Runners that need some nutritional accountability
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@Avidkeo Sorry about your family issues, but glad that you were able to have a frank conversation with DH. Hope it helped and things get better. It sounds like you have a good plan for your food goals. It's so hard to try to lose when you know you need the fuel for running.1
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I had my CPR and First Aid training this morning. I'm always glad for the refresher, as I'm scared I have forgotten something important. I close my eyes during the videos of impalements and amputations. Once the act is done, I can watch what to do to take care of it. I just can't watch the person actually getting hurt, even though I know it is fake. LOL
Came home and got mom and we took flowers over for my dad's grave for decoration. It's sad since it's the first time we've had to do that.
When we got home, my brother was mowing mom's lawn - using his zero turn which takes him about 15 minutes. Mom and I had decided to wait until next week, but we didn't tell him and he didn't check with mom first. So, instead of doing what I had planned this afternoon, I went down and helped mom do the trim work on the yard - she push mowed and I weed eat. It really irritated me that I had to do that today, and I'm not really sure why. I guess I should be happy that he actually took the initiative to do his small part. Now that it's done, I won't have to worry about it again until next weekend.
I was tried when I got home, so instead of running, took a fast mile walk with Tippy into the neighbor's field. Tomorrow is another extra busy day, so there will be no long run this weekend. I'm hoping maybe I can do one on Monday instead. We shall see if life throws me a curveball or not.
I did buy myself some hotdogs on Thursday, so got to finally have the hot dog I've been craving. I know I've had way too much salt today, but my weight was down a couple of pounds this morning, so I'm not worrying about it.1 -
@rheddmobile - I am so happy your mom's surgery went well and she is recovering! Our healthcare organization is also moving to MyChart. It is the EPIC system under the covers and depending on how it is set up it can be very good for the providers or terrible and they hate it. They don't have a lot of leeway for the fields they fill in, they have choices and minimal 'free space notes'. Dh was part of the IT team that supported the systems for EPIC at Kaiser Permanente here in SoCal and learned so much about it. My dd heard that a requirement is coming that will require all patient records (all test results, scans, x-rays, doctor's notes, diagnosis, plans, etc) to be available to the patient online so there is a big move to upgrade the record systems to allow for that.
@avidkeo - hang in there! The most important thing is to communicate, communicate, communicate and often clearing the air is a big help. As we have been married a looooong time now little things don't seem to create big issues or fights any more but we do seem to have been having more flare ups lately. Not fights but just one of us getting put out about something the other said or how they said it. May be more a result of just being home together so much the last 18 months.
@quilteryoyo - you just amaze me with how active you are. Seems like you are always doing multiple (very active) things. Glad you got your hot dog fix!
Dh is gone as I mentioned for a few days and it feels so weird. Hobbes keeps looking for him too. I got out today for another run but ended up doing a power walk. It is interesting that walking can actually make my hamstring feel worse depending on how I step. Heel strike hurts, mid foot or fore foot strike is not nearly as bad. The little bit of running I did, especially on the last mile home actually felt good, certainly better than walking. I was reading online (Dr. Google) again and found a good description of the type of tendonitis I have (insertion point) and they said it can take 6 months or more for it to feel better and it often becomes chronic to where the pain just never completely goes away. Rest and strength training, especially eccentric exercises (what I have from PT) are what help the most. Guess I will keep doing them, regularly! regardless of if it feels better and I think I don't need to do them so much.
Food has been ok. I haven't been very hungry and without dh here I am under no pressure to cook much. Last night I had a chicken quesadilla for dinner. Could have made myself a salad but wasn't motivated to get it done. Tonight I had leftover chicken and veggie kababs. The restaurant we go to you get 2 chicken and one veggie so I always order an extra veggie so I can have 2 dinners. The problem I am having is that I don't eat either lunch or breakfast depending on when I run. I can usually find things for breakfast but lunch after I run is just blech, nothing sounds good. My weight is still down, hasn't dropped any further but is down 5-6lbs from earlier this year and I am happy it has dropped even that much. Another 5-10 would be awesome but I am not going to lose sleep over it.
