Runners that need some nutritional accountability
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quilteryoyo wrote: »@swenson19d Glad you aren't sore from your walk. I could see your video, but the volume was so low, probably my computer, I couldn't hear what was being said. LOL Looks like a big project going there.
Crazy neighbors, Jackie dog, messy porch, adjustable shades, mama bird, and the shed where my noodle cat lives. I’m really glad I’m not sore either! Dh thought I overdid it but movement seemed to help with the aches and pains.2 -
Regular weekend here. Just an extra day to clean 🤣
I weighed in yesterday. Down my usual halfish pound. We will see how next weekend goes. The goal is to not go back up lol
I ate a little more than planned yesterday. I was hungry but didn't run as much as I hoped (tired/heat).
I hope to get out and do more today. Then I'll see what I feel like for Monday, thinking I can go a little longer because it's a day off.2 -
Class officially starts today!
I’m up early, 5am. Play games and have tea and decide to check the course… I open my laptop to find the blue screen of death again. 45 minutes with India and it is re-doing its thing, resetting everything. *sigh* @shanaber I’m 2 seconds from an Apple product but really love this Dell. It’s done this twice in 10 months. Thank goodness for my extended service plan, right? (Sarcasm).
Hip, and walking
Ugh I was “fine” the one day walking then dd and I walked about a mile two days later and that was bad. I don’t know if it’s normal pain from weakness or alarming and I need to pick a doc and go. I just have no “want to” for much anymore. Suppose I’ll phone doc M for a wth appointment and schedule a steroid with doc Y (thr guy) unless M can see me relatively soon.
Dd
She had an allergic reaction to something a few days ago and broke out in hives, welts and wheals. She gave in to a steroid shot yesterday and it was calming down. No idea what it was, she thought perhaps mosquitoes, but the doc thought it was unlikely as this is the first allergic reaction to mosquitos. We suspect that it is her dairy allergy if anything. She washed all her bedding and showered and will watch the dairy to see if that’s it.
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The dell is back up 4 hours later. yay. I ordered an Apple laptop. It was painful at 5 times what this one cost. I kept going back and forth buying one and this is the third time I've toyed with it so guess I might as well. DD has a super cheap chromebook and I am positive it isn't going to be compatible with school soon, it won't work on the system for the college I'm at but still works for hers. I can eventually relinquish this one I suppose and claim the new on on taxes as a school expense. I'm tired already...2
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@swenson19d - We had a contract with Dell at work for a while. Everyone just called them 'boat anchors' because they weren't much use for anything else. They did keep our support staff well occupied though.
I hope the MAC works for you. I had dd's old one for a few months to try it out before I purchased mine in early 2019. I have never had it crash. I personally love mine even after being a Windows person my entire life. It is different and takes some getting used to but it is also easy to find how to do something with a simple internet search. I also bought this book along with the 'For Dummies' manual. They are both for a previous version of MacOs but the basics and commands are the same they just don't discuss the 'new' features available in the newer versions.
I hope your dd is feeling better. I used to get hives from certain fabrics, typically wool and also from dry cleaning solvents. They were horrible!
I hope the pain is better from your walk! Maybe the steroid shot will help.
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@shanaber "boat anchors" ugh. Prob cuz you wish you were hit with a boat anchor before you actually purchased it LOL! Ill grab the book for MAC, I figure with the internet there isn't much I can't figure out. Thanks.
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yay!!!!! my dell is faster than ever! er as fast as it should be, and FIXED completely thanks to Khafiulla! LOL! They pushed a BIOS update last night and since my computer hadn't been shut down (only sleep) seemed to be the problem. So I should shut it down more often as I rarely do. I'm a bit conflicted about that LOL! I think I need a nap now. I haven't told dh about the mac purchase or phoned about appointments, just loading crap back on the Dookie Dell.3
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@swenson19 hugs on the PC. I'm stuck with a couple of OLD laptops. Now I don't do a lot on them fortunately but they are SLOW. I keep toying with one of those flip tablets, that are small laptops but you can flip the keyboard all the way to the back. I have an original Microsoft surface from 2013 that's still going pretty strong and I love it. But again, starting to slowly die.
