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Long day of appointments. I went to my pre-surgery physical therapy and learned what is ahead for therapy, adjusting the walker and cane to size, etc. I have 4 future appointments scheduled. My new glasses were ready so it was convenient to pick them up while I was in Traverse City and between appointments. I went to the allergy clinic to have my reactions to the metal patches looked at. My biggest reaction was Cobalt and the smaller reaction was nickel. So no implant with those metals but my ortho doc says no problem. The implant is ceramic and titanium, supposedly. I had my first Covid test at the hospital today for pre-surgery requirements. The girl was so gentle so my experience was good. I've listened to a lot of horror stories but she said it depends on who gives it.
So now I'm home quarantining until surgery on Thursday. I have lots of books downloaded and shows and movies saved on Netflix and HBO Max.
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Covid test was negative. Relief! I've been researching Cobalt and orthopedic implants. From what I can tell, titanium alloy which includes Cobalt and nickel is used in many transplant devices. I hope my ortho doc is taking this seriously and knows what he is putting in my knee. I called his nurse this morning to tell her what I read and I just want to be sure I won't react to the one he chooses. You can probably tell I'm a nervous wreck and am questioning everything.
Laundry almost done, clean sheets on both beds, TV set up in guest room for me to use that bed for perpetual motion machine, exercises, and possibly sleeping. All the geriatric devices needed for getting around, using the toilet and shower, etc. are here. Russ and I have figured out how I will get in the house after surgery with his help.
I will be relieved when I am 4 weeks post surgery and on my way to recovery.0 -
I'm ready for tomorrow. My ortho doc is going to call me this afternoon to discuss the cobalt/implant issue to give me peace of mind. I appreciate that! The people that are suppose to drop off the perpetual motion machine to keep my knee bending have not called or come by yet. I told the nurse and she is checking on that. I was really looking forward to that machine and hope it happens because I've been told it feels good and is helpful.
It is snowing quite a bit here today. I hope the driving conditions are good in the morning. I will call the hospital in an hour or so and get my arrival time at the surgery center.
Well I hope you are doing well and I will check in again when I am able to do so.
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Oh boy. It's almost time. I am sending you good wishes and fast healing vibes. You can do this!!
The way I am reading your notes is that it is generally colder in MN? Is that because the water around you keeps it warmer?
Today was Caleb's last day of holiday break and the other night he mentioned he wanted all of us to go to Omaha for a nice lunch if we could. Bernie was supposed to have holiday Monday but had to work on a machine installation so he took his holiday today and I took a half day vacation today. They wanted to go to PF Changs. It was the first time for Zach and he seemed to enjoy it as much as the boys. The food isn't anything that makes me jump for joy, but spending a fun few hours was one of the best things that happened over break and so worth it.
I'm sure tonight you are feeling a bit anxious, but maybe you can lose yourself in some grandbaby time.
Caleb and I are working like fiends on the CPS (school district) Foundation Scholarship packet. There are somewhere over 30 scholarships in the packet. But this one ginormous application works on all of them. The overall general information application, your transcripts, ACT, letters of recommendation, an education quest financial thing, and then each scholarship may have additional essay questions. Of course now it's a time crunch since the deadline is racing up at 1/18 but for the first two months he had it he insisted he would do it himself. A couple of days ago he admits he needs help. Gauntlet thrown. I think he thought I would agree it was too much to do in two weeks. Nope. We are getting it done. I am on a mission. There are too many scholarships he would have a shot at. Not all obviously, since many are need based, but the others. I am realizing how much this scholarship stuff is stressing him out, but I have always told him I will help in any way. I don't expect him to do it all by himself. I am great at filling out forms, reading fine print, proof reading, editing, finding 'fluffy' words. A lot of kids won't go through the process because it is a huge time commitment. So just completing it will be a huge thing. Plus he's done so much work the other years, I want him to see some financial rewards. My sister was reminding me about a scholarship my niece had gotten due in part to our grandfather being a WWII veteran and when I was trying to find it, it was a descendant of a WWII veteran who also went to boys/girls state. Well dang it, Caleb didn't have the opportunity for boys state since the dang pandemic. I need to try to find a contact person for it and see if they have a different requirement since there aren't any NE kids who got to do boys/girls state last year. Anywho, we have made a lot of good progress in the last few days. I would say over 50 percent complete.
