Why am I so turned off by an educated woman?
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I hate educated women because they will have endless debates with you to prove you wrong.
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Yeah... Erm... Sorry... I thought I was being funny.0 -
Damn it people. I leave for 27 hours and somehow someone has called Mike "abusive"? Where did that come from?
Mike is opinionated, a bit barbaric, but he's entitled to his opinion on how he wants to live his life and I truly believe when he finds the right one for him he'll treat her like gold. At no point did I ever get an "abusive" vibe from him. I've been with abusive men, they had none of Mike's qualities.
Wow, I guess I can't even take an overnight "sex" trip away from this forum without missing something...LOL :flowerforyou: :smooched:
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I hate educated women because they will have endless debates with you to prove you wrong.
* COUGHS *
* ahem *
* snort *
:indifferent:
Yeah... Erm... Sorry... I thought I was being funny.
hehe I thought it was funny... even if I (might appear to) resemble that remark0 -
I hate educated women because they will have endless debates with you to prove you wrong.
* COUGHS *
* ahem *
* snort *
:indifferent:
Yeah... Erm... Sorry... I thought I was being funny.
hehe I thought it was funny... even if I (might appear to) resemble that remark
LOL, I did too XD0 -
I've been away from the group for some time... After reading this tripe... I think Ill stay away.
Peace out.0 -
Jesus Christ you people love drama!!
Can the chilled out people who belong to this group please identify yourselves. You know?... the type who don't go out of their way to be offended by every little thing and argue every friggin' point. I'd really like to get to know you. :flowerforyou:
This is actually a serious request.0 -
Jesus Christ you people love drama!!
Can the chilled out people who belong to this group please identify yourselves. You know?... the type who don't go out of their way to be offended by every little thing and argue every friggin' point. I'd really like to get to know you. :flowerforyou:
This is actually a serious request.
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Here's a thought re. Flam's post. Do you think the female members of this group would respond as vehemently as they sometimes do to something they didn't feel attacked and belittled by? Would anyone bother getting riled up, let alone spend half an hour composing a response to it, if the content, or the wording, didn't hit a sore spot? If lots of a group are getting upset about something, it seems to me there's likely to be a shared or common reason. Dissenting opinions, expressed pleasantly and with due respect, may provoke argument, but not usually "ramming" attacks. On the other hand, telling a group that their experiences are invalid, and cutting them and their opinions down as 'unrealistic', 'inconsistent' or simply 'past their best', without being a member of that group yourself or even attempting to understand and appreciate the common perspective of that group, is likely to unleash a storm.
Edited to try to fix quoting system. Have I succeeded?
Do you also think that there is at times an over sensitivity or even (my perception to be fair) a desire to be offended.
Life serves us all crap sandwiches,there is no "fairness" inherent in it.
Have women been treated as chattel in the past?
Yes and why it amuses me when they cling to the nice chivalry part of those days as being a romantic trigger.
Is everything fair today?
No,sometimes to the benefit of a guy and others a gal,so be it.
Get by it and live your life,being resentful won`t change anything. :flowerforyou:
Now that I'm well enough to think/look at a computer again... and so that I'm not asked to account for a response left incomplete at a later date, here goes:
Resentment and conscious awareness are two entirely different things. The former is passive, unhealthy and eats the emoter up from inside, tainting all other aspects of their lives. The latter is active, healthy and while it may inform and direct aspects of a life, it has a positive, even driving, force to it that has the potential to enhance, rather than diminish and minimise. My awareness of certain injustices and bad status quos that should be challenged does not make me resentful, it gives me purpose. If no-one ever challenged a status quo that didn't work for them or they felt to be unjust, America in its' present form might never have been founded, slavery certainly would not have been abolished, and women and non-aristocratic men would not have the right to vote or an education, among a myriad of other advances in civilised human life that would have been unthinkable. For that matter, we might never have invented the wheel, because dragging things through the mud by brute force is "just the way it is/we do things."
Of course life will never be 'fair', but surely it is our obligation, as intelligent, educated individuals, to try to leave the world a little better, a little freer of injustice, than we found it, for those who come next? As far as I'm concerned, if my awareness, and my consequent action makes even the faintest smidge of a difference that then helps someone else, then I have lived a life worth living. If you want to call that purpose 'resentment', you will be neither the first or the last to apply that term, with its' whiff of disparagement, to the beliefs and actions of those who consciously recognise and act against injustice where they see it, but it speaks more of your beliefs and mindset than mine.