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Thanks @shanaber . I am a pretty active person. If I wasn't, I'd hate to see where my weight would be! As suspected, I was up 1.4 pounds today from all the sodium I consumed yesterday. I'm going to a 3 year old's birthday party for lunch today. It's our neighbor's that had the puppies. Anyway, they are vegan and are having a cook out with burgers and I'm not sure what else. I don't know that I have ever had Vegan burgers. They did make vegan "ice cream" for one party that was good. It was basically frozen pureed fruit, but was really good. I'm sort of looking forward to seeing how I like it all.
I hope your hamstring doesn't take 6 months to get better! I used to have a knee that hurt during my warm up walk, but as soon as I started to run, it would quit hurting. So weird.
Since you don't "want lunch" after a run, but can manage breakfast, maybe have a breakfast food for lunch? Sometimes I have peanut butter on toast, which seems to hit the spot.0 -
Hello Runners! It's been way too long. I lost 20 days some how. Such a busy month. I had 10 Peloton friends that I had never met until last weekend, come to Austin for a meetup. Several had decided to try their first Spartan Race ( a national group that puts on obstacle course races around the county). So we all came together for 3 days....what a fun time. Who would have thought that a group of random people who met in a Facebook group related to Peloton and started doing rides together and then chatting daily, would actually meet a year later and like each other? The wonders of social media. And would never have happened without my injury, forcing a Peloton, and a pandemic! most of them were in their 40s and 50s and some of my besties, 30s. So that is also pretty cool....have women friends that span decades yet we all relate so well. It was just so interesting.
I also decided since then, which I may regret, that before I turn 60 (just turned 58 last Monday) that I need some new goals and challenges. So I signed up with a bunch of them to do a Spartan Race in Nashville in early October. I will attempt to train by continuing running, cycling and strength but also need to learn rope climbing, pullups for the monkey bars, climbing over walls, etc. I found an obstacle course fitness place here and might try to get some lessons on the tricks to all of this. My hip is hurting a bit again but I will just have to work through it....don't think its ever going away.
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@rheddmobile sorry to hear about the trials with your mom. That was my mom. What struck me as I read through this....We finally found a total link between raging UTIs and brain fog/abnormal behavior. My mom started getting bad UTIs and you lose the ability to feel them at some point so they get bad. Once the toxins are in their blood, they become disoriented and act so oddly. We got to the point that we knew when she had one....and were always right. So weird. And she did fall a few times and just stayed on the floor and waited till we could get EMTs over. It's such a hard time. And they do not want help. Hugs....hang in there.
@shanaber I can totally relate to the food thing. I can't eat a lot before a cardio workout. I am trying to have oatmeal when I first wake up and wait an hour then workout. Then It's like 11 or so and nothing sounds good. I often just have a very high protein smoothie and eat something more lunch like at 3. Then dinner at 7:30. I got to avoid getting famished as that is when I find the junk. Also, tendonitis sounds awful....6 months. Yikes. Also glad that your husband is out and about. Starting to feel normal again.
@quilteryoyo You are so active - real world workouts! Your mom is so lucky to have you. I crave hotdogs at a baseball game. It's been a long time.
@Avidkeo I think these flare ups are pretty normal in a marriage. Stresses of work, parenting, life in general and a pandemic is just icing on the cake. But being able to talk or yell it out, cry and be honest will pay off. My marriage has become more stable since the kids are almost out (Julia leaves in July for med school). We are just more chill right now so like shanaber, more rolls off of us than used too. We each seem to have our things.
@CMorning99 Wow....4 coyotes? Interesting that they were so calm. The ones around my house are very well fed. We hear them often and it sounds like a bunch but I hear its usually 3-4 that make themselves sound like a huge pack. It's always so eerie late at night. Those runs will be so nice when its a bit warmer. I miss the ocean.
@swenson19d Sounds like your hanging in there. Are you getting shoes altered for leg length differences? I am going to a new PT next week and will have them look at that....I know I am off somehow somewhere. Plus the hip. My shot helped a bunch but it already seems to be wearing off.....
Food: still tracking macros. I was down to my lowest in years after my eat and drink everythig weekend last weekend but my Macro lady told me that its like wringing out a wet sponge....dehydration and less workouts you lost water in your muscles and it will come back once back on track. After 2 nights of social outings with lots of party food and drinks, I was up 6 lbs this morning.....in a week. It's all just one chemical reaction.