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@swenson19 hugs on the PC. I'm stuck with a couple of OLD laptops. Now I don't do a lot on them fortunately but they are SLOW. I keep toying with one of those flip tablets, that are small laptops but you can flip the keyboard all the way to the back. I have an original Microsoft surface from 2013 that's still going pretty strong and I love it. But again, starting to slowly die.
I just persevere.
I really like this 2n1 Dell touch screen (Inspiron 15 7591). Maybe because its familiar. I wish you were closer, I'd give it to you. I tried to give it to DD but she thinks it's "broken", it's not. I think she'll warm up to it as the need arises. Otherwise I seriously may be sending it your way.2 -
I’m still alive! My poor husband is having pvcs from stress though. And my mom, ugh. I love her but she is driving me to distraction. We keep figuring out from living in her house that she has not been okay to live on her own for quite some time - at least the past year during Covid but also longer than that. For example she had dental surgery in 2018 and was given antibiotics to take before and after, and I just found the bottle with the drugs untaken. She got a ticket for driving her car without the registration sticker, and there’s a letter from the county saying she sent the property taxes in but did not include a check. Fortunately we are in a rural area where everybody knows everybody so instead of causing a problem they just sent her a reminder letter that she forgot the check.
In the current day, it’s impossible to tell how much of her functioning is because she has problems (doctors say she has no neurological deficit and passes all tests, thanks guys, very observant) but she can’t or won’t turn the hot water on in the shower or open a shampoo bottle. The problem is she is an extrovert who has been really lonely during Covid and she likes having us here and also sort of relishes being waited on hand and foot. So I think she is able to do more than she is doing, but I can’t tell how much. She is deaf and leaves her bedroom door wide open - my husband caught her walking around perfectly fine doing stuff in her bedroom and she sat down and suddenly needed a walker when she realized he was watching. She does legit have problems with blood pressure suddenly dropping and fainting, and she can’t be trusted to use the walker (plus it doesn’t help if she faints), so she has to have someone in the room with her or at least in earshot all the time.
Also, if she makes one more comment about her desire for junk food instead of my cooking I am gonna snap. She is diabetic and has been hiding it from us, it turns out. Considering she was living almost entirely on Wendy’s hamburgers and fries while diabetic it’s no wonder she doesn’t feel great. We are out in the country and no one delivers here, and she can’t be left alone, so not sure how she thinks I am magically going to teleport Wendy’s to her considering I can only go into town at 4 am. Unfortunately my husband can’t help as he can’t drive for medical reasons.
I did get 8 hours sleep last night for the first time since she’s been home due to a couple of her friends who stayed the night with her.
On the positive side, I’m learning new things about the limits of my physiology! Can I lift fasted at 3 am? Let’s find out! Turns out - sort of? But not very heavy? Can I keep track of all her meds, her blood glucose testing, blood pressure testing, and so on, without being allowed to sleep? Yes! But! I forgot to take my own meds!
My husband and I have completely ceased to have lives of any kind. We are slaves. We clean her house, watch her, clean her, and in our spare time buy groceries and cook for her. I haven’t watched a TV show in a week. All I do is pray for sleep. The other day while driving home for supplies I started screaming and crying and threatened to drive the car off the road and kill us both. (I am okay now after a night’s sleep but was serious at the time.) Meanwhile, she is happy as a clam and talking about moving to an apartment where she plans to live near her friends. At this level of functioning she would not even be eligible for assisted living, since she won’t take her meds, bathe herself, and can’t be trusted to go to the bathroom alone. She needs a full on nursing home, and her doctors say there is nothing wrong with her. Her church is in town and her pastor called to make well-intentioned noises but ain’t nobody gonna help.6 -
@rheddmobile Is there a home that is a group assisted living facility? We visited one and it was like a nursing home but posh and the residents just needed meals, meds, transportation, and basic care. I think they came and went as desired. You sound wore out. I really hope you find help. Your poor husband. Jeez ya'll need a get away, er your mother does
Services here. I really hope you can find something similar.
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@rheddmobile I hope you can get some help soon. I am glad that you got a good night's sleep. Maybe you can recruit those friends to stay once a week or so, at least. I wish there was something more I could do for you.
