place post fast. And I feel normal again. I look forward to not eating, just as much as I looked forward to having the treat, so all is good.
Well I dreaded returning to work, since I would have a mountain of work to do, but learned that we had another 2 floods while I was away ! Everyone in a cranky mood too. I don't want to move my work location anywhere else, so will stay down there in the flood zone. It's dry where the desk is anyway. At least we can say the "F" word down there and the folks above us can't hear. Not looking forward to the full moon coming. Oh well, 2 more days until the long weekend.0 -
@Janice Thank you yes, the holiday was lovely. Your break sounds well-deserved and I’m so pleased you’ve enjoyed the down time, and dim sum (I’ve never had that). You sound so perky and happy and I’m so thrilled for you
Your building sounds as if it was badly designed in the first place; or something. Architects and engineers are supposed to make buildings safe to cope with ‘1 in 100 year events’ (earthquakes, cyclones, nearby river levels…). Why does your building flood so often? Seems strange to me, but then I live in a dry, sandy area LOL
@Donna I love nature too. The sound of birds, rain, waterfalls… heaven! I’m so pleased you’re doing well with your guy!
@Marney I hope you learn to accept, or not even notice, the extra dishes soon. It must be difficult being lactose intolerant. My eldest son suffers that and I often wonder if it’s because of the *gallons* of milk I drank while I was pregnant with him
@Rebecca If you are noticing your work mistakes it means your head is clearing. I can’t tell you how relieved I am to hear that. We’re all here for you and sending support and love for all we’re worth If you want a challenge of some sort here, perhaps along with others, I’m in. I’ll get David back to work but then need to fully get back to behaving myself. I hear you on the heat of summer making exercise difficult, we’ll be the same by Christmas.
@Karen Thank you
@Jane Those scales would be in the bin if they were mine Ask your beloved for a new set eh? I find that lifting my t.shirt when he’s half way through a sentence works miracles for getting his attention. I love to do that particularly when he’s on the phone to his parents and throw him for a 6. Except one day he told them ROFL
@Kathie Oh, your poor daughter! I do hope she’s OK soon. One thing I do know – she has a wonderfully loving and supportive mother and she will come through this. If you want a challenge of some description in this thread (maybe with @Rebecca as well?) perhaps we can do that? I may need help getting fully back on track starting next Monday
@Ellen So good to see your sunny sunflower here again, I was missing you! Just need to find @Karlotta again now. Dang, I’m so sorry you’re still doing that same 3 pounds, that’s just ridiculous. But if you’re feeling well, that’s a huge bonus!
I'm still enjoying having David at home. We had our beautiful granddaughters yesterday for 3 hours - the time goes so fast! Hoping I can have them for a few hours Sunday afternoon for Georgia to finish her miniature cafe ready for the show on 15th and 16th August. My miniature gazebo garden is very close to 'sufficiently finished' now, but there are many extra touches I want to add. Maybe something like this is never finished
I'll take a video soon and show you the (intermediately) finished product. My food is kind of largely LCHF, with treats, at the moment. I am content with that until Monday but then I'm back on track 100%. I've put on a little under a kilo since we went away, but wasn't properly on track for a couple of weeks prior to that really. So my lowest weight was 80.7 kgs on 3rd July and the highest I've been in the past few weeks was 82.6 kgs so obviously something needs to be done That's a tad over 4 lbs gained so not the end of the world, but I can do better/healthier moving on with my life and treating my body with respect. 0 -
Greetings Ladies!
@Janice Enjoy your long weekend! I wish I could rebound so quickly after eating a pork bun. I am happy you were able to do so!
@Ellen I hate, hate, hate losing the same weight over and over (3 hates for 3 lbs). I am glad you are feeling better. While, I would love to lose weight my current focus is feeling great!
@Jane Way to go on your new low!!
@Rebecca there are 2 August challenges: food and exercise. Have you had a chance to look at them yet? I signed up for both but may have to ease up on the physical one. I am praying for you, that you feel better soon.
