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hmm... ok, thanks for all the feedback ladies. Have been considering a HR monitor already, so maybe that is the way to go. Have been very hungry lately and eating alot. I try to eat at a small deficit since i have about 10lbs id like to lose, but haven't been able to stick to it... due to being so hungry. thought maybe I was short changing myself on my lifting days eating back only 80-90 calories.
who knows!
Anyway.... great lifting ladies
BTW - Is anyone else on this thread single? I am newly-ish single (been dating for about 16 months now... and feeling so sad about the dating world. I was married for over 10 years, and its just so different now, especially since I have a child. Prospect of finding a good match just seems to get dimmer all the time
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Good morning ladies,
Its Monday which means that I am my usual grumpy self on Monday. I am finally done with Stage 5. As I was getting ready to start my sister interrupted me to tell me I need to find new daycare for my son on Monday bc she found a job. I was like WTF?!? a little back story. I took my sister & her son in about 4 yrs ago when she split with her husband. She only pays $200 in rent & I gave her a car all she has to do is watch my son while I'm at work. She on disability for anxiety issues. Either way I've been taking care of her & her son and this is the thanks I get. Luckily my mom stepped up to watch my son because how do I find daycare on a Friday night. And she had the nerve to say "I'll throw some extra cash your way when I pay off my bills". Um no you don't get to live in my house run up my electric, & internet, eat my food & use my car for $200 a month when I now have to find daycare. If she wasn't my sister I would tell her to take her cat ( which I said she couldn't have since my kid is allergic, but she ignored that) and her dog ( which I didn't want since I already had one) and get out. But its the holidays so I will bite my tongue for a bit and see how this goes. Afterall she accepted a job but doesn't know how much it pays or if its on the books or not, she found it on craigslist. Ironically its a daycare run out of someone's house ( isn't that a slap in the face). Ranting over, thanks for listening![:\](https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/resources/emoji/confused.png ":\")
Needless to say my last workout I upped all my weights, you can lift a lot more when you're pissed. I tried to replace my HRM this weekend, but couldn't find one I liked. I bought 2 & returned 2, so I gave up & ordered the same one on amazon again. I like that one & I know how it works. I'm not sure if I want to start stage 6 this week with all the holiday stuff going on & not having a HRM so I might just skip it this week. I'll decide when the time comes I guess.
Dna, I know you look great in that bikini, smack that husband around a bit
Julie, I understand you're feelings on stage 6, let me know what you think of stage 7. I'm more interested in losing fat as well.
Snb, congrats on finishing stage1, enjoy stage 2 while you can lol Stage 3 can be a B**ch. I'm sure you'll love the BWM. And I never did the interval training right after the lifting, the book says you can do that the next day or another time if you don't have time so maybe you can do the instead of your run or cut your run short & do it with.
Cala, feel better soon, chronic illnesses really suck
Jo Great lifting, thats a lot of weight.
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Jo, that's a great PR! Way to go!
dna, my DH has diarrhea of the mouth at times- as much as I hate it, I've learned to live with it. We all know you're HOT. Don't let him get to you.
ellie, HRM aren't accurate for lifting. Really nothing is. That's why I pretty much go off of a TDEE method. Searchlight for "scoobys accurate calorie calculator". It's the most accurate one I've found.
Ali, I am sorry about the drama:( You're a much better woman than I am- I would've kicked her out immediately.
Cala, I hope you can get back to lifting soon. Keep us posted on how you're doing!
Sam, yuck!
Julie, stage 7 is a good stage for fat loss. Basically, it is endurance lifting. You will burn a lot of cals and you will hate the workout while you're doing it. But it gets the job done!
I've decided to rest this week. A family member is having surgery, the ILs will be here, I am going to try to score some Black Friday deals. It's just going to be a stressful week and I'm due for a rest. I will finish up Elite Body next week and focus on walking and some yoga this week.
And I forgot to mention my NSV from last week.
It was busy at the gym Tuesday night and there was a PT doing Yoga with a client in the DB room. I grabbed a stability ball and did my planks(feet elevated on a bench and hands on the ball). Later, the PT made a point to come and tell me how "hardcore" my planks were. Made me smile. Even after having 3 kids in 3 years, it's amazing what our bodies can do. Keep getting stronger girls!0 -
Bb-go girl with your planks!! I'm a plank sissy I need to work on them more...but I can't go past 60sec so boring! Lol! And you're right! Stage 7 is tough! But I like it! Have fun shopping! We've been big BF shoppers in past years, but just don't need anything this year. May go on Friday just for fun-Kohls is usually well stocked .
