Things Not to Say When You're on a Dating Site
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He's SO hot, looks like a "bad boy" (tattoos mmmm) but his profile is nice and no grammer mistakes. Woot!
He asked me what I want to do..
What do I want to do? I hate that question.... I don't know!
tattoooooooos ... yummmmmy ... lol .. and no grammar mistakes??? HOT!
I hate that question too. GAH! Um .. first date ... drinks .. or .. tell him he is the dude .. plan the f'ing date.. ha!0 -
And now we're texting. I like this guy's pace!!0
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OMG! You are fast! wow!0
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HOLY **** girl! I go to lunch and you get a date.0
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Wow....that is fast!!! Make it work..........
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Okay just sent out a couple replys. One guy must be sitting there on the site or something because he responds right away. Dude is a tri-athelete.0
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the last 10% are "normal"? I have tears of joy when I stumble upon one of these (I should add that I'm not even necessarily physically attracted in the woman often, so yeah, back on to the search then...).
Oh wow, what a trigger... one guy I met from online told me that he was so psyched to discover me because I seemed normal (not psycho) but unfortunately my looks just "didn't do it for him." His loss!0 -
the sooner you meet, the sooner you know if there is a connection.
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the last 10% are "normal"? I have tears of joy when I stumble upon one of these (I should add that I'm not even necessarily physically attracted in the woman often, so yeah, back on to the search then...).
Oh wow, what a trigger... one guy I met from online told me that he was so psyched to discover me because I seemed normal (not psycho) but unfortunately my looks just "didn't do it for him." His loss!
I have gotten the "It's so nice to see a normal girl on here." line a lot in intial messages.0 -
Okay just sent out a couple replys. One guy must be sitting there on the site or something because he responds right away. Dude is a tri-athelete.
I had match email me when someone sent me a message and I'd get the emails on my phone. . I'd respond from my phone too. So. . .quick response doesn't necessarily mean he's sitting on the site. .just fyi. .0 -
the last 10% are "normal"? I have tears of joy when I stumble upon one of these (I should add that I'm not even necessarily physically attracted in the woman often, so yeah, back on to the search then...).
Oh wow, what a trigger... one guy I met from online told me that he was so psyched to discover me because I seemed normal (not psycho) but unfortunately my looks just "didn't do it for him." His loss!
I don't understand why anybody would be rude. What's the point of that??
A-hole!
He's a dumbass but you're one hot lady. Seriously. I've seen your FB pics lol.0 -
I was messaging back and forth with 2 guys today. Both asked what I was up to this weekend. I replied with "Nothing planned just a laid back weekend since I have been so busy the rest of March." This to me opens them up to say "Hey why don't we meet ..." or something similar.
Nope both of them "oh yeah nothing really planned either" WTH. :devil: :grumble:0 -
I just came acrossed a profile that their opening line was "Looking for a well endowed woman" really really?0
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I was messaging back and forth with 2 guys today. Both asked what I was up to this weekend. I replied with "Nothing planned just a laid back weekend since I have been so busy the rest of March." This to me opens them up to say "Hey why don't we meet ..." or something similar.
Nope both of them "oh yeah nothing really planned either" WTH. :devil: :grumble:
So frustrating!0 -
I was messaging back and forth with 2 guys today. Both asked what I was up to this weekend. I replied with "Nothing planned just a laid back weekend since I have been so busy the rest of March." This to me opens them up to say "Hey why don't we meet ..." or something similar.
Nope both of them "oh yeah nothing really planned either" WTH. :devil: :grumble:
And this is when I NEXT them. A guy can't get a clue??? :grumble:
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I was messaging back and forth with 2 guys today. Both asked what I was up to this weekend. I replied with "Nothing planned just a laid back weekend since I have been so busy the rest of March." This to me opens them up to say "Hey why don't we meet ..." or something similar.
Nope both of them "oh yeah nothing really planned either" WTH. :devil: :grumble:
It could be coming off as "I just feel like relaxing this weekend, so I'm not really up for anything." Guys read a lot into your response about what you're up to. I think most of them are terrified of asking you out at the wrong time and hearing "Sorry, but I can't ...," even if there's a perfectly legitimate reason. So if it seems like there is a chance you'll say no, they often won't ask at all.
