Myguire

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Paths
Just my own personal food for thought..... Being overweight, I longed to find a solution to my problems. Like so many of us, I tried all the heavily traveled roads ~ the endless means to lose weight and to alleviate my roller coaster eating behaviors. But at the end -- and there was always an end -- of every new "method of…
Courage
Just my own personal food for thought... Recovery work takes great courage. Everyone who tells you differently has not explored themselves in great depth. It takes great courage for many of us to get up each morning to face a day of physical challenges. Others feel the pull of emotions, job, or family issues. If but for…
Honesty
Just my own personal food for thought.... Throughout my ups and downs in life and in working my program, I have discovered the importance of complete honesty. No matter what I feel or think, being honest about it with myself, others and God helps me to stay in a healthier state of physical, emotional and spiritual…
Longings
Just my own personal food for thought.... All my life I have been searching for what I “really want”. I tried sports, different jobs, friends, I even tried therapy. None of these ever worked. Once I had what I thought I wanted, I didn't want it anymore. The urge to want -- to long for the best things -- was an inner,…
TRUTH
Just my own personal food for thought... After a year or so of soul searching, I thought I knew myself fairly well. I prided myself on my integrity, honesty and responsible nature; however, my overeating reflected the exact opposite of these values. After breaking many resolutions to myself, starting and stopping countless…
Complusions
When I would eat compulsively, it was similar to taking nitrous oxide at my dentist. Like a heavy anesthesia, the food comforted me and gave me an extraordinary sense of well-being. It was a short-term cure for what was bothering me, and it took its toll. Any resemblance to reality while in the fog of my compulsive eating…
Fear of failure
Just my own personal food for thought.... I was full of excuses: “I can start a food plan. BUT- Won't it be the same as a diet? I’m a free spirit! BUT- I don't like such restrictions! OR - If I can’t do something perfectly, why should I even start? OR - I have gone too far to ever go back to being anywhere near healthy. I…
Letting Go
Just my own personal food for thought...... It’s hard to give up old habits. Although my former solutions to dealing with stress, anger, and emotional and physical pain had never worked and only made the problems worse, they were familiar. I had high hopes the results would be different each time. I wasn’t too surprised…
Emotions
Just my own personal food for thought.... Because I have always thought of myself as such an ordinary person, as life moved along I was surprised to find so many emotional events happening in it. I have had severe periods of depression and despair; I have known fear, anxiety, anger and doubt. I have wrestled with grief and…
Overwhelmed
Just my own personal food for thought.... When I first came to the realization that I have a weight problem, I felt overwhelmed. Life overwhelmed me. My eating overwhelmed me. My inner-pain overwhelmed me. I felt very alone. God has been good to me. When I first began this weight loss journey, I soon learned I was not…
Rediscovery
Just my own personal food for thought.... In dealing with eating issues, I tend to lose myself to the darkness of low self-esteem and self-criticism. I am my own worst enemy and I don't know how to nurture myself. I don't like who I have become. I feel like a failure to myself and to all of those around me. In working my…
Honesty
Just my own personal food for thought.... Honesty of all sorts is important, but honesty with ourselves is foundational. With everything that was in me, I resisted the notion that I had an eating problem. Everybody else had a problem with my eating, not me. But when I finally faced the painful truth, I began the journey to…
Risk
Just my own personal food for thought.... I began this weight loss step out of desperation. I had just begun to realize that the price I was paying to continue eating the way I was, was way too high. For me, I noticed I was a very distracted and impatient mother. I saw myself getting more and more out of control because I…
Isolation
Just my own personal food for thought...... When I was a teenager, I was unable to negotiate situations that were too big for me to understand. I went within and hid. I lost hope and was filled with despair. I soothed myself with food that was always there for me. In time, I felt so isolated that I felt completely separate…
Friendship
When I first decided to be healthy, I had no idea how to be a friend. I thought that people liked me because of what I did for them, what I gave them, and how nice I was to them. It never occurred to me that being a friend could mean taking care of myself. I didn’t realize that friendship also consists of holding fast to…
chocolate
Dear Chocolate, It is so sweet of you to show up on my desk this morning, as usual. I know that in the past we have been really close friends, but it is time to say so long. There will be no more early morning chats, late meetings after work or over lunch, no more secret trips to the grocery store, no more saving of change…
Being present
My compulsive overeating is fueled by my regrets of the past and my fears of the future. The more I try to rewrite the past, (which of course I cannot do); the more I try to devise a future plan, the less I am present for my life. I learn much from my son. Sometimes when running to get a ball, he suddenly stops to look at…
New member
I have only been a member for 3 days now. I need some buddies to help keep me motivated! I am recently divorced with 4 children and a brand new grand daughter. I am a people pleaser, problem is that I have been pleasing everyone but myself. Now I am on my own and it is time to focus on me. Only 1 major problem, how do I do…
I choose not to fail
Every morning I make a decision. I decide to prepare for a day of eating, or I decide to not prepare for a day of being healthy. It comes as no surprise that on the days I prepare I do better. I have to take responsibility for my decisions, even my indecision. If I do nothing to help myself today, I have no one to blame…