Exercise: Just sticking to my strength calendar, with 30-45 min cardios 4 times a week, a longer ride 1 day a week and 2 days of yoga or stretching....I plan to remeasure my body fat/lean muscle in June and see if anything has changed. I am really enjoying the strength stuff. Muscle just looks healthier IMHO.
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@bearly63 That meet up with your Peloton friends sounds like so much fun! Glad things worked out for that. You are such a determined person, I'm sure you'll do fine in the Spartan race. I have such poor upper body strength, I don't think I would fair well. LOL Those are some huge weight swings. I thought my one or 2 pounds was a lot.
The birthday party was fun and the food was good. I wouldn't want to only have a vegan burger and never meat, but every once in a while it was okay. They made it themselves with lots of different seeds and grains and beets. Something I ate didn't set well with my tummy, but it feels better now.0 -
Ok, I'm crawling back again. I hope y'all will have me.
I've been struggling with body image lately. I hate how I look and how clothes look. Time to start putting in the work.
My diet has gotten better but still needs improvement. TIme to focus on healthy choices. I was released from PT with some exercises to continue. I need to start weight training again but will be limited to mostly lower body work until my shoulder is completely unfrozen (it's thawing).
So I will record food every day, continue running, add more strength training, and check in here at least once a day.5 -
@bearly63 HEY! so good to see you again. I have had PT's and docs look for leg length discrepancy (LLD), and never identified it. I asked Dr. Google as to why I had a hip hike and it "thinks" only 3 reasons; scoliosis, LLD and something else I dismissed so quickly that I can not recall what it was. I don't have scoliosis although have some spinal changes, flattening of thoracic curvature. So that left the LLD and I specifically asked the surgeon about it. Just a quick measurement on the x-ray he finds 3/8 in, I'd have to have a CT to measure it properly. I measured from the top of my hip to the inside ankle on both legs and find 1/2 in difference. Beats the inconvenience and expense of a CT just to alter my shoes. The surgeon suggested adding cheap insoles to adjust for the difference but I found that made my shoe too small. He was against the heel lift inserts as the whole foot needs elevated not just the heel, which would cause other problems.
@RunsOnEspresso Oh you and I both need to get with it. I did good for about a week then DH sabotaged me with ice cream and pizza, both made of crack.
I wanted to go walk this week...
but is has rained daily. Which is great for my trees and my shoes aren't here yet anyway. I've been walking around the house in one flip flop, and walking the road occasionally in 2 different shoes with different drops. I notice some new muscle pain which I expect is good. My right leg is weak, Dr M. wanted the neuro to check it out, but we haven't gotten that far. I do feel a bit stronger and suspect a bit of added ROM with the alterations in shoes. I still have the jerks but less so than last October. Neuro next week where I will specifically ask about the possibility of MS and what she believes it could be. I talked to person with MS and his (Brain MRI) was clear but evidence was found in his spine. I just wanna know how to manage the tiredness, back pain and Charley horse spasms. The jerks aren't a big deal. I can't seem to hold anything without dropping it either.
Class... (psych of personalities)
starts next week. I am so happy. The prof opened it up a week early and I have a purpose starting today. The class is a lot of writing, not my strong suit, but I like that it is structured in a way to help one digest the material and I'll enjoy the thinking exercises. The final paper is on a character of your choice. I am thinking the Russian Dolls main character. Perfect to have something to do so I don't cry/sleep/frump all day.2 -
They are releasing my mom today. She is not mentally with it. I am going to have to stay with her for a while.
I really am not willing to do 24/7 care - we did that for my father for a while and split between 3 people it just about killed all three of us. It was a mistake. And we don’t have three people now, just me. If she doesn’t recover enough to be trusted to stay by herself at least part of the day so I can run, shop, and so on without her doing something stupid and falling, we are going to have to look at some kind of assisted living. She seems to think I am going to sleep in her room with her from now on. I have a husband, that is not how that works.
Also, going through her house for the first time since Covid it is clear she has not been okay for a while. We have been buying her groceries and she has apparently not been eating them. Every week she would say she was out of tuna for example and there are a bazillion cans of tuna. She would ask for more bottled tea and it would turn out she had four cases stacked in her car. As far as I can tell she’s been living mainly off cheese and peanut butter crackers. Also, when the hospital went through her meds to figure out what she was taking, they found out that she had clearly not been taking her meds daily, because a lot of bottles were out of date but still full.