Ali-uh...you're a good sister. I'd charge her more rent now that she's working...or ask her to move out. You've been such a generous sister all this time...she's taking advantage and needs to mature some. Looking for her own place will help her realize how good she has it there! Glad your mom can help, but it's not a fair deal,
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Ellie-I'm married, 16 years!, but there are days I wish I weren't. I love dh, but he can be selfish at times and I get weary of taking care of him and my 2 dd's. I will say he's a good guy overall, but there is something nice to being on your own. It seen so long since it's been just me! I say be picky!! Don't settle, and enjoy the freedom of just you and your kiddo.
I went on to stage 7 today. Read the old thread about it, and listened to the advice to lower my weights to get through it. Even with that, it's hard!! I couldn't do a true 30sec rest, more like 45 the first 3 sets, and well over a minute for that 4th set! Whew! I took time to cool down on the treadmill after and stretched a bit too. hope that'll minimize the doms. But, I loved it!! I really felt like I was working hard! I missed squats, deadlifts and lunges. I can't believe I said that! I'm excited again! I may even do it a second time through! So glad I moved on. I need to lose some more fat and although completing a real chin up sounds divine, it's not my top priority right now. I can always go back and add it. I will keep moving forward. 0 -
ooooooohhhhhhhhh.....
**Must not get jealous. Must not get jealous.**
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Gah, Beeps, you tease! The wind is whipping cold here near Toronto and that photo looks so, so amazing.
I forget who asked about HRM calculating lifting calories. I use one, and generally eat back at least half my cals, and still lose as long as I don't binge (my big issue). I burn on average 500 calories for my Supercharged sessions.0 -
HRMs are not designed for lifting so they do not give an accurate burn. It's pretty hard to know - your best bet is to change your cals until you see the kind of results you are after (if you want change). You also can't rely on other peoples numbers to be accurate - for example, I'd have to run for 60 mins to get a 500 cal burn (as per my polar ft4). I can't imagine my lifting would illicit anywhere near that kind of energy consumption.0
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Beeps - jealous! looks so nice, especially compared to the snow here in Idaho.
Julie - I skipped S6 as well, 7 was a great burn but I agree it's hard to lower your weights!
Cowgirl - awesome about that planks, I need to take a page out of your book and work on those
Ali - so frustrating about your sister, it's difficult with family like that, hard to know how much "tough love" and how much grace to show
Ellie - I've been married about 7 years now, I don't think I was all that great at the whole dating thing before, it'd be tough to get back out there.
Just letting y'all know that I've discovered a sin worse than curls in the squat rack... it's curls in the only deadlift platform in the whole gym. By a creepy dude who just happens to be working out next to me every other set no matter where I am in a mostly empty gym. Had to set up the bar and do deadlifts on the floor next to him while he was in the platform doing curls.
Anyway did my second stronglifts workout this morning and loving that I get to squat every workout SUPER excited for Thanksgiving and all the yummy foods that I don't have to prep lol 0 -
Hola!
Julie, I wasn't able to workout last Friday or yesterday due to taking on some extra contract work. I'll be in the gym tomorrow to do 6A2 though.
Ellie, I'm technically single (I have a boyfriend). I met him via an online site. It was hard work. There were lots of frogs that I'm glad never got to the kiss stage. lol But I'm so happy that I stuck to my guns because I never would have met him. I love him to death. Trust me - there was a long while that I felt I was going to be single for the rest of my life. There are a lot of men out there who just have a teenager's mentality (really only trying to get sex, play games, etc.) but patience works!0 -
Ellie, I was married for 9 yrs and its rough going back on the dating scene especially with kids. Now its not only will he like me but will he like my kid, will my kid like him, how long do I wait to introduce them? It can be a mess. I was fortunate enough to find a good guy that gets along great with my kids, but I was really worried at first. I had known & worked with him for 6 yrs before we stared dating and he was 39 and had no kids and never wanted kids which should have been a deal breaker but it wasn't. He was open to me having kids (his ex wife had a son from a previous marriage) and at first he was very nervous around my youngest who was 1 at the time. Now he is a great dad, and my youngest calls him his best buddy in the world. He gets along really well with my oldest too. I still have times when I feel bad leaving the kids home with him while I go grocery shopping but its my hang up, not his. He has never tried to replace their dad, but he has stepped up to help out when dad isn't there (which is most times). I found a partner, not just a boyfriend, cause I know that he's sticking by me with whatever life throws at us.Be paitent & picky, very picky, its not only your life, but your daughter's too. There's no perfect man (ha ha aint that the truth) but there is one that can fit into your family. I don't know if this was helpful, but I understand the single parent thing, it sucks & its lonely and hard. If you ever want to chat or vent, rant or whatever feel free to message me. I've been there, done that & made that mistake too.0
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I was a single parent too. Luckily I met my husband when my eldest was one year old. We've now been together for 10 years and have 2 more kids. Sometimes being a parent just means you can identify what you really want from a partner xxx0
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Good morning all!
