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Thought of you Jen....(((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))
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Thank you again, Cindy!
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Cindy, I have to say even though it's been raining for 3 days, at least it's not snow, though I am a little worried my basement is going to flood
Jen, binging is the worst. I feel like an absolute crazy person when I feel like binging. My dad was an alcoholic & I've been to many AA meetings over my lifetime and all of the things that they talk about in AA can be applied to me & food. What stinks about drinking & drug addiction is that you don't need those things in order to live like you do with food. I'm not saying it's easier to quit drinking than over eating, but I feel like you can avoid alcohol, you can't avoid food no matter how much you try. So for me it's been trying to remove as much temptation & triggers as I can. I know when I want to binge, it's always when I'm alone, it's usually when I'm at a high stress point in my life & it's always on crazy stuff like whole bags of Doritos or as much fast food as I can carry including pretending to be ordering for several people so the guy at the drive thru doesn't think I'm insane. Any time I'm going to be alone I set myself up so that I can't binge. I haven't kept junk food in my house in months, I drive completely different ways to/from work so that I don't have to drive by fast food places, I've given my credit & debit cards to my boyfriend so that I can't go buy junk to eat. I know it's harder living with other people, I only live with my boyfriend who is losing weight with me, but my mom did it when I was younger & we kids hated that she wouldn't keep crappy food in the house, but we were better off in reality!! It probably delayed me hitting 300 lbs by several years. It's a mental thing with me, not whether I'm weak willed or not, I really want to karate chop people who say that, but I literally have to stop & ask myself out loud if I'm actually hungry or if I'm just bored or sad or stressed or whatever. I do other things to take my mind off of eating. I treat myself like an addict because I am one.0 -
Hey ladies sorry I have not been in as often this week. I'm neglecting you a lot as I adjust to the BL challenges and that community.
Jen I agree with Cindy. It is a huge step to have identified the trigger and yes come and scroll through the forums on MFP. They have tons of very useful information, a lot of very friendly (and not so friendly people - but keep away from those), and discussions that help you to feel like a normal human being. Please always remember one thing...
Guilt serves only one purpose, and that is to keep you small! It's a huge load of crap to be carrying around, allowing it to weigh us down so much. LIghten the load immediately, drop the guilt! I left my behind years ago and it changed my life.0 -
so glad I copied what I wrote here before posting, most of it got deleted. I will post it from my desk top later today.
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Hello my lovely LOST ladies~
I am having an off week...emotions are crazy...super happy or super sad! I'm sure it has to do with TOM being here and it's the first time this year!!! But I'm tired of this roller coaster this week ...I want to be me again...lol. I have been working at the barn still in the afternoons...I am hoping the extra exercise will kick the scale this week but not holding my breath. The vet was there Wednesday and he spooked on of the horses that I was leading...the horse reared up and I forgot to loosen my grip on the lead rope and he lifted me a couple feet off the floor and slammed me into a stall wall. I am quite humbled by their size and power...not to mention bruised pretty good. It derailed my workout for that day but not for any others thank goodness. I may be a big woman but I am no match for a horse!!!
Jen~ you are so welcome! I hope one or two of those ideas may help. Remember we can be there any time day or night with you...just turn your computer on next time you are alone and feeling down! (((((((((((HUGS))))
aaliceinw~ I LOVE that advice...you put it so perfectly! Guilt is truly a burden we should try not to carry!
Karen~ KUDOS to you for being such a great friend and supporter!
Liz~ I hope your move is going super smooth!!!
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We will be moving over the next three weeks. I am not looking forward to the moving part. I can't wait to start putting in the gardens. I really want to get my asparagus planted, golden raspberries, lilies, and some vegies going.
I had a NSV this week. I am now in a size smaller pants and had to buy new knickers.
Jen - Hang in there, we didn't develop these habits over night, it will take time to change them. I totally agree with Alice about guilt. Be kind to yourself.
Cindy - I am glad you didn't get hurt any worse. Sorry about TOM, I think it was hardest when I thought I was through and it would surprise me. Know you are getting closer to the time when it won't visit you.