Wishing you a calm night and smooth sailing. HUGS.0 -
My insurance does not cover the motion machine so the company just didn't call me. At least tell me that. Luckily the nurse called them and found out. Russ and I agree we will rent the machine for two weeks and pay for it ourselves. I've been told it is worth it and feels so good. It bends the repaired knee for me over and over while I sleep, watch TV, etc. Keeps it moving and from getting stiff. I will be doing other exercises and walking around but it will be nice not to get the stiffness.
Good luck with the scholarships! I hope the hard work and time pays off for C. I'm glad you had a nice lunch at PF Changs. I love the lettuce wraps
I'm emotionally ready after talking to my doctor and having all the To Do's checked on my list. He assured me Cobalt would not be in the implant and I'll be ok with the one he is putting in. I am nervous about surgery in general because I'm practical and know things can go wrong. I just gave Russ my surgery speech about the Will, cremation, where to spread my ashes, etc. He use to get upset but now he humors me and says "okay".
Lots more snow today and over night tonight. Yes, Lake MI warms the air and creates more precipitation due to warmer temps (teens, 20's and 30's) not frigid air.
I'll chat in a few days! Pray for a good outcome, please. Thanks!0 -
Sending health and healing and HUGS!0
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am guessing you are feeling punky and not great today, but still sending you speedy healing and prayers
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probably another yucky day for you, but you are on my heart.
Getting ready to hunker down for a few hours of scholarship fun (sarcasm). But I am in don't tell me I can't help you get it done mode.
As usual I am thrilled it's Saturday, except I got a remind text from a scholarship group/guidance at 5:30 a.m. - what the what!!! and then could only doze after that. My day to sleep in! Sniff.
Zach is almost ready to head back. Always a heart tug but so proud of how well he is doing. I know you kept trying to reassure me during what was a really scary time when he stopped doing homework and seemed like he had withdrawn from everything that it would work out, but at that time it sure didn't feel like it. Oy parenting.
Ok, no more procrastinating, time for some form filling out and essay brainstorming.
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I hope you are home and resting. I'm sure still feeling not particularly great. Try to stay positive and rest and let your body work through it's healing.
You got this.
My Z kid just took off for Wayne and his last semester of his Junior year. Wowza.
Caleb is off at work after having also started his last semester of high school. Also wowza!
Got a lot of excellent work on the packet done yesterday. Time for more proofreading and final edits this week and making sure we get everything submitted in the proper format to the foundation.
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I'm here. I've only managed a couple comments on FB and a few texts to family. Russ has had me on a med schedule t stay ahead of the pain The oxycodone makes me itch, gives me head aches, and makes me see things that are weird. I see things moving out of the corner of my eyes and when my eyes are shut I can see a wall of moving mud.
I just did a covid test to make sure my headaches weren't that. They have been bad. I've stopped the oxy and need to ask the doctor if he has something else that is less damaging.
This school year is flying by fast for those boys. Graduation coming up and Z planning ahead for senior year I would guess. Will he get done in 4 years?
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I'm sorry to hear the oxy is not working for you. I hope they will find something to keep you comfortable without the side effects.
It does look like Zach will be done in four years. He has been moving very efficiently through his program.
I have been unable to get my eating back under control after the holidays. I have been unreasonably hungry. It's such a struggle!
I hope today is better! Keep resting and healing.
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The doctor put me on Tramadol instead of Oxy. I take two to three per day in addition to the Tylenol and Ibuprofen. I'm trying not to take unless the pain from exercising is causing misery and I need to get some rest. No side effects that are disturbing as of yet. I had Russ buy a laxative and it worked within a couple of hours of taking it. Yay! I need to work at getting my exercises in each day. It is so much easier to sleep! Yesterday I did two and a half hours, broken up, on the motion machine. It really is a life saver to keep my knee bending and range of motion. I'm not doing so great on leg lifts which I will try harder today.