Anyway, at least I am not having nutritional problems. I was worried that when I had to face a big life crisis my routine would collapse and I would gain all my weight back. But I am down six pounds in a week instead. I managed to get in my runs and lifting by getting up at 4 am and doing everything before people can bother me, but I can’t keep it up, I am exhausted.
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@rheddmobile well. I hope the assisted living thing, if required is an easy transition. My violin instructor would put adds in the paper for help. It usually attracted unsavory types. Idk if there is a way to reach RN/ LPN nursing students in your area, they seemed to be the best with care and we’re reliable. I saw an add for a pill dispenser but it doesn’t sound like she could manage alone, perhaps if home health was available?
Congrats on the weight? We are praying for you. Dh mentioned a trip to TN. I said no way you have time to say “hi”. He’s looking for any excuse for a road trip/ cruise/ flight. He offered to buy me an antique roll top desk for 1000$ if I agreed to go somewhere. Meh. Nah.. lol.
I can send you a care pack. Maybe a massage gift certificate, spa day or something? Idk. If there is anything I can do to “help” let me know. I enjoy having a purpose.2 -
Of course we will have you @RunsOnEspresso ! I'm glad you were released from PT. Sounds like you have a good plan as far as food and exercise go. You can do it.
I hope the new shoes help and that you get some answers from the neuro @swenson19d .
I'm glad your mom is being released from the hospital, but so sorry she has been having issues for a while now @rheddmobile . I'm not surprised your weight is down with all of the stress you have been under. When my husband was in the hospital, the ICU nurse told me to be sure and eat a lot because I would need it with all of the stress I was under. I ate like a horse at the hospital cafeteria and didn't gain anything. I did manage to stay around the same, which was what I needed to do. I hope she gets back to normal soon and you won't have to go through the process of finding someone to stay with her or find a good assisted living facility for her. It's so hard. I will be praying for you and her and your DH.
I did have a nice surprise in the mailbox today. Remember when I was having so much trouble with my heat pump last year? Well, I had found a letter that I had received a couple of years earlier that said there was a class action lawsuit against the makers of the heat pump coils for poor workmanship, or something. Anyway, the letter stated if you had to replace the coils, you could file a claim. I had totally forgotten about it until the second coil was replaced and I was looking though my file. When I found it, I filed an on-line claim. I hadn't heard anything from it, and had basically forgotten about it. Today, I got a check for $480 in the mail!
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@RunsOnEspresso - come on back in! We would never turn you away!
@swenson19d - Is the vertebral hemangioma (I had to go back and find what it was called) still a possible cause of the issues? I hope the shoes come soon and that they help some. Also glad you are feeling better/happier with the structured class and something to focus on.
@rheddmobile - We had friends whose mom lived near us and they are about 2 hours away. We volunteered to help but they ended up having family come to check her every few days. She was diabetic and also a heavy smoker. They would leave her shots all drawn and ready for her and come back and they would still be sitting there and she would swear she had taken them along with all her other medications that hadn't been touched and that they were trying to trick her. Ended up she had sundowners(?) dementia and they eventually had to put her in an assisted living home. They were terrified she would burn her house down. Interestingly she also charmed all the medical professionals and her doctor refused to say she couldn't drive. They finally just took the car away. I hope you can figure something out for your mom that won't cause you so much stress and pain. @swneson19d's suggestion of nursing students or even residency or medical students could be a solution. My dd suggested as much for Hilde - dd's residents would have loved to help and they can always use some extra money.
Please let us know what we can do to help you and keep you sane? A gift certificate for dinner for you and dh? Something in particular from CA? A bottle of wine?
I am doing ok. Had a decent but too hot run yesterday and it was still hot at agility last night - 91F at 8pm! Dh made it safely home and the dressing table has been successfully installed in its new home.
I listened to this podcast yesterday and it has SO much good information I would encourage all of you to listen to it. It is about the research that Dr. Sims has done and found on women athletes and the impact of hormones and how it changes our nutritional and rest needs and how they differ from men's. Mostly about pre-menopausal but I still found some good nuggets of information on protein requirements, etc.. This is a YouTube link but I found it in Spotify.
