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My evil hearted warlock still occasionally whispers in my ear "you win.... for now... how long can you keep this up?" We battle most every day, and I win every day.... well, almost every day.

I agree with your sentiments. The place where this annoys me is where the use of this check box is dishonest, and there is a "surprise" on the date. Personally, I "like what I like" as you said, and I - like many men - consider a wide range of body proportions as attractive - and even then, body type is just one category…

Yes, one can indeed be "curvy" and obese, but it's the ratio of waist to hips that defines curvy, not just the difference (to me at least)... For example: 24" waist/36" hips vs 34" waist/46" hips: Both have a 12" difference, but example one has a much lower ratio (0.66 vs 0.74). Visually, the difference is significant, as…

Want kids? Get married when you start actually trying. You owe them a stable environment. Otherwise - why? The financial reasons FOR marriage are greatly overshadowed by the financial risks of a marriage ending.

If I see a profile with only shots of a woman's face and she describes herself as "curvy" or "a few extra pounds"... iI believe it means she's significantly overweight. Full body shots, please.

Just a couple of notes on this topic: 1: I am (nearly) 52, and I promise you, I'm not looking for someone to take care of me in my old age :-) (and I rarely date women more than 10 years younger- or older - than me, FWIW) 2: I have had women ask me this very question - actually, rather frequently. For some reason, I'm…

My ex didn't tell me "flat out" that I should be happy regardless of her weight. Her weight (or mine for that matter) was rarely - if ever - discussed... but it did greatly decrease my sexual appetite for her (and likely hers for me)... the resulting infrequency of sex had a negative effect on the relationship, a…

Wait... "violent karaoke bully"? WTF?

I have found FWB difficult to pull off. Each time, both of us inevitably have developed some "feelings" just below the surface. I've been able to keep them in check, but my partner has not. And when this becomes apparent, I tend to become over-sensitive, and just stop things cold. It might be easier if you DON'T actually…

Scoed 19. I think I have a good body image of myself, I think it's realistic, and I'm pleased with how I look. I certainly feel that I am at the best condition I've ever been in since my teens, and I feel comfortable in comparison with those around me (well, those within 20 years of my age). Not the best, but far from the…

Ladies: When a guy tosses out some innuendo, it likely means that the guy is interested in you, and wants to plant his feet firmly out of the "friend zone" - and be certain that you don't view the guy as "friend material". If the level of innuendo is too much, too soon for you, well, it's too much too soon for YOU. Someone…

Seems that in general, men and women have different attitudes on this... 4 pages of responses, but of them, very few from men 0 and of the male responses, there is a generally "laisez faire" attitude towards "texting etiquette". I think that guys might be a little tone deaf about how important text etiquette is to women -…

Then let me tell you; You're SEXY!

Until kinda recently (until I got in shape to be honest), I've always been labeled with "smart". I guess that's ok, but it seems to be the gateway to the friend-zone. Lately, I downplay smart, at least for a while. Seems like it has the same stigma as "cute" does for women. Funny, 'cause for me "smart" trumps cute for…

Well, I would agree that it's best - and polite - to mention the SO early on, for the reasons mentioned above (save everyone time, calibrate expectations etc). HOWEVER - sometimes, (rarely, thankfully) I've seen women who bring up the SO in the cattiest, snottiest tone imaginable. As if to say that the guy (yes, sometimes…

15-18% BF, and /or "4 pack" .

kmmcquay... so cute, but too young for me. But... pmcovert415, yeah! You can covert pm me any time.

intellectual/stoner/music/math nerd. It was a very small club.

I was at a little bar a couple of months ago, and this girl starts chatting me up. She was pretty cute, and the conversation was light, witty, fun. After a while, she busts out her phone, and shows me that she has a picture of me in her phone... taken without my knowledge a few weeks earlier. It kinda creeped me out, but…

I like on-line dating. It's far more efficient, or so it seems to me. In bars/gym/shopping, all you get to go on is the very surface of people. In on-line dating, there are all of those other filters - profile essays, questionnaires etc, plus the opportunity to have an email exchange before meeting. (That's not to say that…

I didn't read the whole thread... just a comment from me: I LOVE dating smart women. Degree or not. Raw intelligence, or trained intelligence. I crave exploring the world of thought with a woman... So freaking hot to switch gears from sharing ideas in the abstract world to sharing deep soul grunting in the primal world.…

10 miles of Bicycling, hour and a half of racquetball. Good burn!

It's really simple: Each sex is attracted to the opposite by how much they are different. The features that are most different are the most attractive. Breasts are a big difference, just like eye shape, hip shape, waist curve etc. There's a name for this... "sexual dimorphism" I think.

You are only 21 years old. Go out and experience the world. You're not married, and you should be sure to have a large enough sampling of what's out there before you choose one for the long haul. Relax, and enjoy. It's just not that serious.

It's been about a week since I upped my net cals from 1350 to 1800, added weights and reduced cardio a little... so far I've gained about 4 lbs. boohoo.... but since I've been at a plateau for over 6 months, it's worth a try. I read somewhere that there might be an initial weight gain, until one's body decides that it's…

I've met one, when I first started out here. She was quite nice! Hope to meet more.

I may be guilty of some of this stuff... my typical net calories are about 1300, and I've not lost an ounce in about 8 months - actually gained a few recently. (I'm 5'7" 151 lbs). I also do boatloads of cardio - cycle to work daily, play racquetball (hard!) 5 days a week. Typical burns between 600-1000 cals/day. I'm…

Well, I'll certainly use my pants waist size as a gauge. Hopefully that stays as-is. I'll certainly have no problem increasing net cals!

Thanks for the info. I fear that 1800+ net will probably have me gaining weight... but it's worth a shot, as this current calorie deficit is not working anymore! Will increase lifting, (unhappily) decrease cardio.

Thanks for the help. Here's that info you mentioned: I'm 5' 7", 150lbs I'm pretty sure I get plenty of protein, and it seems that the fat comes along with that. I quite naturally dislike carbs. (My natural preferences look quite a bit like the Atkins diet). BTW, my gross calorie consumption is about 1600 - 1800 per day...…