Senior Golden Sneakers
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Buzz and Mike:
Suicide is so devastating, more for the family than the victim. Addiction is so hard to understand, yet there is nothing any of can do unless they want help. What I have learned in Al Anon is that we did not cause it, we can't control it and we can't cure it. Nothing I say can take the pain away Buzz, but please know that you are in my prayers as well as Mike and his family.
Please make sure you take care of yourself as I know how you want to be there for everyone.
Love you Buzz and hope in time, good memories will replace the sad ones.
Sandy
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Buzz what a heart warming story. Mike came thru like a trooper.You are doing great. too. my prayers are with the whole family. such a tragedy. God bless
Marie0 -
It occurred to me this morning that with a group of 10 extra visitors around noon, it might be a good idea to think about food, so I called our culinary director, explained the situation, and in less than an hour they had created a lovely platter of sandwich quarters with 5 different fillings. I would never have believed how perfect this could be, but everyone kept popping these small bites into their mouths so easily, even Dear Daughter, who insisted she "wasn't hungry"! Much easier to grab than 1/2 a sandwich, and everyone enjoyed them! "Everyone" consisted of both siblings, sister and brother, sister's husband, brother's ex-wife, 2 granddaughters and eventually 2 grandsons. We had not seen the grand-kids in years, and what a delight they are!
Alex, left, sent this to my computer, and his sister, speech pathologist Rachel (right end), are Mike's son's children. The two center figures are Ben (2nd clarinet in Milwaukee Philharmonic Orchestra), and sister Bess (photographer extraordinaire) and are the kids of musician daughter. They are all four delightful people and we really did not know them before this tragedy brought us all together again!
The two bereaved parents were able to enjoy the company in a beautiful way, and it relaxed them, at least for the time being. Tomorrow is the Memorial Service, after which our kids fly back home.
I delayed my Ultrasound for 2 weeks, once I got my own priorities straightened out. I promise I will not forget to take care of myself, but I couldn't look in the mirror had I not been there today.
Thank you all again for your incredible support! I must get some sleep!
Buzz 0 -
Beautiful and talented grandchildren Buzz. Out of darkness comes light and it's never too late to reconnect with family so I hope you and Mike will have rewarding and loving times with them all from now on. I love that you have such wonderful people around you to take the strain, even with delicious bites of sandwich; it's the little things that make a difference!
You're a selfless lady so of course you postponed the ultrasound but be sure we'll all be on your case if you don't follow up in 2 weeks!
Good morning to all my Sneaker friends although not so good with it being another rain soaked one! Yesterday I began my fightback in the garden, climbing ladders to take out the top of untidy hedging and generally attacking the wilderness that has appeared in the last few months. It will no doubt take forever to win the battle, if ever, but I loved being outside. My bees are still with me despite the damp weather and I topped up their supply of sugar candy so they won't have to wander far to forage because Spring can't be too far away surely!!
No getting into the garden at the moment which means no excuses..... time to wash the kitchen floor and once again hoover up Boris' clods of black fur!!
Jackie
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Buzz - love the picture and glad you got reconnect with family even under such sad circumstances. That is always how we felt about funerals, try to live with the sadness but enjoy the people. We usually have to drive several hours to where I grew up for them and it is a chance to see people we usually don't see. Funny sad as it is, our grands had the best time at my Mom's funeral playing with all their newly found relatives. Mom would have loved it.
You are an amazing take charge person. I always held you with great respect and even more now. Big big hugs.
Jeri
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Hi all. Beautiful day, walked Honey, she says it's getting too warm for her! She prefers below 50 F at the least.
Yes, Jeri, most of our funerals are like reunions, big feasts afterwards. I don't think the deceased would mind a bit! Lots of remembering and reuniting.
OK, Buzz, if you can wait two weeks. You know better than many of us what the risks are. Hugs
Jackie, high energy from Honey, is that how you manage to get so much done? Your bees must appreciate you for supplying them, and they in turn supply you! Do be careful climbing ladders.
March 1 !! Soon we'll be moaning about the heat! All the seasons seem to come and go so fast.
Lin, what are your plans today? I'm reading/listening to The Long Walk Home by Will North. It's familiar, so I've already read it.
I checked out Small Wars by Lee Child. Didn't realize it is only 1 1/2 hours long!!
Have a good day
Phoebe0 -
Jackie - Thank you for the reminder that I need to be outside doing gardening things.
Buzz - Love the picture. What a beautiful and talented family. I will be thinking of you and your family tomorrow and I'm glad to hear that you are also remembering to take care of yourself.