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Someone else mentioned that podcast and sent me the link to her Ted talk. Last summer I listened to Roar (borrowed the audiobook from library). I think I'd like to pick up an actual copy of the book someday.1
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She and Selene Yeager are supposed to come out with a book soon on menopause as it relates to active women. I thought about getting Roar but it doesn't have much that is applicable to me any longer. She also has a class but I don't think I need that much information either or want to spend that much money... She also has some podcasts with NUUN that look pretty good too.1
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@RunsOnEspresso They haven't kicked me out yet and I go awol often these days. Glad you are back and have a good plan.
@rheddmobile Sounds like your mom checks many of the boxes for need for assistance. You are smart to recgonize your limitations. Some people can take that on and others can't. My sisters took it on for my mom because they both lived in the same area.....far away from the rest of us. But it semi-ruined their relationship after my died. It's a lot. I hope you can find a workable solution.
@quilteryoyo Nice mail surprise! That's fantastic. I agree about the meat thing too.....I can eat vegeterian now and again but not all the time.
@shanaber that podcast sounds interesting. Thanks for the share....
@swenson19d interesting info re the leg length. I had my evaluation today from the PT. He definitely sees a different in strength and movement between my right and left side. Wants to try to pinpoint the actual cause or causes...instead of a medical code du jour.....right now, osteoarthritis. He is not in my insurance plan and is pricey. Hope he finds an answer fast....2 -
Still here and reading.
@rheddmobile my heart goes out to you and your mum. Its so incredibly hard seeing them like that and not knowing what the right thing is. Make sure you look after yourself as well. It's absolutely OK to say you can't do it and get help. You can't help if you need help yourself. It sounds selfish, but put your needs first, and you will be in a much better position to help your mum. Kia kaha.
@quilteryoyo yay for a win! Especially after the crap you put up with!
@swenson19 you are always in my thoughts. Hope you are having a good day.
Yesterday was bad for eating. But I've been excellent the rest of the week. Ive been lazy and not cycling lately. It's so easy to get up and go for a run when it's cold, but I just can't be bothered cycling when it's cold. So no cross training lately. Oops.
Things at home have improved. We had a massive heart to heart. And that seems to have helped. There was a lot of emotions aired. We are both making an effort so that's all you can really ask for. We've been together for 20 years so blow ups like this are always hard.2 -
So yesterday my win was I had a few calories left at the end of the day. I was slightly hungry so I wanted something. Instead of having a serving or more of ice cream, I grabbed a small bowl and mentally calculated I could have around half a serving. So I measured out a little more than half (hard to scoop exact measurements LOL). It looked sad, even in the small dish but I savored it and enjoyed it and felt satisfied after.
I've got all food pre-logged for today. I'll adjust dinner when it's actually time for it. Currently, I have my best guess so I can see where I am calorie-wise. Looks like I will have almost 400 calories to play with. I probably have another afternoon snack and something after dinner.2 -
I'm glad you and your DH had a heart to heart @Avidkeo and are BOTH putting in the effort to make things better. You can't do it by yourself.
@RunsOnEspresso Great job on the food. I'm horrible at only having a serving of ice cream. D
Did I tell you all that my neighbor bought me a huge box of Oreos? He knows I love them. An open box of Oreos usually don't last long around me. Fortunately, this box has 10 sleeves with 13 cookies each - is supposed to be 14, but each one is short a cookie. LOL Anyway, I kept them for about 4 days before opening the box, then, I opened one sleeve, took out a 3 cookie serving, put the rest in a zip lock bag, and put them in the cupboard where they are out of sight. I had one more serving tonight. Not really tempted to eat any more. I'm pretty proud of myself.3 -
@quilteryoyo Ugh, oreos are so hard to resist! Great job!1
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@quilteryoyo - I completely missed your post. That is pretty exciting to get the settlement fro your heat pump! Now if only the IRS would get their act together too!
I honestly think I may be one of the very few people who doesn't care for Oreos. I never had them growing up, not until college and I guess I just never developed a taste for them. I recently (pre-fumigation) threw away a package of peanut butter Oreos dh bought me thinking I would enjoy them instead of regular ones that he loves... Nope! I think the use by date was 2018 and only a couple had been eaten.
@bearly63 - I hope the PT helps (quickly!)! Mine have always been covered but I do have to have a referral to go though.
