Then I look at who they are willing to date and they have everything checked except for 'black/african-american'. Even 'other'.

Hey, you're not alone in this... I helped my friend create an eHarmony account last night, and just for grins created one myself. We're very similar, and our answers to their questionairre were almost identical. The only difference is that she's white and I'm mixed. Even though I was more relaxed about my partner's qualities (for example, I was more open to people of other backgrounds), she got a ton more matches upfront. I'm used to it (always get the "Oh, I thought you were Puerto Rican... goodbye"), but it's still annoying. If I were dead set on getting married soon, I'd be really discouraged.

One guy who messaged me really sweet and when I went to his profile it was like all these hateful messages about how he hates women who are overly jealous ^%^&^$#%@$#$#%^ with all these symbols and that they are *****es...

I was like ok..... haha Angry much?

Also why do guys always put 'I hate being serious' Really? Everything in life is fun and clowns that it is always a laugh a minute?

I was texting back and forth with a 35yr old recently, and when I mentioned wanting a Lexus in a "pearly white" color, he had to make a perverted reference to "pearl necklaces." Seriously?!?! Not how I envision the man of my dreams, lol.

I am guessing you didn't have much history with this person. It's hard to get away with that joke with very little history between 2 people.

Match . .dot. . com. . . VERY interesting 6 months! (got the guarantee btw. .but shut down my profile . . at least for now. )

Girls. . if you can help it, resist the Pavlovian need to put the words: "Live life to the fullest" anywhere in your profile. .. . *puke*..

That's how I feel about the words "laid back", EVERY GUY'S PROFILE SAYS THAT!

Easily 50% of girls have "Quiet night on the couch with a glass of wine and a movie". . so, yeah, the guys are probably saying this because they think that's what you want to hear!

Mine doesn't! Yay, I'm not the norm!

Body shots. . You have to have at least one honest body shot on your profile. . If you get a date and you show up and you weren't honest about your body. . . well. .it's just awkward and frustrating for everybody. . . I stopped contacting girls who didn't have a body shot. . I know a lot of you are going to attack me for being shallow etc. . but I like what I like. It's not my fault!

Agree 100%!

I don't know if my experience is average or what.. but keep in mind that you girls get orders of magnitude more messages than we do. . The entire time I was on I probably got 20 unsolicited emails. . I went on a date with one girl who got 100+ every DAY! I'm pretty sure there are more guys than girls on match.

I don't know why guys think that...I might get a few emails a week, and I email lots of guys and initiate contact...

I don't know if my experience is average or what.. but keep in mind that you girls get orders of magnitude more messages than we do. . The entire time I was on I probably got 20 unsolicited emails. . I went on a date with one girl who got 100+ every DAY! I'm pretty sure there are more guys than girls on match.

I don't know why guys think that...I might get a few emails a week, and I email lots of guys and initiate contact...

Guys think that because it is usually true. Women who are average looking or better usually get bombarded with messages, particularly those under 30. The younger, the greater the competition. And there are plenty of 40 year old women getting a lot of messages. I see no reason why you (toots99) should not be getting more messages. Perhaps something in the profile is not the way it should be to get a lot of messages.

Guys think that because it is usually true. Women who are average looking or better usually get bombarded with messages, particularly those under 30. The younger, the greater the competition. And there are plenty of 40 year old women getting a lot of messages. I see no reason why you (toots99) should not be getting more messages. Perhaps something in the profile is not the way it should be to get a lot of messages.

It is true. When I was on a site last year I would get a few a week. And looking back at my pictures then I can see why. :laugh: On the other hand my best friend who is really thin would get TONS of messages. So average/ better looking woman definitely get more messages than they know what to do with. But I agree, I don't see why you toots99 wouldn't be getting more messages.

These are the types of people that match.com think I am compatible with - my daily match (exerpt from his profile):

"I grew up a little rough and made some bad choices. I had a full scholarship to play basketball out of high school and did not take advantage of it. But growing up the way i did and making the choices I have has made me tough, open minded, and kinda stubborn haha."

Grrrrr lol :grumble:

That is kind of awesome in a very very sad way.

Just got an email from a guy...go to his profile...he has 2 photos. One where he is making a goofy smile and cuddling a bunny rabbit, and the other is of 2 rabbits in a cage, with the caption "SugarMuffin & Patches!!"

:sad: :huh:

That's unusual. Maybe he's a sensitive guy. A sensitive guy would name rabbits "SugarMuffin & Patches".

Probably not the strongest approach for attracting the pretty ladies like KrissyPea

Just got an email from a guy...go to his profile...he has 2 photos. One where he is making a goofy smile and cuddling a bunny rabbit, and the other is of 2 rabbits in a cage, with the caption "SugarMuffin & Patches!!"

:sad: :huh:

That's unusual. Maybe he's a sensitive guy. A sensitive guy would name rabbits "SugarMuffin & Patches".

Probably not the strongest approach for attracting the pretty ladies like KrissyPea

Aww hehe. Do I sense a facetious tone there? I am really not trying to sound THAT picky....I do of course want a guy who is capable of sensitivity...but at the same time I want a MAN. He can like rabbits...but this guy likes them enough to showcase them in 1 of his only 2 photos to represent who he is to the world. hehehe. Just silly, that's all! :laugh:

Hell yeah that's silly! Complete turn-off! You should upload a picture of you in a rabbit fur coat.

I've been tempted to do a search for guys in my age group and check out their profiles. . just to see what kind of pics they post and what kind of stuff they say. . You know. . check out the competition. . But f*ing match does that 'who viewed me' thing and I just couldn't do it!