Re. chivalry (we're covering a lot of threads in this post!); a little courtesy, a little consideration? I couldn't care less if the traditions and practices developed around women's chattel status (though there is rather more to it than that, historically, but this is hardly the place for a treatise on mediaeval French politics) - the essence is the extension of courtesy and consideration to one's fellow humans, which makes the world a nicer, more pleasant place to live - long may chivalry reign!
As for 'over-sensitivity' or a desire to be offended, I doubt anyone, except perhaps a megalomaniac wishing to turn 'offence' to a purpose, ever desires to be offended. Some may think outside the common thread of 'acceptable' and therefore be more or less susceptible to being offended by what might, to most, seem inoffensive, but I can't begin to imagine that anyone (maybe with the exception of editors of tabloid newspapers, who are obliged to take umbrage professionally - does this make them megalomaniacs? hmmm.....:laugh: ), goes out looking and wishing to be offended on a day-to-day basis. Finally, did you know that womens' 'over-sensitivity' or 'tender-heartedness' was one of the most common reasons offered by politicians, editors, opinion-leaders et al against women's suffrage? Up until the point where suffragettes proved them wrong by acting in a most 'masculine' fashion - taking a principled stand, and going to any lengths, both aggressive and self-sacrificing, to pursue it. The western world seems to have coped adequately with all us 'over-sensitive' types voting for the last hundred-odd years. I'm reasonably sure this board will manage too.0 -
Jesus Christ you people love drama!!
Can the chilled out people who belong to this group please identify yourselves. You know?... the type who don't go out of their way to be offended by every little thing and argue every friggin' point. I'd really like to get to know you. :flowerforyou:
This is actually a serious request.
Woot Woot! :bigsmile:0 -
Jesus Christ you people love drama!!
Can the chilled out people who belong to this group please identify yourselves. You know?... the type who don't go out of their way to be offended by every little thing and argue every friggin' point. I'd really like to get to know you. :flowerforyou:
This is actually a serious request.
This card has been played before0 -
:bigsmile:Jesus Christ you people love drama!!
Can the chilled out people who belong to this group please identify yourselves. You know?... the type who don't go out of their way to be offended by every little thing and argue every friggin' point. I'd really like to get to know you. :flowerforyou:
This is actually a serious request.
:bigsmile: I'm typically pretty much ignored (either people are quiet because they have issue with me, or they are quiet because I tend not to rock boats), but anywho, can I join your club? :huh:0 -
Jesus Christ you people love drama!!
Can the chilled out people who belong to this group please identify yourselves. You know?... the type who don't go out of their way to be offended by every little thing and argue every friggin' point. I'd really like to get to know you. :flowerforyou:
This is actually a serious request.
This card has been played before
See now I could blow up royal about this comment.
I could take offence at the insinuation that I am playing a game of some sort... that I am here with an ulterior motive... probably one to do with sex and that as a male I am little more than a manipulative predator here to 'play games' with the emotions of the females on this forum who (since the time of the suffragettes) have been attempting to free themselves from the mind games of abusive men like me.
OR....
I could respond like this...
LOL :drinker:
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:bigsmile:Jesus Christ you people love drama!!
Can the chilled out people who belong to this group please identify yourselves. You know?... the type who don't go out of their way to be offended by every little thing and argue every friggin' point. I'd really like to get to know you. :flowerforyou:
This is actually a serious request.
:bigsmile: I'm typically pretty much ignored (either people are quiet because they have issue with me, or they are quiet because I tend not to rock boats), but anywho, can I join your club? :huh:
Sure you can Kristen. :drinker:
Consider this your first non-ignore :flowerforyou:0 -
:bigsmile:Jesus Christ you people love drama!!
Can the chilled out people who belong to this group please identify yourselves. You know?... the type who don't go out of their way to be offended by every little thing and argue every friggin' point. I'd really like to get to know you. :flowerforyou:
This is actually a serious request.
