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  • Femmigirlz
    Femmigirlz Posts: 231 Member
    Liz; Stress is a pain in the *kitten*! I am hoping you can be gentle with yourself through this move and it's okay to feel down, change is hard, stress makes it worse and with your husband gone it must feel overwhelming and like everything is on your shoulders. I'm sure he is supportive and helps as much as he can when he is there. Just keep telling yourself this will be over soon and once the move is over you can settle back in your groove and pick up again. In the meantime treat yourself to a candle lit bath , a long soak, or something that will make the move easier for you like enlisting help from friends or neighbors.
  • Femmigirlz
    Femmigirlz Posts: 231 Member
    Thanks everyone for your kind words. I was on a 2 week binge and haven't binged in about 4 or 5 days now so doing well. I am not weighing for awhile so that's why you don't see any weight loss reports from me. I'm hoping when I do weigh I will finally be below 300 lbs so I may even wait until beginning of May to weigh in. Blessings to all. Let's keep moving and logging and checking in.
  • jhaugen445
    jhaugen445 Posts: 92 Member
    Karen- I'm glad you are back on track. Keep going! You can take charge of what you eat! Sometimes the scale can just depress you so don't weigh in until you feel ready. Take care of you! Your friend, Jen
  • Femmigirlz
    Femmigirlz Posts: 231 Member
    Thanks Jen. You are too sweet.
  • aaliceinw
    aaliceinw Posts: 747 Member
    The foot is healing slowly but I will have the moon boot on for 2 additional weeks. I was hoping to start driving again this week but it still has to wait.

    I wish you a smooth and rapid move and that you settle very quickly into your new home.

    I'm just popping in to log in at the moment because my mindset is in the space of "just do what you need to do and then go to sleep..."
  • JMarcella57
    JMarcella57 Posts: 1,902 Member
    aaliceinw wrote: »
    The foot is healing slowly but I will have the moon boot on for 2 additional weeks. I was hoping to start driving again this week but it still has to wait.

    I'm just popping in to log in at the moment because my mindset is in the space of "just do what you need to do and then go to sleep..."

    Glad to hear you're still taking such good care of yourself. Sweet dreams.
  • FindingCindy721
    FindingCindy721 Posts: 834 Member
    Hello My Lovely LOST Friends~
    Another CRAZY busy day for me and we ended it with a great work out at the gym. My hubby even came! I did 1.78 miles in 35 minutes! Plus did some weight machines for upper body work out!

    Liz~ I hope our moving duties are a little less stressful and you are being kind to yourself. Looks like you've done a great job squeezing in some workouts!

    aaliceinw~ So glad you are taking care of your ankle,,,sorry it ha postponed your long awaited diving again! But you are doing amazing!!!

    Jen~ You did great your 1st week...how is this week going for you?

    Karen~Keep up that positive attitude of yours!!!

    Have a FAB_U_LOSS night my friends!!
  • jhaugen445
    jhaugen445 Posts: 92 Member
    aaliceinw-I pray that you continue to heal and for patience. You are inspiring us because you have kept going and not used it as an excuse to overeat!

    Cindy- So far this week is going ok. I'm looking forward to starting my exercise tomorrow. I'm going to weigh in on Fridays. I am trying to break my "addiction" to weighing myself everyday. If I was down-good day. If I was up- bad day. I'm not going to let the scale ruin my day. Easter time won't be easy. Lots of CHOCOLATE even at church! :o I am planning on having a little.
  • barlovo
    barlovo Posts: 151 Member
    Jhaugen - it's inspiring to hear that you are making progress on evening eating. That is still a big challenge for me!