Karen, QT, Barb, Noodle, Juila, and everyone else - I hope everyone has an awesome weekend!
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mysticlizard wrote: »I had a NSV this week. I am now in a size smaller pants and had to buy new knickers.
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Here I am at work on a Saturday. Stopped & had lunch @ Qdoba (like Chipotle) before coming in. I had every intension of ordering a chicken taco salad, no tortilla bowl, but somehow nachos came out of my mouth. Now I'm sitting here feeling sick to my stomach. On the bright side my boyfriend & I are going for a long swim today, so at least I can burn some of this off. 1,200 calories for nachos. I could just kick myself!!!
Cindy, OMG, that is scary. I like horses, but can't be near them because of allergies, but man, they can really do some damage if they want to! My cousin used to ride in competition & I've seen people get stepped on & kicked & thrown. Horses do not mess around!! That's why I say I like cats, I never want a pet that can kick my *kitten*! lol.0 -
I don't even know where to start other than to say THANK YOU! You all made me feel so valued, "normal", and supported. As was mentioned, the hardest thing about food addiction is that you can't just stop eating and take all of the food out of your house! I will take to heart all that was said. Again, THANK YOU! 0
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Alice- I'm releasing the guilt. What is done is done. No use hanging on to it. Learn from it and move on.
Cindy- I'm so glad you weren't hurt more severely! I have severe PMDD at TOM so I get it totally!
Liz- Happy moving! Or is that a contradiction in terms!
Look at you buying smaller pants! Way to go!!!
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Hi! I'm writing a book today! Speaking of TOM, I'm having a total hysterectomy and oophorectomy on April 28th. Many issues, so it must go! It will put a temporary stop to my Zumba workouts; but I'm determined to stay on track with my eating and walk as much and as fast as I'm allowed post op. I've heard anywhere from 4-8 weeks recovery. It depends on whether it is done laparoscopically or open and how quickly you individually are healing. My surgery is supposed to be robotic. Very cool! I will stay in touch with you all. I hope to be able to check in everyday if possible. For those of you who pray. I would ask for your prayers. Thank you. 0
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You have my prayers Jen and happy thoughts. 0
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Good evening my Lovely LOST Ladies~
Well today was a very surprising day...I was supposed to finally get some sleep but of course life got in the way! I got home from work this morning and my Bulldog (who is usually MY SHADOW) did not excitedly greet me at the door...nor did she follow any of her normal habitual behaviors...she was very lethargic and completely NOT herself...needless to say I was worried. Worry=HUGE INSOMNIA for me. I slept for less than 3 hrs and when I got up...she was worse. I rushed her to an emergency vet hospital a couple towns over and they were completely stumped as well. Biggest concern is dehydration...she won't drink anything. 3 hours at animal hospital...no closer to knowing what's wrong! **SIGH** But it was worth the time and money to know she's OK in general...her heart rate and all other vitals were really good! Anyway...it's a wait and see...
Jen~ I'm glad you are not holding onto the guilt!!! KUDOS to you! My prayers are with you for the 28th and for the speediest and easiest of recoveries!
Liz~ That is a GREAT NSV! I LOVE needing new pants...don't love buying them but love NEEDING them! It truly will not beak my heart for TOM to never show up again LOL! I hope the next few weeks go as peacefully as possible for you! And your new home be Blessed with Love & Happiness Always!!!
Noodle~I am so envious of all your pool time! I can't wait to open ours up but the pool season is just so short! I am also hoping for no flooding! It has been raining and snowing here all week...while it has melted the majority of what was here...it's too much too fast! We have quite a few rural roads that are flooding out and washing away or being shut down for a few days at a time. So far we have been very lucky...I have a stream that goes through my property and it gets higher but our home has never flooded! **quick knock on wood there** I know what you mean about the horses...my daughters true passion in life! I am so used to HER horse, who is very gentle and well mannered...I was reminded of how much strength they truly have...I will not forget that again! I like cats but I am deathly allergic to them. I am incredibly close to my bulldog. My daughter says she is here to replace the emptiness of my empty nest syndrome! She even gets jealous of the dog sometimes LOL! Because the dog thinks she is truly my BABY!