I've been busy with my new man. I never thought I could feel this way again. I've been able to stay mostly on track with food choices. For the first time in years, I stuck to my eating plan for the most part when I visiting my son last weekend. I tasted 4 new types of potato chips (1 each + 1 of the best!) and ate a bit of the birthday dinner and cake. My weight did not fluctuate and I did not use this as an excuse to eat more! My son has a plan to eat healthier too. Not keto but much lower carbs that he used to. He still eats rice and pasta frequently.
I'm finishing up my July fasting tonight and looking forward to August. If only I could get to menopause...ugh!!
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Hi Marney, I'm from South Central BC (Okanagan) - welcome to the 'Group!' I find that Udo's oil (1 tbsp for me a day) works for hot flashes. Mine disappeared when I took it, and come back when I'm off. Tried on & off several times and the results are the same. Granted, mine were never the freakin' meltdowns, more like extra warm glows, lol. Anyhow, that seems to be the only issue re: (peri)menopause for me, except for never quite knowing if/when I might get a visit from 'good old' Auntie Flo still (as I'm 51).dasher602014 wrote: »hi,
Marney here and I am new to the forum. I am 61, Canadian, and have been on MFP for awhile. Lost 30lbs then gained 12lb back when on vacation and sick and into excuses. Just needed a break. Back to it but weight was stalled. My husband's doctor recommended LCHF to him. He is waiting until a convenient time (!) but I have jumped in. Weight is starting to shift.
Eating fat, I do associate with more hot flashes but it doesn't seem to be any worse with this diet. I am trying to keep the net carbs between 20-30g at the moment. I am very short, 5'1" and so I have to keep the calories around 1200 to 1300 to lose weight. Watching that too. But I am not hungry on this, which is such a blessing. I do love veggies and I find I have to eat less of them than I did before which is a hard adjustment. I am getting to know the low GI ones quite well
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I am looking forward to getting to know you and enjoying this forum. Thanks for being here, it is a huge help.
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I laugh about the 'convenient time' statement! Really, when is it ever convenient to change your W O E??
Still readin' y'all, and catching up... I have been working like a maniac due to a summer shortage of employees at the company I work for... injuries, vacations etc. This week I got called off my night patrol to work day security for a bank that was robbed, perp is still at large & used a balaclava (in summer!!) and a sawn off shotgun(!). Luckily no one was injured, but a traumatizing experience for the staff anyhow. I used to be a teller, so I totally 'get' the bank environment and what to look for. It is an exhausting experience though, being eyes everywhere at once and looking at distinctive features on every patron that enters (except those familiar to me as I have lived in this area for 33 yrs). Both my boss & a workmate showed up with large black Timmie's for me this afternoon and I am just buzzing this evening, lol. One more shift, and then I am scheduled to go to Vancouver area to visit MIL with DH as she is in the hospital and we need to look for assisted living residence for her. She will no longer be able to properly care for her basement apartment and there are stairs involved so that's our BC Day long weekend...
Life is waaaay too busy again, but that is the story with gals our age, I think...
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Hey all, how is everyone. Worked extra yesterday at my 2nd job. Just spent the last hour on my hands and knees scrubbing the kitchen floor with a brush. Yes I mop, but to me its only moving dirt from one corner to the other. Walked Gibbs this morning before it got too hot. Need to go out back into the garden and pull weeds. The scale seems to be stuck right now, but not up any, oh we'll I'll keep plugging along. I think I'll do a water fast soon to maybe get things moving along. Plus I feel better after one. OK gonna go and try to pull some weeds now.
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I use a laptop (strictly speaking, but it's) set up with an ergonomic keyboard and 3 monitors, so when I reply I have the thread on the centre monitor to read easily and Word on the right-hand monitor so I can type replies as I read. That's the easiest way I've found to read and reply to everyone since my last post.0 -
Hi everyone,
I use a little tablet for my computer so it becomes impossible to see what is said before. I simply have to remember it which can be a feat now a days!
@### was happening to my body that no matter what I seemed to do, it got bigger. Although I do not have children, my niece was going through a lot of stuff and we were the only ones living in close proximity, so I remember those tearful crisis too. Good old days of being busy and needed but too busy and needed. Take time for yourselves ladies.