PT was torture! I guess that is his job to push me to do the most I can but it hurts so bad when he makes me do the difficult movements. It is going to get worse before better.
My sisters came and stayed with me yesterday for a few hours while Russ got the oil changed in the car, went to the store and took a break. My oldest sister who has been ill wanted to mother me, make me food, help with exercises...The other just likes to chat. She browsed cook books and we talked about wild rice recipes for a bit. I just wanted to rest and talk. Russ had made up containers of his beef barley soup for each to take home. They were happy about that. Sometimes I feel like Russ and Lynn are judging me. I'm not eating enough, not doing enough exercise, etc. Russ seems happy when I ask him to make me something beyond yogurt or pudding. This morning I'm going to have a fruit and yogurt smoothie with protein shake in it. He seemed happy about that. I told him I may be able to handle chicken drum sticks and salad tonight if all goes well with digestion today. That made him happy too. Is this about feeding their caregiver needs or about me healing? Not sure at times. I don't want to be bitchy but you are the only one I can say these things too right now. I just need to vent without judgment.
Do you think your eating is related to stress that things are moving fast with the boys and you hope to plan the Hawaii trip? Or just having difficulty getting back in control after the holidays?
Russ is out walking Charlie. When they get back, I will get dressed and begin my torture routine of exercise, etc.
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I'm getting tired of everyone's advice. Rest and take meds, do all your exercises, if you are in pain you aren't healing... PT says do exercises, makes a difference in the outcome. The exercises hurt and I can't do if I'm under heavy narcotics because I'm not with it enough. I try to steer clear of the tramadol from early morning to late afternoon when I'm doing all these exercises for strength and range of motion. I do take the narcotics from evening on. Even medical personnel say different things from one another. Family members have had different ortho docs and were much older when they had their replacements. I need to stop listening to all the voices coming at me and just do what I can. I'll talk to PT about it tomorrow. He seems straight forward.
I'm frustrated with those around me which is mostly me I'm sure. Russ is cooking for me which I am grateful for but he doesn't know how to make toast in our toaster oven. Every piece he has made is soft and no toasted edges or parts on it. Or he forgets altogether and gives me cold bread with butter. I have to be so literal with requests and sometimes he just sits there like he didn't hear me or doesn't know what to do. I'm worried about his cognitive skills and have been for awhile.
Shower tonight since I go to PT in the morning. I dread that appt. My sister said she hated PT in the beginning but eventually loved going since she felt so good when she was done with the appt. I hope I get to that point to.
Well I needed to vent. Sorry you are my go-to for that. You don't need to respond or read. I just need to say it somewhere.0 -
You are free to vent here anytime. I have definitely used it as a safe verbal dumping ground myself.
I'm sorry things are feeling so frustrating. I know so many of us just want to 'fix' things even if you just want to rest and ignore everything. I hope it gets better soon.
I'm sure it's a worry if you are feeling Russ is not as cognitively aware as he should be. But sometimes I honestly believe it's just a guy thing. They are just so unaware.
Do the best you can. And do what's best for you.
You got this.
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sending you hope that today is a little bit better!
Enjoy the food being made for you (stuff you do like) and if you don't like it, don't eat it.
You can do this.
This week has felt so long. I bet you agree.
Covid is surging big time, UNMC - the biggest med center - initiated 'crisis care protocol' - scary.
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Physical therapy went well today. He told me I'm where I should be or slightly ahead physically after surgery. That made me feel better. I discussed with him about everyone's advice. I have decided that PT and ortho doc are the only people I will take advice from unless someone has a good idea for functional living around the house.
We worked on walking with a cane today. That felt wobbly but he was impressed I was able to walk slowly across the room. I also sat on a stationary bike and did forward and reverse pedaling to stretch muscles on front and back of knees. Overall, it was a good session and not the torture I anticipated. I've been in the recliner reading, sleeping and talking to a friend on the phone. I did some laps around the dining table and living room earlier. I need to get up again and do more laps and then put my leg into the constant motion machine to work range of motion on my knee. Today I begin to strive for bending to a 95 degree angle. I have been at 75 degree angle.
