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Oh Alexandra
Is the thyroid truly considered elective?
It's elective if it's anything less than "If we don't cut them open and tie off that artery they will die in an hour" sort of stuff. That's emergency. If you have the leisure to wait till Monday, and get blood levels and other indicators in order before you do the surgery, no matter if the problem will kill the person if left alone, then it's elective.4 -
I swear people have forgotten how to be civilized in the last two years. Folks have become feral- concerned only with their personal survival and happiness like they were raised by wolves. After being locked down, rules no longer apply. Crime is up, traffic accidents are up, people can’t behave in stores or on planes.
Not that I disagree with your summation.... but what brought it to mind / what happened?
Well there was Laurie’s story at the Dollar Store. Perhaps nostalgia for gentler times and maybe too much watching the evening news. Last night there was a smash and grab jewelry store robbery at a local upscale mall. Our city’s murder rate is off the charts this year. More people just seem a whole lot meaner and unable to control nasty urges. I understand the impatience with lack of supply and short service staffing. I doubt I would take a minimum wage job today or encourage a teenage child to do so. Fast food counters and grocery stores are often combat zones. And the covid exposure too!
The best I can do -we all can do- is be kind to each other. Especially over the holidays. I try to make an effort to do something no matter how small to ease someone’s day.3 -
What amazes ( shocks? ) me is that some people act like they have no idea that Covid exists!….I am trying to stay safe, vaccines,hand washing,masks, etc and trying to keep my family safe while others act like they are completely oblivious that they are endangering other people….3
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The best I can do -we all can do- is be kind to each other. Especially over the holidays. I try to make an effort to do something no matter how small to ease someone’s day.
I'm going to hold onto this, Yooly. It is harsh out there, but we can make it a little better.
Got my fingers crossed for you, Alexandra. I get the "elective" surgery thing. I hope upon hope that you don't have to wait. IF you do. You have us here to lean on, and to use as a sounding board as you pull together an intermediate plan (and if anyone can do that well, it will be you!).
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I just deleted the message I was writing because the more typed the more angry I became.
I am PISSED at "friends" who manipulate information to present situations that they suspect I may view as risky / concerning in a way that makes them appear as less risky / concerning.
Let me give you two examples.
"we thought the cold we had might have been COVID but couldn't get tested to confirm. And didn't want to worry you. So we didn't tell you that we got sick even though you spent several hours at our place the day before we started feeling ill"
"I won't tell him that two young children who are unvaccinated and in grade school will be there because he might get concerned about catching a cold or COVID or what have you... once he shows up it is unlikely that he will just walk out just because the kids are there, right?"
YOU are making RISK decisions for me. They are not oblivious Laurie. They are manipulative pieces of **kitten** and that's me being polite.3 -
Those are the kind of situations that might have me leaving those "friends" behind. 3
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And...I definitely don't want to be taking any flights anytime soon. 4
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I am keeping my fingers crossed for Alexandra! And I admit to some concern about our quiet contingent right in the middle of choco-cookie fest! I admit to being assaulted by dutch panekooks and christmas cookies and some chocolates today. Both the dog and I have lost a step (or two) the past couple of months. We did half our usual route in the forest over an hour and 15 minutes. We used to do double the distance in just under 2 hours, She was (overuse) limping as she tends to do. And while I wasn't tired, neither was I rearing to go for more!5
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Keeping my fingers crossed for you Alexandra! And PAV, I share your anger and frustration at your 'friends' and their risk-taking on your behalf. I've noticed exactly the same behaviour from friends and family in respect of my husband's highly vulnerable status - even his own mother socialised indoors in a large group, went into the city for lunch, then came to us for coffee a day later and explicitly lied about having remaining in total isolation beforehand "because she didn't want to worry us". It makes me so angry!
It's my biggest concern in the run up to Christmas - will his mother behave herself? Kim's brother and his wife are more trustworthy, but his mom and her 'gentlemen friend' are loose cannons. It seems to be common behaviour for people in their 80s...."we survived the war...a virus doesn't bother us...we've had a good innings..." It doesn't seem to sink in that they're putting other people at risk too.
