Rebecca, that would be SO hard! We are definately waiting because of the previous issues, but we agreed I could tell my mom. I am so close with her and have talked to her about it every day since we found out.

I am thinking of telling my sister and only her because of our close proximity. She and I share EVERYTHING, and last time I was pregnant, she was 6 months pregnant with her second (and last) baby, so it kind of presented itself that way. This time it will come out of the blue because she didn't know we were TTC. I think I would feel more strange about keeping her in the dark for the next three weeks.

Now it is hanging in our closet, right in the middle, to remind each of us to think positive thoughts and not to dwell on the past misfortune.

We did not find out with our son, and we have decided not to find out this time. As much as it kills me to not be able to prepare clothes, it's not a big deal. Because we didn't know if our son would be a boy or a girl, we had a lot of gender neutral newborn and 0-3 month clothes.

I thought it was great not knowing, and the only time I felt weird about it was after the 20-week ultrasound, but only because I found it strange that the ultrasound tech knew, but we didn't. My OB told me that she doesn't even want to know because she once accidentally spilled the beans to a patient and doesn't want to make that mistake! Otherwise it didn't bother me not to know, but I guess that's because I didn't think about it and because I knew we'd know sooner or later. My mom was convinced that I knew, and to this day she doesn't believe me when I swear up and down that we let it be a surprise.

I kind of knew I was having a boy, though, based on the fact that it seems to be a rule for the women in my family that you must have two boys before you're allowed to have a girl (so I'm guessing it's a boy this time, too, which is cool with me). We had a shortlist of names for both boys and girls, and we figured we would choose a name when s/he arrived. We also did not share name selections beforehand because everyone has an opinion, and I didn't want to deal with negative reactions, perceived or otherwise. We cut it down to two names in the hospital, and the super awesome OB nurse helped us choose between the two. (Thomas Elliott was what we picked - we named him Thomas after St. Thomas More and Elliott was just a middle name that we liked that means "The Lord is my God.")

I recommend the wait-and-see approach Most women I know who did both said that they liked not knowing better.

According to my calculations I am due May 18th, which is less than 2 weeks after my sons birthday who will be 2 this May. But this pregnancy is different! I know I am pregnant but I dont quite feel it yet..like maybe it hasnt fully hit me idk.....I have been urinating more than I remember and I am a lot more tired. I only weigh about 18lbs less than I did when I got pregnant with my first, so I am trying to stay below my starting weight with him at the end of this one. I became border line preeclampsia with him when my weight got high, although I only gained 20lbs with him, it made a difference and I dont want to become that again if I can avaoid it. Just wasnt worth it. I have been working out since July bc we joined the gym and I have now given up my classes bc of a new full time job and the intensity.....I tried doing moderations, but my stomache just hurt after like it was stretched too much and it isnt worth it....I am even having a hard time lifting weights now...even though I am doing light weights with more reps vs what I was doing before I do still feel it sometimes..its just odd bc idk what to do exercise wise besides swim that wouldn't cause my stomache to feel this pulling...I try biking and running a mile a day which isnt too bad, but idk I didnt exercise much last pregnancy except walking...and I seem to be gaining weight like its nothing...I havent been tracking like normal but I havent been eating bad at all and it seems like the weight has creeped up in a few weeks...idk what to do...I worked hard to lose almost 40lbs after I had my son and I maintained when I stopped tracking and now I have gained 6lbs.....and I dont get it =/....any suggestions or help for exercise ideas and why I may be gaining so rapidly all of a sudden?

Good for you on keeping tabs on your weight - I pray you don't have issues with preeclampsia again! That can be very scary.

In one of the weight gain threads, someone mentioned water weight and such because of the progesterone. I had never thought of that. My boobs are rather full, too, so there's that. Also, because you may have been eating at a deficit, and you're not anymore, your body might be like, "Ooh, calories!" and is letting you gain a bit, especially if you've had to cut back on working out. If you haven't already, I would set your calories to maintenance and see if that works.

If it makes you feel better, I've put on 3 pounds (I think) since getting my BFP. I think it's partially my boobs but also I have been slacking on exercise due to a hectic work schedule. Now that the evenings and mornings are comfortably cool where I live, I need to pick up some more runs or at least good walks. I don't mind the 3 pounds; it's the continuing to gain when I am at a point where I shouldn't really be gaining that bothers me. So hopefully getting some better exercise will keep it in check.

Anyhow, I recommend swimming and walking if those are all you can handle. Maybe just do them a little longer? Or walk on a treadmill on an incline? Since you have a gym membership, can you do the elliptical? (It's not my favorite machine, but it's better than nothing.)

I hope that helps :flowerforyou:

ETA welcome, and congratulations!!!