I thought I'd do an experiment this morning.
I weighed myself before hitting my garage gym. And then I weighed myself after the workout and my shower.
I lost 300g in sweat lol
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thanks ladies... appreciate all the support, and nice to hear that some have met someone after divorce/kids! Obviously, dating is not always super fun, trying to navigate between two mature adults that have their own set patterns and ideas can be exasperating. Even more so when both have kids and are their own mini "family". Hard to know when to push ahead and when to run - lol 0
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Best of luck Ellie!
Beeps, your travels are awe-inspiring.
I stopped wearing my HRM almost immediately after starting to use it. I now estimate my lifting burn between 200-300 per workout, even though you aren't actually burning that much.
So interesting story, I was doing my barbell complexes. I'm struggling with the cleans. One gentleman came off to offer me some tips. I still need to watch some videos to get it down, but the advice was appreciated. Glad the b*tch face wasn't working Sunday. Though I have been told I seem out of sorts lately. I feel out of sorts lately. I need an attitude adjustment.0 -
Ellie you are not alone. I am also a single parent. I am not currently dating. I would love to find someone, but first I have decided to focus on me and my daughter. I know I have some stuff to work out for myself before I try to meet someone. For now though, I am really loving having the time to focus on me and my daughter. I think its a good thing for both of us. Good luck to you!
I have been thinking about a HRM, but then I hear how they are not really accurate for weight lifting and think why bother. But I do run and such too. So I don't know. And I figure until I do I will just save the money. LOL
Today I rested. Tomorrow, I will go back to the gym. I am kind of missing it today. 0 -
I disagree that they aren't that accurate for lifting. I've been using mine for over a year and, again, will lose when I still eat back about half of my exercise calories. So that means on a lifting day, I am eating about 1800 calories. It works for me 0
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Pudding1980 wrote: »I disagree that they aren't that accurate for lifting. I've been using mine for over a year and, again, will lose when I still eat back about half of my exercise calories. So that means on a lifting day, I am eating about 1800 calories. It works for me
Sure it might work for you, but it's unlikely that your burn is accurate - more that overall, your calorie intake over weeks/ days is low enough for weight loss. The inaccuracy of HRMs for strength training is well documented in research0 -
Good morning!
Did 6A2 today and the negatives weren't any easier. I upped the weight on the underhand lat pulldown then realized that my rest was shorter. So...I think for 6A3, I'll not up the weight since the rest period is 30 seconds.
Ali, I loved what you said about finding a partner. That's how I feel about mine. snb, your story is similar to mine as well. I jumped into dating entirely too early after being married for 8 years. Once I took a step back and just gave myself time to just appreciate me, that's when things got easier. Having four kids, my frame of mind was always who in the world would want to date a woman with that much "baggage"? Once I stopped thinking that way, I was able to see the forest for its trees, so to speak.
For those of you in the U.S. and celebrate, have a wonderful Thanksgiving tomorrow. My mom is in town and doing the heavy lifting since I'm at work today. I love that woman! lol Enjoy your time with family!0 -
Good morning!!
You're all doing well! I appreciate each of you sharing what you're doing, where you've been, where your going and what you're learning along the way! I'm thankful for lifting lady friends like you guys!
Just did stage 7 workout 2. I thought it was harder than 1. I'm loving this stage!! Woohoo!! Bring it on!!
Off to clean in a bit, and bake and cook as much ahead of time as I can. A bit of decorating-table cloth etc, and then I'll rest. Dinner is here tomorrow, I like thanksgiving at my house. My mom, bro and sil and their kids, and her parents will be here. It's always a fun and delicious holiday! Then a bit of BF shopping to finish off the night. It's become a tradition with our BFFs.
Oh, and I'll start the day with a 5k for local hungry kids and the sunshine foundation (blind children) to pre-burn some calories. It'll be 85 tomorrow!! So much for my cute outfit with boots and my scarf! Oh well, a pretty tank will be ok! 0 -
Pudding1980 wrote: »I disagree that they aren't that accurate for lifting. I've been using mine for over a year and, again, will lose when I still eat back about half of my exercise calories. So that means on a lifting day, I am eating about 1800 calories. It works for me
Sure it might work for you, but it's unlikely that your burn is accurate - more that overall, your calorie intake over weeks/ days is low enough for weight loss. The inaccuracy of HRMs for strength training is well documented in research
Could be. I like to have some idea of what I'm burning and like this method better than not tracking my HR or calories burned at all.
