@PlaneMonkey No passengers! But at the same time support each other, right? Life is so messy sometimes. For IBS volume eating, as long as you know which veggies to avoid (and maybe more cooked than raw?), big skillets of veggies with protein of choice are really flexible and easy to prepare. I'm not sure which veggies are low FODMAP, but things like eggplant (especially the skinny asian ones with more tender skin and tinier seeds), maybe mushrooms, carrots, parsnips, spinach - whatever works. Brown them (especially the eggplant and mushrooms) with no oil if you have a good non-stick pan, or with as little as possible, add things in cooking time order, throw on the protein and flavours of the day, and you have a great big plate or bowl of food without too many calories. I find those more satisfying for longer than salads. This also works as sheet pan meals in the oven if you prefer. They do NOT need to go onto a big pile of rice or noodles or other starch! Add some sweet potato or squash (also great when browned) if you need something carby. Sauces can be ginger-soy, pesto, herbs and stuff, curry - whatever livens it up. I keep some of the pre-browned or roasted veggies in the freezer and just throw them in. That works well for eggplant, mushrooms, peppers, tomatoes, carrots - some lightly oiled, some just dry.

OK enough of my same old recipe! I know I have posted this before, but it continues to be my go-to dinner and I'm not sick of it yet

As to the issue of partner support that can turn to sabotage, stand firm! Tell him off whenever he gets into tempting mode. Keep starches off the table during meals and then they are an OK occasional snack - even corn chips and salsa It's time to reawaken all the tricks to keep things on track - you've got this!