Anyway...enough moaning! I need to keep positive! If we go into a total lockdown before Christmas, Kim and I will have a mountain of food to eat! And freezing it all will be problematic as the freezer is full to capacity. I've been super-disciplined for the past three weeks, running a slightly larger deficit than usual to put me in the best possible position to enter the festive period. Our house is groaning under the weight of food and drink..it's squirrelled away everywhere!5 -
Alexandra I am so so sorry that you are being impacted like that. It's super frustrating! I had a friend who had to take her elderly mom to the ER for a fall. The original ER couldn't take them so they had to drive to one much further away just to find one that could. Even that ER was slammed and the doctors and nurses were stretched thin. If her mom hadn't hit her head in the fall, they would have just tried to make an appointment with their doctor, but they had to be sure there wasn't a head injury. It's just crazy out there. I am not that scared about catching Covid (double vaccinated, boosted, and I still take precautions) but I AM scared of an accident because hospital resources are so strained.
Pav, big yikes on your "friend" situation. They would no longer be "friends" of mine. A friend doesn't put their friends at risk like that. Period. That makes me so angry that they would do that.
I spent yesterday at my aunt and uncles house baking cookies. It was a good time. More relaxed then a lot of visits over there of late. But I am worn out. My body aches today and I am just tired. I keep telling myself 3 days. I work these next 3 days then Thursday starts my vacation and I am off until January 3. Gonna focus on stuff around the house like getting the back closet sorted and packed and chores that I keep putting off like cleaning my shower or the oven.
What I am really hoping for though is that it will help with this burnout I am feeling with work. We have been short handed now for 2 months (I have 2 open spots on a 4 person team). I am just drained. Physically and mentally. So I am hoping that some rest and just being away from work will help. Fingers crossed.5 -
@Athijade I will assume it is 50% people and 100% work, right? It is not much wonder you're starting to feel it.
I am not even ticked off because they are putting me at real or not real risk. Thankfully I don't have any pre-conditions to worry about like @Bella_Figura 's hubby does. It is the presumption that YOU (whoever you is) will make a risk assessment for ME by shadowing and hiding the details and information.2 -
Sending positive vibes to all that are stressed, struggling, worried, hanging on by a thread.
Over here in England we're being hammered by Omicron - almost 100,000 new infections a day, and our hospitals full to bursting - so there is media speculation about going back into total lockdown, either pre-or post Christmas. Post-Christmas is probably too late, but no one in Government wants to be the Grinch who ruined another Christmas...
Many folks like us will have already bought enough food to cater for guests for a week or so. We haven't yet bought much that is perishable, but we've ordered turkey, beef and gammon, pancetta and pork pies from our local organic butcher for collection on 23rd, and we'd want to honour the order even if our guests are prevented from coming. It's not fair for the butcher to suffer just because no one will be here to eat all the meat! Ditto the orders we've placed at the greengrocers and the bakery for collection on 24th. We'll just have to freeze what we can, donate what we can't freeze to the local food bank and try not to gorge on the rest!
As for the mountain of confectionary, cakes, savoury snacks such as crisps and nuts....well, we could still be munching our way through the foothills come this time next Christmas! By which time I would've regained my hard-lost 60lbs...
Still...all of this is unimportant in the grand scheme of things. I still have much to be thankful for, and as long as Kim remains healthy, safe and well that's all that really matters!
And, knowing this dreadful government, they'll do everything they can to avoid another lockdown...3 -
I hate to bring this up on a weight management site, but I'm nostalgic for the days when I used to eat and drink thoughtlessly, with blithe unconcern for my ever-expanding waistline.
I know it wasn't healthy, but it sure was enjoyable! Now I have a house crammed with lovely food and drink for the guests who will be staying with us for the festive season, and I won't be able to eat/drink any of it without...well, guilt is too strong a word, but certainly I won't be able to enjoy it with insouciance and carefree abandon.2 -
I hate Covid!….I talked to my best cousin last night in southern indiana about 60 miles south of Indianapolis, I believe where Alexandra is….her family is completely oblivious to social distancing or Covid….they have had vaccines so they stopped wearing masks, etc….it’s ridiculous and do not realize how many people they are putting in danger…she babysits for her grandaughter in nursery school, no masks, etc….and her two teen grands participate in every social event with hundreds of others….I just don’t get it….3
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@Bella_Figura
Think of it this way: am I eating this because I am hungry and actually want/need to eat... or am I eating this to gorge because I am getting my hamsters lit for reasons other than needing fuel.
Let's face it, most of the time we're expanding the waistline is NOT because we're actually hungry.
