WhiteGirlWasted13 Member

::shudder:: I get where you're coming from, sort of, but like someone else said, you can't control everything in your kid's life. If your holidays are that busy that you are going to six different places in one day, maybe you need to re-evaluate your priorities. Why not compromise? Tell the kid or host/hostess that little…

My son just had surgery to correct a hip impingement and repair a labral tear. He's in PT right now and they have him doing strengthening/balancing routines at "land" therapy and cardio/strengthening/balancing at "water" therapy. I'd try to stay away from weight bearing activities as that will only worsen the condition.…

I second this wholeheartedly. When I get discouraged, which is more often than not, I think about what those actual pounds feel/felt like. I'll grab a 10 pound bag of flour and just hold it for a few minutes. I might look weird, but when you're able to feel those pounds outside your own body, carrying them in your arms or…

Well, that's unfortunate. I'm assuming the other parent was responsible for the laptop? Well, you can only do what you can only do. Kids need to learn that life is not "fair" and it's not going to be all about them all the time. We say that, but when do we ever actively teach them this lesson? Sometimes the most loving…

Having this same issue with the little kids in my family. I plan to get them a gift membership to our local Science Center. Do you have anything like that? Or a season pass to an amusement park? Just be sure the parents/caregivers are willing/able to take them to this cool new thing several times during the next year or…

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In for the booze! Wait...so this isn't about how to have the most holiday booze? Dang it. ::puts jello shots and rum balls back in fridge::

If I didn't want to discuss it, I'd say "My goodness, thank you for noticing!" and stop talking. Literally, stop talking and just smile at them. Let the awkwardness ensue. If someone I knew had lost weight via surgical means, good for them. If they weren't forthcoming about it, so what? Since when is it anyone else's…

That sounds like sexual harassment to me, OP. Better bone up on your legal options.

Subway chopped salad with spinach, not iceberg, lots of veggies, no dressing or cheese. I don't like dressing (I think it's weird to put "sauce" on lettuce, but whatever) but if you have to order it with dressing, get it on the side and dip your fork in it before picking up your next bite.

This isn't that difficult, actually. You're just too close to the situation to see. What I'd do is enjoy the extra time my husband wants to spend with me. Split a dessert at the guitar and dessert event (and only take a couple bites). As far as parties and dining out and your hotel trip, if you don't already know how to…

The fact that my son coupled his request with "I know they won't come but..." speaks many sad volumes.

The boys are (almost) 13 and 16. Don't even get me started. :ohwell:

No, we haven't because it's not something that I've noticed in our immediate circle, but another family member's stepchild was treated in a similar fashion by other family members. So, again, maybe I'm projecting here. And as far as expecting others to come to school stuff, like I said, he had not ever expressed such a…

But, but, something, something, *special snowflake*, etc etc etc.

Well, thanks everybody for helping me think through this. I'm going to wait until husband gets home before I do/say anything further to MIL or BIL. It will be difficult but I will persevere. ;) Then I will ask him if he's willing to speak on my behalf. I think it's sort of a lost cause, because as I said, we've been…

I'm no ordinary OP.

Poor husband, this sounds like a good idea, if he's willing to do it. Otherwise, I will endure the ickiness and apologize/back down. Esp. now that his aunt is so sick and they will need (more) help. ::sigh::

because I tend to be passive aggressive like that :grumble: I know better. And I don't know that I'm really surprised that things went down like they did. I guess I'm disappointed in myself for my role. I know I could have handled it better. I should have handled it better. Maybe my question should have been, what should…

You're absolutely right. I should have said in the midst of the texting, my husband called his mom and she basically repeated BIL's first text about not being able to make it, just sat down to dinner, etc. But, I guess when she told me the night before that she'd try really hard, then she turned around and said at 5:30…

Noted and filed for future reference, in case of litigation. ;)

"The moment you respond to someone in kind, I don't see how you can feel affronted. It's probably very bothersome that in-laws don't come to things that your own family does. But with passive-aggressive digs, comments thrown in the heat of a moment rather than taking time to calm down and look at a situation, and exchanges…

Really? I'm so used to being on the wrong side of things when it comes to his family. He just says I have to get used to it as they've always been this way. I feel so sad for him when he says this. And I'm such a people pleaser, it hurts me physically when there's confrontation. Thank you for the affirmation. It means a…

Just curious when you had all your teeth removed? That is the only reason I can fathom for drinking all of your meals? Pls correct me if I'm wrong.

Found a link that lists several good protein sources. I'd also like to caution you to NOT be afraid of healthy fats. Our bodies need them to function. Ok, having said that, here is the aforementioned link: http://www.care2.com/greenliving/vegetarian-protein-sources.html

http://chocolatecoveredkatie.com/2013/06/12/healthy-cake-recipe/ If you're into recipes, etc. Honestly though, like others have said, it's one day out of the entire year. Enjoy your birthday cake. If it were me, and I was as concerned about it as you seem to be, I'd make the cake myself, using whole ingredients, no…

Sounds like you packed the wrong stuff. Put that scale back into the trunk of the car and leave it there until you're back home. Get some water bottles and some fresh fruit and keep it with you at all times. Get out of the car every chance you get and walk around, even if it's only for five minutes. Stop stressing out…

Don't know how you feel about thrift stores, but I've found brand new, tags still attached, clothing items every time I've shopped at one. Literally, every time. Of course, it's hit or miss, and YMMV, but it's definitely a more cost-effective option.

Write out your concerns in a letter, attach copies of studies, etc., give it to her, then BE DONE WITH IT. Your mom's an adult, and she's choosing to respond to her health situation in a way that is clearly detrimental to her. Do you need to keep reminding her? Nope. Does she appreciate all your nagging? Nope. Is it hard…

The only "advice" I can offer is that these feelings are totally normal. I feel it too, lately. Might I suggest some sunshine and fresh air? I'm leaving tomorrow for two weeks away from my family, by myself, and while I'm excited and I know I need it, I'm dreading it, too. I get it, it's hard to see the big picture when…