This Year is Our Year for Success!
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SIL and I were talking about the Italian cookies we sent them for BIL’s birthday last fall. Their 50th wedding anniversary is this weekend . Given his physical and mental condition, they’re just doing a family dinner with the kids and grands. It gave me the idea to send them a cookie tray with a gold bow for the anniversary. We stopped exchanging gifts years ago at SIL’s suggestion. This is such a special occasion and they both could use a boost. The cookies arrive yesterday and BIL send me a pic and text to show hom much he’s enjoying them.0
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I just got a pic of BIL and SIL enjoying breakfast at an oceanfront restaurant just down the street from their house. Today is their 50th anniversary.0
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I’m back home from NC. The service was very nice and well attended. The family was a little surprised by the number of neighbors and former coworkers who attended, as well as a college roommate of their younger daughter who came from Houston to attend. Several neighbors let them know that they wanted to be there but were unable due to illness, or it would have been an even larger crowd. I volunteered to read a poem that my cousin’s wife wanted to read herself, but felt too emotional to do it. It was a beautiful but very sad poem that expressed very well how sad she is. They were together for 55+ years, having been high school sweethearts before marrying.
On the other days we were there we helped with projects around the house. She has started the process to buy a condo in an over 55 community in Milford, OH, which is where they raised their family and still have many friends. The condo isn’t built yet, so she won’t be moving until early next year, giving her time to make decisions and pare down what she has in her current home. Due to the cost of moving, I think she will decide to only take a few items and sell or donate most of the furnishings she has now. I suspect that she’s looking forward to having new things that don’t remind her so much of her DH.
Today I did lots of laundry and started getting ready for my next trip. Tomorrow I will drive to my sister’s home and then Monday morning my sister, niece and I will drive to New Orleans for 4 days there. My niece who lives in the NYC area will fly in and join us there. We will drive back on Friday. I may stay there overnight and come back Saturday, depending on how tired I am when we get back to her place and how late it is.0 -
I'm sorry for all the family sadness! I guess we're getting to that age but it's not fun.
DH and I will have our 49th anniversary this summer and we've been together since 1967. It's silly but I hope we make it to 50. Hard to picture sometimes there only being one of us left for awhile at some point. Even harder to picture who that will be.0 -
I’m in New Orleans now with my sister and 2 nieces. I think we are eating our way through the city, but we are also walking a lot so hopefully that will help burn off some of the calories. I’m also sweating a lot since it is hot and humid! We are enjoying ourselves despite the heat and humidity. We will be here 1 more day then head home. After this trip I’m ready to stay home for awhile!0
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I’m in New Orleans now with my sister and 2 nieces. I think we are eating our way through the city, but we are also walking a lot so hopefully that will help burn off some of the calories. I’m also sweating a lot since it is hot and humid! We are enjoying ourselves despite the heat and humidity. We will be here 1 more day then head home. After this trip I’m ready to stay home for awhile!
I'm glad you're having a good time (and having some good food!) After my cardiologist visit next week I'm planning a little eating myself. LOL!0 -
Today we went to the Immersive Van Gogh exhibit and enjoyed it immensely! If you have the opportunity to see it, I highly recommend it. Afterward we went to a restaurant that has a lot of vegan options, which pleased my 2 nieces. They also had a limited number of non-vegan meals. I had some kind of fish with a mango salsa on top which was good, but a fairly small portion. Both of my nieces had ordered a serving of vegan mac and cheese, which was surprisingly good and was a large enough portion to share. Afterward we went to a shop that had gelato and sorbet, which was a nice treat that we enjoyed. Now we are relaxing at the house. My niece who lives and works in NYC is relaxing in the blow up swimming pool she had shipped here while the rest of us are enjoying the air conditioning indoors, lol!0
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Today we went to the Immersive Van Gogh exhibit and enjoyed it immensely! If you have the opportunity to see it, I highly recommend it. Afterward we went to a restaurant that has a lot of vegan options, which pleased my 2 nieces. They also had a limited number of non-vegan meals. I had some kind of fish with a mango salsa on top which was good, but a fairly small portion. Both of my nieces had ordered a serving of vegan mac and cheese, which was surprisingly good and was a large enough portion to share. Afterward we went to a shop that had gelato and sorbet, which was a nice treat that we enjoyed. Now we are relaxing at the house. My niece who lives and works in NYC is relaxing in the blow up swimming pool she had shipped here while the rest of us are enjoying the air conditioning indoors, lol!
