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This isn't something that will happen overnight. Keep doing what you're doing and you'll start seeing results. It took a month before the scale moved for me.

You are going to gain. You're supposed to gain; you've got a baby, the placenta and everything else. If you're concerned about a healthy diet while pregnant, talk to your doctor, not the interwebs. :smile: Gaining weight for this will not negate what you've done so far in the getting healthy process. Enjoy this time. Be…

Eat my normal dinner and start tomorrow fresh. Don't beat yourself up; it only results in a negative relationship with food. Never feel guilty for eating.

I didn't go into this to be thin (needed a diet change for health and the weight started dropping), but let me just TELL you how flipping convenient it is: 1) More clothes to choose from. 2) I fit in places better. 3) No more concern trolling about being fat (The most circular of conversations.) 4) No more finger wagging…

Honestly, the fact that you just don't want to go because you're sick of Thai is reason enough to not go. If you really liked Thai and you were feeling guilty about eating it, I'd say something along the lines of trying to use your new skills of moderation and just having fun. But, you just don't want to eat Thai. So…

At work the other day: "We don't employ skinny women here! Well, except {PostrockandCats}, but she's the only one." Wot? O_o

I've always thought commenting on someone's weight, no matter the size, was rude. But the descriptives of fat, thin, etc are not rude unto themselves IMO.

I felt guilty about food for YEARS. Coming here and realising that eating well meant a balance of things as opposed to restricting freed me more than I realised I needed to be freed. You can do this!

I do both, but if I had to choose, I'd do strength training; my best long term results come from heavy lifting. That said, when you start lifting, you'll see scale gains. In the beginning, this will be water weight. But, as muscle is denser than fat, you'll see scale gains because you have more muscle mass. This won't mean…

Gosh, yes- that first 15 seemed to take forever! But it eventually came off as did another 80. Be patient with yourself; long-term results don't happen overnight. Celebrate that 20 pounds!

Yup! I've enjoyed the perks of being thinner, but I really did all this because I was very unhealthy. I didn't have an issue with my size, but my lifestyle that made me larger gave me high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and pre-diabetes. When I was told, at 31 years of age, that I had these problems, I made lifestyle…

None of my rings fit. None of my old shoes fit. Different kinds of clothes fit me. More importantly, my blood pressure is normal, as are both my blood sugar and cholesterol. My skin is better, my hair is better, I'm happier, I have more energy and I'm more confident. I also have less desire for sweet things. I hardly take…

I came here in a "well, why not?" mindset, but realized I had to stay when I came to terms with my addictive relationship with food. Keeping track of what I eat, even when I go over my daily goal, keeps me honest with myself and forces me to look at why I'm eating. This has been the most freeing experience of my life; I…

Makes sense. My original goal was 25 pounds, which would have put me still over 200 pounds. I thought I was pushing my luck by changing to 170 as a goal weight, but now I'm at 155- 95 pounds lost total. Just be easy on yourself. :smile:

Stop shaming yourself for eating; eating is important and you cannot starve yourself healthy. If you want to change, you need to find a way of eating that's sustainable long-term. Up those calories, don't be afraid of food and stop trying to quantify food as good or bad. It's food. :smile: Your profile says you want to…

Bored eating was, and is, a big enemy of mine. I do a number of things from leaving the house, watching a movie, or even eating a small snack if it will be a while before a proper meal. The trick is accountability and being honest with yourself.

I've never been in a relationship where a friendship post breakup was appropriate. Some people can and I don't get it. To each their own!

Because a lot of people really like carbs. And, frankly, there's nothing wrong with that. The trick is finding the right thing for you for the long term. Low carbing is grand if you can keep it up. So is any "diet."

You've been doing this less than a month. You didn't get to your breaking point in a month, so why would you think tangible change would happen in this time? There IS already a difference, even if you can't put your hands on it yet. Those small changes will keep piling up and will be visible sooner rather than later, so…

Water and fiber FTW. :drinker:

I still drink coffee and tea, but it's mostly water. I've found that the other stuff makes me thirstier.

It sounds as though your mom is an abusive jerk who will say whatever she needs to say to bring you down. Which speaks more of her than you. If she keeps it up, there's no shame in not having her in your life, regardless of blood ties.

Good for you for breaking it off before getting married! I'm sorry that you were in a situation to need to do so, though :)

No lies detected. I wish I could find it more; it's usually the 2% or 0% around here, too.

My Dad had a GF when I was in High School who, despite being larger than me, kept telling me to lose the weight or else no one would love me. Thankfully, I had the presence of mind at the time to tell her that if a man or woman didn't want to date me as a heavy person, I'd not want to date them if I were thin. She was so…

Start slow with walks around the block to get into the habit of working out. Then look on YouTube for some quick 3-4 aerobics/ zumba/dancing to see if anything is interesting to you. Find something fun that you like. I like running, much to my surprise, so I downloaded some running apps to help me.

...Okay. Here's my 2 cents. Instead of telling each other to not lose or only lose a certain amount, why don't you go into this journey TOGETHER and not be so scared of what the other one will or won't do. It will bring you closer and boost your self-worth. Also? Look back at what you wrote. Does this sound remotely…

I started here at 245, but probably was 10-15 pounds heavier at my heaviest! I'm now hovering around 151-155. 245 155-ish Side-By-Side 255 to 155-ish!

Well done!