Aaliceinw~Thank you so much for all the info you gave me on the protein. I did some research and found a protein isolate which has 50g of protein and also did the suggested research on my macros. I have recorded them and will get them programmed here n MFP in the next couple days. Then begin working on balancing my diet out using the new formula. I appreciate your support more than you know!
Have a FAB_U_LOSS evening my friends!!! XOXOXO
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Cindy - I hope your baby girl is feeling better. My children tell me that I treated my dogs better than them. I tell them that I never disappointed the dogs, the dogs were better behaved, and never talked back. I think love for an animal can be every bit as deep as for a child.
Thank you to all for your continued good wishes and support through this move. You all are my island of clam amid the chaos. I am hoping by the first week in May to be settled.
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Liz! Your new home is BEAUTIFUL! I can picture the lovely gardens coming SOON!
Only have a minute tonight...I'm in desperate need for sleep but will be back tomorrow my friends!
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Hi ladies I've been MIA this weekend. All is well just relaxing and getting through my TOM. Good news is that I'm still binge free, eight days. Bad news, I'm bloated as heck and I've gained a pound. Bah! I'm pressing forward, this week I need to get three workouts in at 30 min each.
Jen hang in there! I know it's rough, just keep pushing forward. We got this!
Ouch Cindy! Sending healing thoughts to you and the pooch. It's definitely worrisome when they aren't themselves. Good news is her vitals are good. Maybe she ate something that's giving her the blues. I have a eight year old shih tzu. I go nuts whenever she's not herself.
Liz the house looks awesome!
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Well Bailey (my bulldog) and I are both blah today...so we had a lazy day!
MdwstQT~ I hope you enjoyed your week end despite TOM! Here's to a great week **clinking my water glass**
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What is it about TOM that makes us feel so crappy? I had it this weekend & I know that's why I mowed down those nachos. No gain this week, thank goodness, but no loss either. Bummer.
Cindy I hope your fur baby is feeling better soon. There is a dog flu going around the midwest. I saw on the news this weekend that several hundred dogs in the Chicago/Milwaukee area were showing symptoms.
Liz I love your house! I've always wanted a ranch with an attached garage. I own a Cape Cod & I pray every day that it burns down because I hate it. I love my yard & I love the location, but the house is a nightmare. I especially love the trees in your yard, nice & shady!
Jen good luck on surgery, I will pray for a speedy recovery for you. My mom had a full hysto done about 10 years ago & she was up & running around a few days later. It's amazing how quickly you can recover when they do laproscopic surgery.
WTG on being binge free Mdwst!
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Oh my gosh Cindy! You were so lucky and that must have been so very, very painful. And I do hope your baby pup is getting better. Take it easy both of you. The body needs time to recover it is going to keep serving us for at least another 50 years (not for me... bit old for 50 more years lol). Anyway rest up and take it easy on the BL goals too.
Liz what a lovely home. I love the open front yard and then the beautiful trees offering some shade. only a couple more weeks and the boxes will be unpacked.
Jen I'm sending lots of pre-healing prayers in preparation of your op. My mom and two aunts also had the hysterectomy and have never looked back.
MD you are doing so well both with your binge and exercise goal. You rock girl!
Noodle, how is your shoulder? So glad I no longer have TOM's!
Have and awesome week ladies and yes it is already hump day on my side of the world!0 -
Well Tuesday was another semi lazy day for me! I had a meeting at my daughters school at 9 AM so I couldn't got o bed when I got out of work. I did some stretching and yoga before the meeting (mostly to help keep me awake) Then I did some stair climbing. I got barely 3 hrs of sleep and had things to do. I did a very light 30 minute kettlebell workout but they called me into work early so...off I went and here I am (on break right now)!
On the up side, Bailey was much more herself today. I don't think she is quite 100 % but definitely on the mend!!! Which makes me a HAPPY MOM!!