I guess there's no reason vegan mac n cheese couldn't be good! Sorbet/gelato sounds fantastic!
After 2 years of working 7 days a week, my workload had slowed tremendously, which I was enjoying. Suddenly I'm swamped again - no joy!
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Hope you got some rest during the slow down. Why do you think it picked up so much?
Pam, sounds like a delightful visit with your nieces. What’s happening with moving your MIL?0 -
Next week we will start visiting assisted living and memory care facilities, as well as group homes if there are any nearby. I also have an appointment with my ortho doc for my arm and another PT session. I need to chat with my SIL to see if there are any updates regarding their move to Colorado. The last I heard was that her son already had a contract on their home, but as far as I know they have not yet found a suitable home in the area they want to relocate to in Colorado. They planned to move in with SIL, if necessary, until they find a place. But that was 2 weeks ago and they tend to move quickly, so for all I know they may already be in a u-haul headed to Colorado!0
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Hope you got some rest during the slow down. Why do you think it picked up so much?
Pam, sounds like a delightful visit with your nieces. What’s happening with moving your MIL?
That's an excellent question and I don't have a good answer. I like at my list and there's no common thread.0 -
Next week we will start visiting assisted living and memory care facilities, as well as group homes if there are any nearby. I also have an appointment with my ortho doc for my arm and another PT session. I need to chat with my SIL to see if there are any updates regarding their move to Colorado. The last I heard was that her son already had a contract on their home, but as far as I know they have not yet found a suitable home in the area they want to relocate to in Colorado. They planned to move in with SIL, if necessary, until they find a place. But that was 2 weeks ago and they tend to move quickly, so for all I know they may already be in a u-haul headed to Colorado!
Oh, wow, I hope your search turns up something everyone can live with! An acquaintance's recent ventures into that system has pretty much disabused all of us here from thinking that's something anyone should ever have to endure. The stories of what actually went on are appalling and that's in one of the smaller, less urban, counties. I can't imagine the places in an urban area are any better. I told DH no matter what he thinks we're keeping our long term care insurance no matter what! I'm sure being able to afford a better place is important.0 -
So far, we have had a fairly good experience with assisted living facilities. When she lived in El Paso, she lived in 3 different places. None were terrible, although the first one probably was the worst of the 3. It was the largest and she was very angry about being forced to move there, so some of the negative experience had to do with her frame of mind. The other 2 weren’t bad at all, but there were some issues with getting her medication management sorted out. The facility she is now in is in the Houston area, and ,we’ve been very pleased with it and the care she receives. I think it really helps that there are family members who are in frequent contact with MIL, both by phone and in person, and also in frequent contact with the personnel who care for her. We make sure that the staff is aware that she has family in the area who are keeping an eye on her and her care. I think that probably makes a difference. I feel bad for those who don’t have any family close by.
Cost wise, assisted living was fairly affordable with her annuity, SS and the rent from her home in El Paso. Now that we’ve moved her into memory care, the cost has almost doubled. She had a surplus every month before but now it’s a deficit. She will be 95 on her next birthday in October, and seems to still be in fairly good health. We hope she won’t outlive her assets, but if she does, DH and SIL will make up the difference, split equally. There is also an Aid and Attendance benefit she is eligible for through the VA, but she currently has too many assets to qualify because she still owns her former home in El Paso, which provides rental income. We’ve had many discussions about whether it makes sense to sell the house, but DH feels retaining it is the best option, as long as we can keep it rented. So far that hasn’t been a problem and we’ve mostly had good tenants in it.0 -
Pam - that's a little more promising than the place here, which has been a nightmare, even with family members and friends here trying to keep on top of it. Residents were freely allowed to roam the place, going into rooms, taking things, stealing meals, even getting physical in some cases Our friend tried to restrain one person from taking her things and the place called the police to report our friend. PT has been practically nonexistent even though she desperately needed it and the social worker who was supposed to be working with her was pretty much useless.0
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T-shirt I need to have "When this virus is over, I still need some of you to stay away from me." LOL!