Parents now gone and I miss them but I don't miss the last few years of their lives. They were so unhappy with the choices that were forced on them. Stoic but unhappy. Good luck with the move this weekend canadjineh, I will be thinking of you.
Fasting. Hummm. And you feel better. Hummmm. Contemplative phase of change here. Think I will get the diet I am on solid before going there.
We are visiting friends for the weekend so diet may have to take a back seat for a few days. As you say, there is no convenient time (despite what my hubbie thinks) for changing your WOE. Best choices I can is all I can do.
I am trying to make the sat fats stay off the diet plan. It just feels wrong to eat much of them. Everything I read says that in LCHF you don't need to worry. Has anyone here had blood work improve, even when eating sat fats?
I don't know Udo's Oil. What kind of oil is it? Health food store? Evening primrose?
I hope the fires out west are under control. They have fallen off our news cycle here.
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GrannyMayOz,
Don't beat yourself up over the gallons of milk you drank while pregnant!
Mothers have a lot to answer for but not that. Probably more likely because he stopped drinking gallons of milk himself.
Lactose and gluten problems run in my family. My nephew found that once he got gluten out (he was tested by doctor), he could drink milk and eat cheese. Nephew, two nieces, brothers, Dad and me and a few other brothers who just are in denial. Men! I do find with LCHF, the gluten falls away too and I feel better. But I have not been tested.
But, except for genes, this is not a mother's fault!
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I think this answers my concerns over fat. Love this forum!
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@dasher602014, to answer your question about saturated fats, my lipids initially rose a bit but I also dropped my statin when I went on the LCHF way of eating, so that might have been part of the issue. This last checkup, my total cholesterol and LDL dropped by about 30 points, well into the "normal" zone. Triglycerides have been in the 80's forever. However, I do take a conservative approach. My fat macro is set to 85%, but I try to balance that amount between monounsaturated fats like olive oil, olives, nuts, walnut oil, etc. and the saturated fats like meat, butter, coconut oil, etc. I don't eat saturated fats exclusively and try to keep them under about 40 - 50 grams per day, with the rest coming from monounsaturated. Definitely keep away from polyunsaturated fats if you can, though.
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@May ---well that's quite a fantastic system you have going with your three monitors! I wondered how you do it. I can't remember names and am afraid I'll get people's new bits all mixed up, so I haven't been responding very specifically anymore. There are so many more of us now to keep track of! It's great, but my brain is old... Glad you had such a wonderful holiday--it sounded really lovely and relaxing.
I use a laptop exclusively to read/log.
@dasher After a month on LCHF my blood work definitely improved. The elevated numbers were back down into normal range, and my doctor was very happy. She had wanted to put me on a statin, but I refused and said I'd try to
lower my cholesterol, etc through diet. That's when I found LCHF. @fangirlish is right---I think you'll be happy with your results on this way of eating. Good luck!0 -
Hello ladies. Hope everyone has a great weekend. It's a long one for us Canadians don't know about everybody else.
@May definitely would be up for something with you guys. This past week really kicked the crap out of my LCHF plan. But good thing is I'm ready to get back on the horse & try again.
@wheatlessgirl66 me too. I have terrible memory for names so it's been fairly general posts also.
Daughter has decided maybe a pet would help. Building doesn't really allow them, so we've been scoping out sneaky ones. She fell in love with a bunny at pet store & one at SPCA, but after researching thinks maybe not. Now looking at short-haired guinea pigs. (Not a lover of pets inside myself). Research is taking her mind off depression tho, so guess it's worth it.0 -
Good morning/evening Ladies ! Yes, it's the long weekend, and it will be busy for me. I was going to do some major housecleaning this weekend, since I have been letting things slid with so much to do outside, but that will now have to wait. My daughter and I made plans yesterday to go to Kenora again to visit my girlfriend. This time for sure we will look for berries. There are still wild blueberries and raspberries a well as Saskatoons. The weather won't be as hot so should be good picking weather. We're not heading out until early tomorrow am, since Anna has to work.
