TRIMSTONES TEAM CHAT - JULY 2019
Replies
-
jessicakrall8 wrote: »
I am right there with you Sister!
Jessica
@jessicakrall8 thank you! Let's beat this together!0 -
Thank you for so transparent!! I can identify so much with this!! For so long I told myself that as long as I wasn't 300lbs it was ok. For a long time I believed it was....until the day I stepped on the scale and it read 296!! At 5'5" I looked like the Michelin man. That was the moment I decided that something absolutely had to change. Progress is slow and steady but I WILL get there!! I don't know how to quit. I have every confidence that you will too!
@DreaRN15 Denial is a scary thing isn't it? I excused and avoided and outright lied to myself for decades! I'm so grateful to this group and MFP because this site and the comrades in battle I have found through it are what keep me from going back to accepting those old thought patterns. Thank you for your support. You are doing awesome and I have no doubt that you will reach your goal! Slow and Steady is the best way. Let's do this!2 -
Weirdly, for me it is both the fear of success and the fear of failure oddly intertwined. The problem with reaching a goal is the fear that I will backslide and thus the self sabotage of not getting there!
@kmfeig87 YES!! I hadn't thought of it that way before - but this hits home 100%!
#1 - Fear of getting to my goal and not being able to maintain (Example: I had a colleague say something nice to me about a month ago about how well I've maintained my weight loss and that conversation kept replaying in my mind whenever I was overeating - and I'm not sure why but it brought up bad feelings... and I can see now it was probably bcs I don't truly believe I can maintain)
#2 - Fear of not knowing what to do once I'm at goal weight (Example: Will I be happy then? Will all my other "problems" go away? And the answer I feel is a big old F-No)
#3 - Fear of what that new world (the world of someone who is not overweight, which I have not been in since about 1997) might bring my way. (Example: dating? Super big fear for me as I have been single for... lets just say a looooooooong time)
Clearly I have a lot more mental-health work to do. And if I don't do it, chances are high that I will continue to struggle.
Thank you so much for your support and wisdom Trina
3 -
-
SaraMakingChanges wrote: »Weirdly, for me it is both the fear of success and the fear of failure oddly intertwined. The problem with reaching a goal is the fear that I will backslide and thus the self sabotage of not getting there!
@kmfeig87 YES!! I hadn't thought of it that way before - but this hits home 100%!
#1 - Fear of getting to my goal and not being able to maintain (Example: I had a colleague say something nice to me about a month ago about how well I've maintained my weight loss and that conversation kept replaying in my mind whenever I was overeating - and I'm not sure why but it brought up bad feelings... and I can see now it was probably bcs I don't truly believe I can maintain)
#2 - Fear of not knowing what to do once I'm at goal weight (Example: Will I be happy then? Will all my other "problems" go away? And the answer I feel is a big old F-No)
#3 - Fear of what that new world (the world of someone who is not overweight, which I have not been in since about 1997) might bring my way. (Example: dating? Super big fear for me as I have been single for... lets just say a looooooooong time)
Clearly I have a lot more mental-health work to do. And if I don't do it, chances are high that I will continue to struggle.
Thank you so much for your support and wisdom Trina
Ooooh ya'll could preach a whole sermon on that topic...and you're both so right...it's kinda like we're doomed if we do (because of those fears) and doomed if we don't (because of the weight/binging/overeating/gaining, etc)...Fear is so powerful. I went through a big bout of this as my sizes began to come down...I panicked about getting rid of my "fat clothes"...but I finally bit the bullet and did it...it was quite cathartic for me I must say and weirdly there were tears involved. Now, I think my fear involves leaving the 300s and STAYING in the 200s...that's why I keep playing around with that same stupid ten pounds...
I'm trying to approach it as an adventure...the excitement of seeing what I'll feel like, what I'll look like and what even less pain and pressure on my joints will change my life for the positive. It's only fat...LET IT GO is that I'm telling myself.
My biggest problem is losing control when eating out...so today on my way home, I decided that I won't eat my weakness foods until I hit 285. That's far enough into the 200s that if I stray a bit, I have wiggle room, but still gives me a bargain with myself as a small goal. I haven't seen that weight since my 2nd year of college in 1986! Yes, we all know that over 50% of this is a mental game and we have to do what works to motivate ourselves...what works for me may not work for anyone else. So this is my plan.
I really like that we set goals of what we want to lose for July. I set a respectable number and I'm really hoping to hit that 8 pounds gone. I think I'm halfway at this point already!