But I agree, when you meet on a dating site, it should be pretty obvious that going on dates is your objective, not to mention the fact that you wouldn't be e-mailing them if you had no interest.0 -
I've never done the online dating thing, but I went on POF today just to see what kind of men in my area (I live in Austin, too) are on there, and one guy's profile pic was of him kissing a woman. Now, like I mentioned, I'm no expert on this, but I'm not sure a photo of you kissing someone is the best way to project the image of a man looking for a serious relationship.0
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I was messaging back and forth with 2 guys today. Both asked what I was up to this weekend. I replied with "Nothing planned just a laid back weekend since I have been so busy the rest of March." This to me opens them up to say "Hey why don't we meet ..." or something similar.
Nope both of them "oh yeah nothing really planned either" WTH. :devil: :grumble:
It could be coming off as "I just feel like relaxing this weekend, so I'm not really up for anything." Guys read a lot into your response about what you're up to. I think most of them are terrified of asking you out at the wrong time and hearing "Sorry, but I can't ...," even if there's a perfectly legitimate reason. So if it seems like there is a chance you'll say no, they often won't ask at all.
But I agree, when you meet on a dating site, it should be pretty obvious that going on dates is your objective, not to mention the fact that you wouldn't be e-mailing them if you had no interest.
There's also the school of thought to never have a first date on a Friday or Saturday night. Early/late afternoon Saturday or Sunday could work for some sort of active outdoorsy type first date.0 -
I was messaging back and forth with 2 guys today. Both asked what I was up to this weekend. I replied with "Nothing planned just a laid back weekend since I have been so busy the rest of March." This to me opens them up to say "Hey why don't we meet ..." or something similar.
Nope both of them "oh yeah nothing really planned either" WTH. :devil: :grumble:
It could be coming off as "I just feel like relaxing this weekend, so I'm not really up for anything." Guys read a lot into your response about what you're up to. I think most of them are terrified of asking you out at the wrong time and hearing "Sorry, but I can't ...," even if there's a perfectly legitimate reason. So if it seems like there is a chance you'll say no, they often won't ask at all.
But I agree, when you meet on a dating site, it should be pretty obvious that going on dates is your objective, not to mention the fact that you wouldn't be e-mailing them if you had no interest.
There's also the school of thought to never have a first date on a Friday or Saturday night. Early/late afternoon Saturday or Sunday could work for some sort of active outdoorsy type first date.
well I guess that is true. Still frustrating.0 -
I've never done the online dating thing, but I went on POF today just to see what kind of men in my area (I live in Austin, too) are on there, and one guy's profile pic was of him kissing a woman. Now, like I mentioned, I'm no expert on this, but I'm not sure a photo of you kissing someone is the best way to project the image of a man looking for a serious relationship.
I just saw one guy with his main picture had him in his underwear. :huh:0 -
I was messaging back and forth with 2 guys today. Both asked what I was up to this weekend. I replied with "Nothing planned just a laid back weekend since I have been so busy the rest of March." This to me opens them up to say "Hey why don't we meet ..." or something similar.
Nope both of them "oh yeah nothing really planned either" WTH. :devil: :grumble:
It could be coming off as "I just feel like relaxing this weekend, so I'm not really up for anything." Guys read a lot into your response about what you're up to. I think most of them are terrified of asking you out at the wrong time and hearing "Sorry, but I can't ...," even if there's a perfectly legitimate reason. So if it seems like there is a chance you'll say no, they often won't ask at all.
But I agree, when you meet on a dating site, it should be pretty obvious that going on dates is your objective, not to mention the fact that you wouldn't be e-mailing them if you had no interest.
There's also the school of thought to never have a first date on a Friday or Saturday night. Early/late afternoon Saturday or Sunday could work for some sort of active outdoorsy type first date.
A lot of people (myself included) don't usually have time for a date on a weeknight. I wouldn't reschedule anything I already had planned on a weekend, but if I'm free, then I say yes. Shows the other person you are willing to fit them in to your life too don't you think?0 -
[/quote]There's also the school of thought to never have a first date on a Friday or Saturday night. Early/late afternoon Saturday or Sunday could work for some sort of active outdoorsy type first date.
A lot of people (myself included) don't usually have time for a date on a weeknight. I wouldn't reschedule anything I already had planned, but if I'm free, then I say yes. Shows the other person you are willing to fit them in to your life too don't you think?