Today I'm going to stop in at work and get my payroll done, because the deadline on Tuesday won't leave me enough time to complete it. I'll just sneak in and out. Got to get into the garden today too. I bet I've got a lot to pick today. My back is feeling much better, but still a bit sore. If I pace myself it should be OK. @Jane, I missed your question about the Swiss chard. I plant the rainbow kind so it is very beautiful with orange, magenta and yellow stalks leading up to bright green leaves. I used to put it raw into my veggies smoothies and it gave a very pleasant mild beet-like flavour to the smoothie, but I don't make them anymore lately. Now we just chop and saute in butter. You can cook the stalks down a bit before you add the leafy parts if you like, add some garlic or not, just like with spinach. You get a lot more to chew with chard though. We like out greens here, threw some into the soup I made, or with eggs. I'll likely pick more today. Wish I could send you some peas. I'm eating them so slowly ( raw) since they are starchy. I should just shell them and cook them and eat them tonight to get rid of them.
Well, I'm happy that my stress level at work is much improved by working in my little haven in the flood zone. You know, the building has such a history of flooding and despite countless efforts to repair the issues, it is never fixed. They just do repairs and complete them only to find that it floods again. The trouble is that the sewers in that neighbourhood are combined with the storm sewers, so if we have a lot of rain and the system is over capacity, the water has nowhere to go but up through the toilets and sinks like geysers. Odd since we really don't get that much precipitation here. It would take the city redoing the sewer system in order to fix it for good and that's not going to happen. It is kind of a joke, because our facility is called "Poseidon". But the main thing is right now, that I can work in peace.
So ladies, the scale is down again today for me. The fasting thing seems to suit my body. I saw the weight dip below 200 a few days ago, but didn't trust the number, and sure enough it went up again. Yesterday I was below 200 legitimately, but still didn't want to count my chickens before they hatched. Today I am down further, so hopefully this time it will stick. 90 kg / 198 lbs. I've reached the mythical "Onederland" that I have heard about.
Ok, I'd better get going, lots to do. After the gardening, I'll make 2 dozen bacon and egg muffins to take with me. Have a great weekend !0 -
GrannyMayOz wrote: »A quick poll - what device do you use to read and reply to this thread...
Desktop or laptop computer
iPad, Tablet or such
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I use a laptop (strictly speaking, but it's) set up with an ergonomic keyboard and 3 monitors, so when I reply I have the thread on the centre monitor to read easily and Word on the right-hand monitor so I can type replies as I read. That's the easiest way I've found to read and reply to everyone since my last post.
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Good morning dear friends. I hope everyone is well. I have been absent due to life getting in the way lol. I am staying on course with this WOL, but stalled and probably due to stress. I will try to be in here more, but I am always thinking of you all. XO0
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@Jane, I missed your question about the Swiss chard. I plant the rainbow kind so it is very beautiful with orange, magenta and
Ok, I'd better get going, lots to do. After the gardening, I'll make 2 dozen bacon and egg muffins to take with me. Have a great weekend ![/quote]
Couple of questions: Where do you get the seeds for "rainbow" Swiss chard?
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May I have your recipe for bacon and egg muffins, please?
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Fangirlish and wheatlessgirl66, thank you so much for your first hand accounts. It does make me feel better to hear your results and yes, I will try to keep the good fats up over the sat fats. I will be doing more investigation and get to know fats in foods better. Your responses are much appreciated.
I am struggling while visiting friends. Just trying to make the best choices I can.0 -
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@Jane, I missed your question about the Swiss chard. I plant the rainbow kind so it is very beautiful with orange, magenta and
Ok, I'd better get going, lots to do. After the gardening, I'll make 2 dozen bacon and egg muffins to take with me. Have a great weekend !
Couple of questions: Where do you get the seeds for "rainbow" Swiss chard?
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May I have your recipe for bacon and egg muffins, please?
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Hi, I just get them where I get my regular seeds, probably at Canadian Tire, but last year I bought them at Lee Valley Tools. I'm not sure if they had them at Walmart.
For the bacon and egg muffins, I partially cool tons of bacon, then line muffin tins with bacon, crack an egg into each, salt and pepper, maybe some chives, maybe some cheese on top, and bake for 20 min. That's it, yummy, portable and good hot or cold.