Our company has suddenly decided to schedule an in person company meeting in downtown Baltimore on a Saturday in August with a dinner the night before and a dinner Saturday night. If I went to all three that would mean driving to downtown Baltimore 3 times in 24 hours. Not to mention risking being around other people (and their spouses) who live in all different parts of the country. To say I'm unamused would be an understatement. I probably haven't been to downtown Baltimore in 20 years and I haven't been around that many people in over 2 years. My outings with friends have been in very small groups, all vaccinated, in restaurants at a time we knew they would be pretty empty. And businesses wonder why people are resigning in droves.0 -
Can you get out of going? I’d be upset if I were forced to attend a large scale gathering with Covid still rampant.0
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Maryanne, can you opt out of the dinners? At the meeting you could at least keep a mask on and possibly social distance, but that would be a lot more difficult during the dinners. That would also mean only 1 trip instead of 3.0
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Ditto what Pam said. I have a PT appointment today. I’m going back to the practice that helped with my knee. I was pain free for a couple of years but my leg has been bothering me for several months. I hope they can repeat the success I had 3 years ago.0
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I saw my orthopedic doc on Thursday. He basically considers my arm fully healed and indicated that I may not regain much more function of my hand. The numbness is likely permanent at this point, but he did agree to refer me for EMG testing and then I will see a hand specialist. I believe the test is some sort of nerve conduction study. That is scheduled for July 7th.0
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I started PT yesterday. In addition to stretching and exercises, he did a dry needle technique on my leg. It’s probably related to acupuncture. It’s to release the tightness of the muscles. I was sore the first day but it feels a little better today..0
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I decided to go to the firm meeting (masked) and skip the dinners. DH is okay with that plan.
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I saw my orthopedic doc on Thursday. He basically considers my arm fully healed and indicated that I may not regain much more function of my hand. The numbness is likely permanent at this point, but he did agree to refer me for EMG testing and then I will see a hand specialist. I believe the test is some sort of nerve conduction study. That is scheduled for July 7th.
Here's hoping you continue to regain a little function bit by bit. Certainly my left hand/fingers will never be the same/normal but they've come a long way!0 -
I started PT yesterday. In addition to stretching and exercises, he did a dry needle technique on my leg. It’s probably related to acupuncture. It’s to release the tightness of the muscles. I was sore the first day but it feels a little better today..
That's a new one to me! Here's hoping p/t really helps!0 -
I’ll let you know how it goes with the dry needle. When he did my calf, I could feel a pinch in the side of my foot. I asked him if he put a needle in my foot. He said no. But The sensation went down to my foot from the calf. At certain spots, I could feel the muscles twitch. It wasn’t painful, just a little weird. But if it works, I’m all for it.0
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Flu vaccine and alzheimer's. https://neurosciencenews.com/flu-vaccination-alzheimers-20909/0
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Wow! I watched Cassidy Hutchinson’s testimony today in the 1/6 hearing. She was impressive, especially for such a young person. If this doesn’t bury the trumpeters, I don’t know what will. I think Mark Meadows is toast after this.
Just returned from touring our third assisted living/memory care facility. I think the one we toured yesterday is the clear winner, but we still need to get SIL on board with the decision. She’s been leaning toward the one we just toured but neither I nor DH were impressed by it.0 -
I hope you get to pick the assisted living facility you prefer. Particularly since you’re going to be the ones interacting with them. Try explaining it that way to SIL. She be in CO while you’ll be handing any problems. You need to have a comfortable relationship with the facility.0
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SIL was surprisingly cooperative. I delivered a deposit check today to the facility and we are proceeding with plans to move her in at the end of July. Now SIL is thinking she might move here instead of Colorado. Oh, joy.0
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SIL was surprisingly cooperative. I delivered a deposit check today to the facility and we are proceeding with plans to move her in at the end of July. Now SIL is thinking she might move here instead of Colorado. Oh, joy.
Oh, my! Glad you got the assisted living situation settled anyway..0 -
The January 6 hearings are nice but I want someone to MOVE! The state of NY and the DOJ both have to have PLENTY of evidence of criminality. Why hasn't anyone done anything? (My brother says all New York real estate folks are criminals and they can't prosecute them all; fine but prosecute this one!) Let's make sure the man isn't eligible to run in the next election!!!!! I admit I'm frustrated almost beyond belief.0