The assisted living my cousin is in makes sure he takes his medicine, helps with his bathing, etc. Maybe there are different levels that you could look into. Also, talk to the director of the nursing home - or assisted living facilities. When I was looking for a place for my cousin, they were all very helpful and steered me in the right direction, even if it wasn't their direction.
Also, check on the TN Agency for Aging. They may be able to help out too.
Thought I'd update you on my IRS saga. I got a letter in the mail yesterday that indicates, in a weird way, that they have finally applied the $400 to my 2019 taxes, so I'll be getting my refund. But, the refund specified is NOT the amount I should be getting. They have charged me interest, which they all have said I would NOT owe since I had paid on time. So, now I'm going to have to call them to get the entire refund. It's only a little over $20, but it's the principle of the thing at this point. Heck, they should be paying me for my time and stress in trying to take care of this for an entire year! I least I won't be getting any more notices that I owe them money! That's a plus.5 -
Hi all:
I did a quick catch up. We were gone Fri-Mon visiting our son in NYC....kinda a farewell tour since he is moving back to Texas in a month. It rained hard for about 3 days but was nice our last day. A lot of walking, eating and sight seeing. We had a great time. Its such a cool city, so diverse. People are nice. It's coming back and I hope it continues to thrive.
@swenson19d I think my next computer will be a mac. I have an ASUS that was about $600 and its been fine but wonky since I bought it. I use an old MAC at work and its never had an issue. They last a long time.
@rheddmobile OMG. You guys are being put through the ringer. I am so sorry. Elder care here is so hard. esp. the inbetween times. And so expensive. An option that some people find helpful is part time care to do the basics....the meds, the food, the cleaning. A visit once a day for 2 hours. Takes pressure off of you and the the important tasks get done. "Visiting Angels" is the one that comes to mind. It's a transitional step until she needs full time care. I hope a solution comes to you soon. It's not sustainable.
@quilteryoyo That IRS saga? its crazy. You are so patient. I hope you get every dime they owe you.
Food: trying to get back on track with the cals/macros. I ate all the things and drank all the things in NYC. June I am hoping for just consistency and healthy choices.
Exercise: sticking with the strength calendar and some cardio 5-6 days a week. Trying to run more regardless of the opinions of the Western Medicine docs....working on my form and trying to minimize the impact.2 -
My mother’s friend is staging an intervention. As I thought we have been making her far too comfortable. She doesn’t want any changes in her living situation because “the children are fine” and “this is balanced.” Also she told her friend that we were only here from 9 am to 3 pm which considering we are here 24/7 makes me want to punch her in the face. Jesus take the wheel.
I am about to start collecting evidence to have her declared incompetent.2 -
Good afternoon folks!
I am back from my 10 day trip to mom's memorial camping trip. I was pleasantly surprised with how many folks showed up. The trip up there (7 hrs) pulling the trailer was a bit nerve wracking, but luckily I only had to to stop for gas once (gas stations are my nemesis) and folks helped me park the trailer. I planned to run during the trip but I ended up lounging in bed with the keurig 8ft away LOL. I know I gained weight, my underwear is getting tight.
I am back to work and being here hit with an overwhelming sadness. I think the stress of the job (and their lack of providing training) along with them dumping tasks on me I have no idea how to do (I feel like like in HS when you are presented a hard math problem and told to solve and don't even know where to begin). I also need to start working on the ranch. Yesterday I tried to trace the water lines but I suspect that as things broke or there were suspected leaks, lines were capped and new ones branched off. Everything is buried 2.5ft down too, so lots of digging. I feel like at this point it needs to be scrapped entirely. I have all the info I need for my next steps but lack the motivation to pick up the phone. If it is possible, I feel sadder and more overwhelmed at this point than any other...
I am going to make myself go for walk tonight. I need to pay my coach, I really should just cancel the subscription. My heart is not into it. I told my friends and they said I should keep it.
I am going to make 1 phone call today and figure out getting a dumpster delivered. They aren't as expensive as I thought it was, but I hate having to spend money this way. After that I need someone to come mow weeds. I need the tree guy to come cut the orchards way back and see what survives. It really is a full time job.
I better get to it. I have to some training for my new job, I have almost finished it and it told me nothing...
