Senior Golden Sneakers
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Happy Sunday!
I have a bridal shower to attend this afternoon and it is about an hour and fifteen minute drive. They are calling for damaging thunderstorms but hopefully not until tonight. It is my sister's granddaughter so I feel I should go since I know they will be missing their mom/grandma.
I met my friend yesterday for lunch and it was great catching up. She lost her mother in March but I didn't know. She lost her father last year so things have been rough for her. She is only in her 50's but still enjoys my company.
Buzz, consider all of us giving you a hug a day, hopefully that helps just a little.
Have a wonderful day.
Sandy
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Well, not as much achieved as I'd hoped but at least tomato plants have been potted on, a clematis rescued in my wild bottom and given more space and I managed to trim back the Chinese climber that hangs from an arch with jewels of flowers smelling of chocolate. Unfortunately it becomes so rampant each year and does it's best to scalp me I have to do the scalping instead.
A lovely evening and the birds are still singing but time to relax and scramble some eggs for supper.
Lin dear friend your posts are never boring whatever the subject. Did I ever mention I have a first pressing of the 1969 Sgt Pepper that's apparently worth a bit but what to do with it? Once I realised it's value I stopped playing it but do I want to sell it? A real conundrum!!
Sandy, I have collected a few younger friends along the way and think it's great to keep up with them. Most find me hilarious because although a similar age, my behaviour is nothing like their mothers or grandmothers!
Scrambled eggs calling. 😋
Jackie
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Good morning everyone. Cold morning here and rainy. We were absolutely drenched yesterday. Katie is a wimp about getting wet in the rain. She dashed out the door to do her business and then demands a towel off immediately. She shows up at my elbow wet and ready to play indoor .ball with her giggle ball. It sort of clucks as it rolls.
We are to have a whole week of rain. I am praying for a few hours break. Our grass is also growing disturbingly long and fast. The jungle is closing in on us again!
Our post office is implementing a new thing. They have large locked bins for package pickup. We get a notice and key in our regular box then we walk over to the big locked bins to unlock and retrieve our packages. For years we received packages from the clerk. Very convenient but our clerks aren’t the most efficient or correct, but they are friendly.
The measles scare has everyone lining up for shots. John and I are too old for measles I guess. Both of us had them as little kids, we think???
Buzz: dear lady we know you are shouldering a huge pain. Once again, I shout Slone Kettering Cancer Center. The best in the business and can offer protocols that are cutting edge and the best advice, in my experience which is very limited. Just in case you need reminded, we love you and are sending up prayers constantly. Our mayor had cancerous brain tumor as well. He went to UCLA medical and came out as good as new except they went in through the ear. That unfortunately removed his ear drum. The point is, there very might be available life saving treatment.
Lin: will you miss not having these treasures that you have spent a lifetime collecting? I understand the need to let some things go. I have too much stuff and I wonder if anyone would want, much less buy any of it.
Jackie: since I am not a morning person, what I get done is generally in the afternoon. My biorhythms are set for afternoon activity. Things get tangled when sleeptime is to happen. I am up fiddling around too late at night. My routine needs a major adjustment.
Sandy: you are a social person! How wonderful. I would be ducking for cover if I were in your shoes. I hear you are in for for nasty weather. Stay safe, social butterfly!
Phone call with our son and our daughter, hopefully. Rain and cold weather...is this nearly June? Wishing everyone a safe healthy Sunday and week ahead.
Patsy
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Well we landed up at the Ms and Jilly immediately ran up to Hobbes to rub noses. He really is huge. Mary Jo lifted him up and she's pretty short. Nevertheless Hobbes feet dangled below her waist. Jilly still had her leash on and as she ran across the floor, kitten Hobbes, yes he's still classed as a kitten, kept pouncing on the leash and stopping the Bean in her tracks. It was hilarious to watch.
Mikes driving home now, The Bean is fast asleep and I'm going to finish reading the book. It's a real tear jerker set in the two world wars.