:bigsmile: I'm typically pretty much ignored (either people are quiet because they have issue with me, or they are quiet because I tend not to rock boats), but anywho, can I join your club? :huh:
Sure you can Kristen. :drinker:
Consider this your first non-ignore :flowerforyou:
Awww, thanks! :blushing:0 -
Kristen, you aren't ignored, I just usually agree with you and I don't generally inundate threads with a bunch of "quote agree" responses. I believe Cass had the same complaint not too long ago and we all told him the same thing.
Also, Cass, that's a backhanded response. "I could do XYZ but I'm not going to" is pretty much the passive aggressive version of doing "XYZ". You keep throwing these mini tantrums about people debating and while I agree that this one did get a little sideways, crying about drama and "OMG pay attention to me" is kinda juvenile. There are people who enjoy debate, and even if things do get out of the hand the solution isn't just to tell everyone to shut up because then nothing gets resolved and the issues roil under the surface until they come out again, as we have seen multiple times now.0 -
:bigsmile:Jesus Christ you people love drama!!
Can the chilled out people who belong to this group please identify yourselves. You know?... the type who don't go out of their way to be offended by every little thing and argue every friggin' point. I'd really like to get to know you. :flowerforyou:
This is actually a serious request.
:bigsmile: I'm typically pretty much ignored (either people are quiet because they have issue with me, or they are quiet because I tend not to rock boats), but anywho, can I join your club? :huh:
You definitely aren't ignored.
You were spot on earlier before. I'll be the first to admit that I can be barbaric at times. I prefer to call myself "old school" though. :laugh:0 -
I don't ignore anybody, I generally just don't read posts that are more than 2 paragraphs long. ADD/ADHD/Short attention span/Laziness I guess. And I usually don't even read threads that are more than a few pages long because that usually just means that some people got offended and started ranting about god knows what. After that it just reminds me of a bad reality show.0
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Kristen, you aren't ignored, I just usually agree with you and I don't generally inundate threads with a bunch of "quote agree" responses. I believe Cass had the same complaint not too long ago and we all told him the same thing.
Also, Cass, that's a backhanded response. "I could do XYZ but I'm not going to" is pretty much the passive aggressive version of doing "XYZ". You keep throwing these mini tantrums about people debating and while I agree that this one did get a little sideways, crying about drama and "OMG pay attention to me" is kinda juvenile. There are people who enjoy debate, and even if things do get out of the hand the solution isn't just to tell everyone to shut up because then nothing gets resolved and the issues roil under the surface until they come out again, as we have seen multiple times now.
Nar... It wasn't a passive aggressive way of doing anything... I don't actually believe a word of what I wrote in the 'XYZ' response. I was just illustrating a point.
My point is that there are 5 or 6 people who hijack just about every thread on this forum with their ridiculous fighting. I KNOW those 5 or 6 people enjoy it otherwise they wouldn't do it. Like... they LOVE it. I'll even go so far as to say they are entitled to do it... it's both a public forum AND a free country.
There might even be people who enjoy reading these arguments... I'm not sure who... but I'm sure they exist. It's all good.
I'm just trying to identify the people in this group who constantly get ignored and railroaded into silence by the people here who love the sound of their own voice and think far too highly of their own opinions.
ps. I have NO INTENTION of arguing with you about this. Otherwise... I will have joined you. :flowerforyou:0 -
I'm just trying to identify the people in this group who constantly get ignored and railroaded into silence by the people here who love the sound of their own voice and think far too highly of their own opinions.
No one is railroaded into silence. There are people that don't want to participate and instead find other lighthearted threads to comment in that don't have a debate undertone. If you want flooffy fluffy comments check out the Xmas funnies thread, the confession thread, the Christmas music thread, or the TMI advice about sex thread. All of those are fun, light hearted and are not at their core, something that is going to be controversial.
I can't help but notice people always whine and complain about how "every thread is getting hijacked" in the threads like this one where it is CLEARLY a controversial, heated topic, but hardly ever post in the ones that are fun and everyone is laughing and even Mike and I chuckle with/at each other. Instead you're too busy being judgmental and trying to make other people feel guilty for debating by acting like you are sooooo chill and clearly we are high strung jerks who just ignore people and can't hang with the cools kids anyway.