Marcella0 -
What an interesting world we live in these days! The news throws me into such a "tizzie" it is hard for me to think rationally. Not that I ever think rationally, but American politics is a huge soap opera. What amazing stuff going on!!!
Celebrations of life, as we call them now, are a positive way to draw closure and comfort to those left behind. In my view, it is a healthy way of grieving and saying goodbye. Our family follows this method. There is also an unfortunate element of consuming too much alcohol. It seems to happen whenever we get together, for whatever the reason. This custom isn't entirely Irish but we do have a certain deserved reputation. I like Sandy's Al Anon teaching of we can't control, not our fault, we can't cure. That is so hard to do.
I am bleary-eyed today. Rainy windy night and no sleep. I will be zombie woman today. I am not good at naps. I can't drift off. However I am not sick. I am not in pain. Just slow and clumsy. I will avoid sharp instruments and do easy stuff.
Continued love and support for our dear Buzz. I am sending good thoughts and high hopes for all of you dear sneakers. March came in like a lion...so that means...out like a lamb? Hope so!
Patsy0 -
Good afternoon. I had planned to go to the cheap matinee today but we had rain, snow and now very very cold weather so I stayed home and made vegetable soup today. Did some laundry, cut up raw vegetables, have some fingerling sweet potatoes in my tiny countertop oven. Binge watching the first season of Gotham and have the newest Joann Fluke book---Wedding Cake Murder sitting here. I just started to read it and I am so disappointed in her approach to finally getting Hannah married. I think I am finished with this series as well.
Also spoke to a friend for quite a while. Hadn't spoken to her for months. I have several phone calls to make but I am not feeling like it after the calls I received this morning. Two different collection agencies called and it is somewhat involved but one is searching for someone with my ex-husband's name although his name is quite common and I didn't ask questions as to the exact person they were searching for. I just told them to leave me alone as he had never lived here and should not be associated with my phone number. They said they would---we'll see. Then another agency with a different number called hunting for someone with the name that is the same as my ex-husband's second wife. I told them they had an inaccurate phone number, take me off the list. They accused me of being her. I said no quite strongly. Then they asked if I knew her. And I said no which is the truth as I have heard of her but have never seen her and have not spoken to her. Again, a common name and it could be anyone. But very odd to have two calls the same morning hunting for people with those names. What do you think? I just hope that settled it.
Patsy--I hope you get some sleep tonight.
Marcella--did you get out to the garden?
Phoebe--some interesting books. Do you purchase from Audible?
Jeri--good to hear from you. Having to travel for several hours for a funeral sounds tiring. I may be facing that situation soon, although I don't know if I will make the drive alone. My dad's cousin is in hospice care and his son told me yesterday they do not think it will be long, advanced liver cancer just discovered due to a trip to the emergency room after a fall. He and my dad were like brothers and I am so very fond of him.
Jackie--ladders! You are amazing. I am reduced to just climbing 2 - 3 steps these days. I am afraid of taking a tumble. Your bees are quite fortunate to have you looking after their needs. Happy cleaning. Living produces to much mess doesn't it?
Buzz--thanks for sharing the beautiful picture with us. Wishing you strength as you get through the rest of this process. I am very sorry you've put off your own health for several weeks but you know best. You are wise and you are so very strong.
Hugs.
Lin
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Happy Tuesday!! I have a meeting tonight but I just sent her an email to tell her I would not be coming. I called the doctor yesterday and she gave me a prescription for cough medicine with codeine and an inhaler because this cough was so bad Sunday I couldn't handle it. Robby also got sick from me and I feel terrible. I still blame the shots although the doctor thinks I got it from Robby. Guess we will agree to disagree. I only took the cough medicine at bed time since I have Robby during the day but I have used the inhaler which makes me cough. I suppose both are supposed to make me cough to clear my lungs, but who knows. A friend said she took the same meds and was back to herself in five days. I am hoping I will be fine by then and so will Robby. Lisa is taking him to the doctor at 5:00 today not only for his congestion and fever but because he has a sore in his mouth that looks like a big blister. Poor guy was miserable part of the day but tries to be good, just hard for him to sleep. I hope they give him something to help him but most of the time it is just wait it out.
Lin, it is weird that you got two phone calls in one day from collection agencies. I do hope it is not a scam, is it possible to block their numbers??? I wonder if your ex is behind that somehow??
Patsy, I can't even watch all those debates, they are embarrassing. We too being of Polish decent celebrate life after the funeral with lots of alcohol and food. One of the wakes they even were tailgating in the parking lot of the funeral home. Makes me think I don't want a wake, just a Church service with my ashes, followed by a luncheon in a restaurant.
Marcella, is it warm enough to be outside in your garden??
Phoebe, glad to read you are getting your appetite back, just don't over do. Honey is like Daisy who prefers cool/cold weather to walk, she hates hot weather.
Jeri, kids at funerals always seem to have fun, which is perfectly healthy for them. It also brings smiles to others which helps with the sadness. Loved the picture of your granddaughter, hope you had fun with the others over the weekend.
Jackie, please be careful on those ladders we don't want to hear of any accidents. Your bees are as lucky as your other furry pets, you are such a good mom.
Buzz, what a beautiful family and hopefully this relationship will be renewed. How wonderful of your culinary director to put the platter together for you to make things easier for you.
You chose the right place to live and I am glad things are going well. As the others have said you know what is best for you, but please be careful. I am grateful Mike was able to shed tears for his grandson, he must have some good memories.
Marie, how are things in Texas???
Have a great evening.
Sandy
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Allie well here in Texas. We are drifting into spring ok just fine.
Hope you knock that bug that got a whole of you. how ennoring they can be
Buzz it is family time for you and Mike. Take care, Marie
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Memorial service went as well as might be expected. Many of his fraternity friends flew down from NJ, which made Mike's daughter feel better; several spoke about him in terms they thought were flattering, but I'll never know as I could barely understand the expressions they
used! Is that because I gave up on Facebook? Attended the Shiva at DD's house afterward, and I believe that goes on until Sunday with a day off for the Saturday Sabbath. Interesting to note there was no liquor but the abundance of food was amazing! And as soon as platters hit the mid-zone, new platters of food appeared! Coffee and soda were the only beverages. I kept thinking we could have fed a poor village somewhere with the amount of food that kept showing up, but someone nudged me and said, "You know you cannot take food out of a Shiva (Jewish "wake"), only IN"! I had thought about sneaking out a delicious corned beef sandwich, but reminded myself it isn't the safest thing for me to eat due to sodium, so I sat and smiled vacantly at all these people I didn't know! Our family was on the way to the airport, we had missed dinnertime at home, and I could see Mike was getting anxious to be on our way, so we said our goodbyes and on the way out our Son in law asked if we would return tomorrow. I let Mike mumble an answer, as I went for the car. and upon returning home, we got a huge welcome! I'll take each day as it comes!!!
JACKIE, I had wondered about how your bees weathered the winter. Perhaps they'll reward you with an extra high grade of honey this year! Thank you for your kind words!
JERI, thanks to you, too! And yes, I think the deceased would be very pleased to see pleasantness at this final gathering, and what a cheering thought! So kind of you!
PHOEBE, I promise I won't let this leg thing go longer than the 2 weeks til my appointment. I did use the leg pump today before dressing! How are you feeling? Any improvement yet? You haven't mentioned anything lately, unless I missed it!
MARCELLA, yes indeed, the gardening is hard work in the springtime, with such pleasurable
results it makes the aches worth it later on! And yes, thank you, the grand-kids turned out to be such a pleasant surprise. I used to wonder if the parents were simply bragging, but if so, they had every right to do so!
PATSY, as usual, I love the way you express yourself, and totally agree with your remarks quoted from SANDY! It's sometimes hard to believe, but so true! Thank you, dear!
LIN, how weird to receive those 2 calls out of the blue....unless they were perhaps more connected than they appeared to be! Sometimes I receive several sham calls from different numbers, but I sort of know they are from the same call center, looking for some kind of mischief! Thank you , dear, and I promise you the same as I promised PHOEBE. What would Mike do without me???
SANDY dear, so sorry you are feeling so awful! Are your ribs hurting from the coughing? Do hot liquids help at all? I remember sucking those Swiss lemon lozenges one after another all day (and sometimes night) long and after a couple of days, I seemed to feel better. I may have felt better without them as well, but I think they were comforting! I suspect you caught it from Robby rather than the other way around! I'm concentrating on sending Get Well thoughts to you! Yes, Mike got a lot out of his system at the funeral, and made the rather inappropriate remark/joke that he could kill his grandson for causing his Mom so much pain! I understood exactly where he was coming from! I did bring along hoards of Kleenex!
MARIE, dear Li'l Sis, I promise if you take care, so will we! Thank you, dear!