Hugs from
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Thanks for all your loving wishes. At this point, she has hung up on me several times and refuses to pick up the phone when I call, having told me I haven't asked how I can help, or I haven't offered to help, nor have I told her I love her! I am assuming it is the mass pressing on her brain, since she has told others different reasons for hanging up and not speaking to me. I don't know those reasons, nor is there truth to the ones she has given me, but I do believe the tumor produces anger, confusion, fear, and many other emotions and to whom is it safest to express that anger? One research tells me there is little hope (This CA killed Ted Kennedy and other famous people) while my searching shows surgery can prove helpful for another number of years! I believe she is planning on Sloane Kettering, but has not contacted them yet while I keep suggesting time is of the essence! Afraid it is a very tense time and trying to keep my wits and sanity above the emotions! everyone I have contacted has been more than anxious to do whatever they can to help, and I just don't know what else to offer! I'm physically unable to go to her. So sad. I gladly accept those hugs and yes, they mean a
lot to me , always!
Buzz
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Dearest Buzz, not sure if this will help you in even the tiniest way. Our friend, who is suffering from a condition not unlike Alzheimer’s but not quite the same. He also has many episodes of unreasonable anger and resentment over imagined events. John’s mother had Alzheimer’s and she also suffered from strange and inappropriate reactions. The only way to look at it is that your daughters brain wiring is short circuiting and misfiring. There is no reason to feel anything but concern over a very ill daughter. It does seem like you need to have a friend or family member take the reins on this. I do remember when John’s family were stunned into inaction. It took a family meeting to assign responsibilities. Difficult and wrenching time, to be sure.
All my love, dear friend.
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Buzz sweetheart, our brain is something we have little control over when it's coping with trauma as well as the fear and anger your DD is feeling. Remember the song You Always Hurt The One You Love? You my love are in the firing line because she will know she can vent at you without fear of ever losing you. It's heartbreaking that you're having to listen to the anger but are unable to go to her. Not your fault!
One tiny thought Buzz, although I appreciate you need to understand what's happening, my Oncologist's main advice to me... there's a lot of misinformation on the internet so don't delve too much. You know my thoughts, along with everyone's, are with you.
Love and hugs
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BUZZ, I can't say anything better than PATSY and JACKIE, such wise words from them. I can only send you my love and feelings that are vey strong for you at such a difficult time.
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Happy Monday! Laundry is being done, cleaning girl coming this afternoon and then shopping for game night tomorrow. Six friends are coming for game night and I am a little nervous since I am not sure I ever had six people at one time in my apartment. I borrowed a table from my son and will order pizza's and chicken. Will also have some potato salad and coleslaw with a regular salad. Some little treats on the game table and they are bringing their own drinks. One friend is bringing appetizers and the other dessert. I am sure it will all turn out but I haven't really entertained since I left the house. Wish me luck.
Buzz, I have to agree with Jackie, don't believe everything you read on the internet. They seem to give the worse case scenario and each case is so different. Remember when Max was born with an extra chromosome? The internet made things sound so bad Lisa had to go for therapy to settle her anxiety. Max is fine today and as healthy as can be. Just be there for your daughter and vent to us if you need a release.
Love you girls,
Sandy
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I guess I have come to understand I must support her desire to NOT go for surgery, as much as understand my desire for her to take a chance on survival! It's perhaps not helpful for her wishes to have me sending all the clinics for 2nd opinions. They are not children (but she'll always be my child) and I have always said, but for myself, I did not want all sorts of medical help if it prolongs my life by weeks or months! So she and her partner had a bottle of champagne at the hospital over the weekend! I'm beginning to sort out many episodes in our past which are starting to make sense. Again, thank you for giving me exactly what I need right now, warmth of your friendship, and strength to back off with my unasked for suggestions! I wonder if she would allow herself to enjoy some chocolate covered strawberries. She looks anorexic due to her control in food! Buzz
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Buzz, wishing you peace and comfort. Hugs.