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@bearly63 Glad you had such a great time in NYC, despite the rain. Yes. This IRS thing is ridiculous. As soon as I find the time, I'm going to write or call my congressman about a couple of things - the IRS and how my cousin was treated by the VA this last time he had a delirium episode. As for food, I try to not worry about vacation calories and just get back on track when I get home. Sounds like that is what you are doing. You'll be fine.
Hugs @rheddmobile ! That's so hard. I hope your mother's friend can get through to her and things will get better.
@CMorning99 I was wondering where you were. Guess I forgot you were going on a camping trip. It sounds like that was nice and relaxing. So sorry that being back at work is so overwhelming and sad. It is so hard and taking care of things at the ranch does sound like a full time job in itself. I feel the same way sometime - I have 19 acres to take care of and I'm not doing a very good job. If paying for the coach helps you get out and get some exercise, I say keep him. If you can motivate yourself, then it's up to you....well, it really is up to you anyway. I think you need to keep moving - running or walking. It will help your mental status as well as your physical well being. Hope you figure out the job soon, so it isn't so stressful. Hugs! 0 -
swenson19d wrote: »@swenson19 hugs on the PC. I'm stuck with a couple of OLD laptops. Now I don't do a lot on them fortunately but they are SLOW. I keep toying with one of those flip tablets, that are small laptops but you can flip the keyboard all the way to the back. I have an original Microsoft surface from 2013 that's still going pretty strong and I love it. But again, starting to slowly die.
I just persevere.
I really like this 2n1 Dell touch screen (Inspiron 15 7591). Maybe because its familiar. I wish you were closer, I'd give it to you. I tried to give it to DD but she thinks it's "broken", it's not. I think she'll warm up to it as the need arises. Otherwise I seriously may be sending it your way.
Lol I'd happily pay shipping. Pcs in NZ are so incredibly expensive it's not funny. Hope your daughter warms up to it.2 -
@rheddmobile you and your mum continues to be in my thoughts. I hope you manage to get something more permanent sorted. I'm glad her friend is helping.
@quilteryoyo typical government really. I absolutely get chasing that money, so frustrating.
@CMorning99 welcome back! I hope you find your mojo.
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I've been having a good few days. Just feeling a bit more me I guess. I did some soul searching and some reflective videos that I have no intention on posting, just me verbalising my feeling. Seems to have helped so I may keep doing that.
It kinda came down to I don't really know how I'm feeling but I'm not feeling great. I'm just kinda Meh. So I'm working on that.
Foods been better the last couple of days. And I'm actually enjoying sticking to goal.
This weekend is a long weekend, so I am on call for work. I'm also attending a virtual conference so that should be fun!3 -
@Avidkeo I'm glad you are having better days. If the videos are helping, I say continue doing them. I journal for the same reason. Not sure where I would be without that. Enjoy your weekend.2
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It’s easier to have a sense of humor when you get enough sleep. Friend let us take off early yesterday which we used to do laundry and cook for the upcoming week. Because my mom’s kitchen is a horror show and her fridge is broken, we are cooking at home and transporting her food one day at a time. Also we learned that no maid service is willing to clean anything as bad as her kitchen so we are having to hire a disaster mitigation service. My mom’s friend who went through all this with her own mother a few years ago recommended the disaster service. So, after yesterday and listening to my mom explain how we were fine and could just take care of her forever with no breaks, I am done being polite and sparing her feelings. “Did you get a good night’s sleep?” she says with this edge of “Since you left me here all alone to go have fun...” and I say, “Well, I got almost seven hours when I was finished doing your laundry, your shopping, and prepping all your meals for the next week. But at least I had time to get that done before I had to go to bed!” Yeah lady, gloves off, done letting you pretend we are happy with this setup.
So anyway, right now she is in a Zoom meeting with her writer friends. My mom is a professional writer and we are really trying to encourage her to keep interested in things. One of the first things we noticed going was her ability to handle passwords. She was constantly getting locked out of everything and having to have my husband reset all her passwords, until he finally just took over managing everything. So he gets her on the Zoom meeting and her friends say, “Hey, you are full screen for the first time! Did you get on by yourself?” And she says yes, because she is a huge honking liar now apparently, and the one younger guy in the group (and by younger I mean he is 70+ instead of 80+) says, Hey, that’s the first time you have been able to get on by yourself in a year! Which is news to us.
