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  • Deep brown eyes, dimples, drive and intelligence, and actually taking a genuine interest in me and not just talking about himself.
  • Someone like this is in my life right now, and I've told him this 😊😊.
  • Vulnerable, sweet and genuinely caring yet very masculine. That is extremely sexy to me.
  • She was our meeting place and where we stayed. This guy and I actually grew up about 5 miles apart but met in an entirely different state and he still has good friends near there. However, he now lives about 100 miles away from there, where his family now lives. So, she had to meet him by default. It was either she meet…
  • Well, it happened! 😊😊😊. It was a little awkward at first, at least on my end. But, I'm a little awkward, which this guy likes about me. However, it didn't take that long to feel comfortable with him again! It ended up being great, and we're already making plans to see each other again. Bonus: my best friend and fiancee met…
  • 😄😄😄. I may not live post, but I will definitely report back here!
  • Nervous yet mostly excited. Tomorrow I'm meeting up with a man I haven't seen in almost 22 years. We had a very intense but short-lived relationship due to him moving out of state, and then overseas. We've been talking every day in some way (sometimes multiple times per day) over the past 2 months and the chemistry is…
  • A man I actually dated in the past and have reconnected with recently actually told me that before me, he didn't know it was possible to be both physically attracted to someone and be able to have an intelligent conversation with her 😄.
  • I already commented but am thinking about this more and am stuck in the car. I go to a meathead gym, so see all kinds of muscle-y types. I like broad shoulders and nice arms, and definitely a nice, round perky butt with a bit off fluff. More like a football player or heavier-weight wrestler. Don't care about a 6-pack, but…
  • Not that big 😄
  • Not pictured: Bulky: lifts weights regularly (and not just focusing on the upper body--I love a nice butt), but also likes to eat. Not body builder though. Does that make sense?
  • I'm feeling very disappointed and upset, but trying to stay positive for my kids. I am getting a divorce and am wanting to move back to where I'm from not only to be closer to my mom and closest friends, but financially and support-wise it makes way more sense. I also know in my heart my happiness is no longer here where…
  • It sounds like you're playing it cool, but I know that anxiety you feel. I tell myself all the time if things were meant to work out they would, and things happen for a reason. I seriously hope things work out with the guy I'm talking to now, because the thought of actually doing the whole dating thing again at my age…
  • That's good to hear! Hopefully he's being truthful and if not, then he's not worth your time or stress anymore. I know dating is hard, especially when you've had negative past experiences. I know exactly what it's like to feel like you're hitting it off and then the guy doesn't seem to be reciprocating. If you makes you…
  • I know how you feel. I am reading a book called "Attached" about adult attachment styles in romantic relationships, and I identify most with the "anxious attachment" style, and you may, too. I get really excited about someone right away and don't hide it well when we seem to be hitting it off. I start to get worried if he…
  • I think it depends on your starting size, as someone else said. I've gone done a pants size losing about 8 pounds, but was already in the normal BMI to start with.
  • I announced to my husband I wanted a divorce. When people describe it as an emotional rollercoaster, that is entirely accurate. After my husband went through being angry and grieving for a few days, we seem to be getting along much better than we were before the announcement. We are great friends, and honestly should have…
  • To do 5 chin ups (have gotten 3 in a row one time) , hip thrust 300 lb, bench press 110, still squat my bodyweight and deadlift my bodyweight plus 10. Those last 2 goals have been SO slow and feel so weak, but I've also injured both hamstring s in the past year so that probt has someo to so with it.
  • Thank you. Luckily I have some emotional support on standby, including one in the most unexpected person but has really been the one that's made me realize this needs to happen for everyone's happiness.
  • I'm not a big New Year's Resolutions, but I will making a HUGE change in 2022 that will impact so many things: my family, where I live, my work, etc. I am mostly nervous about how my family will react to asking for a divorce, but am actually feeling positive as far all the steps I will need to take to make this work. I'm…
  • I dance. I'm in 5 classes per week, including an adult performance company. I love it! Sometimes I think I need to cut back, but they're all different and I like the community of it, too.
  • Whenever I eat anything, whether it's a snack or main meal, I make sure to get some kind of healthy carbs/fiber, healthy (or maybe not so healthy) fat, and a decent amount of protein. That's what helps keep me satiated.
  • Maybe book yourselves in for some relationship counselling as you go through the separation, it’ll hopefully allow you both to process your feelings in a neutral area allowing for a better relationship coming out of the other side of it. [/quote] Thank you, and that's a great idea. I was already planning on counseling for…
  • I appreciate your advice, I really do. It does seem you are giving advice in my and others' best interest. I just wanted to clarify a few things. The other man is divorced and has no children ( a very amicable, mature divorce several years ago). Before my husband, I didn't really have any long-lasting relationships, so did…
  • Thank you, I really appreciate it. I'm really struggling right now as it's getting closer to when I can tell my husband and it's not something I haven't thought through over and and over again.
  • Just from my own personal experience, I don't think there are set points that we can't move past no matter what we do, but maybe weights or ranges where we feel most comfortable. I used to think my set point was around the low 150's as a 5'8 female, as I've never really been thin in my life without work ( and a borderline…
  • Believe me, I know full and well that the idea of "truly, madly deeply in love" can be a conflated notion idealized in fiction. That was the reason I married who I did: basically, I used my rational, logical brain when telling myself that I should marry him, despite a nagging inner voice telling me that I wasn't sure I…
  • As someone who did marry someone she wasn't truly, madly in love with, I can tell you my underlying reasons for doing so. One: after a certain phase in my life, it seemed liked any guy I was truly interested just didn't feel the same about me. Two, (and this is the big one, here): Deep down I believed I would never be able…
  • I've been commenting on this post a lot because it's so relevant to my life right now, and honestly not a position I thought I'd be in. My husband and I have been in an *almost* sexless marriage for a long time now, by my choice. To me, it is more of a duty, an obligation, but he would want to do it a lot more. If anyone…
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