DaffyGirl88 wrote: »

HASWLRS wrote: »

Tuesday, December 7th

logged: yes
under: yes
exercise: no
steps: 6,114
water: 8 cups

I went to see my parents yesterday and my sister and I toured the retirement home with them. Then we went back to their place and had a nice visit, until we didn't.

@HASWLRS Sounds ominous Lisa, I hope everything's OK.

@DaffyGirl88 My mother has memory loss, and she has trouble even finding the words sometimes to express what she wants to say. Dementia also results in more anger and more paranoia. And she really has been unhappy most of her life. Dad is a single child raised by older parents, so basically a spoiled brat that never had to think about anyone else. She probably would have gotten a divorce years ago if she thought she could have lived on her own, but she has never been a confident woman, so she didn't. Now Dad is forced to help her, and he is, but of course all those feelings of anger and resentment over the years still come out of Mom. It made me angry that she was dredging up the past that is no longer relevant. So there was yelling on my part, tears on my sister's part, and some of both on my mom's part. Mom is physically and mentally ready for a retirement home, but not that far off of a nursing home if it gets much worse. If Dad had help with meals and household chores, he could still live at home. So they are at different stages. He is willing to go into the retirement home that is right around the corner from them, but they are on a wait list and mom doesn't know if she can wait. She wants to put her name into homes in other towns, but Dad really doesn't want to leave the only town he has ever lived in.

I haven't even told my husband any of this. When I got home last night he was finishing up his dinner and was 15 minutes from leaving for curling so I said I would tell him later.