There is a need for a mindset change that a lot of singles can easily miss, particularly those who are coming out of long relationships where they didn't really need to think much about scheduling. The significant other was so ingrained in their life that it was like breathing. Relationships, particularly in the early stages, take time. If there's only potential to see another person 2 days a week, a relationship may not develop. I'm not advocating that a person should drop everything in their life to find a meaningful relationship, but there's got to be an openness and a free form approach to scheduling to make the process work the best it can.0 -
There's also the school of thought to never have a first date on a Friday or Saturday night. Early/late afternoon Saturday or Sunday could work for some sort of active outdoorsy type first date.
A lot of people (myself included) don't usually have time for a date on a weeknight. I wouldn't reschedule anything I already had planned, but if I'm free, then I say yes. Shows the other person you are willing to fit them in to your life too don't you think?
There is a need for a mindset change that a lot of singles can easily miss, particularly those who are coming out of long relationships where they didn't really need to think much about scheduling. The significant other was so ingrained in their life that it was like breathing. Relationships, particularly in the early stages, take time. If there's only potential to see another person 2 days a week, a relationship may not develop. I'm not advocating that a person should drop everything in their life to find a meaningful relationship, but there's got to be an openness and a free form approach to scheduling to make the process work the best it can.
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That is a very good point. Something to think about if I ever get past the one and done dates...0 -
Wow. Why on earth would somebody say your looks "didn't do it for him?" :noway:Oh wow, what a trigger... one guy I met from online told me that he was so psyched to discover me because I seemed normal (not psycho) but unfortunately my looks just "didn't do it for him." His loss!
...and to the point that it made him uninterested??? Unbelievable.0 -
I've never done the online dating thing, but I went on POF today just to see what kind of men in my area (I live in Austin, too) are on there, and one guy's profile pic was of him kissing a woman. Now, like I mentioned, I'm no expert on this, but I'm not sure a photo of you kissing someone is the best way to project the image of a man looking for a serious relationship.
Was it his mom? Or daughter?0 -
I've never done the online dating thing, but I went on POF today just to see what kind of men in my area (I live in Austin, too) are on there, and one guy's profile pic was of him kissing a woman. Now, like I mentioned, I'm no expert on this, but I'm not sure a photo of you kissing someone is the best way to project the image of a man looking for a serious relationship.
Was it his mom? Or daughter?
I hope not.0 -
I've never done the online dating thing, but I went on POF today just to see what kind of men in my area (I live in Austin, too) are on there, and one guy's profile pic was of him kissing a woman. Now, like I mentioned, I'm no expert on this, but I'm not sure a photo of you kissing someone is the best way to project the image of a man looking for a serious relationship.
Was it his mom? Or daughter?
I hope not.
This just made me LOL at work.0 -
This guy on POF *oh boy* sent me a message saying "Hey babe I can give you the ride of a lifetime if you want a well hung stud like myself. But it will cost you"
The older and more impatient I get with time wasting BS, the more I wonder if just paying for it and sending him on his way might be the way to go, though.0 -
I was messaging back and forth with 2 guys today. Both asked what I was up to this weekend. I replied with "Nothing planned just a laid back weekend since I have been so busy the rest of March." This to me opens them up to say "Hey why don't we meet ..." or something similar.
Nope both of them "oh yeah nothing really planned either" WTH. :devil: :grumble:
Well, that does seem to me like a pretty good opening. . but it's very delicate asking for that date. .
They probably just didn't want to come off as too pushy or eager. . especially if you've only been messenging them for a day or two. Several times the message I sent asking for the date or the phone number was like some death knell b/c I never heard from the girl again (or it might have just been my misunderstanding of online dating code).0 -
I was messaging back and forth with 2 guys today. Both asked what I was up to this weekend. I replied with "Nothing planned just a laid back weekend since I have been so busy the rest of March." This to me opens them up to say "Hey why don't we meet ..." or something similar.
Nope both of them "oh yeah nothing really planned either" WTH. :devil: :grumble:
Well, that does seem to me like a pretty good opening. . but it's very delicate asking for that date. .
They probably just didn't want to come off as too pushy or eager. . especially if you've only been messenging them for a day or two. Several times the message I sent asking for the date or the phone number was like some death knell b/c I never heard from the girl again (or it might have just been my misunderstanding of online dating code).
Actually a better opening might be, "I don't have any real plans for the weekend" and stop there. Talking about having a laid back weekend and how you've been busy, couldn't that come off as you're tired and not really open to going out?
Of course, there's always the option of trying to drop a hint by saying, "I don't know, what are you up to this weekend?"0
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