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A quickly from me dashing about getting everything clean and tidy, dogs dropped off with my friend and hens prepared for being on their own for a couple of days. Voluntary driver has phoned to confirm he'll pick me up 6.15 in the morning, the extra aids and crutches are delivered so ready to go! Will check in once back home from the hospital.
Take care everyone.
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JACKIE, best wishes and prayers sent that all goes as smoothly as the first time. You can guarantee I'll be thinking of my brave friend.❤️🌹🌹
It's still jolly chilly here for the middle of May. Took the Bean out for her morning sniffle in my winter parka!
The brain is a funny thing. Poor Marie my neighbour. Husband Tony is charging his reflection in their French windows when outside like a bull thinking there's someone in his house, and when not doing that, stealing building planks from his other neighbour thinking they are his.
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Happy Tuesday!Jackie, prayers for a successful surgery and a quick recovery. Will be praying for you tomorrow and hope all goes well.
I have everything I need for game night tonight except to order the pizzas and chicken. It is a rainy day here so hopefully no one changes their mind about coming.
Anne I just turned the heat on to take the chill out of my house, I am freezing in May.
My poor hummingbirds are probably chilled as well but they are still eating.
Buzz In one of my readings today it was about minding my children's business which ended with my children appreciate talking to me and not fixing them. I know it is hard but it is out of your control. Love you.
Have a great day everyone.
Sandy
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Cloudy but cool. We have had such odd weather, John is convinced that some evil controlling country has learned to control the weather. I love it he gets into his extreme rants. He diffidently reads too much sci-fi books! He was mowing all day yesterday, second mow of the season.
Jackie: all our best thoughts and prayers for a smooth recovery. Sounds like you have thought things out and are ready for a bit of down time. I have a feeling you will just sail through this procedure. All good wishes for a speedy recovery.
Sandy: that reading had such wisdom about trying to fix our children. A lesson I am trying to learn.
Buzz: dear friend, I know your heart is breaking. I guess all you can do now is try to remember the amazing art of your daughter. I hope she will not suffer and that her friend can stay near by. I know even from a distance you are a good and wise mom, you honor her decision. Difficult as it is. You are in our thoughts and we hold you in our heart.
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Jackie, may all go amazingly well with another astounding recovery. You are a wonderful example of doing what needs to be done. Many hugs.
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Dear ladies
Sorry Time gets away on me.
I’ve bern doing pretty good. Had a wonderful appointment with the doctor from the Breast Cancer Supportive Care Foundation. She explained how the decision was made that I needed no further treatment. It was indeed because my cancer was so small and caught so early. She says it is a very involved process. I feel very good about it. More potential for problems with meds than not.
She also recommended a physiotherapist who is really good with post surgery. Ironically I saw her about 4 years ago on another matter. I am still very tight from surgery and really need to lose up. I see her tomorrow. I really liked her.
Finally going to see my sister next week. I have been trying since Mid December. Can hardly edit.
Buzz Oh my dear. I am so sorry. My heart breaks for you. Big big hugs.
Hugs to all,
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Most important is all our prayers for a quick successful recovery for our dear JACKIE!
Wonderful report from dear JERI! And have a wonderful visit with your sister! Your hugs so welcome! I'm sending back a few to share with you!
SANDY, such a wise reminder from you, as usual! Thank you for being so pertinent and I have finally stopped thinking of MY needs and realizing her life is her own to make her own decisions! I was operating on my needs as a parent not ever wanting to outlive a child. I totally ignored that my decision in her position would probably be very similar. I heard from her today in an email regarding a choice of 2 appointments at Memorial Sloan Kettering late May and early June. We will all keep our fingers crossed. (She signed it "love"!)
PATSY, I truly feel safe and supported and loved by all of you, and it is a very important part of my "learning curve" in something I never expected to have to deal with!
ANNE, I know you didn't expect to give me a chuckle, but it did, and and was very welcome!
I hope your neighbor is bearing up!