Noodle~ I think this is one time I was glad to be a bigger woman. Bruised but not broken!
aaliceinw~ I have not been nearly as active yet this week! I am kinda taking the week to settle in with tweaking things...gotta figure out how to work the protein shakes in to the schedule etc. Hoping to get that scale going in the right direction! I am leaving on Sunday the 26th for a work training trip to Oklahoma. I have been eating things I had pretty much given up...like pizza today for dinner... but I am not stressing over that right now!
I have to get back to work Ladies but wish you all sweet dreams and a FAB_U_LOSS Wednesday!! XOXOXO0 -
Hi everyone! Thought I would check in since it is hump day here
Cindy, I am glad you and the baby are mending.
Alice, wow you are burning it up with your food goals.
Noodle, how was the concert or it that tomorrow night?
Jen, I have been thinking a lot about you, remember get some books, crosswords, needlepoint, or things that you can keep busy with, the first few days after surgery.
The girls and I have started moving totes over. We do a few loads each day after school. It is just Billie and me this week. Slow and steady wins the race. Golden is on stage crew at the HS and it is hell week (what they call the week before the play). They are doing The Laramie Project. Billie, Mikala and I will go see it this weekend.
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Liz, the concert was excellent! I had a great time with my mom and I've never been so glad I started losing weight. We were seated un the upper level & I had to climb a billion stairs and I wasn't even winded when i got to the top. Plus I fit in the seat way better than the last time I went to the arena. NSVs for sure!!0
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It's actually kind of slow at work this week! I'm shocked I had time to go to the bathroom more than once yesterday! I hope everyone is having a great hump day!0
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Liz, the concert was excellent! I had a great time with my mom and I've never been so glad I started losing weight. We were seated un the upper level & I had to climb a billion stairs and I wasn't even winded when i got to the top. Plus I fit in the seat way better than the last time I went to the arena. NSVs for sure!!
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Awesome NSV Noodle!!! It will just keep getting better and better. I am so glad your mom and you had a good time.0
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Noodle- so glad you had a great time at the concert!!! Awesome NSVs!!!
Cindy, QT, Noodle, Liz and Alice- thank you for your kind and encouraging words.0 -
I'm reading the book, "Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat". Premise is that 90+% of diets fail. If you eat only when you are truly hungry and use balance, variety, and moderation in your choices, your body will find its "natural weight". No "good" or "bad" foods. No diet rules which she says lead to binges on "bad" or "forbidden" foods. I'm not sure how I feel about this. I've been on a diet most of my life. It's a bit scary to be without all the rules. I'm wanting a healthy lifestyle change. Maybe this is it?! Any feedback would be appreciated! 0
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Jen here is my 2 cents
When food smells or has mold, it is spoiled, it is bad. Good food will not make you sick if you eat it. Food is a tool and has a purpose, it is used to fuel our bodies. Yes some food is more efficient than others in doing the job. Our bodies will get much further with protein than Twinkies.
That being said, I love chocolate, it is a really good food. I know myself and I cannot have Godiva Chocolate in the house, I am weak and will get myself into trouble. I do not forbid myself from having it because I know I am weak and I will fail. I know when I go to Barns and Nobel I will not be able to pass up getting a chocolate bar, weather I have room in my calories or not. But to forbid myself from having it would set myself up to fail and then I would be down on myself for failing and then I would want it even more because I am a rebellious soul even rebelling against what I know is right (even at my age, I am still as rebellious as a teenager). It becomes a viscous circle and even worse for I am harder on myself than anyone else could ever be. So when I go to Barns and Nobel, I eat the chocolate and enjoy it and just try to do better next time.
There are many foods I can no longer eat for health reasons. That doesn't make those foods bad, it just means they will be bad for me because they will make me sick. When I first had to change my diet, I kept telling Mark about what I couldn't eat. He suggested that I concentrate on the food I could eat and enjoyed eating. I think that looking at the positive really has made a difference in my relationship with food. Yes I miss certain foods still, but that is o.k. because there are other foods that are awesome.0