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Pudding1980 wrote: »Pudding1980 wrote: »I disagree that they aren't that accurate for lifting. I've been using mine for over a year and, again, will lose when I still eat back about half of my exercise calories. So that means on a lifting day, I am eating about 1800 calories. It works for me
Sure it might work for you, but it's unlikely that your burn is accurate - more that overall, your calorie intake over weeks/ days is low enough for weight loss. The inaccuracy of HRMs for strength training is well documented in research
Could be. I like to have some idea of what I'm burning and like this method better than not tracking my HR or calories burned at all.
I agree with both of you. I know the HRM debate and I mainly use it for my cardio stuff, but I like to wear when I do the new rules just for me. I know its not accurate for lifting, but we do more than straight lifting and its more of a mental thing. It movitates me to get my heart rate going.
Julie, you Thanksgiving sounds a lot like mine (except for the running)and I am anxious to get home & start baking. I love to bake & now I have an excuse.
Everyone in the U.S. have a great Thanksgiving, and eat lots of yummy stuff. I plan on logging nothing and my exercise will be running around stores after an early dinner
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As much as I love cooking, I am just as happy to go to my cousin's house and just enjoy the festivities. I am so glad there are family members that want to do all of that preparation.
Happy Thanksgiving to all of you who celebrate. And to everyone else, I hope you have a wonderful Thursday!
I am doing some calisthetics during the rest week just because I don't want to get out of my gym habit--it took a long time for me to get into this habit and I don't want to lose it. Anyway, my arms are definitely feeling it now. I am typing with as little movement of my arms as possible (and for the record I had not been aware of how much I moved my arms in typing until today).
Time for reading--except how to hold the book. Maybe a movie. 0 -
Happy Thanksgiving to all of you in the US! Hope you enjoyed your dinners and families 0
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Hope all the lovely US peeps had/are having a wonderful Thanksgiving
Business as usual here lol
I have a HRM somewhere... used it for a bit when I was running several times a week. Since changing to TDEE method, it's been sitting gathering dust in a box. Good thing I didn't spend much money on it lol But I use the watch part every day, the stopwatch and interval timer is very helpful.
I have managed to talk the husband into going out for a family dinner tonight. The kids have a birthday party at a bowling alley that should finish up about 6/6.30pm and then we're going out to Grill'd for some awesome gluten-free burgers Not worried about the kids over eating at the party - I know the food there and they can't eat most of it. Besides, once I tell them where we are going afterwards, they will save up their appetite 0 -
Happy thanksgiving to American lifters!
We are back home. Late. What is it, 2 am? 3 am? Still waiting for luggage. Have icy streets to navigate. And then up at 6 with kidlets.
Not fun.
I won't be lifting until monday. But I will get right back to regular schedule, for sure.
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Thanksgiving was fun, but I know I ate way more than I should have or normally do. I am hoping to go to the gym tonight to make up for it. But we will see how my daughter is feeling. We did some black friday shopping this morning (not the super early stuff but more midmorning, and I think she is tired. 0
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Had a fun, busy day yesterday! Turkey Trot 5k was fun in the morning, half my family cancelled for dinner because of stomach bug, the food was plentiful and delicious!, then all night shopping-whew! And I was so sore from weight training on Wed. and standing in line was tough! It was a fun day!
Skipped lifting today, still sore! I'll go tomorrow. Still loving stage 7!!0 -
I believe I was on my feet for about 17 hrs straight yesterday. I got up at 5:30 and sat during dinner (which didn't seem to last long) and a few minutes after. Did shopping yesterday morning, and evening, got up early before work & got a few things and went out on my lunch at work. I think I am done except for an ipod for my son which I will buy online. I am sore tired that I'm not sure if my sore or if my body is just exhausted. And I have no energy to workout when I get home from work. I'm glad they boys are visiting their dad this weekend so I get a little break. Overall it was a good Thanksgiving, my only complaint was that it was 87 which is too hot and doesn't feel very festive.
Julie, I'm glad you had good Thanksgivings too, hope your faily feels better. What a bad holiday to get a stomach bug on.
Snb I dragged my oldest out with me shopping yesterday morning & he was napping by 4. I can't remember the last time he napped he's 11 lol, happy to hear your holiday was good too.0 -
Had a lovely quiet holiday here. We had a very vegetarian Thanksgiving as always, it's a great excuse to avoid other people. I cook up a tofurkey for the hubby and a bunch of sides. Carb fest but low cal. I made up for it with pie Today I avoided the stores, easy to do when you are broke lol, and babysat my baby cousin while his mommy did some shopping. Good days in all. 0
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