As for me, I got to bed at 7:35 this morning after struggling with how to word my feelings in a card to my daughter. I was unable to complete it and finally gave up, exhausted. At 9:41 AM I awakened with a start, recalled I had a 10 o'clock appointment for a haircut, and by gosh, I walked into our Beauty shop at exactly 10! The rest of my day went by in a haze, but I do think I am doing better with dealing with my emotions.
Dear LIN put all our feelings in her tribute to JACKIE, and with that, I shall sign off with loads of love and thanks to every one of you! And get to bed!!! Buzz
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Quick hello from me because me and the Bean got up late. The heat coming on woke us up.
Thought I would plant a few seed potatoes today and you can guarantee who will be on my mind whilst doing so. Our JACKIE of course, her with the green fingers. I can imagine her in bed recovering in a fluffy bed jacket, surrounded with flowers and cards, nurses fussing over her and absolutely ITCHING to get back to George, Betty, the kits, the chicks and her beloved garden. Speedy recovery Jackie.
JERI, absolutely wonderful news.
BUZZ, one day at a time, and wonderful you received a loving email. PATSY, SANDY, LIN, here's to an uneventful pleasant day.
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I obviously missed why Jackie is in the hospital. Can someone tell me why?
Best wishes Jackie
Thanks for all the good wishes.
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Happy Wednesday! Game night was successful even though I forgot to put out the potato salad and coleslaw. Much too much food but it was a great evening with great friends.
Bingo tonight and will bring the forgotten food and some treats to pot luck. I have to get the treats out of my house so I don't eat them.
Jeri, Jackie is having her second hip surgery and was well prepared. As Anne said by now she should be in recovery. Glad all is going well with you, are you planning reconstructive surgery?
Anne, good luck planting your seed potatoes. It is in the 50's now but it is going up to the 80's later. This weather is just plan crazy.
Buzz, it is what I learn in Al Anon that helps me with everyday problems. Mostly, we have no control over anyone and we have to take care of ourselves.
Lin, I feel you must get bored with my posting the same thing here as I do on Facebook but thanks for not calling me on it.
Patsy, our weather is just as crazy as yours. The heat is on this morning and it will probably get warm enough to put on the A/C this afternoon although I won't. lol
Have a great day and Jackie, listen to the doctors and nurses.
Sandy
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Since my daughter is now on steroids, she was happy to hear I want to send the dark chocolate covered strawberries, which I wasn't certain she would eat. I always find them a huge treat! She will be going for a second opinion to Sloan Kettering in New York on June 11.
SANDY, wherever you get your answers to problems, it's how you apply them that is so terrific, and I appreciate everything this unbelievable group has extended to me. I feel blessed! I see I have 15 minutes to dress for dinner, so I'm blowing a kiss to all along with many hugs! Buzz
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Hugs to my dear friends. Just reading your posts and do not have anything particularly helpful, insightful or even interesting to add today. Just sending healing thoughts to everyone.
See you tomorrow.
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Cold and misty today. It would feel a lot like October or November if it weren’t for the colorful rhododendrons in full bloom. Also the scotch broom is in full bloom sending out clouds of yellow pollen and activating everyone’s hey fever. But they are cheerful and the blossoms sort of look like tiny snapdragons.
I am on a mission to find really comfy slippers that I would really wear all the time inside. My feet have changed and I have less tissue padding to cover my tootsies. So I seek soft slipper type shoes to wear as I go about life here at home. I am disappointed in Ugggs, as well as some other shoe brands that I have enjoyed in the past. A worthy goal, to be sure, the really high end brands have a scary price tag and only styling to offer rather than comfort.
Buzz: just a thought here...my mom asked me to let her have three large paintings of mine to hang in her new downsized home. She stipulated that they would come back to me or where I designated when she passed away. She felt a persons essence radiated from paintings or drawings. We lived 1200 miles away from each other, so visits were rare. She said it was very comforting to her. Do you think this might work for you and your daughter? Something of hers she might want to share with you?
I know! We are a strange family.