@avidkeo - glad things are going smoother now and that everyone is putting in the effort. Like @quilteryoyo said, you can't do it on your own! It's a partnership and both partners have to do their part.1 -
Re: Oreos - when I was a child my best friend and I were having a sleep over. We snuck down to the kitchen after lights out and absconded with a whole box of Oreos and a whole tub of cool whip, and ate the cool whip by dipping Oreos in it. We ate it all and hid the evidence. All went well until a couple of days later when my mom was going to put Cool Whip on whatever she bought it for and couldn’t find it. She asked me if I knew what happened to it and I denied everything. I remember her saying, “Just tell me the truth! I won’t be angry, I just need to know I’m not losing my mind, I know I bought some!”
I did eventually confess. My mom didn’t completely tell the truth, though - she was plenty angry!
Anyway that is my Oreos story. So you can see back in the day I could down a whole box of Oreos by basically inhaling them. And I was so skinny! Nowadays the last time I tasted an Oreo it tasted like not much, maybe vaguely burnt? And the filling tastes kinda like Crisco and sugar? Hard to remember why I used to like them.2 -
Still hanging in there. Day 3 with my mom back from the hospital and if I could live without sleeping I’d be doing okay. She is honestly better than expected mentally - yesterday she was sharper than she’s been in months - but unfortunately worse than expected physically. Her hematocrit is super low and her blood pressure is all over the map, so she keeps trying to pass out whenever she’s on her feet for longer than a few seconds. She can get herself back and forth to the bathroom at least, but isn’t really safe to leave unsupervised.
We did park her in bed yesterday and get in a short trail run at the closest park, and I got in my lifting today by getting up early.
As an introvert this is just about killing me. I like my alone time and she is lonely and wants someone with her all the time, including at night. I did put my foot down on that and insisted on sleeping in my own room with a door that shut. She has her phone and she’s in her right mind, so no excuse for doing anything dangerous. This is not sustainable even short term, but I’m hoping she will continue to improve.3 -
@rheddmobile good to hear things are looking up a bit for your mother!
Oreos
I'm not partial. I can't even remember the last time I ate one, 20+ years perhaps. My ex would eat the whole package in one sitting though.
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I think some of the symptoms could be related to the hemangioma. I have terrible back pain off and on. I will specifically ask about it.
DH is mad Bob is cleaning around him. LOL. I don't think Bob cares if he hurts his feeling or is inconvenienced. The floor needs cleaned, Bob must be unleashed. I set Babs to do a dry sweep the other day not expecting it to make much of a difference. I didn't see a difference but the pad of cat fur told a different story.
I am not well today...
I slept in, as is now normal since DH moved his office out of the bedroom. Come 10 AM Bear wasn't having me sleep any longer, he was lonely... and persistent. Any way, I am dizzy today. IDK why. And I have a bit more rhotacism than usual. Perhaps it's a migraine of sorts. I will take some med in a min. I bet I slept too long. Which is weird cuz I am so tired but my mind thinks I've slept too much.3 -
Re Oreos. They are relatively new here. We've kinda had them in some specialist US food stores (yes we have those in the big cities, never actually been in one lol) but over the last couple of years they've been available in mainstream supermarkets. I bought a packet over Christmas - one of the big sharing ones. I ate that whole pack over 3 days. They are so damned addictive. So I don't buy them. That said I got another pack the other day because they were cheap and half there. pack is still sitting there and the kids ate most of them.
Then biscuits (cookies) aren't my thing. Now chocolate on the other hand....
Ended up a little under calories last night, yay. Was so tempted to stuff my face but realised that's because I was really hungry.
Had a challenging start to the day yesterday. I was on an admin day and started at 10am. A few minutes after I arrived I got a call from that days co-ordinator asking if I could cover tea breaks (15 mins) . Because we are so short staffed, I agreed. When I got to the workroom there were 4 staff members there - basically the ideal number and more than enough to cover tea breaks. So I got very frustrated. There was only a couple of patients waiting, but one was what we call a shopping list - multiple body parts to image. So I grabbed that one because it was next. Only took me 15min to image him. When the co-ordinator came back, I calmly stated to her I waw frustrated at being called away from admin time (I never get admin so I was pumped for it) to cover tea breaks when they had more than enough staff to cover them. Well she got really bitchy at me, said made comments about how we are a team and other staff come in when they are doing admin. I pointed out that staff member is actually rostered to the floor and does admin when it's quiet. She then said don't worry, I won't ever call you again, you clearly aren't a team player.