    Alice and all - thanks for sharing about the easter chocolate challenges! These holidays are a big temptation. Here in California the first fresh local strawberries are now available in stores and I am trying to focus my holiday splurges on that. But it's not easy when you're surrounded by chocolate!
  • barlovo
    barlovo Posts: 151 Member
    Hi all, I started a new thread "quarterly reflections" because it's been 3 months since I joined MFP. I would love to hear what each of you might say about your experience on MFP this winter and what your larger goals are for spring!
  • Noodle797
    Noodle797 Posts: 366 Member
    Hello ladies! Oh my gosh, I have missed so much in the last 2 weeks! Congrats to all of the successes, both scale & nsv's. You are all amazing & inspiring and also real people who have setbacks, yet keep going & that is just so awesome. Well, I had the job from hell drop in week before last & it took all of my time & energy, worked 10 hours a day and Saturdays, but it ships out today, so thank GOD!!!! BTW, my full-time job is as a postal rep for a printing company. I saw Cindy was wearing a USPS shirt in her hair-do picture, so either she or someone she knows works for them! Funny, since I deal with millions of pounds of mail every week myself! lol!

    Anyway, now that this dreadful job is mere hours away from being out of my life (until the next mailing), I have a few minutes to catch up. Miraculously I have been steadily losing weight. Frankly I think it's a combo between being too dead tired to eat much & busing my butt in the pool every morning. I have to tear it up there because I'm essentially chained to my desk all day & I feel like I'm going to slip into a coma if I don't move my body!

    So, I hit a couple of goals since the last time I was here. I hit 25lbs, so I bought myself the Garmin VivoSmart. I haven't had a change to use it yet though because I've seriously been that busy. BUT! I am dedicating one night this week to charging it & setting everything up because it's been sitting on my kitchen table in a box for over two weeks now & it's killing me not using it!

    Second, I've officially ordered new clothes & a new swim suit. As of this morning I've lost over 37 lbs & my clothes are so baggy they look unprofessional. My pants looked like clown pants! lmbo! So anyway, good thing I got my tax return so I could order a few pairs of work pants & a couple of blouses, I was looking pretty comical for awhile. My swimsuit hasn't come yet, but I'm looking forward to wearing one that fits & squishes everything down instead of everything being able to flap around. Gross, I know, but a true story none the less.

    I've missed all of you ladies & I'm hoping to keep in better touch with you all!
  • mysticlizard
    mysticlizard Posts: 896 Member
    Noodle, It is so good to see you! Way to go!!! Even with the schedule from hell, you met your commitment for getting to the pool and swimming. Look how that paid off. You are awesome!!! I bet your tracker is going to spur you on to greater achievements. Nice to get new clothes, don't forget knickers :#.
  • MdwstQT
    MdwstQT Posts: 230 Member
    Just popping in to wish you guys well. I'm still here, despite my disordered eating I lost a pound.
  • mysticlizard
    mysticlizard Posts: 896 Member
    It is good to see you QT!!! :)
  • aaliceinw
    aaliceinw Posts: 747 Member
    It's great to see everyone back today and it really is inspiring to hear all of your stories.

    Noodle I cannot believe you work so hard and manage to get all that swimming in. Well done. I loved reading about your wardrobe hiccups. My work pants are also falling off me. I'm going into winter and didn't realise I now have to by new trousers too. You are doing so incredibly well! I'm sure you must have lost half your body weight :D When you set up on the vivosmart, we can follow each other on Garmin Connect - once I get active again, that is!

    Liz you always make giggle. It's true we need to keep our knickers on :)

    Cindy! Wow! you are rocking the house at the moment. You got your groove back! Yaaaaay! You are really awesome! B)

    Jen thanks very much for the healing prayers - every little bit extra helps. I hope you will have a fantastic week this week too.

    Barbs it was Jen who has all the delicious choccie ideas :wink: I would easily go many for the strawberries... dipped in dark chocolate! Yum! It's awesome to see your commitment to your dreams. You also rock.

    QT - Hang in there. We are here all of the time and it's great to see you pop in from time to time.

    Hugs to all the other ladies. I love this place.
  • FindingCindy721
    FindingCindy721 Posts: 834 Member
    Hello My Lovely LOST Ladies~
    I can't believe how quickly time seems to be FLYING lately! My daughters graduation is approaching way too quickly!
    I have a training class to go to the last week in April out in Oklahoma (UGH) I don't mind the training but they put me on days for a week and throws my whole system off plus I hate that I have no control over my food where I'm staying. I try to pick good choices but they seem to add salt in EVERYTHING and I don't salt anything so I blow up like a balloon! Although they do have GREAT work out facilities there. I will also be going again in either July or August for THREE WEEKS! And man Oklahoma is HOT in July and August! When I was there in August and part of September last year (for FIVE weeks) we had 12 days in a row that were between 104 and 111!!! Which wouldn't be sooo bad if I could literally sweat my butt off LOL!