Hello to all sneakers, Anne, Buzz, Lin, Sandy, Jeri, Jackie, Laura, and all other sneakers including those of the 4 legged and feather persuasion.
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Chilly here, but our blossom looks gorgeous and with the chill the flowers are lasting much longer than usual. However everyone but me is sneezing their heads off.
Just like LIN I've little to say it being for me the end of month belt tightening period. Doing or done all the boring chores, seed spuds planted etc and just in time because today it is rainy and nothing new there. So hello to everyone,
Anne, still in bed and cuddled up with the Bean.0 -
Me again. Off soon to meet with the library ladies. Only a couple of weeks left before we are bounced out of our Thursday meeting time. The library is moving the reserved spot to another day and most of us cannot come on that day. We are going to try to find another place to meet but I just hope I do not lose touch with these ladies.
Just trying to get on with things. I am finding it frustrating and exhausting to try to sell things. That is a story for another day.
Meanwhile I ordered a couple of under garments from Mark & Spencer’s, my first ever order. I activated free returns through PayPal just in case they don’t fit. We will see.
Hope Jackie is doing well.
Patsy, I don’t have any slipper suggestions. I did find the most yummy soft robe from Land’s End but I know nothing about their slippers. If they are as soft and luxurious as the robe, oh my!
Buzz, wishing the best for you and your DD to keep your relationship strong. Hugs again today.
Jeri, safe travels. I am so glad you will see your sister. It will be wonderful to get together again. Also happy you have an excellent team of doctors—it makes all the difference in healing and rehabilitation.
Sandy, glad game night was fun. Of course you had too much food. It is what we do!
Anne, I was looking at the calendar saying to myself, hummm, long time until the first of the month! It is a long month.
Laura, how are you? Haven’t heard from you for a while.
Must end my message for now.
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Hi LIN, I'm hoping you checked the different sizes between the two countries. For instance I'm a 12 in Canada but a 14 in the UK. I'm sure you did, but would hate you to be disappointed. Fingers crossed. Oh and I always check to see if other ladies are satisfied, regarding quality, fit, colour etc. Plenty of yeses, very few no's. I buy from London in the UK, not the Canadian outlet store.
Anne.1 -
Happy Thursday! Meeting day so another morning of hurrying. I won $50 at bingo so that helps me to the end of the month. Babe went to an internist for his stomach pains who told him he needed a scope and other tests. Then he had an appointment with his heart doctor who told him he didn't need a scope or tests but did need to have his stent replaced in his stomach which is some how connected to his heart. The surgery is planned for Tuesday.
Always something. I think his son is taking him so not sure I will be going.
I hope Jackie is doing as well with this new hip as she did with the other.
Will try to get back later.
Sandy
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Hello Sneakers. First of all thank you dear friends for your good wishes and prayers. The operation went well but I'm aware of more muscle pain and the morphine based painkillers make me feel awful so I asked the Pharmacist to remove from my list of drugs. Today an x-ray showed hip as it should be so once I've been tested on stairs I can go home, probably tomorrow morning. It's been a difficult couple of days not helped by being in a room with no windows and I gather the weather is lovely outside. Plan for tomorrow afternoon is to sit in the sun while George and Betty check nothing had changed!
Just finished sticky toffee pud and custard so had better do my best to walk it off!
Will be in touch once home and settled.
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Oh my goodness! A wonderful note from our wonder woman JACKIE! It is indeed great news that you once again aced that hip surgery. Eeeeeesy does it, my friend. I can see you are ready to be home and about your regular activities. We will be eager to see your rapid recovery. All best wishes.
Our day is misty and cold. The promise is for sun later in the day. Hope! Hope! Hope!
Still working on the painting collection book. Getting registration and colors right is a pain. Not that it really matters to anyone but John and me. The wrap around cover is driving me crazy.
Thank goodness I didn’t store the winter sweaters. We need them. It is very chilly and damp.
I wish I liked green tea...it is supposed to be so beneficial.
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