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I have to agree with you on this. I don't think it's a confidence thing for me because I've never given a damn what other people thought of me, but I'm a little bit more talkative now. Part of that could be the extra energy I have from working out. I go to the same place for breakfast every other weekend. I'm friendly, but…
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Funny you posted this. My girlfriend asked me this weekend if I'd like to meet her mother in 2 weeks. Both of our families live about 3 hours away (in opposite directions) and her mother is coming for a visit the first weekend of October. We've been dating for 2 months now and when I write it out, it might sound a little…
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For me, it's all about conversation and chemistry. None of the other stuff matters (ambiance,appearance,punctuality,etc) if I can't get lost in conversation with the person. You make a lot of good points, it's just not my preference for first dates. Your list is more of what I would go with on a 2nd or 3rd date. I like to…
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Just thought I'd throw it out there that the reverse can also be a dealbreaker. I like animals, but I have no pets myself. I've got no issue with people that love their pets, but if a girl tells/shows me that she will never love me as much as she loves her dog or cat, then thanks but no thanks.
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You should be looking for a way to relax and enjoy yourself instead of a way to sabotage something that could be very good.
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Drove 200+ miles in my parents f-150 down to Richmond for a wedding and chauffeured my parents/grandparents around since they hate "city" driving. I had a great time catching up with family and it was a very nice wedding. But I'm pretty sure I was the only single person, which made the dance floor boring and since I was…
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...not just a guy thing either. I recently put up a new picture of me 10 lbs lighter on my online profile and magically 2 of the first 3 messages I sent out got responses (instead of 1/10 prior). Plus over the next week two women actually INITIATED contact. That NEVER happened to me before. Same as you, no profile change,…
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I had a similar thought, but the detail/multiple messages don't really gel with that. Dude sounds a bit on the crazy side, hit the brakes and back away.
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Just a suggestion/thought. If you've been out of the dating game for a long time then there's a chance you don't know what you want/expect out of a date. As long as you don't string him along for multiple dates when you know there's no future, then by all means 'use' him for first date experience. You never know, things…
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From the way you describe it, this guy reminds me a lot of myself at his age. I'm guessing he doesn't have much dating experience? Young guys are dumb when it comes to dating. He seems very shy and is dating someone he considers out of his league. He probably thought he was being polite in not suggesting a restaurant, he…
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No. I thought about it for a while, but realized I was just making excuses to avoid getting back into the dating world. If the other person doesn't mind dating me while I'm overweight, why should I let my self image get in the way? It doesn't mean I have to change anything about what I'm doing for myself, though it was…
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I'm going to tussey mt for the brew expo (http://statecollegebrewexpo.com/) and then visiting some friends in the area. It's a terrible day for calories, but the beer is oh so good. :happy: If you're looking for single guys, I bet that place will actually have quite a few now that I think about it.... of course they'll…
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Hi Kasey, welcome to the group. Based on your name I think I'm somewhat familiar with your college town (heading out there this weekend actually).
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Contrary to some others' opinions I love coffee/cafe dates for a first date, this topic being a big reason why. It may not be romantic, but it allows me to pick a location that's relatively cheap and pretty safe as far as food choice. The date is simple, low key, and if there's no chemistry it can be short too.…
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My parents decided on thursday they were coming for a visit so I spent friday night and saturday morning cleaning. My dad helped me construct a retaining wall in my front yard saturday afternoon and we went out to eat saturday night. Sunday my mom made a nice homecooked meal, which was so much better than any of the…
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I've noticed very few women give out their names easily. I've stopped signing my name to messages until they reply back a few times, after which I'll say something like. BTW, my name is ..., what's yours? I've still had 1 girl (5 or 6 messages in) say she didn't feel comfortable giving our her name that early, but for the…
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wow.... thanks for making a post that scares away any decent women from trying online dating. I find your entire premise completely ridiculous. There are both men and women looking for sex on dating sites. I would hope that most of the men looking for sex are easy to spot because they are lazy. There are plenty of both men…
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That makes sense to me, stop thinking so much. If he wasn't interested he probably wouldn't respond at all, short responses sound like he's just busy.
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I'd say try both. I have a very similar schedule. I never used to be hungry after work, so I ate after getting home from the gym around 9-9:30. Sometimes I found myself not hungry at all after a cardio workout and drinking a liter of water, which I didn't like. I've switched to eating before or eating something light…
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Yeah I don't think I missed chance of a lifetime, just kind of kicking myself for not being better at talking to women. And yes I did check for a ring, that's the first thing I look for when I meet a new woman. My eyes go to her face first to see if she's looking, then the hands.... then the boobs.
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Maybe he thinks you're out of his league? "I'm sure you'll find something to do" kind of sounds like a guy who is shy/not confident that you would want to spend time with him so he's hoping you'll initiate. But I could be wrong as I usually am in these situations.
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Sorry, you're a guy. You might as well get used to not getting messages in online dating, it comes with the territory for most of us. I would send out a message a day and get 1 reply every 2 weeks. Only once had a girl message me first and that was a fake profile. Hopefully you'll have better luck though!
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I've been told that the same people are on all the sites, free or paid. I personally like the questions on OKC more than the free format of "Tell me about yourself" box on POF, but I've had no luck with either. Of course I'm a guy so I have the trouble of trying to get a girl to notice my message amongst the hoard of…
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#1 for sure, but only if she's actually a Pirate fan. It's a pet peeve of mine of people who wear jerseys (even fake "girl" ones) to games just for fashions sake. I'm sorry but all pink jerseys should be banned from games, unless it's October. But really, I want her to wear something she's comfortable in. Baseball games…
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There's certain areas that have unique foods, but I can't think of anything as general as grits in the south. A great thing to try in the Pittsburgh area is a Primanti Bros sandwich. It's a sandwich with your normal meats, but also with coleslaw and fries stuffed in there as well. Give me one of those, a few beers, and a…
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I've never asked this of any lady, but it did remind me of an odd "compliment" I've gotten many times from girls. I've had several (5 that I can think of off the top of my head) girls tell me I have "very nice eyelashes". Not eyes, eyelashes. What does that even mean? At first I just kind of laughed it off, but the more it…
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Be sure to say that you hate games and are tired of the drama otherwise we won't know that you're looking for serious relationship.
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I see it as a great way to detect an incompatible personality. Any woman with that mentality is not someone I would want to date anyway. I want to be physically attracted to a partner, if she can't handle that fact because she's egotistical, then it's her loss, not mine. I don't expect people who aren't attracted to me to…
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I guess you make a good point there, I just figured a girl would be less willing to be friends if you did it over text. There's a lot of expression lost over text so I figured it would be harder to tell if it's just a pansy move to avoid an actual breakup or an actual invitation to be friends. I would definitely not wait…
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....really surprised to see a woman say that. I would've thought that would be a surefire way to make her feel unattractive, kind of like "I'm just not attracted to you" I was in this exact situation with the only girl I've met in online dating so far. She was really cool and we had a ton in common, but I just wasn't…