    Jen~ Glad your week is going so well! I couldn't imagine weighing every day!!! Too much stress attached to me…I am still working on the “not being a slave to the scale”! And I must admit…I’m not doing well with that! I KNOW in my mind that it’s not all about the scale…it’s about getting healthy and feeling good but I still get REALLY upset with myself when that scale doesn't show my hard work. When I have an off week…I am OK…I own it but when I work hard and it doesn't go down I beat myself up still. That is a BIG baby step I’m working on…stopping the self-demeaning. And I am also having a piece or two of chocolate here and there but will log it and keep myself in check!

    Barb~ I love your “quarterly reflections” and will be adding mine soon! Thank you so much! You are an awesome inspiration!

    Noodle~ I know what it is to be busy!!! We are here when you have time and especially if you need us! You are making me want to open our pool…even though we still have over a foot of snow on the ground! Let me know what you think of your Vivosmart…I have the Vivofit and LOVE it! Does yours have to be charged regularly? One of the things I LOVE about mine is I do NOT have to charge it…it runs on a watch battery. Once you are up…let me know if you want to connect on Garmin Connect…my user name there is fit2bme. And by the way…Yes, I do work for the Postal Service. I am an ET (electronic technician) I work on the automated machines and equipment in one of the large facilities. That’s why I work over nights…the mail is moved and processed overnight so it’s ready for carriers to deliver during the day.

    Liz~ How goes the move my friend? I hope it’s getting less stressful. Remember one day/ one step at a time! Your word for the week is DELEGATE LOL…I know that’s a tough one for me too!!! I sent an invite to join us here…I don’t know of any other way for now!

    MdwstQT~ So good to see you! Congrats on the loss…never look a gift horse in the mouth LOL! I think you forget to give yourself enough credit!! You are ROCKIN it…which probably means the good habits are really setting in for you!

    Aaliceinw~ I’m glad to hear you are being kind to yourself! I do have my groove back! And I must say…I feel good!!! Da na na na na….LOL I hope you get to get yours back soon!!!

    Have a FAB_U_LOSS night my friends!!!






  • mysticlizard
    mysticlizard Posts: 896 Member
    Hi Everyone,
    Happy Weds. We are half way through the week. I am sending happy thoughts to all of you!
  • aaliceinw
    aaliceinw Posts: 747 Member
    Thanks Liz, happy thoughts accepted and send some right back atchya!
  • JMarcella57
    JMarcella57 Posts: 1,902 Member
    Has been a crazy week. Doesn't look like there will be a normal day for a while. So I'm trying real hard to make the best decisions I can with the food choices available. Do not want to go backwards now.
  • mysticlizard
    mysticlizard Posts: 896 Member
    Hang in there Julia, You can do it!!! :)
  • FindingCindy721
    FindingCindy721 Posts: 834 Member
    Hi All~
    I think weeks preceding and following holidays get a little crazy for everyone. My daughter and I have been helping out the people who own the barn where we board our horse. The lady fell and is on crutches so it's not like she can do much with the stalls or horses, the poor thing. She is a wonderful person and hates asking anyone for help so we just go over and do it so she can rest up and get better. Man what a workout! Lifting bails of hay and carrying water buckets and feed buckets! I'm exhausted!!!
    I judged wanted to pop on and say hi and send lots of good vibes your way!
    Have a FAB_U_LOSS NIGHT ALL! Sweet dreams!!!
  • barlovo
    barlovo Posts: 151 Member
    Hi everyone - so great to hear what everyone is up to, and I am so MOTIVATED by all your commitment!

    Noodle - congrats on the NSVs and the 25lb milestone!!! Inspiring!

    MdwstQT - congrats on the scale results!

    Alice - I am so admiring your persistence! I've had periods when I was not allowed to exercise for medical reasons and it's really hard. You are doing great at staying involved in your health. Patience pays off!