Here’s the thing though: she has been complaining about not being able to get Zoom to show her “full screen, like other people,” and my husband was trying to Covid long distance troubleshoot this thinking she wasn’t getting some part of the screen to blow up, when what was the problem was SHE WASNT POINTING THE CAMERA AT HERSELF!!!!!! and none of her geriatric friends knew what the issue was to explain it to her. And she says she didn’t even know there was a camera on her iPad. And then my husband notices that three of her friends have the same problem, including the one friend that we sometimes dogsit for, so we can recognize that her camera is pointed at the ceiling over her kitchen!
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@rheddmobile What a frustrating experience both with why she is behaving like this and also just the behavior itself. Being a caregiver is a stressful job. I watched my mom be a caregiver and her frustrations. My Grandma was not mean, but her confusion and actions could be frustrating...and there was no reasoning with her...it was like talking to a toddler.
@quilteryoyo Thanks for the encouragement! I am thinking I am depressed but it is so hard to see from the inside. We have some wonderful councilors on base and I have thought of going to see them. I think a lot of the problem is the trip was a distraction from the work I need to do.
I planned on at least walking last night but got sucked into a rabbit hole reading about Elliot Rodger, the kid who killed a bunch of folks at UCSB in 2014. He wrote a manifesto and I read it all, fascinating looking into his mind. I then dove into youtube for the "reaction" videos from various mental health experts as they described his mental state and what they thought he was struggling with.
Work went ok, chipping away I guess. I just need to put up barriers and focus on 1 thing at a time. I am sorry that things are going to fall off the plate, but that is how my mind works.
I got an annoying "cold text" asking if this was my phone number and they were looking for the owner of mom's property (now me) and they just said " this is katie"...like I knew who that was??? I responded back asking who they were and got a similar text back an hour or so later again asking who owned the property. I asked who they were with and they just said "a local investor". I responded the property was not for sale and they disappeared. I get so many postcards in the mail too. I know mom's property is very valuable...I am going to start telling them they can have it for $15million LOL. I mean, if someone offered me that, I might just do it...
I was going to go out this AM and run/walk and alas woke up so sad. I sat in my trailer talking to friends. Maybe this afternoon.
Work seems to be quiet today, I learned that the civilians get every other friday off. That will be nice, just 2 of us in today.
I have a giant dumpster coming next week (40ft'r) and I have a goal to fill it in 1 mo (4 weekends) LOL We shall see... This weekend I am going to work in the orchards to get them as self sufficient as I can. I can't get ahold of mom's old tree guy so I will need to find another one.
Oh and I got a check in the mail for one of mom's accounts! 1 down, 3 to go!
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@rheddmobile biggest hugs. I think its good you stood up for yourself. She's been able to wing it for so long she probably doesn't realise how bad it is and she doesn't want to admit it. Id you want to, you should find a balance between helping her and taking care of yourself. Set boundaries now. It's not being harmful or letting her down, it's doing what you can for her while putting her needs, and your needs first.
@CMorning99 biggest hugs. Dealing with the investors sound annoying!2 -
Well no calls last night. So I'm up bright and early. I think foods going to be a challenge this weekend. My sister in law is in town post knee replacement surgery, and it's my youngest's 5th birthday on Tuesday. Also, sitting around all day watching conference... Well probably a good thing we don't have any snacks in the house. Probably going to drink a lot of coffee2
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@rheddmobile ((hugs)).
I'm so tired
Dallas today to see original hip doc. He wants me to (1) hang in there and 'occupy this space" for a bit, 2 years is the healing/recovery time for the osteotomy. I agree and understand, it'll take some time for everything to settle down. (2) Continue with the neuro to find the cause of the weakness. It's all getting worse, but I did have a bad day today, stiff and sore from the get go so that makes my balance and limp worse. (3) He thinks I've had a lot to deal with and asked about support... "what's that?". Suggested I work with a psychologist. IDK... I agreed but ummm, feels a bit hippie/new age/pseudoscience-ish (as I take a summer psychology class)... I used it as an excuse to buy clothes that fit since I am bloated (period) and fatter.
