Honesty About How You Lost Your Weight

What bothers me about this situation is the fact that there is a false hope of rapid weight loss based on bad information (well I guess she could post it on the internet and it would be true), and those people in earshot will also be affected. While she isn't obligated in any way to disclose any of the information about how she lost the weight, there is a way to explain the loss without blatantly lying about it.

So, let's say that she takes someone else's advice and just says that she ate a very low calorie diet and ate about 300 calories a day. Would you be an idiot and just start doing that? Shouldn't you see your own doctor? I don't understand why you guys are holding her accountable for people who randomly ask her personal questions. "and those people in earshot will also be affected. " You mean nosy people? LOL. You can't be serious. So, now, she has to broadcast the details of her weight loss to the nosy people eavesdropping so that they get full details on how they can follow her diet. Okay.

Thank you SO much for this! This is exactly what I'm talking about. Be honest and own what you did. At the VERY least, say that you did an extremely low calorie diet. Don't "lie" and say you did it through low carb eating.

You're *still* going on about this?! Good grief. Live your own life, get your nose out of hers.

Nothing even remotely "christian" about what you are doing - especially considering it's your own sister!

Thank you SO much for this! This is exactly what I'm talking about. Be honest and own what you did. At the VERY least, say that you did an extremely low calorie diet. Don't "lie" and say you did it through low carb eating.

You're *still* going on about this?! Good grief. Live your own life, get your nose out of hers.

Nothing even remotely "christian" about what you are doing - especially considering it's your own sister!

I do wonder if the OP has told her sister that she's posted the whole saga on the inter webs. That would be the honest, open, christian thing to do...

I would not lie about how I lost my weight, gave up lying a long time ago.

What other people do is 100% none of my business, trying to make it my business takes me down crazy street, so I try really hard not to go there, for my own peace of mind. Of course this doesn't apply to my minor daughter.

I think it's kind of twisted to lie about it, because I feel like that particular lie is damaging to the view of weight loss on the whole. Weight loss DOES take work, DOES take time, and DOES take dedication to get it to go. If the people who have been lead on to believe she did all this find out after the fact that she had a surgical procedure instead, I feel like it gives the impression that "she" felt that it was more effective to go that route than the exercise/eating right routine... as if the latter doesn't work, or doesn't work "well enough".

I don't make stuff up about my weight loss, or dress it up, or exaggerate it. There's no need to- if they saw me before and see me now, they can see that it worked. They can add me on here and see what I ate, how often, how I worked out and how often, and so on. They can spend an hour, a day, a week with me and watch what I eat.

At the same time, part of me hasn't accepted that I've "made it" yet, so I don't feel like I can be all jumping up and down excited like they are about the numbers I've crunched with pounds/clothing sizes/inches/lifting/etc.

...we are holding her accountable for lying.

"We"?

Who is this "we"?

Are you now part of that family, too?

And for the record - you aren't holding anyone accountable for anything - the person in question is not here, so all you're doing is gossiping. If that's what floats your boat, hey, go for it - but don't be lying to yourself or to us by dressing up this gossip as "accountability" when it clearly is anything but.

Dude, I don't have a heaven or hell to put anyone in, but everyone is accountable for their actions. You can sugar coat it all you want but a lie is a lie is a lie.

What bothers me about this situation is the fact that there is a false hope of rapid weight loss based on bad information (well I guess she could post it on the internet and it would be true), and those people in earshot will also be affected. While she isn't obligated in any way to disclose any of the information about how she lost the weight, there is a way to explain the loss without blatantly lying about it.

So, let's say that she takes someone else's advice and just says that she ate a very low calorie diet and ate about 300 calories a day. Would you be an idiot and just start doing that? Shouldn't you see your own doctor? I don't understand why you guys are holding her accountable for people who randomly ask her personal questions. "and those people in earshot will also be affected. " You mean nosy people? LOL. You can't be serious. So, now, she has to broadcast the details of her weight loss to the nosy people eavesdropping so that they get full details on how they can follow her diet. Okay.

For the record, I really don't believe anyone is "holding her accountable for people who randomly ask her personal questions," we are holding her accountable for lying. Why can't she just say, "It's really none of your business how I lost the weight," and keep it moving?

Then, she'll be seen as a b**ch. She can't win, except to "lie" to get people out of her business. This is my last post bc we're just going in circles. Hopefully, the OP isn't let this eat her up inside anymore.

yeah, I don't like liars... AT ALL! if she doesn't want to disclose her surgery, she should just say she did a vlcd, since in reality, THATS THE TRUTH! my mom did optifast, and when she tells people she lost her weight avoiding gluten, I CALL HER OUT ON IT... I ONLY CALL HER OUT BECAUSE SHE PISSES ME OFF SO BAD... she compares her 40 pound weight loss in 4 months, drinking 800 calorie chemical shakes to my 100 pound loss in 11 months, using purely diet and exercise... she likes to rub it in that she is almost caught up to me... so, when she tells people she did it avoiding gluten, I add... YEAH, AND YOU AVOIDED EVERY OTHER FOOD GROUP ALSO, SINCE YOU WERE ONLY DRINKING 800 CALORIE CHEMICAL SHAKES FOR 4 MONTHS...

Thank you SO much for this! This is exactly what I'm talking about. Be honest and own what you did. At the VERY least, say that you did an extremely low calorie diet. Don't "lie" and say you did it through low carb eating. It was eating 300 calories a day that made the weight come off. You could have done it eating 300 calories worth of Twinkies. It wasn't the "low carb" diet that got you where you are.

So you're still butthurt about something that doesn't impact you in the slightest.

At least you found someone who agrees with you, so mission accomplished, I guess.

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