Tomorrow morning, my retiree friends want to Zoom with me if I'm up to it. I told them I would join for a bit but don't expect a fashion statement. My hair is frumpy, I'm only wearing a bra to PT and doctor and no make up.
I'm glad I'm basically home and not being exposed to the virus. I'm a little paranoid about visitors because I don't want it brought unknowingly in to my home and setting back my recovery. We all have too much to worry about these days.
Well tomorrow is Friday. What are your plans for the weekend?
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I had a rough night last night. Still sleeping in the recliner. I should have knows to keep up with the narcotic since it was a PT day but I tried to just take the Tylenol and Ibuprofen during the day and wait until 9pm for the narcotic boost. Didn't work... I ended up taking the narcotic at 1am and 5am which allowed me to sleep until 8:30.
I did zoom with the retired group. That was fun and they were happy to see me doing fairly well. I've walked my dining room laps, did some exercises, used the motion machine, and took naps today. I was able to do to 5 leg raises without assistance so that is huge progress. It's amazing how hard it is and how much it hurts to work through that.
My oldest sister, Lynn, is making her fancy egg salad tomorrow and bringing some to me for lunch when she visits. I don't know what she puts in it but she use to make it for my brother and she says people like it. My other sister, Becky, popped over today and brought me home made muffins. I haven't had one yet but will have one for breakfast tomorrow morning with fruit or yogurt.
It's the weekend!0 -
fri yay!
I was so glad to see that Thursday had been a pretty good day. Bummed to see that a not great night followed. But glad you are feeling some progress. I know it stinks and is so hard, but the progress won't be a straight line. You are doing amazing!!! Keep trucking.
Winter coming back today. Freezing rain and some snow. Meh. Fortunately we all got home before it really hit. Unfortunately my sister and family and traveling to KC tonight to go to the Chiefs playoff game. Crazy people.
Scary time yesterday, I had started the oven because I was just going to do a quick pasta bake for dinner and as I was pouring everything in the dish my oven made a snapping/crackle sound. I stopped and looked at it flickering and making that noise and clicked it off as fast as I could. Then staring at it I could see some smoke and something that looked orangey wafting out of the bottom. I was freaking out. I am frantically looking for my fire extinguishers and trying to call Bernie. I finally got through to him to ask him if I needed to open the oven and spray the extinguisher in it, or if I should leave it closed to keep any extra oxygen from being introduced. He's like, just watch it. Great. So I watched it. It didn't burst into flames. Bernie eventually got home and tore the oven apart and deemed it the element. He managed to find an element in town and replaced it tonight. I will definitely feel very nervous for awhile using the oven anyway.
Just about ready to turn in the foundation scholarship packet. A couple of the people Caleb was supposed to get recommendation letters from seem like they may not be happening. Bums me out. We have already given them a follow up, and we'll just have to let it go at this point. Hopefully they'll still show up. Tuesday is the final deadline.
Fri yay!
Hope you have a better night!
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I hope your night was more restful and you are having another day of improving.
I slept in a bit and then started in on some chores. I found the fabric I had used to cover my kitchen island stools and decided to recover them again since they had faded a lot and gotten pretty dirty. That took awhile. Cleaned the top of cabinets in the laundry room. Yuck. So dusty.
Trying to keep motivated to keep picking at things.0 -
It's amazing how worn out I get from having a visitor. My sister came around 11:45am. She brought lunch and we ate and talked. I sat for too long and needed to get up and move about. She and Russ were visiting and I just hit the point of exhaustion and went to lay on the bed and try some exercises. I couldn't do much so I had Russ put my leg in the motion machine. I did some leg lifts afterwards and some stretches but not as much as I should have accomplished today. When I wake up I feel so much stronger and by late afternoon, I feel weak and tired.
It sounds like you were productive getting your stools covered. It always feels good when a project gets done. It will be awhile for me.
I feel like I'm going to crash early so I'll check in tomorrow or Monday.0