I wish we all lived a little closer...would be awesome to walk with ya'll or get together and share ideas/recipes/meal planning. But at least we have our group.
Thanks for sharing ladies...you help me get more concrete on that decision I made today and now that I've announced it, you will be able to keep me accountable! Ya'll are the best!
Jessica4 -
Kbrad2325
Week 2, Monday
PW: 158
CW:158.82 -
@AmiC0717 You've got mail!
0 -
It was a nice day today so walking was easy. As I sit all day I shoot for 8k steps a day. I got that today. I didn't hardly move on the weekend. It was raining and I was busy all day Sat then tired all day Sun. I'm looking into making a commitment to a weekly exercise, besides my daily walks. I just have to find the right fit. It has to be low impact as I injure myself a lot these days. I'll keep you all posted.2
-
Steps
7/6 15,654
7/7 13,3312 -
@jessicakrall8 @DreaRN15 @SaraMakingChanges Just wanted to say you've all got this! I spent so long just sitting feeling sorry for myself that I couldn't do it, couldn't lose weight. The first step, biggest step, and hardest step is to say "I CAN" and to start making changes day by day to get there. And to breathe through the fluctuations and missteps and set backs and just keep plugging away. And patience! Because it is a darn slow process while it's happening! Hugs to all the Trimstones! Thanks for all the support!3
-
@jessicakrall8 Who knows? One day maybe the world will bring us together for a Trimstones walk and chat session! That would be awesome! I’m so glad you’re feeling inspired to set an achievable goal to get past your current 300-200 land limbo. I think it sounds like a plan for success 100%! ❤️❤️❤️
@kmfeig87 Yes!!! “I CAN” is such a powerful statement when you truly believe it! 🔥🔥🔥 That fundamental belief was THE turning point for me on this journey. It’s time to remind myself that I can do this and I can face all the unknowns... fear be damned.
4 -
JessicaKrall8
Tuesday Weigh-in
PW: 310.4
CW: 305.37 -
Steps
7/8- 24991 -
20 min yoga and 10 min core (and 3 min meditation) to start the day. Check that one off.4
-
Steps
7/8 11,3972 -
Steps:
7/7 = 5,869
7/8 = 4,345
Keep getting sucked into long naps.2 -
Steps
7/8 - 36702 -
Chapter 3:
Little starving (obese) dog went to work. Following the giant's lead he took up swimming to burn calories. He joined the MFP challenge and logged his miserable one cup of dry dog food per day. He had his slips like so many on MFP. One day the giant put two frozen chicken breasts on a plate out to thaw, they were on a high counter next to the toaster. When the giant came back from his gym workout ready to grill he found only one chicken breast. The giant looked at his two dogs and knew the story. The little dog's ears went flat and he nodded toward the larger dog as if to say "she did it". The investigation is still pending......
6 -
Week 2
Monday
PW: 240.5
CW: 237.45 -
Steps:
7/3 - 3980
7/4 - 3082
7/5 - 6035
7/6 - 4990
7/7 - 5770
7/8 - 77503 -
Just in the little dog's defense....he only took one chicken breast (moderation) and was really only eating his exercise calories back! And frankly, the chicken breast were pretty high up, so think of those calories burned too!
5 -
@jessicakrall8 @pamlorbieski Great losses! Impressive!3
-
7/8 steps 16,655
Long walk today...so over 12,000 already!3 -
kateberard wrote: »Steps
7/8- 2499
@kateberard , I've added you to the Steppers Team, but I need you to go back to Jun 30th and give me a daily list from that day to the 7th of your steps from your tracker. Thanks! Jessica0 -
jessicakrall8 wrote: »kateberard wrote: »Steps
7/8- 2499
@kateberard , I've added you to the Steppers Team, but I need you to go back to Jun 30th and give me a daily list from that day to the 7th of your steps from your tracker. Thanks! Jessica
Ok here it is
6/30-1089
7/1-3909
7/2- 3640
7/3- 3051
7/4- 3236
7/5- 3859
7/6- 3057
7/7-2636
7/8- 2499
2 -
@AmiC0717 I left you an IM so check your mailbox. I need some information. Get back to me please. Jessica0
-
Steps
7/9 6,1301 -
Jlrush2312
Wednesday
PW 228
CW 228
"That" time of the month...ugh3 -
Steps
7/9 - 48642 -
30 min cardio and 10 min lower body strength. Done. Keeping myself accountable.4
This discussion has been closed.