I ate a panera salad with an apple today. Now I really want a cookie. or 10.3 -
@swenson19 hugs. Psychologist sounds good to me. Worth a try at least? Well done on the salad.
I went to the supermarket after my run this morning for bread and milk. Managed to not buy all the junk food yay. Instead lots of coffee3 -
@rheddmobile I'm glad you were able to get 7 hours sleep! I really hope you can get things figured out for long term care. So much stress for you and DH. I feel for you and you are in my prayers.
@CMorning99 I got a letter from someone wanting to buy my dad's property, sight unseen, about a month ago. I just threw it away and was glad it came to me and not mom. I hope talking to your friends was cathartic. I feel for you so much too. So many big changes that are all stressful. Hang in there.
@swenson19d I hope the neuro can give you some answers. You could always give the psychologist a try, and stop if you don't like it. I really don't know how I would have made it after John's death, had I not had the hospice chaplain I had. We talked a lot and she was very helpful....not a lot of advice, mostly just someone to listen to me and ask me the right questions to get to the bottom of why I was feeling the things I was feeling.0 -
@rheddmobile - I am struggling with Hilde and her perception of things lately. She is a smart, very computer savvy person but lately things are confusing her. She got a call from what she thought was the medical provider and gave them her name and birth date and then realized it wasn't who she thought it was and now she is convinced she is going to be scammed. Last week she was sure they were going to get into all her bank and investment accounts, then she needed to change her passwords and people were scamming her with friend requests on Facebook (she only reads things from her very few relatives and friends and never posts anything) and she decided to contact a credit bureau to make sure everything was ok and was convinced they were trying to scam her because they needed ID. This week the mail has been late a few times so she decided someone had stolen her mail and was going to redirect everything to them... My dh made the comment that she needs parental controls turned on! 😂
It didn't help that over the weekend people in our area were getting all kinds of bogus calls one right after another on both our home and cell phones about Apple iCloud issues and we needed to call them back right away. It is just so hard when you have someone who is/was so smart but is just losing the ability to function and think things through logically. I hope your mom does realize all that you are doing and the toll it is taking on you. Maybe being in a group environment, retirement or assisted care place would be good. She would have someone to watch her and other people to socialize with.
@swenson19d - I think a psychologist would not be a bad idea. I have not had one since I was a kid but everyone I know who has as an adult, including my dd, have found it very helpful. Dd started going after the disastrous marriage breakup and continues to see her therapist on occasion, not really regularly now but when she is feeling stressed out.
@CMorning99 - if you have a realtor in the area that you trust, you might consider getting an idea of what the property is worth. Given the size, it could be worth quite a lot to a developer - $15M wouldn't be unheard of and you wouldn't want to say that and then find out that it is worth so much more.. I am sorry you are struggling too. Seems like there is just too much going on for you to address at once.
@quilteryoyo - I can't believe the IRS took out interest/fees for holding onto your money when you had already paid! Actually I can but it is such a sad situation that this happens more and more...
@avidkeo - great job not buying junk at the market! I hope you have fun this weekend with your SIL and your daughter's birthday! Will there be more cake? That last one for the two of them was gorgeous!
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@avidkeo - great job not buying junk at the market! I hope you have fun this weekend with your SIL and your daughter's birthday! Will there be more cake? That last one for the two of them was gorgeous!
Not this time, but thinking of making a lemon Meringue pie, my Sister in laws favourite
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Alex dies tonight at 1242am. Today has been miserable from the get go. Eric wanted me to go with him to a memorial dedication and it was nothing but a surprise trigger. I napped to recover from the emotional drain. FB message from a childhood friend of the kids asking for some of Alex’s ashes. Watch me go from slobbering cry baby to mama bear in 0.2 seconds.
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Had my vit D level checked yesterday and it’s low so I started some supplements. It’s 22. Idk if it could be partly responsible for the pain, fatigue and depression which really is grief and I’m not “dying”, I’m just sad.
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I was er am getting serious. Except today Dh fixed eggs, bacon, biscuits and gravy then got hurt when I said I didn’t want it. So I ate it and shared it with Mr no manners Cori. Tomorrow will be better. Monday is neuro and I can do another salad from Panera to encourage some small changes.4