Now, I must see what the heck has happened at the polls today, though does it make any difference? I think we have turned into an ongoing soap opera! Do we really want any of these clowns? Buzz
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Brrr, March has certainly come rushing in like a lion in England so today's dog walk, although on the moors, was taken along a narrow road that leads to small hamlets because high winds, hail and sleet were sweeping across the landscape. We did manage 40 minutes of walking but as we stepped out pretty quickly I'd say we had a good round of exercise. Hopefully, if the showers ease I will get outside to clear more hedging but don't worry, I do my best to settle the ladder against the hedge by bouncing up and down on the first few steps to test its stability.
Buzz ~ It's often the way that our friends see a completely different side to us than family might so I'd imagine it must have been a positive time to hear their kind words, even if you couldn't understand the modern lingo!! I will certainly be talking severely to my bees if they don't produce at least a few pound of honey in the coming summer months.
Sandy ~ I agree that Robby probably passed on that bug, especially with you both being in such close daily contact with each other.; it's just what kiddies do!! For all that I do hope you shake off that cough soon.
I can hear my neighbour rattling her ladder next door so will get some warm clothes on along with my wellies and continue with the hedge trimming. Have a good day everyone.
Jackie0 -
Lin, I know how frustrating and annoying those calls can be. It was very likely the same collection group attempting to get a 'confession' from you. Lol, well if they call again, give them your ex's contact info, if you have it. Our calls come from a title pawn company. Dh's ex wife's son gets money,which he will never repay, and gives dh as a reference along with our phone number. I get angry with the son and the caller's but it's a waste of time and emotion. I told the collector s once that they should've checked references before giving out money. We would have given them an earful!
Another beautiful day!
Sandy, my chiro insists on high doses of vitamin C.
Be safe, warm and happy,
Phoebe0 -
Lin ~ Two calls on the same day might be what we call heir hunters, businesses that follow up when people pass away leaving no will by searching families of the deceased and offering to claim an inheritance. Information is usually made available to these companies on a specific day, then they all rush to find descendants. If that's the case put your hand up for a cut!!!
Jackie0 -
I did not get to enjoy the nice weather outside yesterday, but I did get to enjoy a nice family voting outing. My husband and I, along with our 22 and 24 year old sons, all went to vote in Georgia's Presidential primary together and then out to dinner. It was one of those really enjoyable outings that don't happen as often now that the sons are all grown up and busy with their own stuff. Today, I'm working in the home office. Hopefully, I'll remember to take a break and enjoy a short walk outside later.
Marcella
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phoebe potatoes is an excellent source of vitamin C without the fat oil , butter or sour cream. I have been spreading a thin coat of taco sauce on mine. I had 2 for my lunch Yum.Small red potatoes with the skin, they say that is where the fiber is at. And I want to get all the fiber I can.
Are you holding the weight down that you lost while you were sick?.
Marie
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Happy Wednesday!! Not going to bingo tonight and even though I am not sitting tomorrow I don't think I will be going to my meeting. I am still congested and would prefer to stay in until I am back to normal. Robby took a good nap today but I couldn't sleep because the sound of my wheezing was too annoying, so I just rested on the couch. If I still am wheezing tomorrow I may go back to the doctor, although I don't think there is anything else to do but wait it out. This flu type thing is going around all over and I guess my shot didn't help me with a milder case so of course I am frustrated. Sorry to whine every day, but if you knew me you know I never get sick so this is so unusual for me.
Marie, I get vitamin C with drinking orange juice but probably not enough.
Marcella, having dinner with your sons after doing your civic duty sounds more fun than working in the garden. The garden will always be there, but time with your sons is priceless.
Jackie, I know I wouldn't walk in hail, sleet and wind, you must be brave. I don't think Daisy would like it either, she is very spoiled. My cough is much better, the cough medicine and the inhaler seem to loosen things up but Babe brought me pills that his lung doctor told him to take (over the counter meds) and they seem to be working the best.
Buzz, I am happy for you and Mike that the memorial went well. So I had to google Shiva and found out it is a 7 day mourning period for the immediate family, does that include grandparents as well? Do they stay together for the 7 days or just return each day? My cough was hurting my lungs which is why she gave me an inhaler. They seem better now, but I can hear the wheezing when I exhale lying down.
Phoebe, how is your cough? And how is Jim?
Have a good night.
Sandy
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Hi Marie. I don't weigh while we are traveling so I don't know about my weight. I'll let you know.
Sandy, my cough is now just a tickle. Jim is not complaining this week, so he's doing good, lol! He is sneezing an awful lot. Extra allergy meds for him.
Full day tomorrow to get unloaded and head home. These people are notoriously slow.
Hope Lin is OK. And Anne!
Phoebe0 -
Sorry I didn't explain what Shiva means, but SANDY did a better job than I! I cannot concentrate, and am making mistake after mistake so I will just say hello and goodnight! I am dealing with a swollen right leg with pain in the ankle, and think I'm having a reaction to Cardura. Anyone taking that? Supposed to be for blood pressure, but not working anyway!
Sleep well; I think I will Buzz 0 -
Anne's okay PHOEBE, just feeling a bit subdued after a week full of bad news both locally and world wide. I try to keep very much in touch with world news and it hasn't been exactly uplifting and promising just lately. To match; the weather hasn't been the greatest, a winter snowstorm and much shovelling yesterday, and guess what it's snowing again as I type. All this will pass and in the meantime I'm taking a peek every now and then into everyone else's lives and sadnesses.
Take care everyone, Anne.0 -
Cold outside. Busy with errands and now have a need to get serious about tax info. Need to send everything to my preparer next week. We are going to try to do this by phone and mail this year which would save me a very long drive.
Hugs.
Lin0 -
Good morning folks.
I finally work up I think all of these potatoes keep me sleepy.
Which is time to eat a mess of them. Will be sweet potatoes this morning.
Anne and Lin is back and Phoebe is on her way home by now.
Our weather is just gorgeous
Our berry eating birds have already may there stop to eat all the red berries on our neighbors shrubs And poop all over our sidewalk.
Once a year they do that.Strange. Red poop all over our sidewalks But it is just the one day in the spring. Alice left her car out on the street and yes they got her but good. nasty birds.
Have a wonderful day.
Marie
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delraybuzz wrote: »Sorry I didn't explain what Shiva means, but SANDY did a better job than I! I cannot concentrate, and am making mistake after mistake so I will just say hello and goodnight! I am dealing with a swollen right leg with pain in the ankle, and think I'm having a reaction to Cardura. Anyone taking that? Supposed to be for blood pressure, but not working anyway!
Sleep well; I think I will Buzz
Buzz, I am unfamiliar with cardura. I am so incredibly sorry about the swelling and pain. I hope it is better today. Hugs.
Lin0 -
We consider it very lucky to have a bird poop on you MARIE, or on your car. Lucky Alice! Go buy a lottery ticket!0
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Good morning. Today is milk/errand day. So, I'm off to see how many things I can get done from my list!
Blessings,
Marcella0 -
Happy Thursday!! Feeling a little better finally but still going to stay home and not go to meeting. I think a day of rest without Robby is something that I need. I took some Night-quill last night and slept really good, so I took some Day-quill this morning. With the mucinex pills and the sudafed pills it is probably best I don't drive. So hopefully by the weekend I will feel good and life can go on without my whining.
Marcella, have fun running errands. Anne I haven't heard that bird poop is good luck, they usually hit my car right after I have it washed. Marie If poop is good luck, then red poop is probably even better. Lin Doing taxes doesn't sound appealing, I am glad I don't have to do mine since Babe and I still file jointly. Buzz I do hope you are better this morning, but wish you would get in to see the doctor. Phoebe Glad to hear your cough is better and like you I lost some weight during all of this. Jackie Hope all is well on the other side of the pond.
Have a great day everyone.
Sandy
One Day at a Time
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Ah ha!! So your car gets hit by the birds SANDY! Now, is it on the day you win at bingo? Take note from now on, lol. Of course this originated over in that rainy country I came from, maybe it originated to make us smile rather than wringing the birds necks! I remember sitting on a Newquay beach once with my ex. He got a direct hit from a seagull and didn't feel at all lucky dipping his thick head of hair in the sea to remove what appeared to be a green mass of vegetation. Ones mans (seagull?) meat is another mans poison as they say. Anne.0
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Sunny morning! I can't believe it! John is involved in designing and making a small hat rack for all his various caps and hats. Right now (much to my distress) he has a distorderly pile of them on a small area near the back door. Very unsightly! Yes! This is me talking...the person with the disgusting art dungeon. Anyway, it will be very nice with real brass hangers and will be made of mahogany. He having fun designing this project to fit a small area.
As for bird poop...we live near seagulls and other marine birds. Things get bombed here more than once a year. In fact, there is always a roll of paper towels and wet towels in a container in the car. A regular event here. Lucky? I am curious about the frequency of lottery winners in our area. Not sure about that!
The andromeda bush has a stellar array of blossoms now. I've never seen them so big and so many. The Camellia bush is loaded with buds but no blossoms showing yet. Tons of wild daffodils everywhere. Yea! It is spring. Not warm really, but the flowers are ready to get the show going.
Patsy
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Oh Anne you are a hoot0