    Cindy - I think you should market your horse stall workout. There have got to be some folks out there that would pay big $$ for this combined cardio/strength training regime!



    This is not being an easy week for me. I am mostly eating out for work for most meals, which means richer and more processed foods than I like to eat. I've been eating at night too, not good. I have given into peer pressure and had dessert at three business meals, which is not ok for me - I am pre-diabetic, and giving up sugar and sweetened foods is the one thing that brought my blood sugar back to normal range.

    Here's what's been happening:

    My dinner partner (excited): "Let's just look at the dessert menu. Oooohhh, let's order one to share."

    Me: "I'm not hungry for dessert, but you go ahead, I'm going to order some tea."

    My dinner partner (disappointed): "Oh, well if you're not going to have anything, I won't either, we can just go."

    Me (feeling guilty because I ruined their good time, and worried because I don't want the meeting to end early): "Oh, no, it all looks so good, you pick something and we'll share it."

    My dinner partner: "Oh goody! If you order the cake and I order the flan, we can swap bites!"

    Me: "Ok."

    And then I eat my cake. and a bite or two of their flan. and I don't really enjoy either - it tastes amazing, and I get that huge sugar rush, but I know it is not good for me, and I know that as soon as I start eating sugar, my cravings will kick back in, and I'll get moody and have trouble not binging.

    I need to be honest here: no one is cramming food in my mouth! I'm the one picking up the fork. These are business meals, and I don't know these folks well. I know I could say, "Oh, I'm on a medical diet, so I can't," but I don't want to be different or weird....

    Sometimes I can't believe I'm actually 47 years old! My brain still acts like a teenager.

    Ok, here's the persistence: Today, I logged all my food (it helped that I worked from home today). I saw my physical therapist who always motivates me to take better care of myself. I packed a healthy lunch for tomorrow which I will bring to my noon meeting instead of eating the provided lunch. I feel so awkward eating out of my tupperware when everyone else is eating the lunch buffet, but it is time for me to worry less about how other people are feeling and worry more about what I'm putting into my body.

    It's going to be a long month, folks - I have three conferences and two lecture trips in the next three weeks. But no more codependent desserts!
  • aaliceinw
    aaliceinw Posts: 747 Member
    Hi everyone. I am finally feeling emotionally/psychologically better - it is amazing how the dopamine drops because of the unconsciousness negative thoughts that I was thinking I had suppressed but evidently not. Nonetheless, choosing to at least try to surrender to the process has got me through the past few weeks but this week I know I have put on weight - my scale is still lying but my NSV's tell me so (evidence - the return of the belly)!

    I don't mind because the greatest lessons learned is that in order to lose weight and feel energised:
    1. I don't have to kill myself exercising (I don't since I enjoy workouts);
    2. I can actually find lots of very tasty filling foods that fit within my calories for the day;
    3. I can go over the food calories for the day and not put on a gazillion kilos;
    4. I can have all my nutrients and eat them ;);
    5. I can be energised with the choice of foods that I eat;
    6. I can actually eat anything I like as long as it is within my calorie goals
    7. 1200 cals is neither enough or insufficient for a day - it depends on my activities and what I put into my body (macro nutrients);
    8. I am no where near as sedentary as I thought I was;
    9. Sodium intake makes me bloat - (water retention). Drinking water gets rid of water retention ... mmm... trying to figure that one out.

    Anyhow - 1 month of logging with no exercise at all has taught me far more about food and dieting than my dietician has in 3 months. I am also learning that although it is CICO (Calories In Calories Out), the macronutrients really do play a huge part on how much and how fast we gain or lose weight and body fat can actually increase as we lose weight if we are not eating the right nutrients and also using weights to tone and either build or strengthen muscle.

    Low Cal diets with insufficient proteins and fats lead to injuries like mine because I was actually burning more muscle than fat.

    So enough of the science around dieting - Have a fantastic Good Friday for those of you who observe it.
  • aaliceinw
    aaliceinw Posts: 747 Member
    Thanks Barbs. I hear you on the guilt eating during business trips. But it seems that writing the whole process out has given you insights about the behaviours that you need to change and also about the actions you need to take to turn things around for yourself.