It's not working, by the way. I distinctly remember you throwing a fit because you posted three comments that weren't respond worthy and therefore no one responded. Now it's convenient for you to act like you're above it all? Cool story bro, keep up the consistency.
On that note, I have no problem with you. For the most part when you did participate I agreed with everything you said and thought you were a cool dude. It's *kitten* like this that I just can't seem to process so I'm gonna call BS and continue to silently agree with you when you post something of value
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I'm just trying to identify the people in this group who constantly get ignored and railroaded into silence by the people here who love the sound of their own voice and think far too highly of their own opinions.
I agreed with everything you said and thought you were a cool dude. ]
Thank you :blushing: :flowerforyou:0 -
BWAHAHAHAHAHAAAA!I'm just trying to identify the people in this group who constantly get ignored and railroaded into silence by the people here who love the sound of their own voice and think far too highly of their own opinions.
I agreed with everything you said and thought you were a cool dude. ]
Thank you :blushing: :flowerforyou:
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BWAHAHAHAHAHAAAA!I'm just trying to identify the people in this group who constantly get ignored and railroaded into silence by the people here who love the sound of their own voice and think far too highly of their own opinions.
I agreed with everything you said and thought you were a cool dude. ]
Thank you :blushing: :flowerforyou:
Best. Cherry picking. Ever.0 -
I was in a meeting one day with our counsel to discuss how to proceed with a case. I threw out a suggestion, she took offense. She then threw in my face that she graduated top of her class at U. of Miami Law School and asked me what I've accomplished on the academic side. Completely uncalled for and I've ONLY experienced this with female co-workers. I'm sure men do it too, but it hasn't happened to me.
What we are missing here is her side of the story. Exactly HOW did you throw out the suggestion? Of course, you wouldn't admit to being condescending, but I have a hard time believing that this woman felt a need to just throw that out there without some provocation.
Anyway, I think all this is a moot point. Once they Ph.D. gets wind of your attitudes towards educated women, i don't think it will be an issue for you anymore. She sounds like a real catch, and that she could do much better than someone that holds her intelligence and achievements against her. JMHO0 -
**Update**
Well, Ms. PhD poofed on me. She hasn't e-mailed me in 3 days. Oddly enough, she's been mirin' my online profile. She's checked it out 3 times this past weekend.
Anyway, I know I can do much better, so it's all good. I think we both dodged a bullet here.0 -
**Update**
Well, Ms. PhD poofed on me. She hasn't e-mailed me in 3 days. Oddly enough, she's been mirin' my online profile. She's checked it out 3 times this past weekend.
Anyway, I know I can do much better, so it's all good. I think we both dodged a bullet here.
Not surprised about the poofing.
Better that they duck out earlier than waste your time on a "one & done".0 -
Once they Ph.D. gets wind of your attitudes towards educated women, i don't think it will be an issue for you anymore. She sounds like a real catch, and that she could do much better than someone that holds her intelligence and achievements against her. JMHO
Hence the poofing...!0 -
Anyway, I know I can do much better, so it's all good.
I think I just threw up a little in my mouth. That was a blatant insult to every educated woman in this thread, but I'm sure you knew that.0 -
Anyway, I know I can do much better, so it's all good.
I think I just threw up a little in my mouth. That was a blatant insult to every educated woman in this thread, but I'm sure you knew that.
If he knew that, he is way smarter or better informed than I am.0 -
Anyway, I know I can do much better, so it's all good.
I think I just threw up a little in my mouth. That was a blatant insult to every educated woman in this thread, but I'm sure you knew that.
If he knew that, he is way smarter or better informed than I am.
That may not have come across as tongue-in-cheek as I intended. I must have used the wrong font!0 -
Better? I thought you were pretty keen on her (ie. she was good enough by your criteria) until she shared her education level with you. Did I miss something? What is better in this case? Simply that she doesn't have a higher degree than you?**Update**
Well, Ms. PhD poofed on me. She hasn't e-mailed me in 3 days. Oddly enough, she's been mirin' my online profile. She's checked it out 3 times this past weekend.
Anyway, I know I can do much better, so it's all good. I think we both dodged a bullet here.
She hasn't emailed in 3 days - after you asked her a question? If not... have you been emailing her in that time without a response? Otherwise, it could be that she thinks the ball is in your court if she's still looking at your profile.0