The one things I DON'T like about you running the extra deficits is that you're placing yourself hormonally at a disadvantage when you switch to maintenance or maintenance plus. You're not manipulating things so you have less of a spike. You're manipulating them right in line with max potential impact.
May I suggest that you try to go carb and protein heavy and lower fat if possible during the first couple of days upon resuming maintenance eating? Especially if alcohol is also involved. basically fat has the lowest cost of being stored as fat (of course it has a higher satiation factor... but I don't think that Christmas over-eating is a case of lack of satiation... not for me anyway looking at a 600+g box of nuts and truffle chocolates that will make it to zero in 48 hours).
Also consider that it is exceedingly common when under-eating/hungry to be "dreaming and thinking" about food (food ideation). This is your brain making sure you're ready to dive back in as soon as the opportunity appears. We're WIRED that way! Which of course MAY lead to everything appearing more appetizing. And then there is the aspect of you having poured love and money and thought into preparing everything. And it all being delectable and A1 quality.
So yes. You do have to get a mercenary accounting hamster team and bring it in there and calculate the energy value of all the food. And you have to bring in your "utility maximization hamster" team who can determine which items will bring you the most joy (i.e. total utility using the economics term) for the caloric budget you assign as acceptable... and THEN you can go to town within the accepted solution boundaries for your little maximization problem
But if you're eating out of the box of chocolates JUST because they taste good (or worse even if there is an emotional component)... sigh.... Yup. The whole LARGE family box in 48 hours! I am going to have to have a chat with some hamsters I think!2 -
@Athijade I will assume it is 50% people and 100% work, right? It is not much wonder you're starting to feel it.
Exactly. And it seems I am being given more and more work every day. I don't know how they expect me to get it all done, but they still keep giving it to me. Luckily this week is quiet because so many people are out for Christmas already. So I am taking it easy and playing catch up on some stuff.
Downside... I do not feel good at all today. Nose is all stuffed up, eyes are watering, and I am so so tired. Had a rough night due to my sinuses. I also had some really messed up dreams/nightmares. Been awhile since I have had a real nightmare. Must be my anxiety.
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Heard something really positive on BBC Radio 4 women's hour this morning, so I thought I'd share with the group.
The topic was the impending UK lockdown and whether this is likely to disrupt people's plans for Christmas. Amid the sadness and doom and gloom about potentially missing loved ones and the loneliness of a solitary christmas, one woman phoned in to say that she'd decided back in the autumn to have a solitary Christmas this year, to avoid the crushing disappointment of plans falling through at the last minute.
She said she'd planned a perfect Blissmas Day, when she would do all the things that bring her bliss and happiness. If the weather was fine, she planned to take a lovely long walk in the late morning. She'd bought a book she couldn't wait to read; looked forward to watching a movie on DVD that she'd saved unwatched so that she could snuggle down by the fire and watch it Christmas day evening. She'd bought lovely bath salts and candles to enjoy a long soak in the tub. She was planning to cook herself coq au vin and have it with a lovely bottle of wine.
She made being alone for the festive season sound magical and enchanting...which is no mean feat! Clearly her's is a glass-half-full personality; her positivity, resilience and warmth put a smile on my face as I was scrubbing my kitchen floor this morning, so I thought I'd share the positivity with the group.
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As a military wife, I learned that Christmas and other celebrations are just ONE day. Often we were far from family, hubby was gone or working. So you do quiet, personally satisfying things to pass the day. Christmas can - and has been - celebrated months later. Anniversaries and birthdays can be marked anytime in the year.
Now that we’re settled and retired we’re adjusted to simple holiday celebrations. We save the family gatherings and visits for summer when everyone has fewer obligations. And the weather and flying is much easier.5 -
i could EASILY eat a whole family box of chocolates. and not think twice about it.
in any case, sorry ive been such a bad group member, those on mt FL know my life is crazy and truly, i just forget to check in here. And I'm still mad about the forum updates. So.... you get a thesis. buckle up and grab a cup of coffee.
I have lost 50 some odd pounds over this past year. ill post actual stats over in the other thread for that crap. I dont see it in the mirror because body dysmorphia is a real thing, but I do *usually* see it in pictures. I'll post a pic there too, since I have one. For the record, I definitely see it in these pics lol Which is a good thing because my next theater project/acting gig involves me being on stage half naked for pretty much the whole show. Keep reading....
I was cast in a lead role in 'Unnecessary Farce' which is a comedy (VERY funny, as soon as I read the script, I knew I wanted in). I will get to make out with another man, be in bed with TWO men at one point, and be mostly halfway naked for most of the play. Yes, hubby knows and was at the audition and met 'G', who I am starring opposite from. I introduced them (I know him from other productions I've been involved with) as hubby, the man i have sex with and G, my on stage boyfriend, the man i make out with. I'm finding all of this highly amusing. Hubby certainly deserves an award for being the most patient hubby ever. The Director knew he was there and asked (us both) if this role was okay. would it cause problems/ etc. hubby looked up from his phone and said 'as long as she doesnt actually have sex with him... whatever' and went back to his phone. LOL The Director said she wished all hubbys were like that LOL. So far bestie claims no involvement in this production, however.... she drags me into *kitten*, I think its time to return the favor. We need a prop person. I'm acting, and refuse to do both (they already asked and i said NOOOO). That leaves her, since we ARE the prop people, 9/10 times.
I start (real and not the lackluster I've been doing) training for the Spartan race, which is likely to kill me, at the beginning of the year. Race is April 9 in Charlotte. This will also result in more weight loss (needed) especially since you know. stage. half naked. But, I will be exhausted for the next 2 months, as my mornings are spent training, and evenings in rehearsals, making out with another guy. Okay. maybe not too exhausted for that part. I mean, G isnt a bad looking guy, Just sayin... LMAO I dont ACTUALLY kiss him (stage magic you know) but, a pretend one is good enough. still half naked. spartan training, please do your thing, cause me half naked is nothing stage magic can do anything about LMAO. Show is last weekend of February
Hubby is working up in west virginia during the week now, and home on weekends., will be home 4 days for xmas. We're used to being apart, not a big deal, and its rather nice in some ways. Hes not gone long enough for me to miss terribly (when hes not at work we are on the phone, just as we were when we were dating lol), and then home a couple of days. Also makes for really really good errrr 'adult time'
Been working a fair amount on my writing and getting a bit more serious about it, as far as hopefully eventually, having it make more money than it does. The blog wont ever, thats just for random *kitten* mostly and to have an online platform/visibility, but have a play (comedy) I am working on in bits and pieces, and the farm stories eventually I'd like to see turned into a childrens book series (not interested in self publishing), and have the goal of this year submitting more of my stuff for (paid) inclusion in various publications.
3 concerts planned so far for 2022 and mexico in august and of course holly needs her escort for the ribrun again in october
Sometimes I look around or think about my life now, as compared to 2014 when I started this my journey (i REALLY hate that term by the way). So much more fun. So much more ACTIVE...And... so much happier. Back then, I wouldnt have PHYSICALLY been able to do the things I do now. I am not the same person I was then, in any way. My LIFE is not the same, in any way.
I hope everyone has a very merry, love filled Christmas!6 -
Today had such a great start! 🙄 Woke up to a painful swollen arm from the COVID booster shot yesterday and hunger pains. It's been a while since I had hunger pains once I figured out what makes me feel full longest. Lesson learned: Dinner is no longer an optional meal. I should've had a bowl of soup or something before choosing to sleep the booster effects off. Not that it helped much. I can already feel the total onslaught of reaction symptoms showing up as I type this. Guess I'm just going to stay in bed today, not that there's anywhere worth going in the rain.
One lovely piece of good news, though: I lost 4.7 lbs./2.13kg so far, and I can feel my waist is getting a little more defined (my recently bought fat waist pants are feeling a little loose now). Not dramatic, but it's motivation to keep going! Maybe I can get a little cheeky and hope my fat loss comes from the belly as fast as I gained it there!?
Yeah, let's not kid around. This week's weigh-in will be a plus, standstill if I'm lucky. For the Christmas weekend, my family interestingly decided to have KBBQ instead of the usual carb heaven. I will always eat my money's worth, especially if it's not coming out of my pocket! The saving grace is I can eat more of it due to it being protein, and it'll last me the whole day. 😅
I hope everyone enjoys a safe and satisfying holiday season!3 -
I have one more day of deficit before our visitors arrive tomorrow, and then I'll increase to maintenance-plus calories for the rest of the year.
Today is a chores day, so I'll burn a ton of NEAT calories doing all my housework and running errands... I've already chalked up almost 15,000 steps and it's only 11:20!
I'm sending you all calming and positive vibes for a happy pre-festive few days!4 -
Don’t wear yourself out! Lots of feasting, entertaining and family ahead.3
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I'm getting all the chores out of the way in the morning - then it's feet up all afternoon and an early night, ahead of the onslaught tomorrow. No housework apart from meal prep and clean up for the duration! No one will notice a bit of dust...3
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I just love the mfp app going bonkers as I'm ready to post a completed message....
Take it easy Garfield! Nothing wrong with a crumb clean up for some extra activity 😹😹😹
But jokes aside do remember that in spite of the expense, in spite of the delectability, in spite of sincere beliefs that food should not be wasted, in spite of all that: it is still just food.
You are still able to make it and have it at any point of time you really feel like it, even if it's not the holidays.
We are in a unique position in history where in some parts of the world we're more in danger from too much food than too little.
Eat slowly and enjoy and ask yourself whether you're eating because you're hungry--or you're eating way past hunger.
And just because you're offering something to other people doesn't mean you have to indulge in it. Or take more than a token bite.
Hopefully if you're doing well according to your plan you will not need any of the above hamster management discussions.... I'm just dusting them off for my own use too!!!!
By the way: reduced sugar (cherry) pie filling mixed with Greek yogurt (0%) and cereal and some cocoa and a couple of drops of liquid sucralose.... (more of a Laurie and PAV thing vs a Nigella or whoever made that Christmas bomb you posted the other day.... ALMOST as good... I am sure 😹) 👍6 -
Thanks for the hamster management tips, PAV - so far all is going to plan, but I'l need all the help I can get from tomorrow. Yes, I agree that it is, ultimately, just food...I'll try to bear that in mind when I'm being nagged to within an inch of my life to over-indulge...4
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Merry and Happy Christmas! Hope your day is filled with joy and peace. 🎅🏻🎄2
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My appetite has been so odd of late. Really most days I am eating 1, maybe 2, meals a day. I just have not been very hungry. And when I DO feel hungry and go to eat, I can't eat as much as I used to be able to eat. Now, normally I would be happy that I can't stuff myself like I used to, but it gets annoying when I am hungry but then just can't finish my "normal" sized meal. It also makes meal planning really difficult and I am buying food I just can't eat.
Also, I have a to do list to get done today but I am so tired. I just want to stay curled up on the sofa.4 -
Hope you are not ill, Athijade. Post holiday fatigue is rough enough without fighting something off.
Today I weighed myself and re-started tracking. I'm going to try to stay focussed on that. Maybe not so much on the social aspects of MFP ... sometimes when I read others "failed" days it lets me off the hook just a bit too much. I need to start holding myself more accountable.
Today and every day, I'm going to check in here in the morning - say hello and see how everyone in our group is doing - and meal plan and track what I eat. All day, EVERY DAY. That was my way to success and I have to find my way back there.
The journey to a summer of being at my goal weight and having (FULL?) use of my right arm starts today.
See you all at the pool / beach / lake side soon
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I like your plan of tracking everything Laurie!
I have to admit that it has taken me a long time to understand that other people might have reacted to tracking differently than i did myself.
To me it became an inviolate rule when I was operating at larger deficits. "There is no eating before logging". A rule that brought along many side benefits as a natural result.
--broke the association that I "deserve" a meal even if I've been snacking.
--led to not letting myself becoming too hungry and uncontrollably grabbing too much too fast
--led to eating that easy to log apple or having that cup of soup ahead of the meal and then reducing the amount eaten and leaving some for later... spreading the calories more and reducing overall intake.
--let's face it, logging correctly requires some work. So it reinforced some "good value for me" goto choices and brought them in rotation more often reducing novel and hyperpalatable food consumption. Doing so is not a terrible thing if you're trying to reduce overall calories
I admit to being very mercenary:
The goal was minimal suffering, best satiation and satisfaction SUBJECT to meeting (reasonably defined and appropriate) goals.
The tool was logging and the 🐹 behaviour modifications that would ensue. Hence the logging part was inviolate. All else (such as whether I felt like doing it) became secondary.3 -
Well you best hurry up girl - beach time in Texas starts in March! I do miss Spring time though. We go from mild to hot immediately.
This is our year to succeed finally. Hope I don’t need to buy new clothes for the 3rd time. Plan to get to goal by August for the family wedding.4