    I know I could say, "Oh, I'm on a medical diet, so I can't," but I don't want to be different or weird....

    Absolutely and they will think you are weird for all of 2 seconds but you would have made a clear statement about YOUR desires and YOUR choice, which in no way invites any comment from your colleagues, leaving them free to make their own. I am sure there would be no talk of shortening the meeting because it would appear rude and insensitive. What you might actually find is someone saying sheepishly, actually "I am too, so let's skip dessert... and still carry on the meeting anyway."

    It seems that once everyone has dessert, everyone leaves - why not have a fruit or flower infusion/tea instead - green tea is excellent.

    And Kudos to you for braving the gym despite the ugly comments and logging your food regardless of what you eat. Saying no to dessert, could be your next baby step.

    By the way, do they not cater for special diets during conferences in the states? We have Kosher, Halal, Gluten-Free, Diabetic and Other special diet needs at all of our big events/conferences and on airplanes. They do not always have Gluten-Free and I will often opt for Kosher or Halal because they have the most tasty foods made with raw ingredients (no processed foods) and they are usually good for other healthy food choices also.

    Anyway, good luck with your month of conferencing. Take care of your teenager, and make the right choices for her ;)
  • jhaugen445
    jhaugen445 Posts: 92 Member
    Barb, Thank you so much for your honesty! I see myself in so much of what you said. You are an inspiration to me!
  • jhaugen445
    jhaugen445 Posts: 92 Member
    Alice, So glad you are feeling better. It was great to read your insights into eating! Thanks!

    Blessed Good Friday!
  • mysticlizard
    mysticlizard Posts: 896 Member
    Cindy - WOW! I haven't bucked hay bales in years or mucked out a stable. I don't know if I could even do it. You need to write a book, Non Traditional Exercise: How I Went From Fat to Fit Shoveling Snow & Cleaning Stables. It would be a best seller!

    Barb - Could you maybe say, "I didn't think to save room for dessert, I can't eat another bite." Then suggest that they go ahead order dessert and a to go box so they can take the rest with them to enjoy later.

    Alice - You are amazing. I am glad you got to go to the pool. I need to work on my food choices and making sure I get my protein without more sodium.

    I hope everyone has a great weekend and for those who celebrate it a Happy Easter.
  • barlovo
    barlovo Posts: 151 Member
    Alice, Cindy, JHaugen, Mystic Liz, and all - you all are the best. Thanks for the helpful tips and helping me laugh at myself too. Because, I really can be ridiculous sometimes!

    I did not follow my food plan today but I did NOT eat any codependent desserts (or any non-codependent desserts) so that is something.

    Hugs to everyone with good wishes for a healthy, happy weekend. Whatever spring rites you celebrate, enjoy this turn of the year!
  • FindingCindy721
    FindingCindy721 Posts: 834 Member
    Hello my lovely LOST friends!!!
    I worked at the barn today again...and I'm exhausted at work. It's been a CRAZY BUSY week for me! Looking forward to a fairly quiet Easter with my family...should be a nice day off...my only one for 2 weeks!
    Liz~ you crack me up! That could be a very funny book...especially if I had to describe how bad I smelled when I left the barn today...I needed a very long shower! I wish the fit part would get here! Lol although I truly am noticing a lot more energy! And honestly...the working at the barn is a lot more enjoyable than the shoveling was...at least I didn't have to worry about falling *kitten* over tea kettle...
    I hope you all are having a great week! And will get to enjoy some relaxation and family time!
    Have a FAB_U_LOSS NIGHT MY FRIENDS!!!
  • aaliceinw
    aaliceinw Posts: 747 Member
    It's awesome to check in here :-)

    Julia hang in there. You made a whole bunch of great choices, stuck to them and so the results. Don't forget that one off day is not a habit - we are only human, therefore by definition, we are not perfect ;D

    Barbs, Liz, Cindy, Jen you are all my Hero's, I mean Heroins :D. Just keep doing what you are doing. And Cindy, I want an autographed copy of that book once you've finished it please... Cindy, our resident star B)

    Noodle, QT, Karen, Nekrebel, MS - pls remember to drop in more often for a high injection of love and motivation :wink: