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Great! That's good to here! I found the same thing with mindful eating too, some stuff tastes loads better or I appreciate it more. I must say though I've also noticed other things like I've realised I don't really enjoy my second coffee of the morning before I leave for work. It's too rushed, the taste is tiring and dull…

Thanks for this, I've been pointed towards alanon by many posters here and I'm hopeful that they will be able to give me some support. Until the initial responses here I hadn't even contemplated structured support like that for myself, I guess I was more wrapped up in his issues than I realised, even 24 hours ago.

Thanks once again for the messages of support and I'm very sorry to hear so many stories of loss. The last 24 hours have been very encouraging. I'm in a much stronger and more grounded frame of mind than yesterday afternoon. I feel incredibly encouraged and am on a mission to take care of myself, live honestly but still be…

Thanks for this. I'm hoping they will help. I'm feeling much more positive already.

Sorry the above was in response to Fullsterkur_w with her quote at the top. I'm not sure what happened to the quote box!

[/quote] I understand where everybody is coming from with this, but I feel like it's just putting more responsibility onto her, where it doesn't belong. She needs to spend less time policing and controlling his behavior, not more. It's sometimes coming across like a guilt trip, and that is not constructive for her. The…

Thanks! You too :)

Thanks for this and well done with your sobriety, I will take a look at that book.

Thank you! :) Well done to you too!

...and just seen your ticker! wow! congratulations to you!

Thank you! :)

Thanks for this. It wasn't so simple as 'should I stay, should I go?' really. I've taken on board everything that everyone here has said and also what my one close friend (the only one I've spoke to about this) has said. Last night after posting on here, my partner came home with several bottles of diet coke and made a…

Thank you :)

Thanks for sharing this, for all the support and advice and I'm sorry for what you had to go through. I'm learning not to feel selfish for putting my work first. 10 years ago I was struggling to get by on minimum wage, I managed to get onto a foundation course, then a degree then a PhD and I've worked so hard to achieve my…

I think it's possibly something on a par with a mid-life crisis. He's 38 and not challenged enough in his job, scared of losing his parents now they are getting older, he divorced several years back, had no children yet and not sure if and when he will want them...a number of things but I don't feel it's my job to pick…

Great quote, thanks :)

Thanks a lot for this :)

Thanks for the overwhelming amount of support and also sorry to those who have lost loved ones or suffered alongside them. My partner isn't in as a low a place as many of the situations some of you have described but I know he could well head there and this is frightening. Thanks so much, I appreciate all the comments -…

Thanks, when he is drunk or refusing my help this is what keeps me going. At times I have put dissertation time aside to nurse him, check on him, check he is not going to drive anywhere and I know I have to stop doing this, he needs to take responsibility for himself and I can't let myself suffer

Thanks for the message and trust me I do wonder, I do much more than wonder, I try my best to be a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, a non-judgmental friend and partner. I've not once asked him to stop drinking as I don't want to be the enemy but instead I've asked him what makes him feel the need to drink and I've…

Thanks for practical advice, much appreciated. This is tough. Alcohol is something I could take or leave and so recently I've not drank at all. To be honest seeing his state and several dirty wine glasses on the kitchen side every morning is enough to put me off. The four bottle was actually a box of wine with the…

Thanks for all the wonderfully supportive and honest comments, I've been finding it hard to gain perspective and have few people to talk to at the moment so have been feeling very isolated. It's just especially hard to deal with as I enter my 7th and final year at university - this is the one thing I'm good at and I love I…

I know how you feel. I'm 27 years old and from the ages of 14 to 24 I worked in bars, as a housekeeper, care assistant, door to door sales rep full time or part time. I quit those when I was 24 and got a full time research (desk!) position and gained 20lbs in 2 years. I think it also had something to do with passing my…

I don't think being married/in a relationship/single makes any difference. Watching porn/*kitten* is very healthy and helps people to understand what stimulates them. This in turn can help relationships. I don't see anything wrong in watching porn without your partner. I would be surprised and perhaps even confused if I…

Thanks Betsy for the support, I guess sometimes it's easy for me to focus on the vanity side of things but you've helped me to remember the health side to things too. I'm not overweight but as I said my hip to waist ratio is poor and I carry too much fat around my middle. Thanks alot for the post and I'll update with…

Another fan of shock absorber here! I'm a 34E (so admittedly not as much of an issue as a H cup but still need good support) and have tried a few different ones of theres. I'm not sure I can fit 2 fingers under mine, it's pretty tight. Maybe I should even be going for a 36 but to be honest I feel confident in it because…

Thanks for all of the help and advice everyone. I've made the decision to go back to the shop on Tuesday morning first thing and get the ones I loved. Hopefully they work out for me and then in future I can get them online. I kind of felt like this was a moral dilemma above all else. I knew the shoes I wanted but wasn't…

Thanks for all of the help and advice everyone. I've made the decision to go back to the shop on Tuesday morning first thing and get the ones I loved. Hopefully they work out for me and then in future I can get them online. I kind of felt like this was a moral dilemma above all else. I knew the shoes I wanted but wasn't…

Thanks, great point. I'm the cautious think-about-type anyway, definitely not a spontaneous shopper especially when we're talking quite a bit of £££! I think the only thing putting me off up to now is the thought that the sales people will be pressuring me to buy but I can live with that, I'm the go away and think about it…

Thanks a lot ladies! That's really helpful, I wasn't sure if it was worth going to get fitted for a pair but you've both persuaded me :) It would be nice to be confident knowing I have a pair that are professionally recommended.