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@Marney Yes, I can see the problem in only having one small screen to read and reply. Unless you’re really keen on scrolling up and down and remembering where you’d got to eeeek! LOL I love being retired too, but there are never nearly enough hours in the day. I have just begun my housework binge after being away and having David at home, during which, of course, I did virtually nothing. Now thoroughly cleaning everything from the light fittings down, and still 4 weeks to Spring har har! Thank you for your words about milk and lactose intolerance.
@Syl thank you for sharing.
@Ellen I do a lot on my computer, including the production of a few websites. That can involve needing to see a *lot* of data at the same time and flicking between windows makes the task a read headache where, with the 3 monitors it’s just a case of being organised and always putting each thing in the same place each time so it’s easily read or reached.
@Kathie OK, so do we just all promise one another to do our best to be 100% on track? And of course post on here about how we’re doing.
@Janice I’m glad to hear that you’re taking it kindly with your back and hope you continue to fully heal quickly. I’m sorry you have to ‘sneak in’ to work and get things done, but I know through experience that it’s worth it for peace of mind. ‘Poseidon’ gave me a chuckle. Funny how names can become more meaningful than first intended. I always log my lowest weight whenever I first get to it and don’t log anything again until I reach a new low weight. But we must all do these things the way we are most comfortable. I may put my holiday gain in though.
@Karyn wow you’re well kitted out. I’m glad that your real life takes precedence over this forum, but am sorry to read of the stress. Used to be just ourselves to worry about didn’t it? But our families grow, and our hearts along with them and we get more folks to be concerned about.
Thank you all for posting your electronic weapon of choice, and yes, I can see how difficult it would be with a small screen and so many replies to write. It has crossed my mind to put us all into small groups and ask those 3(?) people in each group to particularly write replies to the others within that group, as well as any others you feel moved to write. But we have our basic core and quite a few ladies that come and go so I suppose that won't really work. Better just to leave things as they are *hugs*0 -
Hi Ladies, just a quick note to say it is lovely out here in the forest. We picked blueberries and raspberries in a meadow. Now drinking chokecherry wine with friends, having a lovely visit.0
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We're taking mother out to lunch today. Neither of us feel like it, but it should keep her off our backs for the next 2 weeks until her surprise 80th birthday party. The party is putting me through my emotional paces. Making decorations and a photo board, making sure everything will be lovely and a credit to <strike>her</strike> me, and knowing how much all her friends will gush over her and tell me how lucky I am to have such a mother. And how much I am like her - may God forbid!!!!!!!!! I feel so empty. In fact I feel tearful as I write this.
What a happy occasion this would be for 'normal' mothers and daughters with loving relationships. Even a partially normal relationship with some degree of love in it. And what began, in my plans, as a bring-a-plate (that means with food on it) afternoon tea and a lovely cake made by my D-I-L has been forced into having to purchase all the food and the cake. Requirements of the restaurant/hall in the village where mother and most of her guests live. I had to ask a friend of hers for the guest list and this woman kept emailing me with extra names who we *can't forget*. We don't have money to flash around. Partially planning my own 60th next year I would not dream of spending the $400 this is costing me. And all for someone who doesn't even deserve me to cross her threshold, never mind go to efforts and expense for her. My brother recently offered to pay 'something towards it' but whether he will, or how much, I'm not sure. It was really kind of him and lifted my spirits no end at the time.
And please don't ask me why I am doing it at all, I feel 'down' enough already without having my motives questioned I'm just being dutiful I suppose. Going through the paces as a daughter 'should'. And as I said, it started out planned as a friendly little bring-a-plate that I was going to have here, but we couldn't have 20 cars parked all down the street - most of the oldies couldn't walk that far, so it ended up asking to hire a hall at the village and then finding out we're not allowed to bring food in. David keeps saying "It's only once" or "It's only money". And it's him that earns it. Bless his giving heart and soul. And it'll be over by 5pm on 15th and then we can go to our granddaughter's 10th birthday disco for the evening and dance it out of our system.
I won't be doing it again. If she lives to be 90 or 100, and I'm sure she will out of spite alone I don't care. My brother was always the favourite, let him do it. The other brother died 10 years ago. He was picked on mercilessly too. 0 -
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