Well that really pissed me off because I pride myself on being a team player. I bend over backwards for this team, and I told her what she said was unfair for that reason. We went back and forth a bit and eventually I said we would have to agree to disagree, and I left. I was so angry. I calmed for a moment and then went and talked to my boss about it. She agreed with me, that the co-ordinator was in the wrong, though perhaps I could have aired my frustration in a less public forum.
Well i suspect that the co-ordinator talked with the boss after me because about 20 mins later she came and apologised to me! Though she left with a "so we agree to disagree" 🙄
I'm making a point on standing up for myself and taking less bull. Last year I'd have just grumbled and complained and not actually done anything. This year I'm not taking it any more. The reason the admin time is so important is its time for my students. I'm supposed to have 6hrs per week but I'm not getting it. And the students are missing out. So this is me standing up so the students get what they need to qualify.
Wow long winded way of me saying I'm finding myself! Yay!7 -
@rheddmobile Hahaha on your Oreo story. Glad your mom is improving. Hope she continues to do so and gets to the point where you feel safe to leave her by herself again. Also hope you can find some help so you don't run yourself down and get sick. After my husband's brain biopsy went South, I maybe slept 2 hours a day for 3 months. Looking back, I have no idea how I did it, but I did. Not sure I could now that I am 16 years older.
@swenson19d Sorry you aren't feeling well today. Hope tomorrow is better for you.
@Avidkeo Oreos are addictive. If there's an open package where I can see it, I won't eat the whole thing at once, but will grab on every time I walk by. That's why is seems to work to keep them in the cupboard. Yay for sticking up for yourself. I'm not the best at doing that.2 -
How’s the holiday weekend going for the US folks?
Just another weekend here.
Dh wrapped up his porch project, I cleaned the cat boxes, yesterday dd and I walked 1.5 miles, bob has been busy, I’ve got a jump on class work that begins Tuesday, repotted a bonsai, had Dh help me put the antique desk up from where it sat in plastic in the garage, dh is off to the city to “look” at a bike (Harley) which I expect him to come home with.
My neighbors have been driving a car in their back yard in circles for about 3 hours now… whoopin’ and yee hawing.
I seriously shudder over it. I’m Gladys from Bewitched peering out the window and updating Dh as he Harley shopped… 0 -
@swenson19d - Just another weekend here too, although we do have plans to BBQ. Burgers tonight and brats on Monday. I am not a huge fan of brats, they just seem to have so much salt but dh made it over to the German deli where they make their own and are fresh. They are typically so much better than the store bought Johnsonville or whichever brand.
We have a church parking lot behind our house and kids like to go really fast and spin out in circles there, usually at 10 or 11 at night or later. We can hear the tires squealing and I am sure one of these days someone will lose control and they will go through our block wall. For a while they were blocking off streets and doing it in the street until the police shut them down.
Sounds like you are busy getting things done and I was happy to see you were able to get out for a walk. How did it feel?
@avidkeo - good for you learning to stand up for yourself! I didn't learn it well until a few years before I retired and I wished I had been better at it years before.1 -
@swenson19d Nothing special here either. Trying to clean house really good in preparation for my step-daughter's family coming for a visit the first full week of June. I'm glad to see you got out for a walk too. Do you have your elevated shoe yet?
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The walk went fine. I’m not sore today at all and would have gotten out again today but Dh ran off. I haven’t gotten my shoes back yet… I am eager for the possibility of “better”. The hip is kinda itchy pain. I expect that just a circulation thing? The neighbors are back at it again after a 2 hour break. There is a line of trees between us and I fully expect someone to hit them or veer off into the ravine.
The backyard project. Idk if this link will work. ETA. Seems too. It is narrated and pardon the mess, someone spilt paint and the dog (Jack) tracked it everywhere.
https://share.icloud.com/photos/0xYg9HSbVo-i5ENuG9T0sCU1w1 -
@swenson19d Glad you aren't sore from your walk. I could see your video, but the volume was so low, probably my computer, I couldn't hear what was being said. LOL Looks like a big project going there.0
